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Considering that very, and I mean very few people I know who have kids, drink enough to get drunk multiple times a week (if your behavior changes, that means you're drunk, don't dance around that) I wouldn't say what you do is standard. It's for the best you decided to change.

I think it's very much normal, however I wouldn't use the word "standard". In the field/city I work in, more people I know than not enjoy after dinner drinks (2 beers can change behavior depending on tolerance), nightly beverages at home, beers with sports every other night, and lead perfectly normal lives.

As said, it an individual thing, if he feels he has a problem, then that should be enough to for him to consider stopping. Everyone else who drinks to their level of moderation who haven't affected others, and believe they have a decent life, probably don't need to be convinced to stop by others.
 
Hello gaf, i'm 32 and i have a drinking problem.

You might say my drinking habits are quite standard, i drink maybe twice a week at the most, almost never get drunk but hammered enough to behave in a way i normally wouldn't when sober.

Recently, i've been feeling quite bad the next day after having even just a few drinks, not physically but mentally. Like this guilt and regret that what i'm doing is just not right, i don't like the person i become when i drink too much, my wife hates it too.

I've decided that i want to quit drinking, it is something(drinking) that doesn't make me a better person, not drinking will, as it will allow me to be more focused 24/7 in the things that i care about the most which is my wife and children. I think i have the will power to quit it by myself but i'm going to join an AA group anyway or at least give it a shot and see how i feel there, hell i might even help me work on some other issues i have in my life.

So fellow gaffers, anyone here been through this or considering something like this?

The bolded phrase is contradictory--you are getting drunk every time. It sounds like you don't completely want to accept that you have a problem yet but it is great that you are joining AA. Good luck and I am certain you will feel a lot better about yourself and your life very soon.
 
Nope. But I have sympathy for the OP. I know a dude that had to stop cold turkey too. Dude didn't drink that often, but when he did he had no limits. Would drink to the point of barely being able to talk. Dude has no self control. He got married, had a kid and that made him stop drinking all together. It was just embarrassing being out with him. He was a great guy otherwise, but when he started drinking, he just couldn't stop. It was quite the transformation.

So yeah, if you have no self-control, then you need to stop. The people in your life will thank you for it.
 
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Never understood the appeal of drinking, so never even started.


Good luck though.

turns situations into one big fun playground

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ever noticed when your walking in a busy place when everyone's sober no one every really gives you eye contact or sparks up a chat ? Well in a bar/concert/club/party with alcohol everyone turns into a social butterfly lubed up for open up.

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As with any drug its an escape from the normal and a chance to live a completely different life while under the intoxication

also the drunker you get the better music sounds.
 
This. I'm 22 and never had a drink in my life. Good luck to you.

I was like you, kind of.

Went to schoolies (end of your schooling years massive party) and drank 1 beer over the whole week.

Everyone else around me was having a fun time. I was just the boring guy in the back. To have that time of my life come round again with what I know now would be amazing.

Live it up while you can.
 
I drink infrequently, and only when I'm in a good mood. Best of luck to people who struggle with alcohol, though.
 
You have my full support. I don't get drinking myself, I'm very social and friendly enough without having to drink myself to death and I think I don't need to rely on alcohol to have crazy fun. It should come naturally unless you're really awkward when sober, well, then drinking is the least of your problems.
 
I was like you, kind of.

Went to schoolies (end of your schooling years massive party) and drank 1 beer over the whole week.

Everyone else around me was having a fun time. I was just the boring guy in the back. To have that time of my life come round again with what I know now would be amazing.

Live it up while you can.


Was it a problem that you were less fun because you didn't drink? I doubt it.

More likely a problem in that people who do drink consider people who don't to be less fun.


Sounds like their problem...not yours.
 
Was it a problem that you were less fun because you didn't drink? I doubt it.

More likely a problem in that people who do drink consider people who don't to be less fun.


Sounds like their problem...not yours.

sounds to me like everyone was having a great time drunk and he was in a shell being unwild.

Basic fact of life = things are better intoxicated.
 
I should add, my oldest son is 5 and he's used to seeing me drink often at the house while watching football and the like, i don't want to set a bad example for him, i'm sure it'll save me a lot of headaches if he never starts drinking.
 
Uhh, nah, maybe when I'm in my early 30s I'll feel this way but in my late 20s I'm pretty happy with my drinking habits.
 
No, I used to drink way too much in my college years. But now I enjoy it way more.

Nothing is better than drink a single malt whisky between 17:00 - 18:00 with some mixed nuts or some nice cheese thinking about my evening plans.
 
lol I never started (23 now). I just might though in a couple of years because I heard its good for your health, but I'm never getting drunk or make it reach a point where I would consider it in depression.
 
I´ve never felt the urge to drink any alcohol. The only benefit I can see is that people who drink "trust" you more if you act alike.
Also, I don´t think that alcohol adds much towards a healthy life. There are enough other things to ensure that.
 
I was like you, kind of.

Went to schoolies (end of your schooling years massive party) and drank 1 beer over the whole week.

Everyone else around me was having a fun time. I was just the boring guy in the back. To have that time of my life come round again with what I know now would be amazing.

Live it up while you can.
I've been to a few parties but I still don't see the appeal of drinking. I am usually the boring guy but that's fine with me. Then again I ended up driving some people home. I'm not really a social person in general. I have a good job now, still just starting out in the working world, I see my friends on weekends, saving money, I don't need to start blowing money at bars and clubs and such on drinks or anything else. It's just not my scene. At least that's how I feel. My friends do drink but I've never felt pressured to just start. Just not interested.
 
I should add, my oldest son is 5 and he's used to seeing me drink often at the house while watching football and the like, i don't want to set a bad example for him, i'm sure it'll save me a lot of headaches if he never starts drinking.

If you have kids in the house, you definitely should either cut back or stop all together.
 
I'll have to take your word for it. Drunk people are annoying as fuck imo.

being drunk with all your closest friends singing all your favourite songs is great.

when i'm drunk i only really spend time round other drunk people (bars,partys) i wouldn't like go to a restaurant drunk.
 
Do you ever get so drunk that you wake up all tangled up in your ipod headphones because you passed out with your ipod still playing?
 
turns situations into one big fun playground

Nightclub-Image.jpg


ever noticed when your walking in a busy place when everyone's sober no one every really gives you eye contact or sparks up a chat ? Well in a bar/concert/club/party with alcohol everyone turns into a social butterfly lubed up for open up.

Drunk-1.jpg


As with any drug its an escape from the normal and a chance to live a completely different life while under the intoxication

also the drunker you get the better music sounds.
Sorry, not a fan of not being something I really am not. Call me boring or anything but that's just how I was raised and I've been doing good so far.

Plus, I don't need alcohol to appear drunk. I've witnessed it with my friends a couple of times as I get just as nuts as the people drinking. The only difference is that I remember everything the next day.
 
No thanks. Don't drag me into quitting something I enjoy because you can't handle it.

When I was 19/20 I spent 4-5 nights a week getting drunk and either trying to sleep with someone new/sleeping with a below standards FWB.

Then from 21-24. drinking lost 95% of it's appeal because that lifestyle got old and now I drink for flavor/taste maybe twice a month and only drink a bunch maybe once every 2 months.
 
I just turned 21 earlier this month, so nope. I finally get to enjoy it in public.

It's definitely cool that OP is trying to eliminate or cut down on his drinking now that he's a father. I'd imagine it's not so nice seeing your dad even the slightest bit inebriated twice a week (or absent, drinking at a bar somewhere). I only saw my dad drunk once. I was 13 or 14 and he had a couple of margaritas at a block party. All the parents on my block got wasted. It was such a rare event that it was kind of funny and innocent. On the other hand, some of my friends' fathers would rather have a six pack or a few shots of their friend Jack every night instead of spending time taking care of/watching over/playing with their children. Stay sober and diligent for your family. Get to sippin when the kids are away.
 
Sorry, not a fan of not being something I really am not. Call me boring or anything but that's just how I was raised and I've been doing good so far.

Plus, I don't need alcohol to appear drunk. I've witnessed it with my friends a couple of times as I get just as nuts as the people drinking. The only difference is that I remember everything the next day.

the difference is your friends were having a better time than you.
 
A man wants help to quit drinking so what does GAF do? They share stories of how they've never actually been drunk. Great advice, dumbasses!

If someone is 32 and is just now questioning why they drink they clearly have a deeply ingrained urge to drink. "Just drink less" is what you tell a 17-year-old who pukes too much. 32 year old with a kid is time for actual help.

This forum is so full of pansies it's simply the wrong place to get help.
 
I've reduced my drinking but I like beer and wine way too much to give it up. I drink to enjoy, not I get wasted.
 
Sorry, not a fan of not being something I really am not.

Plus, I don't need alcohol to appear drunk. I've witnessed it with my friends a couple of times as I get just as nuts as the people drinking. The only difference is that I remember everything the next day.
I'm honestly, sincerely not trying to start anything, but God do I find this sentiment annoying in its naivete. It displays a complete misunderstanding of what alcohol does to an individual while feigning superiority that inexperience in this regard is a good thing. I don't care if you ever have a drink, personally, but you might want to consider that maybe, just maybe, there's something to it that you've yet to experience. Not saying it's a wonder drug that will make your life infinitely better without any bit of downside. However, keep an open mind that maybe the reason that lots of people like to drink is that there's something to it that can't be described as "they do it because they're not as awesome as me; they need this poison but I don't because I'm rad like that."

Anyway, good luck OP. It's hard to get a read on whether or not your situation really is bad, but generally speaking, if the person recognizes themselves that there is a problem, then there's probably a problem. I can certainly understand why wanting to be a good role model would be a powerful motivator, so good luck.
 
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