Here's an update on my situation with this girl. First part of the story is
here. Quoting it :
I need some kind of advice on my situation with this girl. Quick summary :
1-New girl at my student job, she's obviously into me (huge signs of interest, always come towards me, compliments me and ask about my personal life) I noticed her from the beginning so I find her interesting and attractive too
2-We chat a little but it's a busy job so we don't have a lot of privacy
3-So I ask her out pretty quickly, she was obviously waiting for it, answers yes ("whenever you want" with a big smile) but since she just got a new cellphone she doesn't know the number yet, takes mine instead.
4-A week pass (I only work two days a week), she doesn't call
5-This morning at work, first I've seen her since I asked her out. She's still always coming towards me, it gets flirty but I don't mention the fact that she didn't call. It's like I never asked except she's still showing signs of interest (her behavior towards me and other guys are totally different)
From my experience when girls don't want to go on a date they just answer something like "why not" "maybe next week", or simply no, but she was glad I asked so I'm really confused. When I left this morning she said "see you tommorrow", and when I said I wasn't working she looked extremely upset, like she was mad at me, it was very odd.
I must admit I'm kind of upset by it even though I didn't mention it. I screwed up a date with a girl I have no interest in but that could have been a one night thing just because I was distracted by it. Should I bring this up next time I see her ? I do find this extremely disrepectful and rude.
I didn't mention it to her, and apparently I was right because she came back to me the next time I went to work, she called my in the storage room and gave me her number, saying she had no communication and she hasn't been able to call me because of that.
I was busy the next week so I texted here today only, asking for which day she was available to have coffee. She answered she was saying her BF on wednesday but was available the next days and that it was "up to me".
This makes little sense. How would you react to that ? Considering she said to a female co-worker that was complaining about her BF that at least she had someone trustworthy, unlike herself, and I was in the same room... (in the french the sentence could either mean she doesn't have anybody, or someone who isn't trustworthy)
I already slept with women who were in a relationship before, but they never mentionned it before, so obviously she's sending a message and it's a "back up" one. But why sending so many signs of interest, and why giving me her number when I wasn't asking for anything after she ignored me ? I must admit I'm pretty upset by this totally childish behavior. Not sure I want anything to do with a girl like that (including friendship, plus I don't want to be "that guy"), but how do I answer so I can still work with her with no embarrassment ? I was thinking something direct but also funny, but I couldn't come up with anything decent. She won't be here for too long anyway (they switch the interims a lot and it's surprising she lasted that long) but still, I don't want to leave the text with no answer, I find it kind of lame.
Also I wasn't interested in this girl for sex. I've been sleeping with women I met at student parties/other events lately, and although I enjoyed it in the beginning, I now find it totally lame and pointless, just like PXG and others mentionned. I've never been in a relationship and I improved a lot these last months (was virgin until almost 2 years ago), but I'm disappointed that each time I meet a girl I'm interested in, she's either not into me (and I don't manage to make that change), taken, or totally unpredictable (like this one)
I was thinking to something like "well if you have a boyfriend I don't think it would be a very good idea. See you on Saturday !" but it's not funny and I'm afraid it's too bitter (which I am a little obviously, although I know me enough to say that it won't last at all)