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[studyguy]

My girlfriend says she likes thin nerdy guys, but like... she's fucking me and I work out on the regular and shit so......

 

[ppor]

My girlfriend says she likes thin nerdy guys, but like... she's fucking me and I work out on the regular and shit so......

FTFY

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[Dead Prince]

its the shirtless guy picture day?

it's almost like halloween but instead of candy it's just men

 

[FStop7]

I'm sure it's already been said that women aren't a hive collective... some demand buff, ripped dudes... others don't care that much.

 

[Kimaka]

Oh god, that movie was pure porn, with Tennant in tight jeans and shirtless...

I should watch that. All I did was put in "David Tennant" into Google, saw that, and OMG.

 

[Funky Papa]

Fright Night's remake was lots of fun and both Tennant and Farrell were a riot in it.

 

[Azulsky]

What if a mans is chubby buff. Do they get any love?

All the muscle, less definition, +10 into hugs and cuddles?

 

[rokkerkory]

FallingEdge, Cooter, etc are absolute beasts. I will likely never reach that level.

Here is a recent pic of me, not sure where I fall in the category but I am shooting for the athletic look.

 

[ZackieChan]

Go to China, Japan or Taiwan. Girls over there like their men skinny...

I'm living proof that this is not necessarily true. I have no problem getting dates here in China or elsewhere. And I am not in what you would call "good shape."

 

[Aiustis]

I don't really like that much muscle. Just enough to show but still looking pretty lean.

 

[Goliath]

I'm living proof that this is not necessarily true. I have no problem getting dates here in China or elsewhere. And I am not in what you would call "good shape."

Well there is another factor. Let's not pretend that success or the appearance of success isn't a factor in attractiveness. So my question is, do you appear to the locals as a successful foreigner or just successful?

 

[Morrigan Stark]

LOL next thing you're gonna tell me not all Asians listen to techno

Not this Asian.... rawr!

For both genders, what happens with unusual body types is generally this: they are not preferred by most (Be they extremely tall women, or very hairy men, or very obese women, or extremely muscular men, or heavily tattooed partners of either sex, etc.) but those that prefer these unusual body types often strongly prefer them, perhaps even to the exclusion of anything else.

There are men out there, for example, who strongly prefer very obese women such that they would not date a woman who wasn't. By contrast, most people who have average or typical tastes do have preferences, but those preferences are not paramount. A typical guy is willing to date a woman who is very tall, they just likely wouldn't prefer it, ceteris paribus, for instance.

That's been my observation and what the (admittedly scant) science has suggested to me. Average build and average features are preferred by the most number of people, but unusual body types or facial features can be attractive, and those that find them attractive often find them strongly or even exclusively attractive.

That has been my observation as well. Anecdotally, it fits me too. I have a very strong preference towards the tall and skinny long-haired, bearded dude, it's my fetish I guess. XD Almost all of the men posted so far do nothing for me. They're not unattractive, but I just don't feel anything.

My girlfriend, who I consider to be completely out of my league, found me incredibly attractive when I was super skinny. She has stated multiple times that huge muscles creep her out, and she was hesitant when I started building mine. She always said "not too big" and would tell me when she thought I was going too far. Right now, she thinks I found an awesome middle ground, and I'm pretty formitable looking, but not grotesque. I'm pretty fit and my weight/muscle is distributed pretty well (I'm 6'4 and about 190-200lbs.)

It really is different for everyone, but I've noticed that quite a few women don't prefer that jacked up look. It's best to just be "fit."

Ayup.

I have a friend, he is the same height as me, about 6'2 and our body type are about as diffrent as they could be, he's skinny as hell, he plays fotball(soccer) so he's still kinda athletic. I'm more muscular as I've been lifting for about six years. And he gets more attention from girls, and I get more attention from guys, comments about my muscles and such when we are out at the pubs.

I don't know why, but this cracked me up somewhat. It seems to confirm what we've all been saying too, hah. Girls prefer slender, and muscleheads are a male (or gay?) fantasy.

I am going to post more gifs of Tom Hiddleston as Loki. Just because I now actually have a legitimate excuse to do it.
(Uh, just let me know if this is too many gifs for a post!)

Obligatory:

Spoiler

I don't find him that hot myself. Though I admit that costume is kinda sexy. Maybe with a wee bit of scruff...

Face >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> body

Ayup.

I should watch that. All I did was put in "David Tennant" into Google, saw that, and OMG.

Finally some hair on the chest. I don't particularly prefer hairy men but the waxed look is really not my preference either.

 

[ChronotriggerJM]

I imagine both men and women would have a biological inclination towards anyone who's built muscle via calisthenics. The "natural" muscle that people can put on both slims and builds in realistic proportions.

 

[Stormhammer]

i'm overweight but some women have at least complimented me on my broad shoulders, so i guess that's something ._.

 

[.GqueB.]

Finally some hair on the chest. I don't particularly prefer hairy men but the waxed look is really not my preference either.

Then you'd looovvveee me. You tryn'a holla?

 

[SapientWolf]

If you want to look at things from the other side, some studies show that muscular men tend to have more short term partners (i.e one night stands).

In another study, Frederick and Haselton asked 120 undergraduate males to rate their own physiques on the same scale and then asked them about their sexual histories.

The self-identified muscular men had not only had more sexual partners than their less burly peers, but they were twice as likely to have had brief flings or one-night stands with women. The difference in the number of sexual partners reported by the men who were more muscular than average was also notable: They reported having had an average of four partners, compared with an average of 1.5 partners for men who reported average or below-average muscularity.

http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Lift-More-Weights-Get-More-Mates-8069

So maybe there's something going on there.

 

[lmpaler]

Buff? That's preference but fit? Yes, every woman likes someone fit. Works opppsite gender too.

Not true. I know plenty of girls that actually prefer their men to have a little belly.

Obviously not like a huge ass beer belly, but just a little pudge.

 

[ChronotriggerJM]

Not true. I know plenty of girls that actually prefer their men to have a little belly.

Obviously not like a huge ass beer belly, but just a little pudge.

Often times it's a reflection of self. They'd rather be with someone of similar stature, but if I was going to define what I was most sexually attracted to, it would lean towards a more fit body type.

 

[Platy]

The point being that dudes think women want or care about things different than what they actually want or care about.

Benedict is attractive because he's got those cheekbones and those eyes and that voice.

Hiddleston isn't really MY crush, but he's attractive because he's sorta pretty and SUPER FUCKING NICE apparently.

Misha is attractive because he's Misha fucking Collins.

By my extant tumblr experience, they are all pretty faces with :

Benedict is classy.

Hiddleston is a gentleman (bonus : he loves what he does so he is basicaly the god of cosplay)

Misha is hilarious.


Also Hiddleston is Prince Charming of nerddom

Hey ladies.

Who's with me?

/mightactuallybealoneinthisone

I was with you a few years back ... now I am not so sure ... too much bones to me

 

[weemadarthur]

Personally, I can't get a read on a still photo. Attraction is heavily affected by body language.

Even with actors, they may be attractive while playing one role, but hideously unattractive in another role. For instance, Val Kilmer in Willow looks good. Val Kilmer in Top Gun does not. (To me, obviously)

Usually my abstract preferences include a strong jawline, with a neck narrower than the head, and height. But it will also include health - I can't see the appeal in Loki because the white face paint makes him look anemic.

Basically, i am inconsistent and picky.

 

[Northeastmonk]

I think if you at least look fit and healthy, you've cleared most bars when it comes to looks.

Fixed. That's how I thought back in high school. You could be fat, but you could dress and present yourself in a way that made girls think you were in shape. They just couldn't touch you or see you topless. You just need to look the part.

Worst time I had was wearing my University sweatshirt in bed with someone. They asked me, "Why did you keep your sweater on?". She proceeded to stretch out her hands and she squeezed. The next words were, "Man TITS!" "You've got man tits". It felt horrible, so I try and stay at a decent weight.

 

[blackflag]

Go figure women aren't some borg like group and have their own preferences.

My girlfriend is 4'8 and between 98 and 100 lbs

I'm 6'0 and usually between 245-260

My arms are usually 18 inches or a little more. She complains when I start looking smaller.

 

[Zoe]

Often times it's a reflection of self. They'd rather be with someone of similar stature, but if I was going to define what I was most sexually attracted to, it would lean towards a more fit body type.

As I said earlier, many women don't want to be the fat one in a relationship.

 

[Oblivion]

So if this thread (and that one study posted) is accurate, then that means I don't in fact have to go to the gym for another two years and can start cutting sooner than I thought!

 

[Morrigan Stark]

Even with actors, they may be attractive while playing one role, but hideously unattractive in another role. For instance, Val Kilmer in Willow looks good. Val Kilmer in Top Gun does not. (To me, obviously)

I agree completely. Not just about Val Kilmer in Willow <3 but generally. I like Sean Bean as Boromir and Ned Stark, but otherwise he doesn't do much for me (he's still a handsome man but just no one I'd particularly notice). Same with Viggo Mortensen as Aragorn or Lucifer but not necessarily other roles, etc. Basically, give them long hair and it's already an improvement, and give them a nice trimmed beard and it's a double improvement.

I can't see the appeal in Loki because the white face paint makes him look anemic.

lol. I can kinda dig it, but I do like the pale look for some reason.

 

[Funky Papa]

*pale ass men unite*

 

[The Chef]

My girlfriend is 4'8 and between 98 and 100 lbs

I'm 6'0 and usually between 245-260

I am having a hard time picturing this.

 

[grap3fruitman]

Thread needs more of GAF pics. Post em up brahs.

Already been outclassed by everyone that's posted but what the heck.

 

[FortuneFaded]

I am having a hard time picturing this.

Something like this:

 

[Opiate]

That has been my observation as well. Anecdotally, it fits me too. I have a very strong preference towards the tall and skinny long-haired, bearded dude, it's my fetish I guess. XD Almost all of the men posted so far do nothing for me. They're not unattractive, but I just don't feel anything.

Expounding further, it also helps explain a common conundrum men find confusing; most women seem to claim they aren't interested in the body builder types, but the actual body builder men seem to do very well on the dating scene.

Let's say that about 10% of women find very buff men attractive (please note: I'm pulling that number out of thin air), but that 10% has a strong, sometimes exclusive preference for such men. Now let's agree that only 3-5% of men really qualify as "very buff body builders." It's not a common physique.

This would mean that 10% of women are fighting over the ~4% of men they strongly prefer, and would allow those 4% of men to find a disproportionately large number of eager, willing partners. In my (totally made up) example, there are more than 2x as many women who want heavily muscular men as there are muscular men.

Again, the reason this observation is interesting to me is that men often have trouble resolving these two observations:

1) Very muscular men seem to do very well in the dating scene
2) Most women seem to claim that they do not prefer very muscular men

The above explanation (which you are agreeing with) shows how both things can be true at the same time. I think most men just conclude you (and other women) are lying, and that secretly in your heart of hearts you wish your boyfriend looked like Sylvester Stallone, but you just won't admit it out loud. I think the above example shows how that isn't necessary. Even if 90% of women wanted leaner men, you could still have a situation where the heavily muscular men are disproportionately sought after.

 

[weemadarthur]

*pale ass men unite*

Pale is okay. Sickly, not so much.

Although I seem to preference for non-white men overall. So, maybe that's what I'm demonstrating here.

 

[Vigilant Walrus]

As I said earlier, many women don't want to be the fat one in a relationship.

I also heard some women prefer not to be with a man who is too beautiful because the hassle of having to stress over him going stray is just to big!

 

[EnVy_CaLiBeR]

Depends on the female just like men. I know a girl who is extremely fit but says she won't date anyone but chubby/fat guys and that skinny/buff guys don't do anything for her. She calls the guys she dates her "teddy bears". lol

 

[Aiustis]

Already been outclassed by everyone that's posted but what the heck.

Nice pecs.

 

[Kimaka]

I am having a hard time picturing this.

??? well maybe not as extreme

 

[Mineshaft_Gap]

Can we all agree that we like scruff? Scruffy guys with scruffy hair and scruffy five o'clock shadow? Perfectly messy hair is a thing of mine.

 

[Scully Scully Scoo]

women care more about looks + height than body type assuming u arnt either extremely fat or extremely skinny

 

[Oblivion]

Might as well post mine since I started this thread:

http://imgur.com/WNab2b7

I would just like to say this is a work in progress, for the record.

 

[weemadarthur]

Already been outclassed by everyone that's posted but what the heck.

You look good. I do recommend learning to keep your resting face at a half smile rather than fully relaxing. Your mouth appears to turn slightly down at the corners naturally, giving you a frowny look when you are feeling completely neutral. I had to do this, and it significantly reduced the number of random people asking me what was wrong.

 

[The Chef]

Already been outclassed by everyone that's posted but what the heck.

Shoulders and chest look great. Keep it up!

 

[weemadarthur]

Might as well post mine since I started this thread:

http://imgur.com/WNab2b7

I would just like to say this is a work in progress, for the record.

Your physique is already there for not-turning-off the largest percentage of women. If you are having trouble meeting single ladies, work on your approachability. You have such strong facial bone structure that you may be intimidating without an exceedingly friendly expression and casual body demeanor (allow shoulders to position themselves behind pelvic girdle and relax them).

 

[riotous]

I think moderately buff with low body fat would attract the highest percentage of women.

It's probably the easiest way to get some women to be aggressive with you. Women who are really into men's bodies tend to be quite aggressive with physical flirtation.

 

[phxxBullet]

Internet high five. I've always been a legs and butt man myself. Breasts are kinda just a bonus.

Exactly!
I like the way you think about this.

Also, I'm curious as to how women think about the skinny type of guys:

(let away the nerd glasses, just the body itself)

 

[Anarion07]

Thread needs more of GAF pics. Post em up brahs.

Alright:

 

[ClosingADoor]

Well, I started working out again this week. So soon I'll look like Anarion. Or so I hope. Damn dude.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Being someone who is into designer fashion I wouldn't even want to be all buff if it means not being able to wear what I want.

 

[Bubbavelli]

Stupid Sexy Gaf

 

[Oblivion]

You have such strong facial bone structure that you may be intimidating without an exceedingly friendly expression and casual body demeanor (allow shoulders to position themselves behind pelvic girdle and relax them).

I have strong facial bone structure? :O

Alright:

Dayum, son!

Your physique is along the lines of what I'd like to look like when I'm done. Height/weight info, pls.

 

[Blues1990]

For me, I would rather go for a woman with average physical features, but are fun, are interesting to talk to, & if I can get along with them in the long-term. Instead of, say, going for a woman with "ideal" proportions, but have the personality of a piece of sandpaper.

With that said, ....

 

[SmokedMeat]

I started weightlifting back when I was a sophmore in High School (I'm 41 now), and while girls didn't bother with me much back then, there was a HUGE difference when I started working out.

From my experience over the years, most women do like a guy with muscles.