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Do you know anyone afflicted with 'Yellow Fever'?

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ishibear

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Fellow GAFfers express dislike for being fetished. Fellow GAFfers telling them to get over it or be proud of it and adding insult to injury, openly express their "Yellow Fever" without giving a shit.

We have discussions like this all the time, about how uncomfortable it makes women feel when we're getting cat called or viewed solely as sex objects, and people will bite their damn tongue and choke their garbage attempts to disagree because they know it's wrong to. But these guys don't have the gall to be respectful in this thread because why?

This is awful. My sympathies to the people who experience this often. As a minority myself, it's fucking terrible to be perceived a certain way because of stereotypes, and I'll be glad when this shit is frowned upon more.
 
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Rest

All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
I remember seeing those stereo types in old movies from the 70's, but I don't really think they have much to do with what men want now. The only guys I know that go after Asian women exclusively just think they look hot. It's like guys that only date white girls, it's their type, just like people that only date white people, or black people, or whatever.
 
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Into

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I had a class mate who was deeply into everything Japanese, anime, games and of course the women, you know the type, basically any discussion in regards to anything led to "well in Japan it is this way and that is better". Basically anything that came from Japan was the best thing ever, for all time

After he graduated he went over to live in Japan and lasted 2 months before coming back home. His romanticism of Japan i think saw reality, and just how ordinary and "normal" actual Japan ended up being. I think his fascination with Japanese women ended because he ended up marrying a German girl.
 
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SnakeXs

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DoktorEvil said:
Octopus is a big fetish of mine tho.

I like my calamari
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Two Words

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backslashbunny said:
Yep. You remembered correctly. I am the girl that said I wanted to date someone like myself. If it were just appearance, I would like all Asian men, but Taiwanese-Americans get a +2 bonus, Chinese-Americans a +1 bonus, and everyone else gets nothing (is equal).

TBH, I never had much contact with Yellow Fever, mostly because I only had other Chinese/Taiwanese friends. I think I'm at the age now where most men are over their silly racial preferences. Lucky me :).
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Unfortunately, plenty of people carry that attitude throughout their lives. I wouldn't count on a lot of guys changing their views as they grow up.
 
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HORRORSHØW

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yo. one of my hispanic friends is only into asian chicks. so much so that whenever he makes a remark, my gf and i can only roll our eyes. it isn't only asian fetishism towards women, though, but in asian (particularly japanese) culture that he's into. as someone who is asian, i don't see anything remarkable or eye-catching about asians.
 
Lord Panda

Lord Panda

The Sea is Always Right
What I find more worrisome, and something that was touched on in the video, is the emasculation of the Asian male. Probably worthy of another topic on it's own.
 
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Cow Mengde

Banned
backslashbunny said:
Yep. You remembered correctly. I am the girl that said I wanted to date someone like myself. If it were just appearance, I would like all Asian men, but Taiwanese-Americans get a +2 bonus, Chinese-Americans a +1 bonus, and everyone else gets nothing (is equal).
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I feel like dating Chinese is a big hassle.

You ever have to worry about marrying for a green card type of crap? Maybe it's just New York, but we have more illegal Chinese population here. I get weary of girls because they really only want you for a green card. That's actually one of the reasons I'm a little more careful when it comes to Chinese girls. I ALMOST got roped into one. It's not like it's impossible that they also genuinely like you, but just the thought that there's an extra agenda turns me off. I'm sure this problem might exist for other ethnicity, too.

Plus, being Chinese male also might come with big expectations from the girl's side of the family. Depending on their parents, you're not just dating the girl, you're trying to please her parents, too. Are you worthy of dating/potentially marrying my daughter? You got a house, car, good career? Not all are like this of course, but my first girlfriend's parents fit that description. I like paleontology, a career that will never make me rich. Her parents didn't feel like I'm good enough because my dreams aren't about being rich. Of course we didn't last long.

That's why I'm extra cynical with Chinese women. Then again, maybe it's just me.
 
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DoktorEvil

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Cow Mengde said:
I feel like dating Chinese is a big hassle.

You ever have to worry about marrying for a green card type of crap? Maybe it's just New York, but we have more illegal Chinese population here. I get weary of girls because they really only want you for a green card. That's actually one of the reasons I'm a little more careful when it comes to Chinese girls. I ALMOST got roped into one. It's not like it's impossible that they also genuinely like you, but just the thought that there's an extra agenda turns me off. I'm sure this problem might exist for other ethnicity, too.

Plus, being Chinese male also might come with big expectations from the girl's side of the family. Depending on their parents, you're not just dating the girl, you're trying to please her parents, too. Are you worthy of dating/potentially marrying my daughter? You got a house, car, good career? Not all are like this of course, but my first girlfriend's parents fit that description. I like paleontology, a career that will never make me rich. Her parents didn't feel like I'm good enough because my dreams aren't about being rich. Of course we didn't last long.

That's why I'm extra cynical with Chinese women. Then again, maybe it's just me.
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Real talk, I dated a Korean girl who introduced me to her parents as her "possible husband". Right off the bat, her parents didn't like me because I wasn't Korean or even Asian. Plus, they were asking about really personal shit, like my income, size of my parents home, and whether or not I was going to buy a home right after marriage(we were dating for about 4 months prior).

I also got asked about my college an my grades.
 
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GabDX

Banned
I think I have it. Then again, maybe I just like quiet and smart girls with black hair. Most Asian on campus seem to be like this.
 
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BocoDragon

or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
I'm starting to feel like this term is offensive.

If I happen to like Asian women.. What of it? Why do we have to laugh at and/or psychoanalyse those who happen to feel that way?
 
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UrbanRats

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Opiate said:
It really is, but I can be a bit more specific.

Using the standard comparisons: if you say you prefer tall women, that is not in itself a problem. We all have preferences. Now imagine that I strongly prefer tall women, such that I almost never date any woman that is shorter, even if they're brilliant and beautiful. At that point, it begins to become an unreasonably dominating variable that most would describe as unhealthy.

Now imagine that I so strongly prefer tall women that it is a requirement, and that I would never date a woman under 5'7'' even if she were brilliant and beautiful and professionally successful and ran a charity in her spare time. At that point, your "preference" for tall women has become a requirement, and a requirement which dominates all other possible concerns. We'd probably describe that as a fetish.
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Although race is a much more delicate matter.

Tell me if these two phrases sound the same:
"She's a really brilliant girl, we really have a good chemistry, she's beautiful... and she's tall, which doesn't hurt!"

Compared to:
"She's a really brilliant girl, we really have a good chemistry, she's beautiful... and she's Asian(or Black or Hispanic or White), which doesn't hurt!"

The second one sounds sketchy, the first one sounds perfectly fine.
Context can also change things a bit, but you get my point.
 
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ishibear

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BocoDragon said:
I'm starting to feel like this term is offensive.

If I happen to like Asian women.. What of it? Why do we have to laugh at and/or psychoanalyse those who happen to feel that way?
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Because women don't like to be objectified and treated like things instead of human beings.

You really can't see why Asian women might be offended that their worth is only so much as how well they fit a stereotype?

I'd wager if this even offends you in the first place, that speaks more about you than it does anything else.
 
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Two Words

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backslashbunny said:
Hence, my "-American" qualifier. I prefer American-born and raised, but I'm okay with raised, as long as they immigrate here at an early age and are sufficiently American.

Would not date a FOB, or any country. Culture clash would be way too much. I'm way too American (aka, slutty, free-minded, liberal) for most Asians anyway :p.

Pretty sure if a guy wanted to marry me for a green card, he could easily find a way-less hard to deal with girl. I am not easy to handle, and very difficult to date for extended periods of time.


I'm a girl, but the pressure is the same to be worthy of a person's kid.

I'm aware some people have problems with their parents, but my last two Asia-born, American-raised boyfriends, when I brought up my fear I wasn't good enough, said (paraphrase) "Who the fuck cares about that? My parents will be happy as long as I'm happy."

[I think this is wistful ignorance or their parents not showing this side of them, but to me, if my husband believes that, why would I care about his parents more than him?]




Don't date fobs. Problem solved :p.
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What exactly is unappealing about somebody who isn't American? I ask because you said you wouldnt date them, instead have a preference to Americans.
 
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AtomskEater

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Bleepey said:
I have seen Asian guys make "Asian girls have no ass/body" in ways that would make your jaw drop.

Edit: am I the only person who thinks it's better to be fetishised than not? I mean I'd rather be seen as a muscular Mandingo swinging a 12' super cock than being seen as asexual at best and feminine at worst possessing a 2' micro penis that satisfies no one. *shrugs*
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Why are the options between "being fetishized" and "not being seen as a sexual being at all"? I'd think most people not being fetishized are still not perceived as devoid of sexually attractive traits and what have you.
 
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clav

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Cow Mengde said:
Plus, being Chinese male also might come with big expectations from the girl's side of the family. Depending on their parents, you're not just dating the girl, you're trying to please her parents, too. Are you worthy of dating/potentially marrying my daughter? You got a house, car, good career? Not all are like this of course, but my first girlfriend's parents fit that description. I like paleontology, a career that will never make me rich. Her parents didn't feel like I'm good enough because my dreams aren't about being rich. Of course we didn't last long.

That's why I'm extra cynical with Chinese women. Then again, maybe it's just me.
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Other (Asian) parents do the same thing.

I recently went to a wedding with a Caucasian male marrying an Asian female. His parents were excited that an Asian female meant no drama in the family. "No drama. No drama. She's Asian!" I heard this many times at the wedding from relatives.

The family was Jewish if that makes anything different.
 
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jasonng

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freenudemacusers said:
i get what you are saying but there is a chinese girl i live near and i want to impress her so hook a brother up
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我的西裝是醜陋的，如果你同意笑。

Evening Musuko said:
lol I never got this. For example, if you live in the US, chances are that Asian girl you're trying to hit on knows English and is Americanized so you'd probably have a better time talking about McDonalds than Katanas or something.
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I'm in NYC. You would think I don't have to deal with this kind of mentality.


claviertekky said:
Other (Asian) parents do the same thing.

I recently went to a wedding with a Caucasian male marrying an Asian female. His parents were excited that an Asian female meant no drama in the family. "No drama. No drama. She's Asian!" I heard this many times at the wedding from relatives.

The family was Jewish if that makes anything different.
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I have never heard of this stereotype, let alone get it. Where did they get this idea?
 
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clearacell

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backslashbunny said:
I have heard Asian girls complain about Asian men not having muscles or big dicks. To those girls, I would say rather snarkily, that it isn't these men don't exist, it's that the Asian girl in question can't attract one.
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Such ownage.

I live in the San Gabriel valley portion of LA, and if anyone knows about this area they know it's pretty much a piece of East Asia dumped into america. In high school I was accused of having yellow fever because I dated like 3 Asian girls in a row...but it was more like who was available, who liked me, and my height preferences (I'm a short guy). Most Latinas and Asians girls are closer to my height so it's easier to find someone compatible with me.
 
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BocoDragon said:
I'm starting to feel like this term is offensive.

If I happen to like Asian women.. What of it? Why do we have to laugh at and/or psychoanalyse those who happen to feel that way?
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Can't you at least TRY to see anything in women besides just their race? God why can't you keep your creepy white fetishizing weenis in your pants for a few minutes?
 
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jasonng

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backslashbunny said:
I once dumped a guy that mixed up "your" and "you're." I couldn't date someone that wasn't an English wordsmith.
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ni hao I think your cute. Go out with me la

Devolution said:
My favorite was constantly hearing the pick up lines directed at my mostly asian friends.

GOAT: do you like/watch anime?
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I once went to this after school program when I was younger. I was the only Asian in the program and I came across these two guys who were older than me at the time. Both of them were OBSESSED with Dragon Ball Z. When getting to know each other one of them asked me if I watch DBZ and before I can say anything the other screamed "He's Asian. OF COURSE he's into DBZ." Needless to say I didn't stay long in that program.
 
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Infinite

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Many of you seem to be misunderstanding what was said in the video almost on purpose. She isn't shaming you for dating or being infatuated with women who happen to be Asian. The issue here is seeking them because they are Asian.
 
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Two Words

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backslashbunny said:
The cultural difference is just too much. Besides, I'm not a fan of Mainland China culture, and I'm not 100% what straight Taiwanese culture is since it's so rare, so... not much to say there except the language difference would kill me.

I once dumped a guy that mixed up "your" and "you're." I couldn't date someone that wasn't an English wordsmith.





Sure, but "cool" isn't something I look for in a partner. haha
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Well if I take what you said about "or other countries" to mean other foreigners, I guess I don't see how that reason fits for everybody. There are lots of countries that have English as a primary language or have a large population of people who speak English well. And its hard to speak about culture on a world-scale. The reason I asked you is because your comments sounded to me like you were saying you wouldn't date anybody who wasn't American, which seemed odd to me. Mainly because American culture and language isn't that unique and there are people all around the world that wouldn't seem that out of place in America.
 
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Cow Mengde

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backslashbunny said:
The cultural difference is just too much. Besides, I'm not a fan of Mainland China culture, and I'm not 100% what straight Taiwanese culture is since it's so rare, so... not much to say there except the language difference would kill me.

I once dumped a guy that mixed up "your" and "you're." I couldn't date someone that wasn't an English wordsmith.
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Similar deal with me. It's about how well we can communicate and connect. You need good communication for a good relationship. For example, my Chinese is second grade level, there's no way I can express myself as fluently as I can in English. Let say she needs a RAM upgrade for her computer, I wouldn't know what RAM is in Chinese. I can laugh my ass off at Whose Line Is It Anyway, but she won't get what makes the jokes funny. Since we grew up differently, the humor would be lost to them even if they speak fluent English.

claviertekky said:
Other (Asian) parents do the same thing.
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I had a feeling other Asian cultures are like that, but I kept it specific to Chinese because I didn't want to offend other people.

DoktorEvil said:
Real talk, I dated a Korean girl who introduced me to her parents as her "possible husband". Right off the bat, her parents didn't like me because I wasn't Korean or even Asian. Plus, they were asking about really personal shit, like my income, size of my parents home, and whether or not I was going to buy a home right after marriage(we were dating for about 4 months prior).

I also got asked about my college an my grades.
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ishibear

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OddMorsel said:
Can't you at least TRY to see anything in women besides just their race? God why can't you keep your creepy white fetishizing weenis in your pants for a few minutes?
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You're really making an ass out of yourself.

I guess your feelings are hurt?

What are you trying to prove by openly mocking the idea that women want to be seen as more than their race?

Does it bother you that Asian women want to be seen as individuals and not as you want them to be?
 
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RockTurtle

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Robert De Niro would NOT be happy with this lady

it seems to me like she's trying to go for a "don't love me for my race, love me for me" which is fine.

But having a penchant for certain physical attributes is not evil. it's human. the very first thing the majority of humans notice is the physical aspect. sure sometimes the emotional connection is what makes us decide on a potential partner, but that's usually secondary to meeting someone new.

and honestly, so what if you are someone's fetish? if it's a purely sexual attraction, that is the whole aspect of being sexually attracted to someone. if you mean in terms of building an actual honest relationship, then the fact that your potential partner is not truly interested you as a person is something that everyone deals with outside of just race. that's a common issue through humanity throughout the ages. assholes are gonna be assholes, and a fetish is one of the many different aspects of a fucked up relationship. and on the other side of the coin, it's one of the reasons for companionship.

how many heavy set people have someone that loves them and takes care of them because their relations were started on a fetish?

this all sounds like some sort of emasculation of men for having desires that don't have a goal of established relationship.

Liu Kang Baking A Pie said:
It feels awful to be fetishized. Why take personal offense instead of at least empathizing with where she's coming from?
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as a Caribbean native, i have been fetishised (usually older white women looking for a fling) and i didn't feel awful.
 
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PhantomHound

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maomaoIYP said:
All my ex-girlfriends are east-asian and I'm only interested in east-asian women.
Come at me.
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TheBryanJZX90 said:
My wife is Japanese and I think it's creepy as hell to be attracted to a specific race. Come at me.
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They're not like you and me, which means they must be evil. We must sound the drums of war.
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They're different from us, which means they can't be trusted. We must sound the drums of war.
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^ This Thread.
 
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suzu

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If you're not a creeper who uses racist pick-up lines and aren't fetishizing anyone, then why get so defensive. Clearly it's not about you then.

Some of you guys want to label yourself with the term yellow fever that much?
 
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