MRA is a tainted label. Trying to start a "genuine" discussion under that label is like being a KKK member but wanting to have an honest discussion about racism. Or being associated with Gamergate but wanting to have an honest discussion about "ethics in journalism". MRA isn't focused on men's issue anymore than KKK is focused on black people being treated as equals in America.
They want to get rid of issues that women have been trying to get rid of for ages, yes they're issues that affect men, but these issues are of their own doing (as in the collective entity that is patriarchy). And they're not issues that will be fixed by focusing on uplifting men.
Uplift the lowest to fix issues at the top. There is no other way, our country has collectively proven this time and time again. You want to solve the issues that plague men? Address the issues that plague women. Giving women equal pay, adequate child care systems, physical autonomy all help men as much as women if not more.
Want women to stop being favored in custody cases then help women stay in the workforce and to get back into the workforce quicker when they bear children. Men can't say women deserved to be paid less because they dare take care of kids, then turn around and demand that they stop being favored in child custody battles (ironic given the notion that women are somehow nurturing, caring, emotional and men are none of those things...it's not shocking that the outcome would be courts favor child custody to the mother...it's almost as if these toxic labels actually fucked over men or something).
As a man, I am unable to muster any sympathy for my gender. It's our (as far as it can be 'ours' as a black man) system that we set up to favor us, a system we still have damn near absolute control and dominance in. If we really wanted, we could completely change the system but that requires giving up power/dominance/control, a scary proposition for most men in America. So they vote for powers that keep the current dynamic in place then turn around and go "it's so hard for us out here"