Vital Tundra
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She enjoys playing games with me, but nothing to complex. Smash Bros. is pushing it, anything more complex, and she gets frustrated.
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Is your significant other not into games at all?
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mentallyinept
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My wife is into games, but not the same kind as me usually.
There are exceptions like Smash Bros. and other Nintendo mainstays like Mario Kart, but when I venture into games like MGS she's more interested in the story than the actual game.
There are exceptions like Smash Bros. and other Nintendo mainstays like Mario Kart, but when I venture into games like MGS she's more interested in the story than the actual game.
My wife likes gaming. Her favourite series is Baldurs Gate so she is absorbed right now playing Pillars of Eternity.
She plays at night and says that playing it its like reading a book. She also likes games like Pharaoh, The Sims and loved to played DS games like Animal Crossing, Layton, Zelda, Hotel Dusk...
She plays at night and says that playing it its like reading a book. She also likes games like Pharaoh, The Sims and loved to played DS games like Animal Crossing, Layton, Zelda, Hotel Dusk...
Phoenix944
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It must be fun to have a GF/BF that play games with you.
:'(
:'(
Worse: my SO likes... ugh... free to play games!
But at least she likes some quality stuff, retro games, classics like Bubble Bobble. Also, we both like Knack, so that's pretty unique.
Other games she's like to make ppl jelly: Chrono Cross, Beyond Good & Evil.
But really 95% of the time she's playing a game it's some F2P trash.
But at least she likes some quality stuff, retro games, classics like Bubble Bobble. Also, we both like Knack, so that's pretty unique.
Other games she's like to make ppl jelly: Chrono Cross, Beyond Good & Evil.
But really 95% of the time she's playing a game it's some F2P trash.
BRocknRolla
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Without a doubt this is the case. Baseline, things like your major morals/values have to sync up. I wouldn't suggest that people should be of one mind when they get married; far from it in fact, I think it's important that people retain their personal identity after they get married (You fell in love with the other person, and they you, right? You should still be those people!). I think in a lot of ways, your other interests are what give you your separate identities.
But the size of those interests, and your partner's reaction to them definitely matter too. My wife certainly doesn't need to share all my interests (and given my personality, it's better that she doesn't as that gives me some "me time"), but I think if she had a downright aversion to them, or suggested that something I loved was childish and I should grow up, I think that shows a fundamental lack of respect to the other person. Someone said it earlier, but I think that it's right; it's not so much about needing to share your interests (though I think that definitely helps make things easier), it's about the level of respect the other person gives your opinions about the things you enjoy.
My wife used to play a game every once in a while. She has finished a couple of Zeldas and Laytons, really enjoys Picross, played the occasional round of Mario Kart with me and was absolutely cracking at Puzzle League. But nowadays she mostly ignores them and the more I try to push her towards a certain game, the less she seems interested. I feel she would really enjoy walking simulators and the choose-your-answer adventure style games, but I'm not trying to convince her. She'll let me know if she's interested.
RenTargino
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My girlfriend likes videogames a lot. She likes fighting games and basically just play Japanese games. It's very nice to be able to talk about this stuff with her.
We often play TowerFall and Mario Kart. I don't like fighting games very much, so we play less of these. We are always playing the 16 bit's beat 'em up.
Now we are going to play Final Fantasy XIV together, I'll be on ps4 and she'll be on pc.
We often play TowerFall and Mario Kart. I don't like fighting games very much, so we play less of these. We are always playing the 16 bit's beat 'em up.
Now we are going to play Final Fantasy XIV together, I'll be on ps4 and she'll be on pc.
My GF wasn't really into games (she played back in the glory days of the PlayStation X tough), but when I gave her my old 360 she picked up all the AC-games and since she loves history she is playing them all. She also likes Tomb Raider, but that's already in her AC-packed backlog 
My wife does not play console or handheld games with me at all. My systems are in the living romo and bedroom and I play games when she sleeps or is working overnights. I believe that it an illusion that your SO needs to love the exact same things you love. We share a common passion for board games so that is one way that we spend our entertainment time together. I know she will never want to game with me and she knows I will never want to scrapbook with her, and we are both fine with it. Having personal interests in a relationship is not a problem if both people understand that there solo activity needs to be secondary to a group activity.
How old are you?
My wife is in no way interested in the videogames I play. Why would it be important that she be into all of the same things as her? Videogames are a pretty solitary experience for me and I enjoy it like that. I dont feel the need to share my experiences in videogames with anyone else and if I do want to start up a conversation I have friends to help with that.
I married my wife because I fell in love with her. It wasn't her in-depth knowledge of raiding in WoW...
We've got a mortgage, two jobs, two cars, one kid and another on the way. Videogames are incredibly insignificant when stacked against all of these.
My wife likes to game on her phone. Mostly F2Ps like TwoDots, Frozen Free Fall, Jelly Splash, etc...but she does like Picross, Animal Crossing, the Rock Band games, and the LEGO games.
She doesn't mind watching me play so long as the games aren't violent. She adored A Boy and His Blob (Wii) and likes what she's seen of Xenoblade Chronicles.
Besides, marriage is so much more than video games.
She doesn't mind watching me play so long as the games aren't violent. She adored A Boy and His Blob (Wii) and likes what she's seen of Xenoblade Chronicles.
Much like the poster above me, I fell in love with my wife knowing she didn't like video games all that much. She understands my enthusiasm and allows me to nerd out over them, and that's fine with me.
Besides, marriage is so much more than video games.
swazzyswess
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She plays them, though not as much as me, and fully endorses/supports my hobby. Actually yesterday I was talking about all the upcoming games I want to get, and my fiance said, "... you really need to start playing games more to fit all of those in." Done!
E the Shaggy
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My S/O likes the Telltale stuff and recently she helped me play Until Dawn, but not really much of a gamer.
It's not a big deal, we share plenty of other interests.
It's not a big deal, we share plenty of other interests.
lunchtoast
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No interest. She did enjoy some part game we played at a nintendo store. I also bought Until Dawn as I think she might like playing it together making choices since she likes horror movies. It's not a big deal as I play games on my own time and we don't live together.
My girlfriend doesn't care about video games at all. She played some Mario Kart (presumably 64, she doesn't know for sure) with her brother when they were younger. She doesn't hate them but has zero interest. She has no issues with me playing games.
Sometimes she listens to music I don't care for, sometimes she watches a TV show I don't care for. We do have a lot of shared interests, and we respect the things we may not have in common.
I completely disagree with those who say you shouldn't date someone if they don't like video games and that's one of your hobbies. It may apply if your life completely revolves around playing games, but (I would like to imagine) that only accounts for a small percentage of the NeoGAF users.
Sometimes she listens to music I don't care for, sometimes she watches a TV show I don't care for. We do have a lot of shared interests, and we respect the things we may not have in common.
I completely disagree with those who say you shouldn't date someone if they don't like video games and that's one of your hobbies. It may apply if your life completely revolves around playing games, but (I would like to imagine) that only accounts for a small percentage of the NeoGAF users.
shadowfall
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My wife likes to watch when I play story driven games like Last of Us. She plays games on the Iphone. But yeah she is afraid of playing console games as she thinks she would get addicted (I wonder where she got the idea hmmmmm)
AlwaysTriumph
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I'm 33 and my wife is 31. We've been married for 4 years and have two children. I've always made gaming my most frequent hobby. Early in our relationship I would put the games aside and spend all our time together. She is an OB/GYN PA and would frequently have to take off to do a delivery. I would use that time to play. Fast forward a few years after we got married and before kids she slept in on weekends and I'm an early riser so again I'd enjoy a few hours on the weekend. Now that we have kids the time to game is down considerably and if I choose to do it I get a lot of grief and scolding. I try to explain to her it's my thing and it shouldn't bother her but oh man does it. I don't compromise my time with her or my kids but now I have to play late at night which isn't ideal when kids get up way too early.
To answer the question more directly she did have some games she liked playing with me such as Singstar we had a lot of parties prior to kids revolving around that game, plants vs zombies 2P mode on PS3 was really fun, and wheel of fortune. Since the kids though she doesn't seem to want to spend a single spare minute on any gaming. I don't blame her we both have careers and other obligations to attend to. I do wish at times she would back off the criticism of how I like to spend my free time with my hobby.
To answer the question more directly she did have some games she liked playing with me such as Singstar we had a lot of parties prior to kids revolving around that game, plants vs zombies 2P mode on PS3 was really fun, and wheel of fortune. Since the kids though she doesn't seem to want to spend a single spare minute on any gaming. I don't blame her we both have careers and other obligations to attend to. I do wish at times she would back off the criticism of how I like to spend my free time with my hobby.
TheAngryMonkey
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Yup. My wife likes herself some solitaire and even some flash games on webkinz (we got kids) from time to time. Maybe even some Wii Party U from time to time but the very last thing she'd ever do is sit and watch me play Zelda let alone play a game of that caliber. I get nearly as much time as I want to play games and I share with her my personal progress/improvements in Destiny PvP but beyond that there is very little shared interest. We're not a couple that falls apart if we don't spend every free moment together and if anything it's better we don't.
RomanceDawn
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My wife plays these mystery puzzle games on her DS all the time. Like it's just a big static picture and you find the hidden objects. She loves it so much it's almost hard for me to comprehend.
I had a little success getting her into NSMBWii and she looooooved Zak and Wiki. If I'm not there to initiate it though, she won't play at all. Smash was just way too much for her and that was just the first level of Subspace.
I don't play too much and avoid the family, I learned my lesson back in high school. She's great in that she completely accepts everything that comes with husband gamer. Clothing(found this cute Pokemon sun dress at Hot Topic, had to get it for her), memorabilia, music, statues, etc.
We certainly would have never gotten married if that stuff bothered her. Hopefully I can pull her in with something like Captain Toad or Wooly World.
Our shared hobby is martial arts, wushu specifically. As much as I would have loved for her to be a gamer it's just something I know I can't push on her.
I had a little success getting her into NSMBWii and she looooooved Zak and Wiki. If I'm not there to initiate it though, she won't play at all. Smash was just way too much for her and that was just the first level of Subspace.
I don't play too much and avoid the family, I learned my lesson back in high school. She's great in that she completely accepts everything that comes with husband gamer. Clothing(found this cute Pokemon sun dress at Hot Topic, had to get it for her), memorabilia, music, statues, etc.
We certainly would have never gotten married if that stuff bothered her. Hopefully I can pull her in with something like Captain Toad or Wooly World.
Our shared hobby is martial arts, wushu specifically. As much as I would have loved for her to be a gamer it's just something I know I can't push on her.
BRocknRolla
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Generally speaking, I don't disagree with you here, and I think the whole, "How old are you?" thing was a dumb way to start the original poster's point, but I do think there's room for it to be valid.
You mention "falling in love" and set this in opposition to WoW. Isn't it possible that part of the reason someone might fall in love is because their partner appreciates their interests, or at least respects them? Maybe that wasn't what brought you and your SO together, but people can bond a great deal over shared interests.
As for the rest... Those are the life decisions you've made, and if those mean a hobby of yours has become insignificant, that's a value judgement you are choosing to make, not a universal truth that ought to be applied to relationships and marriage in general. Not everyone will choose to have kids, or focus on their career aspirations, or any number of other things, and might well attempt to maintain a hobby they love. Nothing at all wrong with that.
That would be pretty stupid though. A good relationship is built upon more than shared interests in leisure activities. Her music sucks but I love her to death, for example.
She plays Nintendo platformers with me and she honestly likes them but just cant deal with anything above that. We still get along perfectly. It's my biggest hobby apart from football which she hates.
Very true! And I'm with you on the bolded. I work around a lot of loud people and loud situations all day long. Sometimes I need to embrace my introverted-ness, have a bit of quiet/alone time and recharge a bit on my own - whether it's reading, gaming, or TV time.
And yeah, Destiny can be super-addictive so the guy with the divorce on the way could have logged way too much time and neglected his relationship detrimentally, or it could have been a combination of other stuff, I don't know. All I know is the wife basically blasted his neglecting her for Destiny and the upcoming split all over her Facebook status. Kind of immature, he may be better off without her...
Honest question: How old are you? You don't believe in individual free time in a relationship? I guess "turned off" is a strong word, but I can't imagine only dating "gamers" just because I enjoy the hobby.
Erin S Kittens
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She'll spend blissful eternities with Mount & Blade, Civ IV, Europa Universalis III, Total Annihilation: Kingdoms, Company of Heroes, and the Lego builder workshop. We don't play a lot of the same games/niches, but we appreciate each other's tastes.
Aaronrules380
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Again I'm pretty sure they're talking about people who would genuinely look down on you for being a gamer or just generally not respect your hobby. Being turned off by something is completely different to not liking it. As to why they'd mention that, the OP mentions hiding the hobby from your SO, which would be a sign that you're at the very least afraid it would affect the relationship if they knew
youngplaya21
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On the contrary: she plays more than me. She's huge into the Sim City/Sims games and 'free'mium games. She recently spent $100 for in game coins for Plants vs Zombies 2...
Jag
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I agree with the alone time thing too. I need my alone time to stay sane. I'm usually solo gaming during that "alone time". She is social. I am not. Which is good because it forces me to sometimes interact with other humans.
I need my downtime and she gives it to me. That's what is important to me at least.
I need my downtime and she gives it to me. That's what is important to me at least.
My wife plays a bit of Plants vs Zombies and Candy Crush on her phone, but that's it. She loves that I love gaming, although it's really a solitary pursuit for me as I mainly play to unwind on portables on the train home. Sometimes we'll play a bit of Mario together on the WiiU on the weekend, but really gaming is an occasional timewaster for her and a regular hobby to me. I really don't think being into each other's hobbies is required for a successful relationship, as opposed to a respect for the enjoyment your partner gets from or pours into something. Everything in moderation, I suppose, we both like to have quiet time alone but we always make sure to eat together and talk about each other's day too.
Recently I've been playing SMTIV and she got quite into the story when I was telling her about the factions over dinner, but I can't imagine her ever sitting down and poring over stats the way I do.
Recently I've been playing SMTIV and she got quite into the story when I was telling her about the factions over dinner, but I can't imagine her ever sitting down and poring over stats the way I do.
Yeah, That makes total sense. Looks like the conversation has changed a lot since the OP. My bad.
I convinced my girlfriend to play P.T. and The Last of Us the other night and she really really really got into both. We beat P.T. and she ended up playing though the beginning again right after, and ended up playing maybe 2 hours of TLoU so I think she enjoyed herself.
She had not played a single video game (to her knowledge), but she picked it up really quickly. Maybe she'll get more into it, I'd assume it will happen through osmosis just by sitting with me while I play them every so often.
She had not played a single video game (to her knowledge), but she picked it up really quickly. Maybe she'll get more into it, I'd assume it will happen through osmosis just by sitting with me while I play them every so often.
Croatoan
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My wife only likes First Person Shooters. Her favorite games are Battlefield 4, Nazi Zombies(from call of duty) and Borderlands 2. She isn't against RPGs (especially if they are First Person) but she can't stand cut scenes or "talky" games like Mass Effect or The Witcher 3.
Bascially, my wife just wants to kill shit. She always says, "If I want to watch something I will watch a movie, if I want story I will read a book, if I want to kill shit I will play games."
I heart her.
Bascially, my wife just wants to kill shit. She always says, "If I want to watch something I will watch a movie, if I want story I will read a book, if I want to kill shit I will play games."
I heart her.
I totally agree. My point was more in counter to the argument that one should find love in shared interests such as videogames. This is not true.
I mean, I'd argue that if you're choosing to focus your life on videogames instead of marriage or a career or education or kids or travel or fitness or whatever then something else has gone wrong.
In my opinion life needs to be explored and balanced. Sitting at home and playing videogames for the majority of it will impact how you see the world and how the world judges you. Neither will result in positives.
Melchiah
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My girlfriend of over six years doesn't care about gaming, but she supports my hobbies like I support hers, and we often talk about them with each other. She played with GI Joe figurines as a kid, and still has the comics, so she's not the most traditional kind of girl. If she was, she most likely wouldn't be with me.
Cyrus_Saren
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Pretty much. She'll play a couple games with me every now and then but usually she just prefers to watch TV.
Barristan Selmy
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My wife loves Black ops Zombies. It's her favorite.
She plays a little Destiny here and there. She really likes all Gears of War campaigns and Horde modes.
I wouldn't say she's into into games but she's into games...
She plays a little Destiny here and there. She really likes all Gears of War campaigns and Horde modes.
I wouldn't say she's into into games but she's into games...
thekonamicode
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My wife is playing Amnesia on her Vita right now. Last week we played through Until Dawn together. I'd say she is into games. We met ten years ago working together at an indie game store.
Here she is with John Romero!
Here she is with John Romero!
Psyrgery ES
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Not much.
She'll sometimes join me and play some Beat'em ups, 2d platformers and cute games like ilomilo and ibb'n obb.
Oh, forgot to add. She enjoyed Phoenix Wright and she completed Animal Crossing New Leaf.
She'll sometimes join me and play some Beat'em ups, 2d platformers and cute games like ilomilo and ibb'n obb.
Oh, forgot to add. She enjoyed Phoenix Wright and she completed Animal Crossing New Leaf.
Hoho for breakfast
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Nope not particularly. My wife's played a few games over the years like Animal Crossing and whatever the newest Mario is called.
She enjoys watching games like Life Is Strange and Until Dawn. She'd like LiS if she actually played it probably but would not like Until Dawn because of the QTE's.
She knows me and my son love video games though and only has a problem with it when my son obsesses over one game.
She enjoys watching games like Life Is Strange and Until Dawn. She'd like LiS if she actually played it probably but would not like Until Dawn because of the QTE's.
She knows me and my son love video games though and only has a problem with it when my son obsesses over one game.
BRocknRolla
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I too agree the a life worth living is one that contains balance. But I don't think we've any right to judge someone for not wanting some of those things, or for loving a hobby a great deal instead.
Now, if you've also chosen to have a family and kids, but are ignoring those things due to a hobby... Well that's s monstrously selfish thing to do and is clearly wrong. But if you've not sought those things to have the freedom to pursue your hobbies, I see no harm in it.
My girlfriend will acknowledge how important they are to me, but frankly she couldn't give a rat's ass about them, and I don't blame her. Occasionally I'll catch her playing games on her iPhone, but if she ever does get a controller in her hand it's to sit in my lap, take the controller from my hand and play herself. I'll direct her, and mostly she'll die anyways. So we'll laugh and then I'll turn off the game.
Though we were at a party a few months ago, she picked up a GC controller for Smash Bros on Wii U, and came in fifth place in an 8 player match, so I think the mayhem worked in her favour.
Though we were at a party a few months ago, she picked up a GC controller for Smash Bros on Wii U, and came in fifth place in an 8 player match, so I think the mayhem worked in her favour.
MiniBossBattle
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My wife and I both work in the games development for more than 25 years combined but she pretty much stopped playing games. Instead she likes to work on home projects and "can't just be infront of the screen all day". Her job changed from development to production but I still like games and be informed/see new things in games since they are often work relevant.
I make fun of her reality t.v. but she says the same thing about me watching Twitch. She feels like they are full of Peter Pans.
Holy crap, I was going to say you look like John Romero before I read the last bit.
I make fun of her reality t.v. but she says the same thing about me watching Twitch. She feels like they are full of Peter Pans.
Here she is with John Romero!
Holy crap, I was going to say you look like John Romero before I read the last bit.