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Dating Age |OT7| Tough Love

always crazy bacon said:
Triggered much?

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Why does it matter? I answered that. Context. Also I gave you universal advice, does not respect you or your time then bail. American girls were not interested in you but within a month you've become Johnny McSwingdick to Анастасия and Вероника. Your following bitterness about being unsuccessful on Tinder kinda backs that up.
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^^^ Haters hate themselves on the inside yall. Picking fights like a 12 year old on reddit with someone he knows nothing about 😂 still mad that you got dog piled for being a red piller in my thread? stay losing internet dating advice guy. I think it's pathetic how much I see you looming through this thread like some pick up artist aficionado.
 
Red pill guy honestly I really don't care what you have to say, stop talking to me. I'd go to reddit if I wanted to read shitposts from someone like you.
 
Widdle Puppy said:
Red pill guy honestly I really don't care what you have to say, stop talking to me. I'd go to reddit if I wanted to read shitposts from someone like you.
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Lol he's not the one talking about giving "hotties" a second chance, nor having to be talked down from thinking a stripper you gave a month's worth of rent to is actually into you.
 
Widdle Puppy said:
^^^ Haters hate themselves on the inside yall. Picking fights like a 12 year old on reddit with someone he knows nothing about 😂 still mad that you got dog piled for being a red piller in my thread? stay losing internet dating advice guy. I think it's pathetic how much I see you looming through this thread like some pick up artist aficionado.
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Widdle Puppy said:
Red pill guy honestly I really don't care what you have to say, stop talking to me. I'd go to reddit if I wanted to read shitposts from someone like you.
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Lmaoo yo who’s mans is this? He gave you advice and you responded on some triggered shit, look at the thread name guy, don’t turn this into something it’s not and TRUST, you’re not important enough to have haters in this thread.
 
Widdle Puppy said:
Do y'all give second chances to hotties that are kinda rude and waste your time?

I scheduled with a girl yesterday to meet for lunch at 2pm. She was radio silent up until 1:45 (called her before to confirm). She was sleeping cause she was out late with her friend... ~_~

Fair enough but I don't appreciate this behavior. Would you guys give her a second chance and how?
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I usually allow them a redo if it seems like a genuine mistake. If she didn't seem apologetic and eager to make it up to you then I'd not bother trying again.

I'm so frustrated with this one girl, had a great first date, made out, she seemed excited when I wanted to see her again, etc. Now she's saying she's still interested but is not always replying to texts, or sometimes sitting on them for ages....asked her on Thursday if we were still on for Friday, she said yes and even invited me to do something with her friends afterward, then when I asked if she wanted to do something other than what our tentative plans were (shes been working really long hours and I thought getting a drink and watching jazz might be make her tired), she didn't reply. Sent a follow up message after work and she still seemed down to hang out but I made other plans with a friend instead since I thought she was blowing me off.

I just want certainty! I don't want to give up too easily because we have a lot in common and unlike most people I meet I could actually see us dating, but this is driving me nuts. Before the date she was communicating much better.
 
ATF487 said:
I usually allow them a redo if it seems like a genuine mistake. If she didn't seem apologetic and eager to make it up to you then I'd not bother trying again.

I'm so frustrated with this one girl, had a great first date, made out, she seemed excited when I wanted to see her again, etc. Now she's saying she's still interested but is not always replying to texts, or sometimes sitting on them for ages....asked her on Thursday if we were still on for Friday, she said yes and even invited me to do something with her friends afterward, then when I asked if she wanted to do something other than what our tentative plans were (shes been working really long hours and I thought getting a drink and watching jazz might be make her tired), she didn't reply. Sent a follow up message after work and she still seemed down to hang out but I made other plans with a friend instead since I thought she was blowing me off.

I just want certainty! I don't want to give up too easily because we have a lot in common and unlike most people I meet I could actually see us dating, but this is driving me nuts. Before the date she was communicating much better.
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Don't sweat it or come across overbearing. You can't get invested just cause you got a first or multiple successful dates.. you have to go with the flow and enjoy the short or potential long ride. My rule of thumb is to let people breathe and process previous encounter.

Yesterday I was hanging out with this girl and excellent vibes.. I said "if you want to do this again I'm down if not it's been real" you gotta have a i don't give a fuck attitude.
 
ATF487 said:
I usually allow them a redo if it seems like a genuine mistake. If she didn't seem apologetic and eager to make it up to you then I'd not bother trying again.

I'm so frustrated with this one girl, had a great first date, made out, she seemed excited when I wanted to see her again, etc. Now she's saying she's still interested but is not always replying to texts, or sometimes sitting on them for ages....asked her on Thursday if we were still on for Friday, she said yes and even invited me to do something with her friends afterward, then when I asked if she wanted to do something other than what our tentative plans were (shes been working really long hours and I thought getting a drink and watching jazz might be make her tired), she didn't reply. Sent a follow up message after work and she still seemed down to hang out but I made other plans with a friend instead since I thought she was blowing me off.

I just want certainty! I don't want to give up too easily because we have a lot in common and unlike most people I meet I could actually see us dating, but this is driving me nuts. Before the date she was communicating much better.
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Meh, she seemed indifferent. I think if she tries to reschedule at a time I'm not busy I'll consider it but I'm not gonna reschedule. I am sensitive to having my time wasted since I'm pretty busy. Ended up going for a walk and shopping which was probably more enjoyable for me anyways.
 
Widdle Puppy said:
A few bitter men in this thread. Ive stumbled on a goofy hive mind of a couple internet friends it seems lol
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Ahhh yes the old hive mind defense. Okay pup you have a good day now,

Had a great date last night here in the United states guys, we went out to eat vegan food which, as a big guy, I was a little hesitant but it’s a place called champs diner in Brooklyn, New York if you’re ever in the area I definitely recommend it. Only issue is the music was loud as fuck (they were playing nothing but princess Nokia, or better know in GAF as the woman who threw soup at a racist on the L train) but that just meant me and her sat closer to each other while we spoke. After the food we Walked for a bit and took a lyft back to her place. Made out in front of her Building for a while and called it a night.

Hope you guys have a good weekend. It’s getting a little cooler out here and that’s only a great thing for me!
 
The fuck is going on in this thread? Get your "bitter, red pill, hive mind" bullshit out of here!

If you can't handle honest straight talk without taking it personally, maybe this thread isn't the place for you.
 
Ah the old "he gave you advice so he can insult you too." Shit advice, stated far better by another poster. Anyone that has the word "white knight" in their vocabulary is literally the last person to take dating advice from and I'll call them out on their obvious projections. Fuck outta here with your stereotypes.
 
Widdle Puppy said:
Ah the old "he gave you advice so he can insult you too." Shit advice, stated far better by another poster. Anyone that has the word "white knight" in their vocabulary is literally the last person to take dating advice from and I'll call them out on their obvious projections. Fuck outta here with your stereotypes.
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You literally fall in love with strippers my dude. How are you not a stereotype?
 
Widdle Puppy said:
Ah the old "he gave you advice so he can insult you too." Shit advice, stated far better by another poster. Anyone that has the word "white knight" in their vocabulary is literally the last person to take dating advice from and I'll call them out on their obvious projections. Fuck outta here with your stereotypes.
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If you choose to see that as some insult, that's on you. Also, fuck on out of here with your "white knight" bullshit, whatever the fuck that's even supposed to mean. You're the only one using those nonsense buzzwords - are you sure you're not a bot?
 
Widdle Puppy said:
Ah the old "he gave you advice so he can insult you too." Shit advice, stated far better by another poster. Anyone that has the word "white knight" in their vocabulary is literally the last person to take dating advice from and I'll call them out on their obvious projections. Fuck outta here with your stereotypes.
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You're literally a projector at this point
 
Many of these replies quoting me are too dumb to reply to so I'm ignoring them but anyone that sterotypes the girls I go on dates with as greencard chasers is going to get called out by me for generalizing/stereotyping a group of women. Am I being a white knight? Shit posters be gone.
 
Widdle Puppy said:
I am sensitive to having my time wasted since I'm pretty busy.
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Yeah man I feel you. Too busy to help your dad, not busy enough to not give a stripper hundreds of dollars for the privilege of having a glitter-coated cinnamon star shoved in your face and for her to be nice to you. Cool beans bruv.
 
ATF487 said:
I usually allow them a redo if it seems like a genuine mistake. If she didn't seem apologetic and eager to make it up to you then I'd not bother trying again.

I'm so frustrated with this one girl, had a great first date, made out, she seemed excited when I wanted to see her again, etc. Now she's saying she's still interested but is not always replying to texts, or sometimes sitting on them for ages....asked her on Thursday if we were still on for Friday, she said yes and even invited me to do something with her friends afterward, then when I asked if she wanted to do something other than what our tentative plans were (shes been working really long hours and I thought getting a drink and watching jazz might be make her tired), she didn't reply. Sent a follow up message after work and she still seemed down to hang out but I made other plans with a friend instead since I thought she was blowing me off.

I just want certainty! I don't want to give up too easily because we have a lot in common and unlike most people I meet I could actually see us dating, but this is driving me nuts. Before the date she was communicating much better.
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You're coming out as needy and insecure as hell

Stop blowing up her phone, she said yes. Like seriously stop texting her until she contacts you on the date day. If she isn't following through, move on
 
Widdle Puppy said:
Many of these replies quoting me are too dumb to reply to so I'm ignoring them but anyone that sterotypes the girls I go on dates with as greencard chasers is going to get called out by me for generalizing/stereotyping a group of women. Am I being a white knight? Shit posters be gone.
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If you don't think that a non-trivial portion of girls in economically and socially disadvantageous conditions don't see expats as a potential ticket to a better life, you need to open your eyes. When I was stationed in Japan, the native Japanese girl I was dating pointed me to an entire message board filled with helpful tips for "how to find and marry American military officers."

Was it all of them? Absolutely not. Obviously, it's impossible to really determine the demographics.

But foreigners stick out. We're not talking about the set of "all girls in Russia"; we're talking about "the girls in Russia swiping right on Widdle Puppy, who is an obvious foreigner."

No one, least of all ACB (who isn't a red piller), said that these girls (assuming that they were possibly motivated by that) are doing anything wrong. But you're incredibly naive if you don't think that it's potentially a motivating factor for some of them. It just means that, functionally, you need to look for red flags.

Also, feel free to give someone one second chance.
 
Advocatus Diaboli said:
If you don't think that a non-trivial portion of girls in economically and socially disadvantageous conditions don't see expats as a potential ticket to a better life, you need to open your eyes. When I was stationed in Japan, the native Japanese girl I was dating pointed me to an entire message board filled with helpful tips for "how to find and marry American military officers."

Was it all of them? Absolutely not. Obviously, it's impossible to really determine the demographics.

But foreigners stick out. We're not talking about the set of "all girls in Russia"; we're talking about "the girls in Russia swiping right on Widdle Puppy, who is an obvious foreigner."

No one, least of all ACB (who isn't a red piller), said that these girls (assuming that they were possibly motivated by that) are doing anything wrong. But you're incredibly naive if you don't think that it's potentially a motivating factor for some of them. It just means that, functionally, you need to look for red flags.

Also, feel free to give someone one second chance.
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This I agree with and is a well written post. True, I am not naive of this and have been avoiding this "sponsor" girl type here. It's not hard to avoid or get this read on them. What does it have to do with a question about getting bailed on though? Saying something like "yes, you've got "Hotties" in Russia interested in you because your an Ex-pat with a potential Green Card. You keep asking dating questions without mentioning that context." Can clearly be taken as insinuating all girls here are just foreign guy chasers. That is my point of contention. And yes, white knight in your vocab is red pill teir behavior.


Anyways I went on a spontaneous date tonight. Pretty cool girl. Not relly any chemistry but I'd be cool being friends with her. Another date tomorrow so we will see how that goes.
 
I ventured out by myself to some bars tonight. Just to people watch. Kinda felt bad about being alone while couples hung out and enjoyed eachothers company. Wish someone.would just talk to me. Im no good at this.
 
Went on a long date with a finance investigator who's just done her law exam. I mentioned that I was going to see a film for LFF and then asked if she wanted to see it with me and she was game for it. So we watched The Florida Project, movie was funny and heartbreaking. Afterwards we ate at a nice restaurant. Talked about everything. Wanted to go bowling but that was booked up. Walked around London as you do. Took her to the arcade, she beat me in Tekken (second time a girl has done that!), but I beat her in billiards. One girl on the street butted into our conversation about Brixton and then said to her "you've got a good guy there" 😂. I would say there is chemistry, there wasn't a dull moment. Was very relaxed with each other, could be real rather than trying to impress, that's what she liked about the date (being her best in a while). This is the same girl who calls me Prince Mo and compliments my eyes any chance she gets. Will see how this goes.
 
Just got home from 2 back-to-back dates. Both promising!

First one in the early evening was just a first time meet-up with a girl who was introduced by a mutual friend. We have a TON in common, almost scarily. She's WAY smarter than me (not that I'm too smart, but still...), which is a big plus in my book! She says she wants to see me again - I agreed.

Second one was right after that - 2nd date with a girl I mentioned last week from OKC - we went to a local concert. Had a great time, made out, and she wants to see me again.

I don't think I would've ever considered scheduling 2 dates back to back even a year ago, but after all the dates I've been on over this summer... ain't no thang!
 
Ernest said:
Just got home from 2 back-to-back dates. Both promising!

First one in the early evening was just a first time meet-up with a girl who was introduced by a mutual friend. We have a TON in common, almost scarily. She's WAY smarter than me (not that I'm too smart, but still...), which is a big plus in my book! She says she wants to see me again - I agreed.

Second one was right after that - 2nd date with a girl I mentioned last week from OKC - we went to a local concert. Had a great time, made out, and she wants to see me again.

I don't think I would've ever considered scheduling 2 dates back to back even a year ago, but after all the dates I've been on over this summer... ain't no thang!
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Woohoo! 😃
 
Yo GAF. I got a date this evening but I got horrible acne flair up. Around upper lip from bad shaving.

Thinking about rescheduling. It's the first date and she's rediculously hot I don't wanna give a bad impression.

What do you think??
 
Jindrax said:
Yo GAF. I got a date this evening but I got horrible acne flair up. Around upper lip from bad shaving.

Thinking about rescheduling. It's the first date and she's rediculously hot I don't wanna give a bad impression.

What do you think??
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Fuck it.

Be confident, be yourself, and have a good time. If she gives you shit about acne, then she isn't the type you should be going for.

If they're white heads and it bothers you that much, pop them? If not, don't fret.
 
Great to see Mess and Ernest, wishing the best for you dudes.

XenodudeX said:
Wish someone would just talk to me. I'm no good at this.
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Do you mean that you tried talking to people and got ignored, or that you just stood there and nobody walked up to you? If it's the latter, then yeah man, you need to be proactive with this stuff. Great job getting yourself out there, I commend that, but whilst you're there you need to talk to girls/guys/whatever you're into and not just wait for someone else to start the convo. Remember, if you never take the shot, you'll never hit the target.

Wanna know how you get better? By striking up convos and shit. Whether you fail or succeed, each time you'll learn of a subject you shouldn't bring up, how to read body language better etc. and you'll get a little bit more XP in socializing and conversing. Keep earning that shit and level up fam. You can do it.

Jindrax said:
What do you think??
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I'd say just attend man. If it makes you feel better about it, just explain what happened if she brings it up. Can't let a temporary flare-up hold you back! Good luck on the date.
 
Jindrax said:
Yo GAF. I got a date this evening but I got horrible acne flair up. Around upper lip from bad shaving.

Thinking about rescheduling. It's the first date and she's rediculously hot I don't wanna give a bad impression.

What do you think??
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If someone would stop dating you because of something natural, they're probably too shallow and not worth your time. Just be real, don't always have to be a mannequin at a date.
 
Messofanego said:
If someone would stop dating you because of something natural, they're probably too shallow and not worth your time. Just be real, don't always have to be a mannequin at a date.
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Couldn't acne on the upper lip look like herpes?

Being put off by that isn't shallow.

I'd reschedule if I couldn't take care of it.
 
Bobo Dakes said:
Couldn't acne on the upper lip look like herpes?

Being put off by that isn't shallow.

I'd reschedule if I couldn't take care of it.
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That's why I said to clear it up if she mentions it or seems to obviously notice it.

"I got razor burn and my acne flared up, pretty bad timing, right?"

I mean, it's that or reschedule on the day of the date, which is never a great thing to do anyway.
 
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