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Gaf, I have a girlfriend for the first time in a while

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Kaladin

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I don't normally start threads like these....but here goes my live journal rant....

At 32 I have been pretty happy with being single. Perfectly happy actually. But then, you meet someone who completely changes things. I wasn't even really looking for anyone. I just found her online, thought her profile looked interesting and started a conversation. It turns out we had met casually at my work and she liked me from our interactions. We got to talking and found out we have a lot in common actually. She's even taking interest in things I like that she didn't before, and vice versa. Now we've been on a few dates and we're in a relationship which is something neither of us were looking for but it kind of happened. We've both said we're waiting for that one thing that is a deal breaker or for the other to end it, but it hasn't happened and I can't see it happening. I think the point is....for the first time in a while, I'm truly happy with things. It's refreshing really when something comes along and blows you away as I have been. This isn't even a "congrats on the sex" post, it's not even about that. This is actually the first relationship I have had that didn't start there, and it will only go there when we're ready....so yeah, I'm happy about things Gaf. [/livejournal]

TLDR Version: I have been happy being single, met someone awesome unexpectedly and it's an amazing thing.
 
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Kerned

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I got into a good relationship at 32 after being very happily single for years. We have been married for about three and a half years now.
 
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Eiolon

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Mr. Sandman said:
TLDR Version: I have been happy being single, met someone awesome unexpectedly and it's an amazing thing.
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That's the best way to meet someone. You've basically detoxed yourself from relationships, got humble so you can realize when it smacks you in your face what you are looking for.
 
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WalkMan

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This is one of those feel good threads. Except you should remove the pessimism about "looking for a dealbreaker". Just go with the flow.
 
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Kaladin

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WalkMan said:
This is one of those feel good threads. Except you should remove the pessimism about "looking for a dealbreaker". Just go with the flow.
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It's there for both of us, but it's kind of a reassuring thing too because we aren't seeing that in each other, at all.
 
Flying Toaster

Flying Toaster

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Congrats on the new relationship. It has that super awesome new car smell so take advantage of all the "new relationship" sex you have at your disposal.
 
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Kaladin

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Eiolon said:
That's the best way to meet someone. You've basically detoxed yourself from relationships, got humble so you can realize when it smacks you in your face what you are looking for.
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You may be onto something here.

davepoobond said:
Does she know you posted about your relationship on an Internet forum?

That could be a deal breaker.
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She doesn't but wouldn't mind. She has posted about us in other forums with non-specifics.
 
Flying Toaster

Flying Toaster

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Mr. Sandman said:
You may be onto something here.



She doesn't but wouldn't mind. She has posted about us in other forums with non-specifics.
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The problem with this is it was not NeoGAF... she is using inferior forums to talk about your relationship. This should be a sign of things to come.
 
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Koppai

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What would be a deal breaker?

Congratulations though, nice to see a nice thread instead of all the negative/sad threads all the time (no offense to anyone)
 
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Carlisle

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Mr. Sandman said:
I don't normally start threads like these....but here goes my live journal rant....

At 32 I have been pretty happy with being single. Perfectly happy actually. But then, you meet someone who completely changes things. I wasn't even really looking for anyone. I just found her online, thought her profile looked interesting and started a conversation. It turns out we had met casually at my work and she liked me from our interactions. We got to talking and found out we have a lot in common actually. She's even taking interest in things I like that she didn't before, and vice versa. Now we've been on a few dates and we're in a relationship which is something neither of us were looking for but it kind of happened. We've both said we're waiting for that one thing that is a deal breaker or for the other to end it, but it hasn't happened and I can't see it happening. I think the point is....for the first time in a while, I'm truly happy with things. It's refreshing really when something comes along and blows you
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Nice.

In all seriousness, congrats op. Having someone is a great feeling. It's ok if you weren't looking for something serious as long as you're happy now, which you seem to be. I met my wife in a similar place in my life and I wouldn't change a thing. Not saying you'll marry this girl or not, just that unexpected things can be great.
 
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adelante

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Wow OP, we couldn't be more similar in this regard. Same age, been single for quite a while, met someone more a month ago and we got together a couple weeks back because things have never felt so right for the both of us. It's been nothing short of an amazing and refreshing experience. Can I just say, congrats to the both of us. ;D
 
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Messofanego

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Wait, so she didn't run away from your love of obscure country, psychobilly, or bluegrass music?

...You haven't mentioned it, have you? :p
 
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Kaladin

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TheDanger said:
so you weren't looking for someone, but met her through a online dating site?
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It was more of a social network site. Not going to say what site for reasons.

Messofanego said:
Wait, so she didn't run away from your love of obscure country, psychobilly, or bluegrass music?

...You haven't mentioned it, have you? :p
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Hah.

When we were first talking, and I asked her what music she likes she said jazz and blues...I thought "I can work with this." We got to trading songs back and forth and found some common threads.
 
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Seth C

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Congrats! I turn 35 this year and am about 3 years off from calling it quits on relationships. Happy someone else found what thy want. :)
 
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Messofanego

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Mr. Sandman said:
Hah.

When we were first talking, and I asked her what music she likes she said jazz and blues...I thought "I can work with this." We got to trading songs back and forth and found some common threads.
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That's nice to hear! Some musical open-mindedness goes a long way. Best of luck with it :)
 
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Halcyon

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I'm 32 and I am thoroughly enjoying being single and having casual sex once in awhile. I never got to do it in my 20's and it's great fun now.

I am dead inside so I'm glad you're going in the other direction. Hope it works out well for you.
 
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TnK

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Check if she likes the same taste in metal as you do, only way to know she is truly meant for you.

jk ofcourse....or am I?
 
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Northern Lights

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Mr. Sandman said:
I don't normally start threads like these....but here goes my live journal rant....

At 32 I have been pretty happy with being single. Perfectly happy actually. But then, you meet someone who completely changes things. I wasn't even really looking for anyone. I just found her online,
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Kaladin

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TnK said:
Check if she likes the same taste in metal as you do, only way to know she is truly meant for you.

jk ofcourse....or am I?
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I'm working on the metal thing.....so far I've discovered she prefers clean vocals....so there is that.
 
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