Take it from me, I've had too many close calls using alcohol as a social crutch, and I've sworn it off except in minimal doses (like a casual night out; I'm done binge drinking).Wish there was some magic way to rid being petrified of social interaction with people but nothing works.
Actually one thing works. Alcohol. But that seems like a road to doom. I would rather not have to resort to alcoholism whenever i leave my apartment.
Wish there was some magic way to rid being petrified of social interaction
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I wonder how much help something like this would give:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0593055357/
My friend said it seemed to give him more confidence, so maybe it does.
If you're ever going to change your association that social interaction equals discomfort/pain you need to create leverage on yourself as to why you must change this limiting behavior.Wish there was some magic way to rid being petrified of social interaction with people but nothing works.
Actually one thing works. Alcohol. But that seems like a road to doom. I would rather not have to resort to alcoholism whenever i leave my apartment.
Once I get myself to the level of fitness I want to be at I might take up some sort of kick boxing or maybe BJJ. You and EviLore have piqued my interest in it. haha.Just a few thoughts about dating. I've been watching a lot of dating shows lately. I dunno how far scripted these shows are but none of the women on them like the nice guys. Maybe they expect a certain level of aggressiveness which is natural because men produce more testosterone naturally.
I also think dating success is closely linked with social status. The higher up you are within the ranks of your social circle, the more interesting you will be to women. And the easier it will be to bag a girl. For that you have to have something that makes you more interesting and have more friends. Whether you work as a DJ at night, you are an amateur body builder, you play a sport or you come from a rich family. Just playing COD all night, every day after work, will not do you any favours.
Personally I've picked up BJJ. It's improved my confidence and I get to meets loads of people. Chicks also like the fact that I do 'cage fighting'.
Once I get myself to the level of fitness I want to be at I might take up some sort of kick boxing or maybe BJJ. You and EviLore have piqued my interest in it. haha.
I wonder how much help something like this would give:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0593055357/
My friend said it seemed to give him more confidence, so maybe it does.
So I slept with a prostitute yesterday.
Lol, sat night went out to the bar with some buddies, saw a nice ass, so I grabbed it.. She turns around and gives me a nice hug, and from then on it was ass grabbing and dancing till 2 am. Went back to her place, she passed out, I had whiskey dick.. At least we got out of our clothes lol.
Made up for it in the morning though, twice. She was good, but for someone in her line of work I thought I'd be blown away, but not quite. She charges 150/hour. (It was free, if that's not clear)
She didn't outright say she's a prostitute, but she did make clear she's not a stripper, and after the 2nd time we did it I said fuck it and asked "so.. Are you an escort? Or, a prostitute? Or ?" And she ignored the topic and made small talk, so that's pretty much a yes. I know what she charges cause she mentioned how she paid the bouncer 50$ to skip the line, but "whatever, its only 20 minutes of work."
She's a 21 year old 3rd year nursing student who is a self-admitted borderline alcoholic and smokes all the time, weed and marijuana. This can be nothing but disaster but I'm heading back to her place now. Fun times.
It sucks, but you just need to wait a week.Looking for a reading on this one. I have a bad feeling about it.
Went out with a girl a couple weeks ago. We only planned for dinner, but then went out and got a drink and then went to a movie as well. Ended the date with a kiss. She texted me the next day to say she had a good time.
We went out again last week. Started as just coffee but then we went out for drinks. It ended with us making out in her car for about 5 minutes when she dropped me off at my car. It only ended at 5 minutes because she said, "I think I should get going." I know she had class the next day and it was like 11:30 at night. I texted her the next day and said I had a good time, she said the same.
I text her today to see when she's free and she says she's taking a week off from going out and just staying home and working. She said it feels like a lazy week and said, "raincheck?"
What does that mean? I work under the assumption that any hesitation of any kind is bad. What should I make of this?
It sucks, but you just need to wait a week.
The biggest problem guys make is that they overthink. Live your life, and if she's interested she'll get back to you.
Keep us updated!
I wanna see where this goes.
Hooked up again this afternoon. Went to drink with some of her friends. Back at her place with her friend, not sure but I think a 3some may be possible. Lol. I'm viewing this more as a case study than anything. Definitely wrapping the tool... Will answer the other questions later, since I'm done pooping now.
Her prostitute friends?
I wonder if she'll fall in love with you, and you her, and we get a Richard Gere situation.
Wish there was some magic way to rid being petrified of social interaction with people but nothing works.
Actually one thing works. Alcohol. But that seems like a road to doom. I would rather not have to resort to alcoholism whenever i leave my apartment.
I'm more amazed that he's updating us when he's in the washroom.
Wish there was some magic way to rid being petrified of social interaction with people but nothing works.
Actually one thing works. Alcohol. But that seems like a road to doom. I would rather not have to resort to alcoholism whenever i leave my apartment.
Yeah, I know that feel. I'm practicing talking to people one-on-one. It's harder talking when you're around groups of people, but I'm getting there.
Don't ever try to converse with a person in a night club.
That is a fucking nightmare to attempt.
Haha, yea. Unless you're at a higher-end establishment on a slower night, you're barking up the wrong tree if you're expecting stimulating discourse.Don't ever try to converse with a person in a night club.
That is a fucking nightmare to attempt.
I'll get the cake ready.
Both, huh? Maybe she's a consultant like N. Bluth, ever think of that? What did she say that made you jump straight to call girl?
So, let me get this straight. You just grabbed a woman's ass at a bar, turns out she's could be a prostitute, abuses drugs, and you want to keep seeing her?
STD check, go do it.
Just be careful. Condoms don't protect you from every STD, and they do nothing to protect you from crazy.
Remember that it's not your job to fix her.
Her prostitute friends?
I wonder if she'll fall in love with you, and you her, and we get a Richard Gere situation.
I'm more amazed that he's updating us when he's in the washroom.
Well, this is a man that grabs random women's asses and has sex with random prostitutes without much caution and then subsequently goes back to aforementioned prostitute and her friend later that day. Him updating while in the washroom doesn't phase me so much.
Don't ever try to converse with a person in a night club.
That is a fucking nightmare to attempt.
Why would you? The only purpose of a nightclub is:
Men : Buy girls drinks and don't get their number.
Women: Get free drinks and dance with their girlfriends and talk about which guys they think COULD be sexable/willing to buy them drinks.
There is one exception: if you go to a club that has the culture where guys dance, i.e. dance offs. This is the one time guys can dance and get attention AND get girls' interest. Note that you have to REALLY be good, so this may as well be nonexistent.
And banging in the toilets.
posted?
http://www.chinasmack.com/2009/pictures/brother-inspiration-fat-taiwanese-boy-pretty-girlfriend.html
summary:
fat taiwanese boy has a hot gf.
Seems old. Date on story is from 2009?
just do the NLP thing i talked about awhile ago
I'm open to trying anything so I'll give them all a go.I found a free one on youtube if you wanna go this route
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YiOZNVTCVAg&feature=related
comments seem positive
I need some advice here. As I mentioned once before in here, my date om the weekend went ok but nothing really happened. However, I realized that she was up for more than I realized. Basically, she was hinting at sex. It seems so bloody obvious now thinking over that night but I had only just met her(meaning I was nervous) and was focused on not making an arse of my self that I never thought of what I SHOULD be doing. I've never had a first date that ended in sex before and I put my self in a friendzone because of that. She still enjoyed the night though. I'm seeing her again but she said I could meet her friends too, so not a 1 on 1 again. I texted her after it but she is insanely slow at replying so who knows when or if I'll get a reply to that. One girl I mentioned it too said it would have made me seem "like a gentleman" that I wasn't pushing for it. I think it made me look like an idiot.
Should I just go all out next time and be much more forward?
so anyways to finish the story, we 3 got reaaaally drunk. this is after goign for dinner+beerss then them having beers at the friends before we went back to the prostitutes. i thought there was a 3some chance, just because of a few things her/herfriend said while at her friends place, but her friend is definitely not into girls, so exnay on that route.. no biggie though, she wasn't the most attractive girl. friend goes to bed eventually, we follow shortly after, i leave after half an hour awake in bed due to hunger/hotness/birds chirping, and decide to text her why im leaving since i doubted she'd remember my reasoning while she was 3/4 asleep. but then her phone was in the same room i was in, and went off multiple times as my multi-part text message came through.. and i remembered she was telling her boss she couldnt work tonight... slash complaining how she couldnt get on her work website... so i picked up her phone and read through her most recent ~10 conversations and checked her browser history. lol, yes, im a horrible human being...
anyways the poor girl doesnt have facebook, and only had ~5 people wish her happy birthday. she's definitely an escort, i found her on the local site she is on, the guys pay 190/hour to the company and she gets 150 of it. shes listed as no anal but she let me do it so i feel special. what else.. she said she pays her drivers 70$, i asked if that was per hour or flat rate and if it was out of her fee or what and she wouldnt answer. no way she gives them almost half her cut though, so i dunno.
Why would you? The only purpose of a nightclub is:
Men : Buy girls drinks and don't get their number.
Women: Get free drinks and dance with their girlfriends and talk about which guys they think COULD be sexable/willing to buy them drinks.
There is one exception: if you go to a club that has the culture where guys dance, i.e. dance offs. This is the one time guys can dance and get attention AND get girls' interest. Note that you have to REALLY be good, so this may as well be nonexistent.
You have to relax. Where are you going? If you guys are going to a club just dance with her, invite her to your house when it's over. If it's something like cinema or something just ask her if she'd like to go eat dinner with you some day after it.I need some advice here. As I mentioned once before in here, my date om the weekend went ok but nothing really happened. However, I realized that she was up for more than I realized. Basically, she was hinting at sex. It seems so bloody obvious now thinking over that night but I had only just met her(meaning I was nervous) and was focused on not making an arse of my self that I never thought of what I SHOULD be doing. I've never had a first date that ended in sex before and I put my self in a friendzone because of that. She still enjoyed the night though. I'm seeing her again but she said I could meet her friends too, so not a 1 on 1 again. I texted her after it but she is insanely slow at replying so who knows when or if I'll get a reply to that. One girl I mentioned it too said it would have made me seem "like a gentleman" that I wasn't pushing for it. I think it made me look like an idiot.
Should I just go all out next time and be much more forward?
You have to relax. Where are you going? If you guys are going to a club just dance with her, invite her to your house when it's over. If it's something like cinema or something just ask her if she'd like to go eat dinner with you some day after it.
And I dunno how obvious her signs were, but unless they were like "FUCK ME HERE AND NOW" and you were "Nice weather, huh?", it should be no problem.
You have to relax. Where are you going? If you guys are going to a club just dance with her, invite her to your house when it's over. If it's something like cinema or something just ask her if she'd like to go eat dinner with you some day after it.
And I dunno how obvious her signs were, but unless they were like "FUCK ME HERE AND NOW" and you were "Nice weather, huh?", it should be no problem.
She lives far away which is a problem so next time it'll be close to her...and not for a while. I guess I could ask if we could go back to hers for some more drinks or something. We'd probably go out to a bar or somewhere with music and drinking. She mentioned having coffee but I'd try and get a night visit again though rather than lunch or something.
In my head now it wasn't far off. Like for an example she was saying what she likes doing when she travels(which she currently was doing). They were drinking, good food, shopping and sex. She'd done 3 of 4 that day and was out drinking with me at night. Why did my brain not register that? Duh! I relaxed too much and was chatting to her like a friend or something. Normally I'm pretty good with picking up on things like that when people are talking which irritates me even more as I know I should have noticed all the hints and nudges.
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I'm open to trying anything so I'll give them all a go.
If you keep focusing on what you could've/ should've done differently last time it's going to mess with your mind next time you're with her. Just relax.
I need some advice here. As I mentioned once before in here, my date om the weekend went ok but nothing really happened. However, I realized that she was up for more than I realized. Basically, she was hinting at sex. It seems so bloody obvious now thinking over that night but I had only just met her(meaning I was nervous) and was focused on not making an arse of my self that I never thought of what I SHOULD be doing. I've never had a first date that ended in sex before and I put my self in a friendzone because of that. She still enjoyed the night though. I'm seeing her again but she said I could meet her friends too, so not a 1 on 1 again. I texted her after it but she is insanely slow at replying so who knows when or if I'll get a reply to that. One girl I mentioned it too said it would have made me seem "like a gentleman" that I wasn't pushing for it. I think it made me look like an idiot.
Should I just go all out next time and be much more forward?
I met a girl who actually likes the things I like and I totally want to kiss her on the mouth.
In 27 years, this has never happened before.
She lives far away which is a problem so next time it'll be close to her...and not for a while. I guess I could ask if we could go back to hers for some more drinks or something. We'd probably go out to a bar or somewhere with music and drinking. She mentioned having coffee but I'd try and get a night visit again though rather than lunch or something.
In my head now it wasn't far off. Like for an example she was saying what she likes doing when she travels(which she currently was doing). They were drinking, good food, shopping and sex. She'd done 3 of 4 that day and was out drinking with me at night. Why did my brain not register that? Duh! I relaxed too much and was chatting to her like a friend or something. Normally I'm pretty good with picking up on things like that when people are talking which irritates me even more as I know I should have noticed all the hints and nudges.
Then what are you waiting for?
Yeah, yeah true. Whatever fuck up I did, it's done. Next time I see her I'm just going to try and actually make a move. Kiss her, something. She wanted a night out when she came here, I'll ask for the same when I go up there. Screw coffee.
I'll admit, I probably didn't relax when she was there as well because...she was pretty damn hot.