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How do you guys like living away from home?

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Cipherr

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Metroid Hunter said:
Ugh. I can't stand it. And my program at university is five years. Going to go insane. My mom has always done everything for me and I miss her. :( I miss my big cozy comfy warm room as well. The rooms at residence are so small and the beds here suck.


Do you guys like living away from home (or if you live in your own home, away from your parents/siblings)?
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Had a wonderful home, but never experienced this. As soon as I left it was nirvana. Never even knew I wanted it so bad. Everything was wonderful, lol.
 
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Shalashaska161

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Moved out finally a little over a month ago for an internship in another city and it's been awesome. Can't say I'm looking forward to moving back with the parents for my last year of school when it's done. The only thing I really miss from back home is the dishwasher.

However I am only a couple hours drive from home and I've been back a couple times already so it's not like I have no contact with my old life. It could be very different if you weren't able to go home for weekends ever or anything.
 
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xxracerxx

Don't worry, I'll vouch for them.
TheExodu5 said:
Getting a vehicle really did help though. I felt stranded without one. It also helps that I'm only a 10 minute drive away from home, so I can always go see the family if I want to.
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A car as a freshmen seems excessive depending on your college campus. A bike is a better tool in my opinion.

And I bet the OP isn't 10 minutes away from his folks which makes it harder.
 
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H.Protagonist

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Can't say I ever had this feeling (I left at 17 and never looked back or missed anything), but living on your own will teach you some really important life lessons and you'll have a lot of fun too. It's a great experience. Embrace it!
 
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Redford

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My first year was shit. Moved across the country to a place with a totally different climate/geography. That alone basically spun me into a depression. (bunch of other reasons like no friends) I'm Canadian so can you guess where I came from and went to?

But a year later and I love it. I have a much better place with a chill roomate (even though she's hardly ever here) and I can cook whatever I like. It feels great.
 
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TheExodu5

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Cabbie said:
My first year was shit. Moved across the country to a place with a totally different climate/geography. That alone basically spun me into a depression. I'm Canadian so can you guess where I came from and went to?

But a year later and I love it. I have a much better place with a chill roomate (even though she's hardly ever here) and I can cook whatever I like. It feels great.
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I want to say you went to Vancouver and were depressed by all the rain.
 
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Fou-Lu

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I seriously never felt more free than when I first moved out, even living with a controlling as hell girlfriend was like an open field compared to the cage of living with my parents.
 
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DominoKid

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its really not all that special.
although i look forward to breaks when i get to go home and not lift a fucking finger.
 
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xxracerxx

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DominoKid said:
its really not all that special.
although i look forward to breaks when i get to go home and not lift a fucking finger.
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How the heck is it not special to know you are taking care of yourself for really the first time in your life?
 
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strobogo

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Moving away was awesome. I'm still mad at myself that I had room mates for my first apartment. Coming home to a completely empty house/apartment with no one to bother you or ask you do to anything is the best. You don't have to worry about being too loud, or someone eating the last piece of pizza, or waking you up, or anything annoying at all. It is the best.
 
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Bossun

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Was out of the house at 17, can't get back, maximum I can stay with my parents and keep my sanity is two weeks...

I love them, but damn man, my freedom feel soooooo good
 
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Sohter.Nura

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Drazgul said:
You're not missing your home, you're missing a housekeeper and a personal cook.
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Ding ding ding! We have a winner!

Let me tell you a secret. Your mom was probably fed up with doing everything for you and make your life easy :p man up duder.

I left my country when I was 19 and never looked back. I miss my friends a lot and I miss my city (Sao Paulo, Brazil), but I never for a second missed living with my mom.

But as soon as I stepped into the U.S, it's kinda weird, I felt like Sao Paulo just wasn't my home anymore. I now have a wife and a son, but for a few years I knew I didn't really have a place to call home anymore :p
 
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Poyunch

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My life improved tenfold after I moved out. Had more control over my life and diet. But distance isn't really a problem because it's a 30 minute drive on the highway to get back home.
 
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TheExodu5

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H.Protagonist said:
You guys make me feel like I lived in a different century or alternate universe sometimes. :/
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Different families/mentalities. Some parents boot the children out when they're 18 and encourage them to be independent. Others coddle their children and want them to stay as long as possible.
 
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Devolution

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My parents were cool, didn't really have a problem with privacy either but I genuinely like cooking without worrying about who needs to use what.
 
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Lace

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I spent 18 years of my life taking care of my disabled father at home, so when I left for the university it was a breath of fresh air. I'd say the circumstances of how you were raised and the rules put on you have a great deal with whether you initially will enjoy being on your own. In my case it meant freedom I never had so it would've took an enormous amount of pain for me to not enjoy my time away.
 
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TheExodu5

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Devolution said:
My parents were cool, didn't really have a problem with privacy either but I genuinely like cooking without worrying about who needs to use what.
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Cooking was one of the best things about moving out. No longer people stocking the cupboards with bad food (chips, instant food, cookies, etc...). Now I can control my diet and I eat what I want when I want. I've definitely done a lot more exploratory cooking since I've moved out and it's great. I've lost 10lbs too.
 
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H.Protagonist

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TheExodu5 said:
Different families/mentalities. Some parents boot the children out when they're 18 and encourage them to be independent. Others coddle their children and want them to stay as long as possible.
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I know, and I get the parent's mentality (even though I find the coddling part kind of weird bc I never experienced it), but I just don't get why anyone would want to continue that kind of lifestyle. I mean, I understand why it's nice to have people doing stuff for you, but I just can't personally fathom it. It's not like my parents kicked me out or anything, but it seems so wrong to me. Like you said, different families/mentalities for sure.
 
GraveRobberX

GraveRobberX

Platinum Trophy: Learned to Shit While Upright Again.
I've never left

Is it strange I find it weird you want to leave?

Fucking Southeast Asian Culture

First born gets stuck with the family problems!
 
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xxracerxx

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H.Protagonist said:
I know, and I get the parent's mentality (even though I find the coddling part kind of weird bc I never experienced it), but I just don't get why anyone would want to continue that kind of lifestyle. I mean, I understand why it's nice to have people doing stuff for you, but I just can't personally fathom it. It's not like my parents kicked me out or anything, but it seems so wrong to me. Like you said, different families/mentalities for sure.
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Same here, I feel like they have done enough for me already and it was time to make it on my own without their help. I love them to death but I felt this was my way of repaying them for all their hard work.
 
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TheExodu5

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H.Protagonist said:
I know, and I get the parent's mentality (even though I find the coddling part kind of weird bc I never experienced it), but I just don't get why anyone would want to continue that kind of lifestyle. I mean, I understand why it's nice to have people doing stuff for you, just can't personally fathom it. It's not like my parents kicked me out or anything, but it seems so wrong to me. Like you said, different families/mentalities for sure.
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In my case I was just too damned comfortable at home. My food was cooked for me, my laundry was done for me, I had the use of a free vehicle. I had to give myself a kick in the ass and I forced myself to move out.

It made financial sense...stay at home until I have enough money for a down payment. But in reality, I was just too comfortable and since I was bored all the time, I was spending money left and right and didn't save much. Moving out has been a fantastic wake up call and in the 5 months since I've moved out, I've saved more money than in nearly 2 years at home.
 
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Redford

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BocoDragon said:
That is apt for this weekend :/ (and probably the next 5 months)

This place is paradise in the summer, tho...
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Funny because earlier last month I was pining for rain during the sunshine. I've grown to like it.

strobogo said:
Moving away was awesome. I'm still mad at myself that I had room mates for my first apartment. Coming home to a completely empty house/apartment with no one to bother you or ask you do to anything is the best. You don't have to worry about being too loud, or someone eating the last piece of pizza, or waking you up, or anything annoying at all. It is the best.
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I find it to be equal parts amazing and unnerving. Mostly because in my situation my roomie is either AWOL for a week or over with her BF. So this place can feel like a ghost-town and then too crowded the next day.
 
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HappyBivouac

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Metroid Hunter said:
Ugh. I can't stand it. And my program at university is five years. Going to go insane. My mom has always done everything for me and I miss her. :( I miss my big cozy comfy warm room as well. The rooms at residence are so small and the beds here suck.


Do you guys like living away from home (or if you live in your own home, away from your parents/siblings)?
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This is the exact opposite of how I feel about it. Except for your dorm woes. Don't live in a dorm.

I've found there is a positive linear relationship between how far I am from home and how happy I am. I love my family but no.
 
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Magnus

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sphagnum said:
When people say leaving home was like leaving a prison or something like that, those kinds of posts always baffle me. Did you all just hate your parents or something?

My parents are evangelical Republicans and I'm a socialist and everything was just fine at my house. No real restrictions, no curfews, total trust.
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Yeah, I count myself fortunate that home was (/is again) a kind of heaven. My family and I get along amazingly well.

All that said, I want my independence again and am saving now for a second move-out asap. As someone said earlier, can't put a price on total privacy and independence.
 
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Devolution

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H.Protagonist said:
I know, and I get the parent's mentality (even though I find the coddling part kind of weird bc I never experienced it), but I just don't get why anyone would want to continue that kind of lifestyle. I mean, I understand why it's nice to have people doing stuff for you, but I just can't personally fathom it. It's not like my parents kicked me out or anything, but it seems so wrong to me. Like you said, different families/mentalities for sure.
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When your parents are really cool peoples and it's cheaper to commute from home it just makes everything easy.
 
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strobogo

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There is a certain age limit to living at home. If you're 30 and still living at home, you need to be paying as if you were a roommate. I would love to be out on my own again, but I'm the only responsible grandchild around to help take care of my grandparents. I feel obligated to be here, but they won't let me help with anything money related. They won't even eat food if I buy it. Even though they need someone here with them, I still feel like I shouldn't be here and should be on my own again. It's not like I have any rules set for me or anything, but it still feels weird after being on my own for years.

What's really weird to me is when a girl gets pregnant in her early 20s and moves back home and they stay until the kid is a teenager. So the mom is in her mid to late 30s and at home with her parents and her kid. I think in the next decade or so, being 30 and at home with your parents will be kind of the norm again.


sorry but the whole "i miss my mommy" thing is pathetic

Yeah I missed home too, but the best advice someone gave me was to man up and get over it.
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I have to agree with this. OP sounds like a little kid staying the night at his friend's house for the first time and scared because his mom isn't there to tuck him in.
 
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H.Protagonist

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xxracerxx said:
Same here, I feel like they have done enough for me already and it was time to make it on my own without their help. I love them to death but I felt this was my way of repaying them for all their hard work.
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Mine's sort of the same, but I think your motivations were cooler than mine. I also thought they'd done enough, but mostly I just didn't want to owe them anything else. I didn't agree with their own life choices (not that they were bad, just not inspired/no ambition) and they thought I was stupid for going to college, so moving out was expected on all sides, I think. I just left earlier than they expected. ;)

At any rate, I think the OP will get a lot out of it. It is a great way to show your parents what you can do, whatever your motivations.


TheExodu5 said:
In my case I was just too damned comfortable at home. My food was cooked for me, my laundry was done for me, I had the use of a free vehicle. I had to give myself a kick in the ass and I forced myself to move out.

It made financial sense...stay at home until I have enough money for a down payment. But in reality, I was just too comfortable and since I was bored all the time, I was spending money left and right and didn't save much. Moving out has been a fantastic wake up call and in the 5 months since I've moved out, I've saved more money than in nearly 2 years at home.
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I really admire that. It does make financial sense for a lot of people to stay on home, but my personal experience with those doing it hasn't really shown much saving. More spending and mooching (which is probably why I have such a negative view of it). I agree with the wake up call effect. Getting out of your comfort zone leads to all sorts of interesting self-discoveries.


Devolution said:
When your parents are really cool peoples and it's cheaper to commute from home it just makes everything easy.
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Like I said, it does make sense for some. I just could never do it, even if they were cool. Different times, though.
 
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TheExodu5

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Zoramon089 said:
I mean, it'd be one thing if he missed home because he didn't have any friends in his new place or it was super crappy but it just seems like he misses having his parents do everything for him...
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He's just home sick. I see no reason to be an ass about it. It's something a lot of us has gone through and it's perfectly normal.
 
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Exentryk

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H.Protagonist said:
I know, and I get the parent's mentality (even though I find the coddling part kind of weird bc I never experienced it), but I just don't get why anyone would want to continue that kind of lifestyle. I mean, I understand why it's nice to have people doing stuff for you, but I just can't personally fathom it. It's not like my parents kicked me out or anything, but it seems so wrong to me. Like you said, different families/mentalities for sure.
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Cultural differences between you and OP. You and other westerners will not get it.
 
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Salsa

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23, still with my parents

not sure how more that's gonna last though since we're thinking about moving to another place, and the idea of starting from scratch in another home STILL with my parents isnt that atractive anymore..

might be time to find a way to bail, just that being serious about studying film doesnt provide you with many run-of-the-mill job posibilities. There's money when there's money and where there's none there is NONE, so yeah, will have to find a different possibility

I feel no shame nor anything like that though, I love my parents, it's just a matter of personal space. You shouldnt feel weird about not liking being away. Also iirc OP is 17/18

that said, you're reasons being that you miss your mom doing stuff for you.. yeah, time to grow up a bit
 
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gnarlyxcharlie

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I've got two roommates in this house but being able to act like assholes and party every weekend is awesome. I definitely enjoy living on my own
 
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H.Protagonist

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Exentryk said:
Cultural differences between you and OP. You and other westerners will not get it.
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I logically 'get' it, just don't personably feel it. But plenty of Westerners live that lifestyle too (as this thread and others have shown), so don't take me as a representative of anything.
 
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TangMeng

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I love it, though I do currently live at home.


Once you've made new friends and get settled you won't want to go back.
 
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zoukka

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Finaika said:
No it's not.
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Well it definitely paints a picture of a very unexperienced and young of a poster. (nothing wrong in that still)

That said, I was ready to move out when I was fifteen. And the miracle happened two years later. Haven't missed home since.
 
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Paranerd

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A good portion of my classmates from high school still live at home, and we're all in our 20s, now. I'm a fairly quiet and private person, so I probably would have hated dorming in college.
 
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DominoKid

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xxracerxx said:
How the heck is it not special to know you are taking care of yourself for really the first time in your life?
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it just wasnt.
i remember when i left for school my mom was all worried at first.
then i pointed out that since my parents divorced and i went w/ my mom (i was 16) it felt like i had already been living on my own because of our schedules.
other than the money aspect living on my own was old habit by the time i went to school.

now when i go home on school breaks it's like having a maid because her schedule is different.
 
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