Yeah is weird.
I get that you don't like the gym or don't have interest in it, but people shouldn't try to discourage people from going by making weird arguments that it is somehow bad for you.
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Heartbroken people dismissing "hit the gym" advice as a meme
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Yeah is weird.
I get that you don't like the gym or don't have interest in it, but people shouldn't try to discourage people from going by making weird arguments that it is somehow bad for you.
You don't appear to actually know what you're talking about.
... Ok ignoring all that weird drug related exercise conundrum... I think we all agree fitness is a good thing.
But telling a person going through a break up that is dismissive. Plus like... you're also ignoring the fact that they could already be into fitness what then? Honestly being there for this person is more important. If that includes fitness, that's great. But after going through a break up you should focus on improving yourself and doing things that make you happy. That goes beyond just suggesting exercise and weights or whatever.
But telling a person going through a break up that is dismissive. Plus like... you're also ignoring the fact that they could already be into fitness what then? Honestly being there for this person is more important. If that includes fitness, that's great. But after going through a break up you should focus on improving yourself and doing things that make you happy. That goes beyond just suggesting exercise and weights or whatever.
umop_3pisdn
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Hell, self-improvement in general isn't necessarily the most direct solution to the problem. It's basically just saying "try not to stagnate or regress as a person because you're feeling miserable" and/or "try to find reasons to feel good about yourself". Advice like that is generally useful, but it's not magic. People won't that often say it, because it's a bit trickier, but maybe you actually need to do some serious soul-searching in order to learn something valuable from the past, who knows.
Yeah, as soon as I saw the thread title I figured it was from the same guy that posted about how anyone not going to the gym was "missing out" and how he keeps trying to convert his friends. Guess what dude, not everyone likes the gym. I was a US Marine, I hated it before I joined, I hated it during, and I still fucking hate the gym years later. Not everything is great for everybody. Just because it works for you, doesn't mean you need to evangelize it. Doesn't make you superior, hell it doesn't even necessarily mean you're in better shape than someone who doesn't go to the gym. Move on with your life, enjoy the gym, and quit thinking you're spreading the "good word."
CraigerGamer
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Get them gains son
Those teeth are the scariest thing I have ever seen on the Internet.
Yeah actually I totally agree. My friend just recently broke up with his boyfriend and all he needed was for me to listen to him so eventually he could sort out his feelings himself. If I told him to "hit the gym" he probably would have slapped me lmao.
Vault Dweller 111
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I fucking hate the gym. Every time I go I just wait for it to be over. If I was depressed and someone suggested the gym I would laugh in their face.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
its almost as if "get in shape" is actually NOT the answer to all of life's woes
Wasn't there a thread the other day that relationship breaks up are pretty much withdrawal symptoms? Wouldn't something as physical and strenuous as the gym, help balance and rise dopamine and serotonin levels better than lots of other activities?
Bro, you can't deny the science that doing something you enjoy releases endorphins which will make you addicted to them! It's better to just do nothing that brings you pleasure than to release this evil drug toxin into your body.
tearsintherain
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I eagerly await Gym VR on steam
old manatee
Banned
That's not fair. They also usually recommend spending a bunch of money on a new wardrobe that makes you look like a cross between Daniel Craig and a turn of the century chimney sweep.
Are gyms just depressing in the US or something? I go to a small local gym that focus on physiotherapy for old people, the squat rack and free weights are free all the time I fucking love it.
Jest Chillin
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I don't want to say fitness addiction isn't as legitimate as the ones you listed--but I do think it's less "legitimate" if only because the others are actively detrimental to several aspects of your life and health. Fitness addiction is bad if you consistently get injured, but otherwise it's not nearly as immediately, physically detrimental.
You are right in the other ways. If it leads to you misplacing your priorities and doing it at the expense of other things you're gonna wind up in a bad place. As was said, all things in moderation and there's absolutely no panacea for a problem, but doing something that can help you feel better about your body during a down period can help! There's often a feeling of no longer being in control after you're dumped because your "ideal" life was just changed radically, and doing something that helps you regain control over your life in a very tangible way has loads of benefits.
I won't vouch for it during an actual depressive episode, though. Fuck people that tell you to eat healthier, work out more, or do yogawhile you're mentally fucked. No shit, sherlock.
Of course. My statement speficially refers to the ability to use working out/getting fit to an excess.
There is nothing in life that offers zero drawbacks but often working out is advertised as such a thing. I think it's best to acknowledge that there is a chance, whatever the specific numbers are, that people can live that lifestyle in excess and have problems because of it. Because while statistics are great at showing probability, in reality they don't matter to the individual. I.e. telling a lottery winner how lucky they are or telling the family of a loved one who died due to adverse reaction to anesthetic how rare it happens. Being aware is a good thing.
I have to use a bike and about 20 mins to each direction -,-
loaf of bread
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It's annoying because people assume that you aren't fit or even need to go to the gym; or maybe you already go to the gym. At least ask before you assume I need to get in shape. Some of us already maintain an attractive healthy body.
I tried bringing some alco-pops to spinning class, ended up crashing into the girl in front of me. It was not a good icebreaker.
Reverend Funk
Comfy Penetration
If something doesn't solve all my problems then why should I do it?
Already Torn
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Hit the road then (and run).
Is it unhelpful though? If you hit the gym (and lift I guess, your choice bro) you'll get the confidence to be yourself. I mean you still have to get the initiative to go to the gym, but no advice can do the entire thing for you.
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Lazy, largely meaningless statements aren't memes unless the term evolved overnight...
All of those things you listed are at least some kind of advice. All far better than saying something like "sorry to hear that" in response to someone's sad situation.
Choppasmith
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It's funny, I started working out not as a cure for heartbreak, but just to improve my looks and confidence so I can get noticed by women.
I've actually used a combination of Wii Fit U and Just Dance 4 and the results are truly satisfying. The former has some great options in customizing your workout and giving you pointers on what you want to improve, while the latter is just fun cardio. More than anything else, I just FEEL good about myself now.
I've recently purchased ankle/wrist weights as well as neoprene wraps for my arms and thighs. Currently using 6 pounds per appendage, and WOW! That's a workout, all in the comfort of my own home. No gym necessary.
I also ride a bike, but that's hardly a replacement for actually working out, unless you're riding in a place with a lot of steep hills or something.
I've actually used a combination of Wii Fit U and Just Dance 4 and the results are truly satisfying. The former has some great options in customizing your workout and giving you pointers on what you want to improve, while the latter is just fun cardio. More than anything else, I just FEEL good about myself now.
I've recently purchased ankle/wrist weights as well as neoprene wraps for my arms and thighs. Currently using 6 pounds per appendage, and WOW! That's a workout, all in the comfort of my own home. No gym necessary.
I also ride a bike, but that's hardly a replacement for actually working out, unless you're riding in a place with a lot of steep hills or something.
FO-totality
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Yep. A good chunk of people preach about "The Runner's High" (not necessarily running, but talking about a similar sensation nonetheless), but I've never felt it. I just feel fucking nasty, in pain, and constantly sore for a while afterwards. It's not pleasurable in the least to me.
old manatee
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Are you fucking daft or just pretending?
Already Torn
Banned
But the side effect of doing drugs is you can die or suffer serious health defects, the side effect of exercise is you get ripped and all your relationship problems are solved.
blame space
Banned
sorry people think your hobby is a meme
Actually just saying "sorry to hear that" can be helpful. "Go lift brah" doesn't come off very sympatethic.
Wat
Self improvement guide.
1. Get chicken. Blend it with milk. Drink three times a day.
2. Steroids. Inject directly the testicles or ovaries. Only way they work, trust me, I'm an expert.
3. Hit the gym. Don't do curls, don't want the internet to make fun of you. Only big lifts. If your legs aren't so big you don't look like a weeble wabble you're doing it wrong.
4. Do endurance work. Make sure you vomit violently every time, otherwise it's not real training.
5. Get a frog suit.
6. Find an overpass.
7. Jump into traffic.
8. Become legend forever.
1. Get chicken. Blend it with milk. Drink three times a day.
2. Steroids. Inject directly the testicles or ovaries. Only way they work, trust me, I'm an expert.
3. Hit the gym. Don't do curls, don't want the internet to make fun of you. Only big lifts. If your legs aren't so big you don't look like a weeble wabble you're doing it wrong.
4. Do endurance work. Make sure you vomit violently every time, otherwise it's not real training.
5. Get a frog suit.
6. Find an overpass.
7. Jump into traffic.
8. Become legend forever.
Zen_Arcade
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There are cheap gyms. If you have a local YMCA they probably even provide financial assistance.
I know I said I was out, and I'm not going to continue the debate. I just thought I should do some reading just to make sure I am not completely off base with the endorphin thing. So I punch endorphin junkies into google. Any guesses what came up... a gym a few blocks away. Made me laugh and It is a pretty good name for a gym.
M0nochromatic
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Perhaps the heaviest things we lift are not weights, but our emotions.
Lashley
Why does he wear the mask!?
2 deep 4 me
LyleLanley
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Sounds like something a weakling would say.
M0nochromatic
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try hitting the gym it'll help you contemplate existence.
Sparkedglory
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Hodgetwins on gaf. My day is madeGet them gains son
It's kind of hollow advice "hit the gym" , since it's not dealing with any actual issue of the break up unless the person broke up due to fitness related issues. People should probably be willing to figure out what aspects of the relationship caused the break up and if it was due to an issue they or the other person brought into the relationship . People should take failed relationships as ways to reflect and build on aspects they could have done better like communication , empathy , respect , etc. I'd say finding ways to build those qualities in yourself is much more important than "hitting the gym", especially if your already active and in shape because it's part of your lifestyle . Dealing with the reasons a break up happened directly and if possible finding some closure through communication with the other person will be much more beneficial in creating more successful relationships in the future than doing some reps of weights which address none of the reasons why you had a break up with your ex.
Jest Chillin
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Agreed.
old manatee
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I'm sure there's some obscure dating site where people with bad squat techniques can meet and fall in love
Shamrock7r
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Any time somebody posts a thread about coping with breakups or depression, you have posts consoling the poster, and you have posts offering various forms of advice to the poster, yes, including exercise. It's a a little weird that you and others have a problem with users who know very little about each other offering solid, if generic, advice pertaining to exercise (in addition to other forms of generic advice that apparently yall have no problem with) when really it's all we can do.
Freeza Under The Shower
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Yeah, but Atlas, man. Just get them gains, Zeus said. It'll be fun, he said.
That bastard.
The problem with he "hit the gym" advice is that people who actually follow it don't get the necessary knowledge in order to improve, cause you won't see change from one day to another and if you only exercise but keep eating like shit, change would be minimal at best. There are a lot of other aspects that someone needs to improve in order to get better...
Also most people who goes to gym have no idea of what an actual routine must be, so they feel lost there.
Also most people who goes to gym have no idea of what an actual routine must be, so they feel lost there.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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Exercise is good for the heart and brain as well as the body.
I always get a lot more motivated to exercise after a romantic misadventure -_-
I always get a lot more motivated to exercise after a romantic misadventure -_-
Gyms are as cheap as they've ever been
A gym in my area charges 5.95 a week, no contract!
Gyms have come a long way since those lock in contracts that raped the fuck out of you if you tried to quit.
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