"Unintentional racism" is in the thread title.
Yeah and it's a moronic statement.
"Unintentional racism" is in the thread title.
Yeah and it's a moronic statement.
I think that what rubbed me weird is that I tend to be very direct when it comes to things like this. If I were in this situation, I envision myself sitting down with my kid, and talking about the differences in our hair and how it's perceived, and telling her she has nothing to be ashamed of, and her hair is every bit as awesome as my own. Gestures that appear to be meant to stave off conversation tend to ring negative for me.
But I guess sometimes it's easy to forget how important the image of a thing can be for a kid. Like, certainly the girl is going to eventually grow up and realize that that isn't her mother's natural hair texture, but in this important development for a kid, seeing that kind of positive reinforcement can work wonders.
Do you know for a fact that she isn't having this conversation with her child as well as making this gesture? One doesn't preclude the other at all.
See, If this woman did that, the conversation would likely end with: "EASY FOR YOU TO SAY MOM, YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND, because you have 'NORMAL' hair!"
It's one thing for a parent to say their child's hair is beautiful, it's another entirely to show that they think it's beautiful, by adopting the style themselves. I think the gesture makes the message all the stronger. Her little girl is going to know that their hair is different someday, but she's always going to know that her mother thinks her hair is beautiful.
wait, why would it be racist? if she's racist, then why would she adopt black kids?
It's like hitler adopting jewish kids
I'm trying to understand why you would think that OP. So forgive me if I'm way off base but is this to you a version of blackface?
See, If this woman did that, the conversation would likely end with: "EASY FOR YOU TO SAY MOM, YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND, because you have 'NORMAL' hair!"
It's one thing for a parent to say their child's hair is beautiful, it's another entirely to show that they think it's beautiful, by adopting the style themselves. I think the gesture makes the message all the stronger. Her little girl is going to know that their hair is different someday, but she's always going to know that her mother thinks her hair is beautiful.
Care to explain why?
Care to explain why?
What negative affect is she having intentially or unintentially? You have a strange idea of racism.
Racism is not bad etique ffs
Read my last post.
Blackface is not based etiqute; there's two versions of black face. 'black face' to mock; and blacking up which was actors blacking their faces rather than hiving he job to a person of ethnicity. I guess there's also racial ignorance but that's not black face as you can not black face by misunderstanding.
I've not heard many stories personally of adoption parents running around in grass skirts. You also identify in your OP and last post this is not comparable so am confused why the question needs posed.
You seem to have already known the answer.
Some people need to take a step back, Royalan posed some valid questions. But thats what they were questions and feedback was giving. If there was a serious stance taken in this thread on something regarding racism, I havent seen it yet.
Calm them nerves.
Blackface is not based etiqute; there's two versions of black face. 'black face' to mock; and blacking up which was actors blacking their faces rather than hiving he job to a person of ethnicity. I guess there's also racial ignorance but that's not black face as you can not black face by misunderstanding.
I've not heard many stories personally of adoption parents running around in grass skirts. You also identify in your OP and last post this is not comparable so am confused why the question needs posed.
You seem to have already known the answer.
Care to explain why?
See, If this woman did that, the conversation would likely end with: "EASY FOR YOU TO SAY MOM, YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND, because you have 'NORMAL' hair!"
It's one thing for a parent to say their child's hair is beautiful, it's another entirely to show that they think it's beautiful, by adopting the style themselves. I think the gesture makes the message all the stronger. Her little girl is going to know that their hair is different someday, but she's always going to know that her mother thinks her hair is beautiful.
Some people need to take a step back, Royalan posed some valid questions. But thats what they were questions and feedback was giving. If there was a serious stance taken in this thread on something regarding precieved racism from that story, I havent seen it yet.
Calm them nerves.
she sounds like a racist monster, lets talk about it gaf.
absolutely nothing, the fact the OP thought it might possibly be racist and should raise it with GAF is bugging me quite hard. What a nice lady.
Sounds like a pretty thoughtful and loving mother, plus you only use the word racism when you want to end a discussion, not start one.
There's no serious stance in this thread on something regarding perceived racism because it is so obvious that OP's story is devoid of racism.
she sounds like a racist monster, lets talk about it gaf.
absolutely nothing, the fact the OP thought it might possibly be racist and should raise it with GAF is bugging me quite hard. What a nice lady.
Trying to connect with your adopted daughter with hair is unintentional racism? GAF plz
When in doubt
That's racist.
I think these threads are the reason that it's becoming more acceptable for people to say "why is everything racist these days"
Holy crap some people want to see racism in everything.