Whenever I talk about this subject with people in real life nobody takes me seriously, and its pretty creepy seeing 10 years olds on instagramm comparing follower count. I teach part-time so I get the privilege to see this first hand.
That's tough. Around me, people actually take this very seriously and i hope that this social media obsession will go away with the next generation. My mom is drowning in work because of teenagers and children with delusional expectations about life and corresponding depression due to social media addiction. Children must not under any circumstances grow up with social media.
I knew that looking at the "success" of other in social media could make you depressed but didn't consider what would happen if you actually, from the very beginning, thought that was how life actually was. That's a frightening thought.
I am worried about how I am going to handle this with my son. I absolutely want to keep him away from social media until at least high school but I know he is going to get access to it anyway. So maybe it's best to allow him to use it at a younger age so I can guide him through the bullshit.
I like this. It's promoting observation and appreciation for the real tangible world, so the kid can develop actual interests and develop and trust their own critical thinking and self worth.I'm not rolling the dice with my son. He's going to play in the mud instead of on the iPad. He's going to listen to music instead of watching Paw Patrol. He's going to roam the neighborhood with his friends instead of having me supervise his every action. And if he gets in a tussle or somebody calls him a bad name I'm going to teach him how to deal with it instead of crying "BULLYING!"
Love y'all! God speed!
Oh gee, olimariOA has a problem with something I posted. I’m getting tired of you dude. Tired of you casually disrespecting me, and you’ve done it several times now. Just pm me if you have some personal issue."They all seem ok to me" is this generation's "my parent's spanked me I turned out fine".
You mean like Genie, Compuserve, AOL, Prodigy, Q-Link, Freeserves, BBS, IRC, Geocities, LiveJournal, or USENET?I don't what I would have become if social media was around in the late 90s...
You mean like Genie, Compuserve, AOL, Prodigy, Q-Link, Freeserves, BBS, IRC, Geocities, LiveJournal, or USENET?
Social media is cancer, but banning it from your child's life is just asking for different problems. Kids communicate through a million different apps and sites, by banning it you're just going to get them ostracized and possibly hurt their social life.
Just be a responsible parent, monitor their usage and teach them the risks and responsibilities of using it.
That said, I do miss the days when we weren't connected 24/7 and it took calling a landline to get in contact with someone.
I think you might be speaking for yourself here. I won't say it isn't easier now, but I was downloading porn off those services back in the early 90s. And BBS culture was absolutely about connecting us and encouraging us to share our lives. Social media isn't a new thing. Facebook is just Geocities for a new generation. Twitter is just a large scale version of the walls we used to post on through BBSes. Reddit is basically USENET. The internet largely does the same things it always has, just on a much grander scale.It isn't the same. Not even a little.
Broadband changed the game allowing us to share photos and videos.
Smartphones changed the game again allowing us 24/7 access
And allowing photos and videos to be easily shared
And creating app infrastructures specifically around connecting us and encouraging us to share out lives.
In 1998 we had AIM and to access it most teenagers had to log on to the family computer in a common space.
It made it impossible to abuse. While connected to AIM you basically had phone conversations in text form with a handful of people.
I think you might be speaking for yourself here. I won't say it isn't easier now, but I was downloading porn off those services back in the early 90s. And BBS culture was absolutely about connecting us and encouraging us to share our lives. Social media isn't a new thing. Facebook is just Geocities for a new generation. Twitter is just a large scale version of the walls we used to post on through BBSes. Reddit is basically USENET. The internet largely does the same things it always has, just on a much grander scale.
The more effective approach to harm reduction is to develop kids to be able to handle mean words, not foolishly attempt to eliminate all mean words.
It isn't the same. Not even a little.
Broadband changed the game allowing us to share photos and videos.
Smartphones changed the game again allowing us 24/7 access
And allowing photos and videos to be easily shared
And creating app infrastructures specifically around connecting us and encouraging us to share out lives.
In 1998 we had AIM and to access it most teenagers had to log on to the family computer in a common space.
It made it impossible to abuse. While connected to AIM you basically had phone conversations in text form with a handful of people.
I feel like if you cut your kids off completely from internet/social media, they are just going to turn into the weird home-schooled kid that never quite knew how to relate to everybody else in school.
You should see the infinite void between their ears!Think of the infinite void available at their fingertips, at that age.
I am worried about how I am going to handle this with my son. I absolutely want to keep him away from social media until at least high school but I know he is going to get access to it anyway. So maybe it's best to allow him to use it at a younger age so I can guide him through the bullshit.
Playing the stats makes sense, but at the same time I'd rather have a socially adjusted kid that performs slightly above-average than an Honor student that is socially isolated. So much of life depends on your ability to network and relate, moreso than simply being smart and accomplished.One of my recurring clients brought up their children in a large homeschool community that had and is having incredible outcomes compared to the public high schools nearby. Kids are grade levels ahead, tend to excel in college after, and suicide in this community is non existent.
Playing the stats makes sense, but at the same time I'd rather have a socially adjusted kid that performs slightly above-average than an Honor student that is socially isolated. So much of life depends on your ability to network and relate, moreso than simply being smart and accomplished.
Do you know what I had to do to share a photo in 1998?
Take it. Get it developed. Scan it. Upload it. Make sure I don't go over my geocities cap.
Then watch my hit counter go to 8.
Whenever I talk about this subject with people in real life nobody takes me seriously, and its pretty creepy seeing 10 years olds on instagramm comparing follower count. I teach part-time so I get the privilege to see this first hand.
Oh gee, olimariOA has a problem with something I posted. I’m getting tired of you dude. Tired of you casually disrespecting me, and you’ve done it several times now. Just pm me if you have some personal issue.
Err no he just posted a different opinion.