Not being considerate of religious people's feelings by calling their beliefs ridiculous is being militant? lol. When I hear the word 'militant', I'm thinking lynchings and suppression of civil liberties, but okay then.
While there are probably neckbeards like you describe, you are ascribing a really petty philosophy to atheists by claiming that their position on THE question (whether or not the Universe has a supernatural component) is dictated by a smug desire to feel superior to the masses.
Eh, nevermind. I just realized you probably draw a huge distinction between "agnostic" and "atheist". I would describe myself as an atheist for all intents and purposes, except for the part where I am 100% sure (because it is physically impossible to know anything for certain). Even with that, I would really, really prefer there to be a God, because it would make the world a lot more interesting. But my atheism, or whatever you wish to call it, stems from a "best guess" given the evidence/lack thereof, and has nothing to do with my ego or how I would like things to be. Why should that have any bearing on what I think is true?