……forgetit
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The old lost baby trick? Not today.
The first thing I thought of.
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Good samaritan helping lost toddler gets punched by father, labeled predator online
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The first thing I thought of.
Chaos2Frozen
Member
Moral of the story- Never help strangers.
China vindicated.
China vindicated.
TheGreatDirector
Banned
Damn, that's fucked up. All this dad did is discourage people from helping kids who look to be in potential danger.
Off topic, this reminds me of that Chapelle stand up bit with the baby out in the projects.
Off topic, this reminds me of that Chapelle stand up bit with the baby out in the projects.
I would imagine that there are, in fact, some people in China today that may have read this news story and congratulated themselves on not being chumps, so... yeah. This really does reinforce a certain mindset that helping out strangers just leaves you open to being a victim.
TimeEffect
Member
Holy shit, this enrages me. That piece of shit got away with the some real bullshit.
Pagusas
Elden Member
My wife has this happen before with a puppy. She saw a puppie running around free. No one we could see in sight so she called it over to her, looked for tags, and was going to post on our neighborhood social site about the dog, the. Suddenly a lady comes running out of an apartment building a good 100ft+ away, screaming at my wife to get away from her dog -_-
The Hamburglar
Banned
The guy being brown explains why the father is unapologetic.
This is why it's hard to help people sometimes because you just don't know what will happen to YOU.
My friend found a lost kid once and he phoned the police, told them his name, where he found the child. Then they told him to stay with the child and ask around while waiting for the police.
These days you don't know how some people will react to a good samaritan.
My friend found a lost kid once and he phoned the police, told them his name, where he found the child. Then they told him to stay with the child and ask around while waiting for the police.
These days you don't know how some people will react to a good samaritan.
Doesn't help the Samaritan was of Indian background.
TimeEffect
Member
This just makes my blood boil even more. An entire community has driven out a man, and the bastard can get away with a crime simply because he exhausted his victim into submission.
Massive Duck. C.M.
Banned
Damn son
Yeah, as a minority dude I'm only helping a kid who looks almost like me, at least in the States lol
Conkerkid11
Member
Fuck that dad
That's something to keep in mind actually. If the police are called first while you help the child then when/if they come they CAN vouch for being contacted about the child first. Might be a little extreme in some circumstances though, you can probably avoid that in a store or mall at least by guiding them to an employee who can call for help.
I've been in a couple of similar situations, thankfully only for a minute or two before the parents were found.
Both times the very first thing I did was start talking to the adults around me and got at least one other to help me (they were worried about the kid too, but not sure what to do about it yet).
That way someone's got your back, and one of you can go looking for the parent quickly without having to negotiate with the kid to follow you, as the other one can keep an eye on the kid.
Without having people around to back me up? I'd probably call the cops instantly, because as an adult male it just isn't worth taking chances with stressed parents who will be feeling guilty about losing sight of their kid and looking for someone else to blame.
Both times the very first thing I did was start talking to the adults around me and got at least one other to help me (they were worried about the kid too, but not sure what to do about it yet).
That way someone's got your back, and one of you can go looking for the parent quickly without having to negotiate with the kid to follow you, as the other one can keep an eye on the kid.
Without having people around to back me up? I'd probably call the cops instantly, because as an adult male it just isn't worth taking chances with stressed parents who will be feeling guilty about losing sight of their kid and looking for someone else to blame.
Hissing Sid
Member
Do the police have teleportation devices that enable them to instantaneously arrive at the scene?
Telephone calls take time. Police response takes time.
What if the 2 year old decides to wander into the road while we're all standing around waiting for the police to arrive because we're too scared to help? Do we just let the kid play real life Crossy Road?
It's not simple.
The guy did the right thing.
The Dad is obviously a fuckwit.
Edited to add :
I've been in similar situations a couple of times when I've come across lost children in supermarkets and I've always alerted a member of staff or if one is not immediately available taken the child to customer services.
Fuck not helping due to the possibility of an ignorant parent getting the wrong idea. They lost their kid and I'm supposed to give a flying fuck about their opinion of my character?
Yeah no, the safety of the child comes first and foremost.
mechashiva
Member
I guess you have to live stream your attempt at helping a kid to protect yourself.
Thinking the same thing.
Conkerkid11
Member
The respondent will give the person calling instructions on what to do while waiting for them to arrive though.
Not saying the dude didn't do the right thing. Thing's would definitely be better off though if he'd notified somebody else and asked for help looking for the parents, or even better, calling the police and following their directions.
Already posted people.
Hissing Sid
Member
Circumstances allowing sure but...
Toddler heading towards supermarket exit?
Toddler wandering free next to a road?
Immediate action required for the child's safety? I'd say so.
Time for a telephone call to the plods for further instructions? Probably not.
Like I said it's not simple, there are a hundred scenarios.
lol, I should start watching that show. They hit on so many of the tiny details so perfectly.
In the few times I've had to warden over a stranger child, I did it from a distance, and also gave mom one hell of a judgmental look when she finally did show up.
lol, if it was dad that showed up, and wanted to fight? ugh...Florida, not even once.
BLAUcopter
Gold Member
Welcome to 2017.
And this is why, no matter what, you should keep a wide fucking distance from kids that aren't your own and aren't with their parents. Because frankly this exact shit happens frequently enough that the idea of helping a lost kid could potentially ruin your life.
What a wonderful world...
What a wonderful world...
I will always save a kid, but I would hate to have to kick their dad's ass afterward.
and I'm loud as fuck "OY!! is that yer kid?! nah? ok." (although I do honestly run off to freedom as soon as the first woman comes up and does the nurturing "where's your mom" whatevers. I'm not asking her for ID or anything... female kidnappers would probably fool me easily)
"Suspected pedophole attacks father protecting child"
timetokill
Banned
Had a few nasty exchanges with a parent when something like this happens. I remember once I was in a bookstore and I was standing there reading the jacket of one of them when I feel my pant leg being tugged on. I look down and there's this tiny little girl standing there looking up at me and holding on to my pant leg. I looked down the aisles and didn't see anybody, then started speaking really loudly just in case: "Hi! Where's your mommy and daddy?" while holding the book the entire time and never even crouching over. I couldn't even really move because I probably would've made her fall while she was holding on to my jeans, and then I'd be alone in an aisle with a crying little girl.
5 minutes later a mom comes from around the corner and doesn't even walk up, she stands at the end of the aisle and tells her kid to "come here NOW" while giving me a death stare. Not a sorry, not a thank you, nothing. Just venom.
5 minutes later a mom comes from around the corner and doesn't even walk up, she stands at the end of the aisle and tells her kid to "come here NOW" while giving me a death stare. Not a sorry, not a thank you, nothing. Just venom.
If it makes you feel better, there's a decent chance the venom was directed more towards the kid, for wandering away. If the mom thought you were dangerous she would have swooped to get the kid herself.
Chaos2Frozen
Member
Here's something else to consider- what kind of person would that kid grow up into with that kind of father?
timetokill
Banned
Yeah, maybe. Just didn't look that way from the way she was glowering at me.
Just the way you described it, gives me flash backs to being a kid. It's that: "Do not make me walk over there and get you again child" vibe. If I were the mom I would have apologized for my child poking at you, though.
shira
Member
Florida man sounds like Florida man
FreeMufasa
Junior Member
Always leave the kid if you're a dude. Call the police or notify someone nearby.
SolarMystic
Member
Sue the ever living shit out of that father.
I can understand the mistake, but not even owning up or apologizing then sharing this dudes picsl online just makes the father a douchebag and deserves whatever legal action gets taken against him.
I can understand the mistake, but not even owning up or apologizing then sharing this dudes picsl online just makes the father a douchebag and deserves whatever legal action gets taken against him.
CrocMother
Banned
Good chance you end up making it worse for yourself.
PHOENIXZERO
Member
A lot of this is in thanks to 24/7 news channels and over the last 15 or whatever years garbage people like Nancy Grace. I probably wouldn't help some stranger's kid either unless if it was immediately life or death and still I might be hesitant. Hopefully there'd be a woman near by who hopefully isn't a predator but at least she probably wouldn't be automatically seen as such.
Nah... Women regardless of race generally aren't automatically flagged as predators.