The amount of idiocy in this thread is astounding. You know, some psychologists say that the things that most offend you in other people are the traits that you see in yourself. Makes the fact that so many of you have such a harsh knee jerk reaction to the word "racist" rather enlightening...
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GAF, do you think this is unintentional racism, or thoughtful parenting?
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Reading is not hard, thread was still created questioning her.
And that's a different accusation than what was in your post that he responded to.
Not really. I am looking at the final result. Yes, you had a positive reaction initially, but at the end of the day this thread was still created. Nothing complicated about that.
Either way there is no racism involved - just love. It takes a lot of love to adopt a child as it is.
The Lamonster
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I think it's sweet. It's the thought that counts.
HolyBaikal
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I don't think it's racist, and even if it was, it's a very innocent thing to do.
I'm sure that she's aware that self-image problems are a problem that black girls and women face.
I think that her kind intentions are the most important thing here.
Though it might have been better to just tell her daughter than her hair is beautiful, and that it's okay to be different.
That we're all different and beautiful.
I'm sure that she's aware that self-image problems are a problem that black girls and women face.
I think that her kind intentions are the most important thing here.
Though it might have been better to just tell her daughter than her hair is beautiful, and that it's okay to be different.
That we're all different and beautiful.
And my reaction, as I've made clear, is still positive. I have in no way attempted to demonize this woman. But there's nothing wrong with exploring the deeper implications in someone's actions. It's something that should be done more often.
As I said on the last page, this thread was just as much about me exploring why I got that negative tinge as it was posing the question to GAF.
MrPressStart
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I am going to play devils advocate here and simply say:
Get back to work!
Get back to work!
And as I said, questioning her even for a tinge is the wrong approach and think that we (humans) should seek positivity by default. There weren't any deeper implications besides what she told you. Overall, I find the desire to find deeper implications is a bad trend in today's society.
Either way, I am happy you're enlightened now. Maybe it's just my personality to seek the good in people. When someone makes a Jew jokes to me, I don't inherently think they have a certain disdain for Jews. I think they are not the best comedian.
Yea. Sounds like a good mom.
Jackben
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My opinion of the situation in the OP itself is that the mother has good intentions and I want to say this is a sweet and harmless action for her to take. But at the same time I admit I don't fully know what the repercussions of that type of action (let me adopt this X to make her feel more comfortable) might be. And it is still sad and extremely terrible that this type of thing is necessary to even think about in 2015. That being how kids can be made to feel uncomfortable by other kids and even their own/other parents because of their race and everything that comes with it.
Roy asking the question isn't an affront and has sparked some interesting discussion, so I don't really feel the "OMG OP IS A MONSTER" type posts make any sense except showing how ignorant you are and your inability to discuss race without throwing a tantrum.
Roy asking the question isn't an affront and has sparked some interesting discussion, so I don't really feel the "OMG OP IS A MONSTER" type posts make any sense except showing how ignorant you are and your inability to discuss race without throwing a tantrum.
how is it weird as fuck? Women straighten or make their hair curly every day for no reason other than thats what they want that particular day. This women is doing it for a noble reason.
It sounds like you think I literally questioned "her". My response to her was positive, even told her she could come to me for hair tips with her son.
More acceptable? ho ho
Shamrock7r
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I found the gesture on the part of the mother awesome. You can tell her heart is in the right place.
One day I hope you will post in a race related discussion without being inflammatory, directly insulting, and sarcastic to anyone with a different opinion/whoever you are trying to correct. Maybe then they might actually listen to what you have to say, which may sometimes be a good point!
One day I hope you will post in a race related discussion without being inflammatory, directly insulting, and sarcastic to anyone with a different opinion/whoever you are trying to correct. Maybe then they might actually listen to what you have to say, which may sometimes be a good point!
Pity I don't give a damn about your insipid passive aggressive tone policing. Oh well, thems the breaks!
ReturnOfTheRAT
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Good adoptive mother.
McBain stabs his finger at the audience and says maybe you all are racists too!
Black-Wind
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... Really OP?
Seems like a sweet thing to me. It apparently LOOKS great on her AND it helps the girl if she sees this important figure in her life that sports pretty curls.
How is that racist? People often times forget the definition of racism ...
Seems like a sweet thing to me. It apparently LOOKS great on her AND it helps the girl if she sees this important figure in her life that sports pretty curls.
How is that racist? People often times forget the definition of racism ...
AlberichMX
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I think that this is an awesome gesture of a loving mother.
You know, I bet this mom is rocking the fuck out of this hairdo.
eh, check out the BCT. Apparently, many are ENRAGED by the word "racist" in this thread.
eh, check out the BCT. Apparently, many are ENRAGED by the word "racist" in this thread.
Did I say it was racist? Did I accuse her off racism? I asked a question.
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reptilescorpio
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That's an awesome mom. Glad to hear a feel good story on here.
Winterfang
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Mom of the year.
I've answered this question 3 times already:
And further, why is anything in OT a question/thread? The point is discussion. And it kind of astounds me that we'll have threads discussing the deeper meaning behind a tweet someone sent out about a Marvel film, or why a girl says "Thank You" when she's cumming, but ask about the potential deeper social implications of a woman physically changing to associate with her daughter, and the response "WHY DID YOU EVEN ASK???"
User 73706
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READ ROYALAN'S POSTS IN THIS THREAD BEFORE YOU POST
READ ALL OF THEM
If your immediate instinct is posting a knee-jerk "how is this racist in any way? Quit being paranoid, OP" or some variation thereof, you're contributing nothing to the discussion that hasn't already been covered fifty times over
READ ALL OF THEM
If your immediate instinct is posting a knee-jerk "how is this racist in any way? Quit being paranoid, OP" or some variation thereof, you're contributing nothing to the discussion that hasn't already been covered fifty times over
The Shadow
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Thoughtful parenting. Wish more people were like her.
It's not racist to acknowledge the differences between people. If anything, she's anti-racist because she's trying to show her daughter how similar we all are and show her acceptance.
It's not racist to acknowledge the differences between people. If anything, she's anti-racist because she's trying to show her daughter how similar we all are and show her acceptance.
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