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I need help.. um.... lasting longer in bed

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IAmRandom31

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Slow your breathing
Switch positions
Think about other shit when close ( hell just concentrating on counting numbers or doing simple math helps lol )
 
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Captcha

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Are you one of those guys with a really long refractory period? If not, do other shit while you recharge for a second then go for round 2. You have hands and a tongue so put in work. The fun doesn't have to stop because ya blew it.
 
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Zen_Arcade

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If you're a fan of a sports team, start counting from one and try to think of a player that wore that number throughout your teams history. If you take too long to think of a player for a certain number, just skip it and move on to the next one.
 
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Zeyphersan

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pharmx said:
Since you say it hasn't always been like this, did something change recently either physically or emotionally? Or do you mean it's gotten worse as you got older?
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I ain't old, I'm 21. I should be in my sexual prime right now. Emotionally... Could be better. Working on it.

juicyfruitas said:
What's your physical condition like?

For me at least when I'm in tip top shape i'm sexgod but when I hit those long bouts of lazy couch potatodom the sexmagic fades
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Also working on it.

Captcha said:
Are you one of those guys with an a really long refractory period? If not, do other shit while you recharge for a second then go for round 2. You have hands and a tongue so put in work. The fun doesn't have to stop because ya blew it.
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A round 2 is always in the plan, because I know round 1 is gonna go short. I definitely keep working while I wait
 
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Parch

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Ferrio said:
You could try wearing a condom, hell I heard some people will put numbing shit on their dick.
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Another way to desensitize is to alter your wanking technique. None of this tickle fondle shit. You need to get a firm grip and get used to ejaculating with firm pressure. You'll eventually gain stamina because it takes more stimulus to get off. So alter your jerk off style, and it's also a way to practice the edge hold back.
Firm handshake my man.
Rule with an iron fist.
 
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Zoolader

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Horseticuffs said:
Honestly, losing weight did it for me.When I was damn near 400 pounds I lasted minutes. Now generally I last anywhere from the average to the point where I can tell my girlfriend wants me to hurry the fuck up. I don't know anything about your situation but stamina was a wonderful side effect of a healthier lifestyle. Something I didn't even consider when I first started.


EDIT: Also, try putting nails into your perineum. Worked for Albert Fish.
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Sho_Nuff82

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Easiest solution - start with a BJ or HJ, finish, and then have actual sex when you're back up for round 2.

If your girl isn't into that, start with missionary or any other position that let's you control the tempo/depth. If you feel yourself getting close, pull out and switch positions. It's like real-time edging.
 
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Tabris

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I have the opposite problem (No issue with ED, just delayed ejaculation) which makes sex always a long session (sometimes 2-3 hours) before I climax and puts a lot of anxiety on girlfriend.
 
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Jpop

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Parch said:
Another way to desensitize is to alter your wanking technique. None of this tickle fondle shit. You need to get a firm grip and get used to ejaculating with firm pressure. You'll eventually gain stamina because it takes more stimulus to get off. So alter your jerk off style, and it's also a way to practice the edge hold back.
Firm handshake my man.
Rule with an iron fist.
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This is bad advice. It will kill his sensitivity.... So sex won't feel as good.
 
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Tabris

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Parch said:
Another way to desensitize is to alter your wanking technique. None of this tickle fondle shit. You need to get a firm grip and get used to ejaculating with firm pressure. You'll eventually gain stamina because it takes more stimulus to get off. So alter your jerk off style, and it's also a way to practice the edge hold back.
Firm handshake my man.
Rule with an iron fist.
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Don't follow this man's advice. This is what I think put me into my situation, and which I'm trying to remedy (no porn and no masturbation helps). I had a dry spell for a while (break up that didn't go well) and I was also super busy. So I would do the firm grip + porn to get off quickly to relieve stress. Bad idea.
 
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Arrogant Bastard

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Zeyphersan said:
Alright, so since the first page is going to be nothing but jokes I'm hoping for some realness to hit on the second. It hasn't always been this bad, but let's say that recently my sexual stamina has been underwhelming. Both during sex and masturbating. I don't really care about the latter, but the former can be embarrassing for sure. I don't need to be some porn star fucking for hours on end, but I do need to step it up.

So what are some things I can do?
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Stop watching porn and or working it to porn. Try a dry spell, go a month or so without anything. If you have to jerk off take it slow without porn. Porn kills longevity.
 
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MikeyB

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Tabris said:
I have the opposite problem (No issue with ED, just delayed ejaculation) which makes sex always a long session (sometimes 2-3 hours) before I climax and puts a lot of anxiety on girlfriend.
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Make this thread. You know you want to.
 
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akira28

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yeah, jack off a few hours before hand. that will give you enough recharge time that you might even be able to recover while you're actually having sex.

You should have a good idea about your go-cycle before you start experimenting with it.
 
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MrPressStart

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Condoms help you last longer.... But also try the mlb trick. Name every pro baseball team you con or even all 50 U.S. States.... You will focus on that and not on busting a nut too quick.
 
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Zoolader

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Really though just start having sex 3 times a day and in a few weeks you'll be lasting forever, if you haven't already been dumped by then.
 
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BUNTING1243

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Anung said:
Try edging. Get yourself to that point then stop. Rinse and repeat. Be careful though if you become a real edgemaster you'll have the opposite problem.
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I sorta just do this in general with sex, even though this isn't really an issue I have. Makes it longer, which girls seem to be into.
 
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Cuburt

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Unicorn said:
Reverse kegels. I tried for a year or so and kegels didn't help. Reverse kegels did improve my stamina.

Also, communication and switching positions. Being on top usually leads to me not lasting as long.

Kegels = stopping stream mid piss
Reverse kegels = pushing more piss out

That's the muscle you should be flexing whenever.
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Thank you for this.

I read this and a light clicked on in my head.
 
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>:)

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Fanfiction

Find what you're into, and read hard. Don't even use the source pictures as reference, just let the mind fill in the blanks. You'll be surprised what it can come up with. It's a proven remedy trust me on this.
 
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trs1080

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Do you have anxiety/depression? Get on some SSRIs, that'll do the trick. (I don't take them anymore).

I tend to have quickness issues if I'm not on the bottom. I'm 99% sure it's from that being the way I'd usually handle myself when I'm alone so it's more familiar to my body.
 
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Omega Kirby

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Unicorn said:
Reverse kegels. I tried for a year or so and kegels didn't help. Reverse kegels did improve my stamina.

Also, communication and switching positions. Being on top usually leads to me not lasting as long.

Kegels = stopping stream mid piss
Reverse kegels = pushing more piss out

That's the muscle you should be flexing whenever.
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Isn't that dangerous?
 
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Zeyphersan

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Troubled Bat said:
Here you go OP. I've never tried them, but apparently it'll help you out.

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51JpZmqjsZL.jpg[img][/QUOTE]

So I have thought of this before, thicker condoms, but I can only use magnum condoms and shockingly they don't come in an "extended pleasure" variety. At least Trojan doesn't make em like that, I haven't shopped around that much
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Warm Machine

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Eat a couple squares of dark chocolate about 30 mins prior. You'll go longer and when you are done you'll still be hard for at least 5 mins.

70% cocao is all you need.
 
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