I've been feeling a lot of anxiety lately. I've been really freaked out about school finishing. My last semester of my degree is over, i've got a job lined up, and I'm totally confident I'll do fine in all of my classes. It's not really about that stuff ha. My parents are both hyping the shit out of me being done with school, and so are my friends. I'm really scared though. I haven't been putting a lot of thought into what I want to do or where I want to live and graduation has just come out of nowhere. I've got this decent job, but no real attachment to it or huge interest.
The biggest thing that has been really plaguing my thoughts is this feeling like I'm cutoff. I have met so many people in university, and now I'm done. I have very few gay friends, and I'm confident I won't meet many potential bfs/friends at this job where 99% of the company is 45+. I just feel like I'm completely trapped now and won't meet anyone at all.
I've been looking at joining local gay organizations, but the ones in calgary are very unpopulated. It's a big city, but it seems like nobody is actually doing anything, and the people that actually are organizing events are waaay older than me. It's all like bowling things and other stuff I'm totally not interested in.
I've been on gay apps, websites, and everything for months (since september when i got dumped). I've tried meeting people and have had 2 dates. One just wanted sex (he wasn't reeeeally my type, so i didn't bother) and the other just was a horrible match. It seems like it's going to be hard to just go that route. I need to be able to meet people in person through friends and stuff, because that's so much more natural. My friends just barely hang with new people, so that's not really an option either.
I've also been having thoughts about moving to Vancouver. I have some friends there, so I could probably handle the move that way, but it just seems so impulsive that it's hard to imagine myself doing it. I'm not even sure if it would solve my gay friends/dating issues that I have here. I'm an extroverted guy, but I'm not at all close to being the type of person to just walk up to strangers alone and start conversations, make friends, etc. I always need someone there. This just makes it seem like i'll have the same issues. I love the city and want to experience the downtown life in Vancouver, but I don't want to make a huge mistake. My ex also lives there, and I don't want people to think I'm moving there to be close to him, and i also don't want myself to get sucked into his BS again and date him.
I guess there isn't really much advice to give me, but I just don't really know what I should be doing or what I should be thinking. Has anybody been in this situation before and gotten out of it? I know we are always talking about joining local gay organizations and stuff, but I've honestly been looking and there doesn't seem to be much. I want to meet new gay people to friends with and I want to have non-internet-based dates. This seems impossible. This has put me in a really depressed state for the past couple months.
The biggest thing that has been really plaguing my thoughts is this feeling like I'm cutoff. I have met so many people in university, and now I'm done. I have very few gay friends, and I'm confident I won't meet many potential bfs/friends at this job where 99% of the company is 45+. I just feel like I'm completely trapped now and won't meet anyone at all.
I've been looking at joining local gay organizations, but the ones in calgary are very unpopulated. It's a big city, but it seems like nobody is actually doing anything, and the people that actually are organizing events are waaay older than me. It's all like bowling things and other stuff I'm totally not interested in.
I've been on gay apps, websites, and everything for months (since september when i got dumped). I've tried meeting people and have had 2 dates. One just wanted sex (he wasn't reeeeally my type, so i didn't bother) and the other just was a horrible match. It seems like it's going to be hard to just go that route. I need to be able to meet people in person through friends and stuff, because that's so much more natural. My friends just barely hang with new people, so that's not really an option either.
I've also been having thoughts about moving to Vancouver. I have some friends there, so I could probably handle the move that way, but it just seems so impulsive that it's hard to imagine myself doing it. I'm not even sure if it would solve my gay friends/dating issues that I have here. I'm an extroverted guy, but I'm not at all close to being the type of person to just walk up to strangers alone and start conversations, make friends, etc. I always need someone there. This just makes it seem like i'll have the same issues. I love the city and want to experience the downtown life in Vancouver, but I don't want to make a huge mistake. My ex also lives there, and I don't want people to think I'm moving there to be close to him, and i also don't want myself to get sucked into his BS again and date him.
I guess there isn't really much advice to give me, but I just don't really know what I should be doing or what I should be thinking. Has anybody been in this situation before and gotten out of it? I know we are always talking about joining local gay organizations and stuff, but I've honestly been looking and there doesn't seem to be much. I want to meet new gay people to friends with and I want to have non-internet-based dates. This seems impossible. This has put me in a really depressed state for the past couple months.