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Tell her you want to do some interesting stuff, then tie her hands to the bed and blindfold her. Strap on a rubber dong and go to town for hours. Then, quickly take it off, slip the real you in, pump twice, blow nut, pass out. Untying her before that last step will probably help ensure you get a second shot with her.

Or, just fuck more often.
 
Fuck what everyone else said.

You close your eyes and think about a giant nasty pile of garbage. Now think about the smell, and the dirty trash juice dripping everywhere. Focus in deep on that disgusting pile of fiLth as you open your eyes and see your partner.

Now you won't think about ejaculating for a while.
 
sixteen-bit said:
jack off a few minutes b4 game time
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Haven't done this yet - I've done the long version, where I cum as quickly as I can during sex, then spend the next 15-20 min with foreplay and pleasuring her with my hands and kissing. Then FINALLY it's back up and I can last a good long while before coming again.

Try both and see what you like more! Good luck :)
 
Get a really bad porn addiction. You won't be able to finish if you try.
But seriously, keep your breathing as slow and steady as possible. Doing cardio regularly will help make that easier.
 
A lot of good suggestions in here, but if nothing works for you, definitely try out condoms with a bit of Benzocaine or similar numbing substance/local anesthetic in the tip.

They do work as advertised. I don't use them anymore but they helped me through a period in which I was very unhappy with my staying power (which was due to mental/emotional stuff). Psychology definitely can play a major part here, "just relax" doesn't really sound like great advice, but it's true at its core.
 
Kegels
Breathing
Stop masturbating - seriously. No porn and no jacking off
Do the lady first and then go bonkers
Slow down when you feel near O, breathe - talk about this with your lady friend

Repeat, repeat.
 
Zeyphersan said:
We're all very jealous
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It's not something to be jealous of.

Imagine this situation:

You and your girlfriend need to go to a friends party in an hour, and you're horny. So you go for a quick 30 min session, but by the time you need to get ready to go, you haven't climaxed. It still feels good and all, but it's not a release and gotta deal with that during your friends party until you get home.
 
Anung said:
Try edging. Get yourself to that point then stop. Rinse and repeat. Be careful though if you become a real edgemaster you'll have the opposite problem.
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This is really good advice because you'll get better at knowing your point of no return and when you need to back off. When it comes to the real deal you'll be able to manage it much better.

Once you get better at monitoring it you can start lasting longer by simply stopping your thrusts, changing pace, changing positions/angles etc. There are certain angles that make me pop in no time at all. A small adjustment can make all the difference sometimes.

Another trick I have is to find something nearby, and read its label to distract myself. Like a bottle of water or something on the bedside table.
 
Tabris said:
Don't follow this man's advice. This is what I think put me into my situation, and which I'm trying to remedy (no porn and no masturbation helps). I had a dry spell for a while (break up that didn't go well) and I was also super busy. So I would do the firm grip + porn to get off quickly to relieve stress. Bad idea.
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That obviously defeats the whole purpose of the exercise. The whole point is to build stamina, not violently jerk off to porn.

This isn't my idea, I got it from a book written by a sex therapist. Applying firm pressure instead of light pressure during masturbation is a modification exercise to desensitize and provide a possible alternative to desensitizing condoms. It's also a way to practice holding back. Firm, not fast. It's a practice technique. "Getting off quickly to relieve stress" is the opposite of practicing to last longer.
Jpop said:
This is bad advice. It will kill his sensitivity.... So sex won't feel as good.
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It doesn't result in less enjoyable sex. Desensitizing helps to prevent the quick trigger. That's why they make desensitizing condoms. It not only helps a guy last longer, but can provide harder erections and more intense and passionate sex.

Thinking about something disgusting as a distraction. Now THAT is what results in less enjoyable sex.
 
Weed, dude. No joke. Not only does sex feel even more incredible, but I literally last 10 times longer. Crazy how that works.
 
Heavy_D206 said:
Fuck what everyone else said.

You close your eyes and think about a giant nasty pile of garbage. Now think about the smell, and the dirty trash juice dripping everywhere. Focus in deep on that disgusting pile of fiLth as you open your eyes and see your partner.

Now you won't think about ejaculating for a while.
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Unless of course this mental image makes the OP cum, at which point he hops off his partner and runs off to start another thread on GAF about only achieving orgasm while thinking about piles of rubbish. .

It's a never ending circle.

Gracious.
 
hydragonwarrior said:
Haven't done this yet - I've done the long version, where I cum as quickly as I can during sex, then spend the next 15-20 min with foreplay and pleasuring her with my hands and kissing. Then FINALLY it's back up and I can last a good long while before coming again.

Try both and see what you like more! Good luck :)
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I am sorry but I have to ask about this.

For all guys that come quickly how long do you have to wait to get an erection again? Because I come really quick and I am still hard afterwards (not as hard as the first time, but still) and I really don't know if this is normal or not, lol. Can come a second time and I am still hard afterwards.
 
Snuggles said:
Alcohol and/or drugs are what you need. I can go forever with the right dosage in me. I'd recommend a generous amount of vodka and a few vicodin, at least to start out.
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what the fuck man? Are you trying to get the man killed? OP, don't listen to this bullshit, vicodin with alcohol can kill you.
 
Do more foreplay, slow down, switch positions when you need a short break, don't be afraid to stop fucking her to go back to fingering her or eating her out when you need a longer break, or make yourself cum before having sex so you last a bit longer. Alternatively, just go for a second round after you came the first time. Also, try enhancing your stamina by training yourself to edge and hold back the orgasm.
 
I last too long. I'd love to finish quicker. My girlfriend usually cums 5+ times before I am even close to finishing. I have to stop sometimes because I wear her out lol

And I typically mix in eating her out and several positions which prolongs it even more.
 
SaganIsGOAT said:
I last too long. I'd love to finish quicker. My girlfriend usually cums 5+ times before I am even close to finishing. I have to stop sometimes because I wear her out lol

And I typically mix in eating her out and several positions which prolongs it even more.
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This is quite the cool story, bro. My penis is also 19 inches.
 
DrAg0nBoY said:
I am sorry but I have to ask about this.

For all guys that come quickly how long do you have to wait to get an erection again? Because I come really quick and I am still hard afterwards (not as hard as the first time, but still) and I really don't know if this is normal or not, lol. Can come a second time and I am still hard afterwards.
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I was in your situation in my early twenties. It is unusual.

In my later thirties it has flipped to rarely coming at all. Get hard, go at it for 15-20 minutes, get her off a couple of times, know I'm no closer than I was earlier, so either lose erection from over thinking it or call it a day.
 
Hoo-doo said:
Hey man, i'm just saying.

It's a cool-ass story. Your defensiveness is unwarranted.
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I'm as happy as can be!!! Intimacy is about rhythm and listening. Pay close attention and you'll do a great job. My dick ain't huge, and neither is my ego. Make your partner feel cared for in the bedroom and things just fall into place. But seriously, always start with oral!
 
SaganIsGOAT said:
I'm as happy as can be!!! Intimacy is about rhythm and listening. Pay close attention and you'll do a great job. My dick ain't huge, and neither is my ego. Make your partner feel cared for in the bedroom and things just fall into place. But seriously, always start with oral!
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#dead

I'm having no troubles, brochacha. But spin us some more of those frosty ones. I'm sure there are legions of gaffers hanging onto every word of your hot sexing advice.

(I'm just kidding, dude. Just felt like a 'cool story bro' moment.)
 
Hoo-doo said:
#dead

I'm having no troubles, brochacha. But spin us some more of those frosty ones. I'm sure there are legions of gaffers hanging onto every word of your hot sexing advice.

(I'm just kidding, dude. Just felt like a 'cool story bro' moment.)
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It was definitely a cool story bro moment lol. I honestly posted it and was like, "well, that sounds pompous."
 
OP. Just have sex more. Find a trusting partner. If you're young you're likely to encounter someone with similar sexual anxieties (even if they're not immediately open with them). Do a lot of foreplay to start. Don't be afraid to pull out if you're too close. It's as much mental as it is physical. You'll get better.

EDIT: And don't listen to the people telling you to do drugs for sex. That's an added element. You don't want to become reliant on drugs for sex.
 
SSRI's are very effective. They work like magic but the problem is you'll take forever to actually ejaculate. Very safe medication if the problem persists they are a viable solution
 
Honestly dude just take a breather. Few weeks ago I was with a partner and once I got going I felt that urge to unload, I simply told her to hold on for a sec while I got my bearings. Usually this willl happen twice, then I'm good for like 30-40. No shame in saying, "Hey this feels awesome, let me get accustomed to this and then I'll really give it to you" or even "Yo I got a sensitive wiener, give me a sec"
 
spectral_method said:
Honestly dude just take a breather. Few weeks ago I was with a partner and once I got going I felt that urge to unload, I simply told her to hold on for a sec while I got my bearings. Usually this willl happen twice, then I'm good for like 30-40. No shame in saying, "Hey this feels awesome, let me get accustomed to this and then I'll really give it to you" or even "Yo I got a sensitive wiener, give me a sec"
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i cant wait to use this line, that is great.
 
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