whitehawk said:I have a girlfriend
You guys don't even understand, I am such a happy man right now
y2dvd said:Well...how'd you get her?!
esquire said:I'd reckon he employed some combination of fruits and berries to lure her in.
we still love youXun said:How sad.
I was going to go to the pub with my friend, but found out whilst waiting for the bus that he couldn't go.
I went to the pub anyway, but left pretty much immediately since I knew no one. I should've stayed to talk to some women, but it just felt strange being there. I also didn't want to be the creepy loner guy.
I didn't even get a drink.
whitehawk said:I have a girlfriend
You guys don't even understand, I am such a happy man right now
This this this this. Honestly, I'm not too experienced as far as girl-age goes, but I know now that being direct can work out great. Don't beat around the bush. With my now GF, I just mentioned that I want her to be my girlfriend (at an appropriate time), and it worked perfectly. A lot of the advice in this thread can boil down to: Be confident, direct and don't worry about the "what ifs" (what if she rejects).esquire said:I'd reckon he employed some combination of fruits and berries to lure her in.
EDIT: I can't reply to every individual post in this thread but honestly the advice is the same in almost every single instance and situation - stop doubting yourself and be assertive. Some of you need to build up your social skills and need to go through a period of rejection so you don't get too excited and think that a girl likes you just because she talks to you or touches you, etc, but on the whole, girls are not that complicated. They really aren't. Most girls are insecure about themselves; most girls want to have sex. You all just need some confidence so you can silence that nagging thought in the back of your mind that you are not good enough for anyone.
PEZIX said:Ight boys the games up... 2nd gf of the year just went legit tonight.
No more pick up line stories sorry bros.. for now
I wonder how long this one will last?:lol
Drawings. just communicate everything in crude drawings. for example this one.AFreak said:Awesome, now someone help me with girl-age ina foreign country. do i just blather on in english like a bafoon or wait until i learn more of the language before I try and go to a club?
practice02 said:Drawings. just communicate everything in crude drawings. for example this one.
"Would you like to go to a rock n' roll concert?"
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3089/2368510017_43da48a1a6_o.jpg[mg][/QUOTE]
That's just crazy enough to work.
Nope these days everyone uses the computer for it, and for long periods of time. To think a few years ago they would of been called nerds.beermonkey@tehbias said:There is no upside to Facebook unless you are a pathetic introvert with zero true social skills. And if you are the pathetic introvert, you are STILL going to fuck it up even if you Facebook-friend them.
chicko1983 said:NOOOOOOooooooo!!!
you still better post your advice in this thread
AFreak said:Awesome, now someone help me with girl-age ina foreign country. do i just blather on in english like a bafoon or wait until i learn more of the language before I try and go to a club?
That's too bad, dude.beermonkey@tehbias said:I've leveled up. I can see the matrix. Nobody I meet can intimate me.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie said:It's just been a month. If you're already going to be insecure about trust issues and cheating, just drop out.
Being there in person to potentially stop assumed cheating is the stupidest shit I've ever heard, and it's unfortunately a very common insane reaction. If you feel like you have to actually be there to stop it, why the fuck are you bothering?
Liu Kang Baking A Pie said:It's just been a month. If you're already going to be insecure about trust issues and cheating, just drop out.
Being there in person to potentially stop assumed cheating is the stupidest shit I've ever heard, and it's unfortunately a very common insane reaction. If you feel like you have to actually be there to stop it, why the fuck are you bothering?
TheBranca18 said:.
Why are you getting official with someone you don't trust?
esquire said:She's apprehensive about it and she doesn't have feelings for him but they're still friends.
You will never be in a position to tell someone else who they can and can't be friends with. Let's be clear about that.we are barely official so I'm not sure if I'm a position to tell her who she can and can't be friends with.
I'd say it's completely natural. Insecurity is going to be at its highest when just starting out. Of course doesn't mean you have to act on it, but still a natural feeling.Liu Kang Baking A Pie said:It's just been a month. If you're already going to be insecure about trust issues and cheating, just drop out.
grap3fruitman said:Okay, I'm gonna give this thread an honest shot. Where do I start looking to meet women? I work a 9-5, don't go out, don't have friends, am very shy and don't meet women in my day-to-day. Go.
Edit: I don't know how to talk to women either, so where do I start should I actually manage to meet a girl?
Ether_Snake said:Once they get into a new relationship, it's supposed to be over between them, period. No friend bullshit. It's difficult enough for a guy and a girl to be "just" friends, let alone with an ex.
BladeWorker said:I don't think each of those things - that she's apprehensive, doesn't have feelings for him, but they're still friends - can logically exist without drama resulting. Something smells.
If she's apprehensive, she shouldn't go alone (that doesn't mean she goes with you, necessarily, she can take a friend too). But that's not something you can tell her, you have to trust that she'll do what's right whenever she's presented with a troublesome situation. If you can't, bail out now, because you're not ready to be a boyfriend if you can't trust her. And, if she doesn't do right by your relationship (however young it is) then she's not ready to be your girlfriend. Sucks, but it's really that simple.
You will never be in a position to tell someone else who they can and can't be friends with. Let's be clear about that.
If you are uncomfortable with her having male friends, or she uncomfortable with you having female friends, then you need to have a conversation about that now, and set some boundaries that both of you can accept. There's the "ex" reality that you're just going to have to get over - as you say, you're still friends with some of your own - but it's not unreasonable to get nervous about someone putting your relationship in jeopardy. You're only nuts if you don't calm down, have a chat about what you expect of one another, and don't trust one another to act right.
grap3fruitman said:Okay, I'm gonna give this thread an honest shot. Where do I start looking to meet women? I work a 9-5, don't go out, don't have friends, am very shy and don't meet women in my day-to-day. Go.
Edit: I don't know how to talk to women either, so where do I start should I actually manage to meet a girl?
Nah, I don't really wanna meet guys. I don't get along with them. I've got issues with male relationships due to stuff I'd rather not talk about.beermonkey@tehbias said:Start by meeting guys and making friends. It will get you more comfortable talking to people and then when you do want to go out and meet girls it is WAY easier if you have friends with you. Try meetup.com and find some people with common interests in your area.
Correct.DualShadow said:Given it sounds like u only leave your house to go to work
grap3fruitman said:Okay, I'm gonna give this thread an honest shot. Where do I start looking to meet women? I work a 9-5, don't go out, don't have friends, am very shy and don't meet women in my day-to-day. Go.
Edit: I don't know how to talk to women either, so where do I start should I actually manage to meet a girl?
grap3fruitman said:Nah, I don't really wanna meet guys. I don't get along with them. I've got issues with male relationships due to stuff I'd rather not talk about.
Max@GC said:Yo GAF there is this cute and cool girl I know. She broke up with her friend a couple of weeks ago but they still live together...as friends. So a couple of days ago I was out with my friends, her and her friend. We were walking on the street and I and her got separated from the group. Then I recognized that she had a pretty cool DSLR and we were talking a bit about photography. She suddenly said that we maybe could meet somewhere another day to have a coffee and if I could show her how to take proper pictures in a near park. I was surprised and said something like yeah sure just call me if you have time. We met with the group again and while saying goodbye to eachother she said that she would call me regarding what we spoke about - no fixed date though.
I have mixed feelings about this since she just recently broke up with her bf and I don´t wanna end up as a doormat by listening to ex bf drama again...yeah I can definitely see that coming when I show up...but who knows. On the other hand I don´t wanna disappoint her as a friend by not showing up/telling her that I have no time and so on...so what would you do GAF?
Max@GC said:Yo GAF there is this cute and cool girl I know. She broke up with her friend a couple of weeks ago but they still live together...as friends. So a couple of days ago I was out with my friends, her and her friend. We were walking on the street and I and her got separated from the group. Then I recognized that she had a pretty cool DSLR and we were talking a bit about photography. She suddenly said that we maybe could meet somewhere another day to have a coffee and if I could show her how to take proper pictures in a near park. I was surprised and said something like yeah sure just call me if you have time. We met with the group again and while saying goodbye to eachother she said that she would call me regarding what we spoke about - no fixed date though.
I have mixed feelings about this since she just recently broke up with her bf and I don´t wanna end up as a doormat by listening to ex bf drama again...yeah I can definitely see that coming when I show up...but who knows. On the other hand I don´t wanna disappoint her as a friend by not showing up/telling her that I have no time and so on...so what would you do GAF?
I was going to say this same thing. Just be like listen, I don't care about your ex. I always heard past relationship discussion was a huge no no on the first date.Poimandres said:The answer is clear. Meet up with her, and try to keep the ex boyfriend drama to a minimum. If she gets onto that topic, oblige her for a little while before changing the subject.
How... How does this work? You must have at least a few close friends.grap3fruitman said:Okay, I'm gonna give this thread an honest shot. Where do I start looking to meet women? I work a 9-5, don't go out, don't have friends, am very shy and don't meet women in my day-to-day. Go.
Edit: I don't know how to talk to women either, so where do I start should I actually manage to meet a girl?
grap3fruitman said:Nah, I don't really wanna meet guys. I don't get along with them. I've got issues with male relationships due to stuff I'd rather not talk about.
Teh Hamburglar said:How can you be lovers if you can't be friends lol
Nope, not one. I don't see what's so difficult to comprehend. You know the loser in high school every knows but doesn't want to be friends with? Yeah, that was me but I didn't know it at the time.whitehawk said:How... How does this work? You must have at least a few close friends.
To be honest the only reason I'm that high a level is because I've got two brothers that play and they're way better than me. This is actually my first time really playing an FPS and I didn't get into it until we were already like 8th prestige or something. Which is probably why it took us so long to get to tenth, because I started taking up play time.whitehawk said:First step though, stop playing modern warfare 2.
I don't think that and that's probably a major factor in why I haven't. I don't really have a choice though, now do I? I can't go back and redo years 12-22 of my life and learn all the stuff I missed that's natural to everyone at this point.Tkawsome said:If you can't establish a friendship how do you think you're going to maintain a relationship?
Combine, are you going to GDC this year?Combine said:I sort of want to say that I too have no friends either. But then again, part of me still is confused about what a "friend" really is. There are probably some people I know online who'd insist that they count as such. And in terms of real life I certainly have met many "Acquaintances". But, well, now I suppose I'm trying to figure that out. What is a friend? And do I actually have one?
When I first started this thread, I'm sure I was of the mind that said "I have no friends and have never had any friends". Now, I'm not sure, at least for right now, I'm definitely certain I had none in the past, especially in school.
what about your brothers? you close with them?grap3fruitman said:Not a single friend and I'll be 23 by the end of the month (hooray, not).
I hear ya man.grap3fruitman said:Not a single friend and I'll be 23 by the end of the month (hooray, not).