So there's a chick that I get on well with and liked for some time. I asked her out once and she said no so like I always do I thought oh well and gave up. She's quite a shy chick when it comes to guys, from talking a lot with her, she doesn't have many boyfriends and doesn't like talking about that kinda thing to any of her friends too. When we was talking about something similar once she said she didnt wan't a boyfriend just because people kept suggesting she should or whatever.
Anyway, three months later (this last week actually) one of her friends randomly asked me if I liked her. I dropped some hints to her friend, told her that I liked her and even asked her out three months ago and that she said no so I moved on.
You can find yourself girls with no help. There's no point in letting a girl know your interest by informing a friend of hers. This is very counterproductive especially because you have a good reputation and stuff like this will hurt it.
Couple of days ago her friend and I was talking and she had a small grin on her face
like a white shark before taking the first bite.
and said she had been talking with her about me. She said that the chick that I liked told her she didn't know me properly and so didnt know if she could trust me. In the past, i've had a bit of a reputation of not being able to commit and having a fair few girlfriends, something i've been trying to correct recently.
She's been acting a lot more friendly and flirty with me recently but i'm not sure if she's interested or not or even what I can do. I'm kinda reluctant to ask her out again because of what happened last time but I know she would never initiate anything like that too because shes way too shy. Her friend randomly asked me if I was a virgin and I told her I wasn't, I kinda clicked on and assumed to her that the chick I like was a virgin and she went quiet and wouldnt say anything.
This girl is doing you a favour at the present moment, but I would steer clear of her as soon as possible. It's likely she was the one hammering down the "find yourself a boyfriend" to the girl you like, but someone who asks you "are you a virgin" doesn't sound entirely good-willed. Also, if you have a rep as a ladies man and she gives you a question like this, she was trolling you: another reason to drop her off as soon as possible and do the rest of the "work" by yourself.
This girl doesn't sound like she is going to drop her chaperone shenanigans once you and the girl you like are getting together. She is going to continue to interfere and to control the outcome even after. Get rid of her.
Sorry about the whole wall of text but I could do with some advice here, what can or should I do? Should I leave alone still? Thing is, I actually do really like this chick and don't really view her as just another lay, she seems to have everything i'm looking for in a girl.
The girl you like seems to have genuine interest. The girl who's helping you reads a bit too mischievous.
Not really related to dating, rather friendship. Thought I'd ask here anyway.
Been talking to this girl I met online for some time now, mostly about dating related things. I asked her out on a date, she said she wasn't really interested but I was cool with that so we kept talking. Then met once and went for a walk and talked a good while. Talked a lot since then too.
Anyway, so I was wanting to see her again (to clarify, just as friends)
To be fair, here I wouldn't have believed you myself. The "just friends" deal was out of picture once you asked her on a date. Had you done that immediately it would have made sense to accept the friendship for what it was AFTER the date, but once you befriended her, then dated her, then got back to the just friends again, it looked like you were just using an excuse to keep around her.
and she said this Tuesday that yeah it can work (EDIT: She was actually the one who asked to meet on Tuesday now that I think about it), she would get back to me. Tuesday rolls around and hear nothing from her. Whatever I think, so next day I ask her again, she says okay but after dinner. Dinner takes long and she needs to get up early so she cancels again, I get a bit annoyed but think fair enough. Then she says I'm going out with friends tomorrow but can probably meet after. Don't hear anything after that. So I tell her after two days of not hearing from her at all, that it feels like she doesn't respect my time at all. She says something like "I can't believe you're getting mad over this. What do you want me to say even? Sorry I'm busy?" and that I should've checked in to see how it was going, that it wasn't her fault that I was stuck waiting.
Am I in the wrong here? If I say that we can probably meet and then it turns out I can't, I'd get back to the person immediately when I know. In my mind at least, anything else is just disrespectful. What do you all think?
She acted in a rude way and she is just enjoying the validation. I wouldn't consider a friend someone who says stuff like that after a no-show, guy or girl.
Girl I've been dating for 2 months (both college freshman) is really cute but she's got a Lotta fuccbois after her. Just to give some examples, there's one guy who said her "makeup was aesthetically pleasing to most people" and when he got drunk he said he "lub'd her" over text but claimed he had no feelings for her when asked about it. Another guy she made out with during the first week got really high one night and told everyone in the common room they slept together which never happened, then later that week they were at the same bar and he was asking her about me aND said that her having a boyfriend was "lame". Another one just texts her shit like "come over with me and don't fuck around with small dicked guys" (I kid you not). It's a small school and I don't blame her for running in to people especially since 2 are on her floor but the pure fuccboi-Ness is irritating as hell. Especially since she doesn't do much to actively stop it. It just bugs me that she never tells them explicitly to fuck off, especially the two more forward ones. I trust her and I appreciate her telling me all of this but still. I hang around one of my FWBS all the time but that was only for the first two weeks and it's only because we've become good friends and my girlfriend still gets pissy when im hanging out with that girl.
The thing is though me and that other girl already established that once one of us started sleeping with someone else we'd cut it off and we did and she isn't texting me weird things or hinting that we should hook up. I just see it as 2 completely different situations.
Is there anything I should do or just leave it, I've already told her my thoughts on all 3 of the guys but she still just remains passive about it and getting slightly annoyed at them instead of drawing a hard line in the sand. Also should I do anything about any of the guys or
These guys are actually helping you and the fact you say nothing about it makes it look like you don't care about them, WHICH IS VERY GOOD. If you tell her about how you really feel she is going to drop the act for a while and then resume back from where she left off as soon as she gets an hints of boredom.
Until now you look like the less jealous in the relationship, which is where you want to be if she plays these games and shows you the texts she receives and tells you about the guys after her. You can't have it both ways though: every time you hang out with your ex you are giving her a reason to keep the ruse up.
Either keep things the way they are or push the relationship towards full exclusivity and tell her to cut these guys off while you cut contacts with your ex. I wouldn't pick the second choice though, since this is college and it will make you look controlling.
You sound like you are nearing the point of no return, if you don't accept the fact that these guys will never go anywhere with her, sooner or later you are going to explode. The worst possible outcome.
