To be fair, I doubt you know what its like to be denied basic human rights either. Not in any sense that's remotely comparable to what your grandparents or their grandparents went through.If only most of these people knew how it felt to be denied basic human rights for fucking ever but we say they can't say one word and they go apeshit
But no one should say the N-Word unless they've got a good academic reason. Its been a derogatory word for 300 years now. No group saying it to amongst friends has changed or will change that.