fuzzyreactor
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Nope, girls love Bad Boys, they don't want to be threat gently anymore, believe me
key word: girls
Nope, girls love Bad Boys, they don't want to be threat gently anymore, believe me
I find "threat gently" far more interesting.key word: girls
I've never heard of a woman being creeped out by a man offering to pay a check on a dinner date.
That stuff is weird. I bet it gives most women the creeps.
Have you guys ever heard about opening a car door for someone?
Say you're both leaving the restaurant and getting in your car... this one girl expected me to walk around the car (we were coming from the driver's side) and open the passenger door for her.
This is where being a gentleman and courteous is just intrusive to the other's capabilities. It's not like we're getting in a cab together and entering from the same side... then it would make sense.
Anyways, when she mentioned it to me in the form of, "You're not going to open the door for me?" I knew she was a nut.
A lady opened a door for me once. Felt weird as fuck after that. I had to chop down a tree just to feel better.
In Mad Men they always stand up when their wives get up. I wonder if it's to make up for the perpetual infidelity.
1. Hold the door for everyone.Obviously this question is for men.
Just curious do you still follow was are considered traditional western gentlemanly customs?
Quick audit of gentlemanly behaviors with my comments
-Opening doors--I do this for everyone honestly, but especially women and older people.
-Walking close to curb--I think I do this instantly in all types of company.
-Give up seat in public places-I do this for both women of all ages and older men and children of all sexes
-Limit profanity--I don't use too much profanity IRL and much less with someone I just met. I don't mind profanity in known company for humorous situations.
-Pay for dates--I do this. If it gets serious we usually do round robin style. I got her, she gets me next. Or per venue. I get dinner, she gets drinks. Etc. But only in committed relationships not during beginning stages of dating.
-Put on her coat--I actually never do this. I think this is a probably too outdated in my experience. I only really do this for the huge winter coats if we go to a place with a coat check like a swankier bar or lounge.
Those are the ones I can think of.
If you know more, add those.
That stuff is weird. I bet it gives most women the creeps.
Does the not cursing in public custom extend into injuries or semi-drastic or drastic events?
I refuse to be held accountable for any curses I may blurt under my breath after stubbing my toe or bumping my head. Sorry children who are present, that fucking hurt.
When To Shake Hands
When gentlemen are introduced to each other they always shake hands.
When a gentleman is introduced to a lady, she sometimes puts out her handespecially if he is some one she has long heard about from friends in common, but to an entire stranger she generally merely bows her head slightly and says: "How do you do!" Strictly speaking, it is always her place to offer her hand or not as she chooses, but if he puts out his hand, it is rude on her part to ignore it. Nothing could be more ill-bred than to treat curtly any overture made in spontaneous friendliness. No thoroughbred lady would ever refuse to shake any hand that is honorable, not even the hand of a coal heaver at the risk of her fresh white glove.
Does the not cursing in public custom extend into injuries or semi-drastic or drastic events?
I refuse to be held accountable for any curses I may blurt under my breath after stubbing my toe or bumping my head. Sorry children who are present, that fucking hurt.
I open the car door for my mother or any other person who gets into my car. If my nephew are there, than they have to do it for her, we just learn from each other. Scolded my bf once for not doing it 8 months ago and he has since been doing it everytime.
And some people have no manners. My ex stood on his side and left me opening the car door by myself a week after I had a seizure. I could actually see him in the mirror just standing there while I was struggling. That was it.
I don't curse since I work with kids/parents. Summertime tho? Total sailormouth
I should add the coat thing to my bf, but he also puts my shoes on sometimes.
That stuff is weird. I bet it gives most women the creeps.
It's the little details that you do for one another that make a relationship special. For instance, I keep a warm moist towel next to the bed so my wife can clean her ass up after I cum in it.
No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:A lot of it really does (obviously I'm speaking for myself). I find all the stuff like pulling out seats, opening car doors, et cetera to be really obnoxious. Like, not only are you treating me like a child, but you're wasting time in order to do it.
No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:
. Always ask people how they are doing and give eye contact, and if someone asks how I am first, I respond and ask the same of them. Always throws people at stores and restaurants off since people tend to not do that much around here lol
Same, but I don't actually stand there to hold the door open, it's just more efficient depending on the direction of the door (and while I enter I always leave the door open for the person directly behind me). Other cases are people holding stuff obviously.-Opening doors--I do this for everyone honestly, but especially women and older people.
Pretty sure I only do this with small children (traffic etc.).-Walking close to curb--I think I do this instantly in all types of company.
Only if the person visibly struggles to stand. Definitely not for young women (unless they are my company obviously), that might actually come across creepy. If I notice there's really no free place left in a Bus etc, I will offer it also to elders.-Give up seat in public places-I do this for both women of all ages and older men and children of all sexes
To me that's more something you do in a professional setting? I don't really hold back all that much when with female company.-Limit profanity--I don't use too much profanity IRL and much less with someone I just met. I don't mind profanity in known company for humorous situations.
Only if I like that person. I will ask first though, several women think they are being pressured because of the notion that I may expect something in return.-Pay for dates--I do this. If it gets serious we usually do round robin style. I got her, she gets me next. Or per venue. I get dinner, she gets drinks. Etc. But only in committed relationships not during beginning stages of dating.
I do it with dates sometimes, but it's often kinda awkward because I don't do it correctly haha. I take the coat off and put it up though.-Put on her coat--I actually never do this. I think this is a probably too outdated in my experience. I only really do this for the huge winter coats if we go to a place with a coat check like a swankier bar or lounge.
No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:
Used to.
Got called/watched people get called white knights enough to stop mostly.
I mean just this thursday I walked into a building and saw a group of people nearly at the door I just went through, so I decided to just hold it open. The first person through was a woman with a cane as she walked by she gave me a huge glare and said "I don't need you".
what's wrong with people.
No way anybody witnesses puddle-covering and doesn't laugh their ass off:
It is actually harder for kids to balance.I give up seat for all of the above and possibly more, but never for children. I don't see the point. Unless they can't balance properly and can't ride the tube standing up, but that never actually happened to me. If is like a family riding together, if I'm on a good mood I offer my seat so they can stay together if there are other seats available, though.
Would anyone mind telling me why we should give up the seat for a child?