Need some advice, GAF.
About four months ago I started talking with this girl. I had her on my FB from when she was friends with my brother and one day I commented on one of her wall statuses or whatever, which led to use chatting online for awhile. Nothing really took off from there but then I noticed one day that she had her cell number posted because she just got a new phone. I had also just got a new phone so I added her and we started texting and talking and we hit it off pretty good.
After a couple weeks of chatting and talking (quite a bit) we decided to plan a night and go out together but that was cut short. Just around the time we had started talking and texting was around the time she had broken up with an ex and was trying to get over him but he had contacted her a couple days before we were suppose to go out and that made her realize it wasn't the right time to be moving forward. She was totally honest about it and felt really bad that about "leading me on", and that was fine, I definitely understood.
So we still chatted as friends but then I kinda stopped. I needed time to kind of change my mindset because I was really beginning to like her. A couple months pass and we chatted randomly but very lightly. Just things like "hey how are you", etc.
So a couple months go by and I guess she tried to patch things up with the ex but it's just not going to work. She had said before that she had to give it one more try because she loved him and all that. But now apparently she's told him he's just not offering what she wants and she's moving on. They haven't spoken in weeks apparently, either. I guess I should also point out that they technically didn't 'date'. He didn't want a seriously relationship but I guess she figured if she played by his rules maybe he'd change his mind but I guess in the end he didn't and she finally had the courage to tell him she wanted something more and he then said tough luck.
She starts to text me more, and fills me in on the situation and whatever (this is where warning bells are kind of going off, but I believe things could be different this time and I'd really like to give it a shot and see what happens). We hit it off...again, and things are moving forward pretty good. We begin to hangout and then eventually she spends the night and we have sex.
I asked her if she wanted to get into a relationship, knowing that it was probably too soon but I wanted to know exactly what we were doing, and she said she liked me a lot (the reason for the sex), but she's just not ready for a relationship yet because she's still getting over her ex and the way she feels about him.
So OK, I guess I'm OK with this (or have I just been used?). But the real downside for me is that now I feel more attached to her. Like, I want to spend time with her, move forward but am I now suppose to put on the brakes? I don't want to seem overly eager and constantly texting her because I'm now feeling like I'm the only one feeling this way (although it's only been a couple days since she slept over so maybe I'm jumping the gun).
Anyway, that's where I'm at with this girl and I'm trying to chat with her and it seems like she's just not into it as much as I am, which sucks (unless it's too early to tell, I think I need to just be patient and see where it goes). But then again I'm not every good at the dating game and I don't know how to play it very well so I guess I'm looking for advice. I'm not a player, I wasn't really out looking for a relationship, even though it's clear that i'd like to be in one and I really like this girl. How should I play it from here?
Should I give it time, like not talk with her for a few days? Maybe she'll miss me. Perhaps I'm looking into this more than I should. Like I said, I'm not very good at the dating game.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!