NutJobJim said:
Still no update from OP?
I'm about to go and spend the weekend with my girl. It's the first time that we've spent a significant amount of time together in over a month!
We'll see soon enough if it's a good idea...
Good luck, man. Reading your post before this one, you and I have alot in common as far as prior dating experiences and how they've shaped us.
My current g/f and I are going through a rough patch, with last night being a particularly bad night. She just doesn't know how to cope with her problems and will explode at the most random, unimportant things. She vacuums up all of the bullshit in her life, keeps it inside, and any small disturbance sets her off.
It's gotten to the point where I honestly do not want to deal with it anymore, and if she doesn't learn to deal with life and all of its little hardships in a way that doesn't impact "us" to the degree that it has, I'm done.
She is not the kind of person to "need space," though. Quite the opposite, actually. She gets REALLY clingy which is another reason why things need to change. She can't understand that when we're having an argument,
I'm the one that needs space. Like, seriously, 10 minutes to cool down, then I'm good. Ugh.
But on a side note, I've never gotten the "lining up pussy" mentality that people have. I get it that, to alot of people, relationships themselves aren't anything super important. Especially if that relationship was a short one. But if you're getting out of a bad relationship, why would you want to complicate your life again so soon? Even the best relationship takes alot of patience, understanding, and time. Even if it is just sex, sex in itself never makes things less complicated. In my opinion, the sex that isn't complicated is the kind of sex that has the potential to keep on giving long after it's over.
I'd much rather take some time after any kind of relationship and enjoy being single. Life is much less cluttered.