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Dear Gaf, say your friend was raped.
- Thread starter ChiTownBuffalo
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c'mon dude. ultimately it's her choice. Chi is totally willing to go HAM on dude, but he doesn't have many options. And nothing HE could do would be guaranteed to stop the rapist, and it might even make it worse for everyone else involved. Like the victim's friend in jail, the sociopath free, with a reason for revenge, etc.
That isn't to say that a gang of men that aren't Chi couldn't suddenly help this guy into a dozen different accidents.
Yes it is her choice, he still chooses to get involved saying he will physical harm that guy. I'm sure that will make him stop and not worsen the situation.
I suggest that you convince your friend to tell your husband about it, but make sure you're present. Things might get ugly if he hears it without someone to stop him (there's a good chance he'd viciously assault that man). Calming him down and getting things sorted out is key here. It sounds like she's hurting pretty badly, and moral support from you, her husband and even her friends would do a world of good.
Just be careful how you handle this situation, I wouldn't want it blowing up in your faces.
Just be careful how you handle this situation, I wouldn't want it blowing up in your faces.
Equally plausible!
samus i am
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The bolded...... that's not keeping it quiet.
ChiTownBuffalo
Either I made up lies about the Boston Bomber or I fell for someone else's crap. Either way, I have absolutely no credibility and you should never pay any attention to anything I say, no matter what the context. Perm me if I claim to be an insider
That's just between me and him. I don't like him for a number of other things. I didn't say, "I'm going to break you over this." He probably thinks its because he slapped this other girl we both know.
I've been scarcely involved in this thread, this woman needs to go to the cops and tell her husband what's going on. This is a fucked up situation and now involves danger to the children, danger the husband has no clue about. Who gives a shit about friendship, there is potential lives in danger with this man. Do not just say "ok" and move on with your life, if you were real a friend you would get them help. If you can't do it for them, at least do it for the children.
GrandHarrier
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You could just tell her husband? He has a right to know on many levels.
Indrid Cold1
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This guy is working his way through your female friends physically assaulting them, in the worst way in some cases, and you think letting him know through a friend of a friend that you may "break his arm" one day is a resolution.
You have kinda done nothing of worth or value for anyone in this situation, all told.
Whats worse is the guy probably thinks you're a punk OP and based on your actions so far I'm inclined to agree
You have kinda done nothing of worth or value for anyone in this situation, all told.
Whats worse is the guy probably thinks you're a punk OP and based on your actions so far I'm inclined to agree
ChiTownBuffalo
Either I made up lies about the Boston Bomber or I fell for someone else's crap. Either way, I have absolutely no credibility and you should never pay any attention to anything I say, no matter what the context. Perm me if I claim to be an insider
The two girls involved don't want to bring it to the attention of the authorities. My friend explicitly told me not to bring it up to her husband or the cops. I'm less concerned about her, as at the end of the school year, she's moving to CA.
And if I'm a punk. For the first night, you can be inside spoon, and then we'll switch. And I prefer the right side of the bed.
And if I'm a punk. For the first night, you can be inside spoon, and then we'll switch. And I prefer the right side of the bed.
Sanky Panky
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Are you waiting for the guy to rape or slap a 3rd girl before you do something?
I hope you feel ok with finding out AFTER the fact. Or maybe you won't know the girl, so it won't be your problem.
I hope you feel ok with finding out AFTER the fact. Or maybe you won't know the girl, so it won't be your problem.
ChiTownBuffalo
Either I made up lies about the Boston Bomber or I fell for someone else's crap. Either way, I have absolutely no credibility and you should never pay any attention to anything I say, no matter what the context. Perm me if I claim to be an insider
You don't understand how rape reporting works, do you?
Or, I can give you the details, and YOU can report it to the police.
This baffles the fuck out of me. How does the husband have a right to know if the wife doesn't want to tell him?
ChiTownBuffalo
Either I made up lies about the Boston Bomber or I fell for someone else's crap. Either way, I have absolutely no credibility and you should never pay any attention to anything I say, no matter what the context. Perm me if I claim to be an insider
I've been trying to figure out how to get him to my jiu jitsu class. But he is wary of me to begin with.
Dude Abides
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The only option (aside from doing nothing) that makes any sense is to tell the husband. You'd be betraying your friend's trust, but maybe it's worth it.
First you could tell the friend that if she doesn't tell her husband, you will.
First you could tell the friend that if she doesn't tell her husband, you will.
This!
Put your self in his shoes.
Your wife is raped and someone knows about it but wont say anything? The fuck?
I third this. That should've been the first response. You let the main man handle his lady and what's shakin.
From what I can tell, it sounds more like she's having an affair, rather than a full blown being raped scenario. Either way, tell her husband, and it'll sort itself out real quick.
Dude Abides
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The cheating theory was disposed of on the first page.
VelvetMouth
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Stop bullshitting around with this Ju Jitsu let me be your hero in the ring crap. A woman is getting raped, a rapist is crawling through her windows when she's at home with her kids. Grow some balls and tell her husband. He has a right to know that his family is in danger. Where are her children when she's meeting up with her rapist and crawling into your bed?
Devolution
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Honest question and I don't know if someone else asked this. Why did she confide in you and not her husband about being raped and whatever else this guy is doing?
VelvetMouth
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If you can believe anything in this thread, she and the OP are scared that the husband will murder the rapist. If the husband is so volatile and the unstable wife is clearly protecting the rapist, what if it all turns on Chi and the husband comes knocking on his door because he heard his wife sleeps over at Chi's place while he's at work. I guess Chi will just put the guy into one of his mad skillz MMA headlocks.
Devolution
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Maybe it's just me but I'd assume many husbands or boyfriends would want to kill the dude who raped their gf/wife that doesn't make it right in my mind to tell friends but not the father of your kids. Honestly to me the answer became clear when this guy is intruding into the home and has access to the children. Hell you don't even need to tell the husband she's was raped by the guy, that's her business, but you know what you do need to tell him? That this violent fuck is around his kids.
The Elite
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I still find this thread very unsettling. Misinformation, bad decision making and bans everywhere.
I stand by the fact that if kids are involved and this guy is breaking into their home, the husband and police both need to know. I understand that she was raped and respect the horrible stigma that is involved with that but she needs to think of protecting her family as well.
The fact that the OP had to be drastically changed once after a shit load of more IMPORTANT details were revealed gives me the impression that we still don't know the whole story.
I stand by the fact that if kids are involved and this guy is breaking into their home, the husband and police both need to know. I understand that she was raped and respect the horrible stigma that is involved with that but she needs to think of protecting her family as well.
The fact that the OP had to be drastically changed once after a shit load of more IMPORTANT details were revealed gives me the impression that we still don't know the whole story.
VelvetMouth
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I agree. She could tell the husband that the creep is stalking her or coming around unwanted. There is definitely more to this story. The wife clearly needs help and her husband needs to be told but Chi's acting like he wants to be the hero by telling some other guy to tell this guy he's going to break his arm while he lets the wife sleep in his bed and plays video games with her kid. It's like a wimped version of Drive.
One of the girls I dated admitted to me once that she was raped by her neighbor, whom she was still acquiantences with and would hang out with from time to time. She refused to press charges or act any differently. I think her reasons were more along the lines of she was so ashamed of sex due to religion that she probably didn't do anything out of shame. I just really don't get it.What a terrible thing.
Dreams-Visions
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we're done here.
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