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It's a good way to transform yourself after a break up.
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Heartbroken people dismissing "hit the gym" advice as a meme
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It's a colloquialism.
Darryl M R
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Lol, it works though. You have to ascend high enough where you don't even care about an ex, all you care about are the gainz. The iron is your only love.
Yup I say those phrases as well. "Let's hit up Sweetgreen for a salad."
Being young is fun.
The difference is that when you exercise, actual things happen inside your body that cause you to be happier. It literally makes you happier.
People that "hit the gym" to control mood are a close cousin to those that "hit the bottle" to control mood. It's more natural and better for you but it can lead to very addictive behavior and dependency. Nothing wrong with working out and obviously it great for you physically but mentally and psychologically you are not really addressing the issue, you're basically just ignoring it. You are getting high to feel better. I've never been into the gym but have turned to physical activity, just hit the mountains and snowboarded like mad. Feels amazing till summer rolls around then you realise well I still have the same issues to address with myself.
apocalidiot
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And whos fault is that?
Go on youtube man, you can literally learn how to do anything
Shamrock7r
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Yea, that is getting a little philisophical, and in my opinion overcomplicating what really is basic truths to the benefits of being in shape. Your stance also makes the assumption that a person is always in the right frame of mind when deciding what is beneficial for them, or feeling what makes them happy.
I agree that there is a nuance to both nurturing someone who is hurt and giving them sound advice to get better. I do think it's unfair to say that when someone lays out their personal grievances on here, that we should not offer any sort of direct advice. With such a limited platform to learn about a person, we can only use our personal experiences and knowledge to help.
Right, when someone says "hit the gym" on here, I've never seen it said in a rude or derogatory way, and usually it's pretty obvious that it is just another way of saying "exercise", however you best see fit to do so
Chezzymann
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Thats great it works out well for you, but for me weightlifting just doesn't work. I weight lifted for 3 years and eventually quit cause I realized it was just not fun for me and left me really stressed out every time. I'm not masculine at all though and don't get excited or pumped with this type of stuff, though. I actually just dread it. So maybe its a mentality thing.
banefirelord
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Boy, I wish I lived in this magical land of $10 a month gyms. Around here (rural Virginia) the closest gym is 40 minutes away, has really shitty machines and charges 120 up front for a membership and then something like 30 a month after that.
Shamrock7r
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The typical gym with weights may not be, but the great thing about living today is that there are so many different avenues to get in your exercise, and most of them aren't wrong, just different. From yoga to martial arts, to running, to dvd home workouts, to group sessions. Find what works for you. I guarantee there is something out there.
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Deleted member 752119
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Yeah gyms can be really expensive of you're not in a metro area where there's a ton of them. Lack of competition always drives up prices.
Exercise is a proven anti-depressant. Gotta release that endorphin yo. Not to mention it gets you out of the house and around other people.
These days I just have a medicine ball and some dumbbells. I know what to do and going to the gym just takes too much time.
I did like going though, but with two kids now doesn't make sense.
I realize for some folks working out at home doesn't work because they cannot get motivated.
I did like going though, but with two kids now doesn't make sense.
I realize for some folks working out at home doesn't work because they cannot get motivated.
People just hate being told what to do, even (or especially) when they already know it's the right thing to do.
I think you'd have to be a complete idiot to argue that being fit and healthy isn't a good thing. But the entire idea of telling people to hit the gym when they had a brutal breakup sounds absolutely tone deaf to me.
I mean, you could apply this to ANYTHING. You mom died? Lift weights, it's good for you! You lost hope for the future? Do squats, it'll release endorphines, it's science! Your spouse cheated on you? Here are some kettle bells and protein powder, that'll help!
Of course physical exercise has health and mental benefits. I just don't see why people have to bring it up in such a context, it feels so condescending.
For example, meditation has been an absolute turning point in my life, I assume in a similar way that people have with exercise. But I am very careful to bring it up when talking to others unless the context specifically fits, because I know how annoying this can be.
Chezzymann
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Yeah I've found running to be must better for me. Its a lot less 'sudden' and more relaxing. I can just pop in a podcast and go.
Yep. The cheapest one near me is 40€ a month*. I go to a gym now but it was a lot of money when I was still a student. Add to that that you will also spend more on food because bulking and it's goodbye to wallet as a poor chap.
*There are two 20€ a month ones but both of them lack basic equipment.
it's true. going to the gym not only acts as a distraction, not only will make you look better and therefore increase your self confidence, but it LITERALLY elevates your serotonin levels. serotonin elevates your mood. when you're depressed, which is likely when you have your heart broken, you have low serotonin. sitting on your ass and moping isn't going to help your serotonin.
hitting the gym, or just doing pushups at home, going for a run, doing p90x... EXERCISE is essential after a heart break. I'm saying this from the roughest experience possible.
hitting the gym, or just doing pushups at home, going for a run, doing p90x... EXERCISE is essential after a heart break. I'm saying this from the roughest experience possible.
All the cheap gyms by my house are awful. Don't even bother going after work to find an open piece of equipment. I have a gym at work thankfully but before that unless you paid for club fitness or something higher end finding equipment is impossible
Darryl M R
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My gym membership cost $102/month and I can use 7 different locations within my city. To use the two rooftop/penthouse pools at specific locations it would cost me an extra $60 that I would have to pay every month despite the pool only being open for 4 months.
My gf also goes to the same gym.
Plus I buy supplements (protein, multivitamin, creatine, fish oil).
It can get costly. I could always downgrade to a gym further away from me (my gym right now is a 20 second walk from my front door) that costs less.
My gf also goes to the same gym.
Plus I buy supplements (protein, multivitamin, creatine, fish oil).
It can get costly. I could always downgrade to a gym further away from me (my gym right now is a 20 second walk from my front door) that costs less.
What the hell. My gym is $30 a month and I feel that is a bit much.
TheOfficeMut
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To all of you arguing about inaccessible or expensive gyms as a reason for not working out, I'll call you out on your bullshit by saying that you can work out within a ten foot parameter and still see results and feel better.
While I do go to the gym, I make it my goal to perform at least 150 pushups every other morning and another 150 pushups in the evening. Sometimes I double the morning routine if I know I won't be going to the gym that day. From two weeks of pumping out this many pushups alone, I've seen results on my chest and arms.
I won't say that it's easy when feeling down to simply feel motivated enough to workout or do anything enjoyable, especially after a break up. I empathize with you people there. It takes time to find your way.
But please, stop bullshitting yourselves if you think there are no benefits to exercising.
While I do go to the gym, I make it my goal to perform at least 150 pushups every other morning and another 150 pushups in the evening. Sometimes I double the morning routine if I know I won't be going to the gym that day. From two weeks of pumping out this many pushups alone, I've seen results on my chest and arms.
I won't say that it's easy when feeling down to simply feel motivated enough to workout or do anything enjoyable, especially after a break up. I empathize with you people there. It takes time to find your way.
But please, stop bullshitting yourselves if you think there are no benefits to exercising.
Not every gym as is cheap as the ones near you. There are definitely no gyms that cheap anywhere near me.
InfiniteBento
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ill stick with yoga cuz its free and I can do it at home naked
LucidMomentum
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But at the gym I get to try to avoid being creepy by not making eye contact with the yoga class right across from the weight racks...
Darryl M R
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I live in the heart of a big city and the market ere supports luxury gyms more than chains (Planet Fitness, Golds).
Cheapest anywhere in my city is probably 40-50
Succinct Verbosity
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You don't need to go to the gym to improve mental health, but exercise in any form is a great way to avoid falling into a slump. I just got back from the gym and the free weights were rammed with people, so I just did some cycling to clear my head and do something. Go for long walks, run, cycle.... Whatever. Just do something. It helps.
I really dislike when people mention that exercise helps with depression lmao. Like yea that's true but depression is what is preventing you from leaving the house in the first place.
I do all my exercise at home as well, cardio and weights with some yoga. Then run 10ks on the weekends. I'm in the best shape of my life and never once went to a gym.
Plus I don't like exercise around other people. Smells. Grunts. Accidental farts...not my thing.
On a side note, I had a hell of time spelling "exercise" for some reason...
Shamrock7r
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lol maybe we should look into gym deserts to go with our food deserts
Shy Fingers
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shadowsdarknes
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Clearing your mind of stress via exercise is very healthy. Nobody says that is makes your problems go away. But it's a healthy distraction that makes you look good and makes you more attractive to a new mate.
Fair enough but if someone told me to start exercising when I was developing depression, I probably would have never went if I didn't already go to the gym regularly at that point.
Forerunner
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This is what I did. I bought 50 pound adjustable dumbbells and some other equipment (pull-up bar and medicine ball.) The gym I go to is about a 30 minute drive, so getting this equipment helps save me time and cost. I still go to the gym; however the majority of my workouts are from home. Getting the equipment has been money well spent.
Shamrock7r
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And sadly, would be correct most of the time.
what would be correct?
flaxknuckles
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That's money that could be spent on comic books mate.
Going to the gym should not have any kind of stigma about it. Some people praise it more than they should, but don't knock it until you've tried it properly yourself (maybe ask for a personal trainer for one day to show you things, or go in with some knowledge about a few machines).
I know personally I would have had a lot harder time going if someone had not shown me a few basics my first few times because it can feel intimidating. I won't lie, I could not see myself in every gym - I had to choose one that didn't feel intimidating. But after going for a while you see every kind of person - old, young, super in shape, just starting out, recovering from an injury, wanting to build strength for first time, etc.
You will push through both mental and physical barriers going the gym, I think that's the reason to go, and don't let things get in the way of that. One more thing! You compete with yourself in the gym, not other people. Everyone is there to improve themselves one way or another.
I know personally I would have had a lot harder time going if someone had not shown me a few basics my first few times because it can feel intimidating. I won't lie, I could not see myself in every gym - I had to choose one that didn't feel intimidating. But after going for a while you see every kind of person - old, young, super in shape, just starting out, recovering from an injury, wanting to build strength for first time, etc.
You will push through both mental and physical barriers going the gym, I think that's the reason to go, and don't let things get in the way of that. One more thing! You compete with yourself in the gym, not other people. Everyone is there to improve themselves one way or another.
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