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[Coconut]

You tell them that you want to jack off.

 

[Transhuman]

Trust me, never get caught masturbating to the Facebook pictures of an ex-girlfriend

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that you killed in self-defence.

 

[studyguy]

My girlfriend tends to be pretty blatant about enjoying porn. She doesn't care, I've watched it together with her and it usually leads to a lot of giggling among other things. She knows I watch some of it, but frankly, that doesn't mean I'm going to just masturbate infront of her to porn. Some of the stuff I've watched probably wouldn't fly with her.

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I mean internet porn runs the gamut and I've been down some dark trails.

 

[Omegasquash]

She prefers classier porn, like erotica, I guess. She doesn't like seeing the actual genital penetration, but likes the oral bits and the hip movements and so forth.

We watch together every so often, and it's fun.

 

[Darksol]

That's cool. What's the ratio of couples coming in vs people by themselves?

Pretty much 50/50. You still get the occasional old man looking for porn mags, but for the most part it's people 18-40 coming in to try something new (toys mostly).

 

[Schuhu]

I told my first girlfriend that I watched porn after she asked me. She wasn't too pleased to say the least, kinda crushed her worldview at 15. Good times

 

[noah111]

Why do you read every post and come to a black/white conclusion? From this page to the last its just jarring.

At what point did I ever say the sole purpose of masturbation was self-help? When did I say that it was the only way? Why do you still treat masturbation as if it is still done primarily in harmful ways? Treating any of that like its a simple and "allowable" action is probably a sign that you should devote more thought to the subject. At this point it'd serve the conversation better if YOU described what is and what isn't, plainly, so that others reading aren't thrown by your moving platform.

Also your interpretation of the edit is comically naive. Yes. Enjoying sex is not a box to be checked. There's a lot more to the sexual depth of relationship outside of what you're implying. To put it simply - if you don't know yourself, you're making it harder for your SO to understand you and in that you will put a lot of interference into a line of communication that will be strained anyways - and the amount of people willing to be patient with others as they figure things out is much, much smaller than many would like to believe or imply.

I don't, your wording was just a bit generally vague to the subject so I had to draw some assumptions on what you were referring to (being in a thread about watching porn). ;p And no, I don't treat masturbation as harmful (thought I made that clear by now), but call me crazy for preferring sex to masturbating to porn and thinking that you don't have to find a way to blow your load every time you feel like having sex. (again, masturbation in the context of porn is very different, you're probably referring to it more generally)

As for the edit, I think it's naive to worry about exploring sex in a relationship because someone else might 'beat your to it'. A relationship isn't that simple, just found it funny to think that you viewed it as a craft that needs to be mastered, in that specific context.

 

[Hylian7]

I work in a sex shop and I don't need to hide porn from my SO--we watch it together

Surely you have the greatest stories from work.

 

[SBH]

I don't, your wording was just a bit generally vague to the subject so I had to draw some assumptions on what you were referring to (being in a thread about watching porn). ;p And no, I don't treat masturbation as harmful (thought I made that clear by now), but call me crazy for preferring sex to masturbating to porn and thinking that you don't have to find a way to blow your load every time you feel like having sex. (again, masturbation in the context of porn is very different, you're probably referring to it more generally)

As for the edit, I think it's naive to worry about exploring sex in a relationship because someone else might 'beat your to it'. A relationship isn't that simple, just found it funny to think that you viewed it as a craft that needs to be mastered, in that specific context.

Most would prefer sex to masturbation (unless it's really bad sex), but why would you have to choose between them?

To me they are really different kind of pleasures. Masturbation is me fantasizing and deep in my own head having not to concentrate on anything but my enjoyment. When I have sex I live in the moment and it's a really different thing for me.

 

[DY_nasty]

I don't, your wording was just a bit generally vague to the subject so I had to draw some assumptions on what you were referring to (being in a thread about watching porn). ;p And no, I don't treat masturbation as harmful (thought I made that clear by now), but call me crazy for preferring sex to masturbating to porn and thinking that you don't have to find a way to blow your load every time you feel like having sex. (again, masturbation in the context of porn is very different, you're probably referring to it more generally)

As for the edit, I think it's naive to worry about exploring sex in a relationship because someone else might 'beat your to it'. A relationship isn't that simple, just found it funny to think that you viewed it as a craft that needs to be mastered, in that specific context.

No, you really hadn't made it clear. If anyone treats masturbation exactly the same as sex, they're more than a little bit off-base. Many people separate the two when it comes to enjoyment so I'm not sure why you've got the emphasize the necessity for one over the other. Having sex is cool. Rubbing one out is something you don't go around telling people about. That's really just about the biggest difference in how they're treated socially for many. As such, you have a lot of people outright lying saying that they don't masturbate at all and if they do then they're immediately ashamed of it (which leads to the amazing trend of no-fap challenges and blaming social issues on masturbation).

And for the bolded - Yes. Its simply immature to believe that people dating, or even in serious relationships, will wait for someone to get their shit together and consistently pass up better prospects. That applies to money, lifestyles, social situation, long term goals, looks, etc so why would it not include sex? You don't start off relationships with some locked in commitment from both parties. If people think you're not as advertised or not clicking as fast they expect, then there's no obligation for them to stick it out. I never said that porn viewing is some intense study session but generally being exposed to sex through that medium is going to sensitize anyone to the subject obviously and allow their mind to grasp what is and what is not important to them personally. Guess work is cute.

 

[samus i am]

Men are stimulated visually. It is a masterbation aid and nothing more.

 

[thelatestmodel]

I watch it, she watches it, and sometimes we watch it together. Best way to be.

 

[Riki]

She watches it with me. Hell, she usually finds a lot of it at that.

 

[Brian Griffin]

I just explained to her that as a male, my arousal is very dependent on visual stimuli so if I'm going to have fun jacking off I need porn. If you SO has a problem with you watching porn and you aren't preferring porn over them then they are wrong.

My wife also watches porn sometimes and probably jacks off more than me so she's in no position to judge.