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My fiancé is unconscious

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What can I say that hasn't been said?
Everyone here is with you. Keep her in your thoughts, we're doing the same. Hang in there.

Don't blame yourself, it wasn't your fault.
 
God man, I don't get moved to tears easily but they've definitely come. I just want you to know that I'll be sitting here with you and your fiance on my mind and hoping that the best comes out for you!

Stay strong and take this one minute, hour, day at a time!
 
Sounds like she's making good progress. Glad to hear.

If there's any positive to all this, afterwards you'll probably appreciate and love her even more.
 
Sending positive thoughts your way! I'm getting married next month and I couldn't even imagine what a mess I'd be of something happened to my fiancé. Stay strong, she's going to pull through this and by the sounds of it, you're a good man.
 
My family's thoughts and prayers are with you.

I'm also glad to read that you seem to be the kind of guy who will stick by her if/when she needs some time for recovery, no matter how long that might be. You're devoted to her, and that gives me more hope for humanity.
 
FStop7 said:
Have they said anything about brain swelling or mentioned anything about a shunt?
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Just that they are keeping an eye on the bleeding and have a neuro team at the ready if anything changes. She is just down the hall from a CT scanner.

I've been told they are trying to avoid anything invasive unless it is absolutely necessary. Right now the bleeding is beIng managed. They say hopefully it will all be reabsorbed, but are watching it closely all the same.

She's drifting in and out. The nurse just told me again that she will likely never appreciate how serious this was, even though everyone around her will. Said that she was dangerously close to being paralyzed or worse.
 
Good luck friend. Seems like she's already getting better, I'm sure everything will be turn out all right.
 
Crunched said:
She woke up for a few seconds. she is having trouble with dates and didn't recognize me at first, but after some crying she figured it out. She isn't forming whole sentences but is doing much better than only a few hours ago. No more breathing assistance besides nasal tubes. Asleep again now.

What a roller coaster.

There are at least two doctors monitoring her bleeding, and they say it is unlikely to become worse. Luckily the SICU is not very busy today. Her nurse is also very good. One of the best I've seen.

The consensus is that from the height she fell from, she is incredibly lucky not to be a quadriplegic. The doctors keep telling me how lucky she is.
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Amazing news. We're all pulling for her.
 
Make sure your sleeping. Right now you can't do much for her so its silly to drain your energy , she is going to need you when she wakes up.

Best of luck and I will keep her in my thoughts
 
eastmen said:
Make sure your sleeping. Right now you can't do much for her so its silly to drain your energy , she is going to need you when she wakes up.

Best of luck and I will keep her in my thoughts
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I think I am still riding off an adrenaline high. Ive been up since 5:30 yesterday morning, some 30 or so hours, with not even a hint of fatigue.
 
Crunched said:
I think I am still riding off an adrenaline high. Ive been up since 5:30 yesterday morning, some 30 or so hours, with not even a hint of fatigue.
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That's why the best advice to you right now is to get some sleep. You won't be doing much good if you collapse. At least make sure you drink enough if you absolutely can't sleep.
 
boris feinbrand said:
That's why the best advice to you right now is to get some sleep. You won't be doing much good if you collapse. At least make sure you drink enough if you absolutely can't sleep.
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Drink and eat. You're burning a lot more energy the longer you stay away.
Don't need both of you in a hospital bed.
 
AceBandage said:
Drink and eat. You're burning a lot more energy the longer you stay away.
Don't need both of you in a hospital bed.
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I grabbed a bag of Snyder's pretzels. My stomach has been upset by the whole ordeal and it's hard for me to keep down anything but water. Tried oatmeal earlier from the cafeteria and it came right back up. I think this is the first time I have literally been sick with worry.
 
boris feinbrand said:
That's why the best advice to you right now is to get some sleep. You won't be doing much good if you collapse. At least make sure you drink enough if you absolutely can't sleep.
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She'll need you to be strong for her once she's starting to recover.

My thoughts are with you two. Hopefully she makes a quick recovery.
 
WinoMcCougarstein said:
Sending positive thoughts your way! I'm getting married next month and I couldn't even imagine what a mess I'd be of something happened to my fiancé. Stay strong, she's going to pull through this and by the sounds of it, you're a good man.
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Congratulations, and good luck to you and your partner.
 
Crunched said:
Just that they are keeping an eye on the bleeding and have a neuro team at the ready if anything changes. She is just down the hall from a CT scanner.

I've been told they are trying to avoid anything invasive unless it is absolutely necessary. Right now the bleeding is beIng managed. They say hopefully it will all be reabsorbed, but are watching it closely all the same.
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That sounds promising, hopefully things will continue to progress.


Crunched said:
I grabbed a bag of Snyder's pretzels. My stomach has been upset by the whole ordeal and it's hard for me to keep down anything but water. Tried oatmeal earlier from the cafeteria and it came right back up. I think this is the first time I have literally been sick with worry.
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See if they'll give you something to help you get some sleep. If you continue down this road you'll end up in the hospital, too.
 
Crunched said:
I grabbed a bag of Snyder's pretzels. My stomach has been upset by the whole ordeal and it's hard for me to keep down anything but water. Tried oatmeal earlier from the cafeteria and it came right back up. I think this is the first time I have literally been sick with worry.
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Please just try to eat something. It's probably going to be hard, but just try and calm yourself down a bit now that everything has somewhat settled.
 
Just saw this thread, hate to hear this :( but I'm so glad to read that she is improving! Prayers are heading your way man, get some sleep and stay strong for her.
 
I am a type I diabetic and I have had seizures and fallen down stairs twice while trying to get help for myself. My memory and speech were affected for about a 24 to 36 hour period each time. The brain needs time to recover from a trauma like that, but luckily it sounds like she is beginning to come around. She'll likely be more and more herself each time she wakes up.
 
That is an unfortunate circumstance, and I'm sorry it happened. It sounds like it's no one's fault though, so please don't blame yourself or the other friend. I'm sure he feels really horrible too.

You should definitely get some rest and some food, the staff will let you know if there's any developments, anyway.

I hope everything works out, it seems like she's trending well, and is on her way to recovery. She is incredibly lucky that the injuries weren't worse. I wish her a speedy recovery.
 
thoughts and prayers from my girl and i. sounds like things are looking a little better so please keep us updated with the good news. and i know you said that your stomach isn't quite right but you should try to eat a little more. some soup maybe?
 
Just read thru the thread. My family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your partner.

I know it's hard to follow advice, but try to rest while she is resting. You both need your energy, and every little bit helps.

Also, thanks for the updates. We all hope for a full recovery.
 
She woke up long enough to ask what happened to her and where she was. Told her not to worry for now and just take it easy. Her eyes are red with blood. They keep wandering, it's evident she's still very disorientated. But she is speaking in sentences. Huge improvement. Didn't expect her to be so lucid so quickly.

When she first got here she said she remembered the fall, but now has no idea what happened.

I'm going to get something to eat as soon as her parents get here. We bought some cherry Garcia Ben and Jerry's for ourselves last night before she went out. We treat ourselves once a week and today was supposed to be that day. I'm going to save it for when she gets home.
 
I am not a religious guy but best wishes to you Crunched. Really. You'll both get over it, I am fairly sure. Never underestimate human tenacity. Take a nap, it'll do wonders to you.
 
Crunched said:
She woke up long enough to ask what happened to her and where she was. Told her not to worry for now and just take it easy. Her eyes are red with blood. They keep wandering, it's evident she's still very disorientated. But she is speaking in sentences. Huge improvement. Didn't expect her to be so lucid so quickly.

When she first got here she said she remembered the fall, but now has no idea what happened.

I'm going to get something to eat as soon as her parents get here. We bought some cherry Garcia Ben and Jerry's for ourselves last night before she went out. We treat ourselves once a week and today was supposed to be that day. I'm going to save it for when she gets home.
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Very good news. Try to calm down a bit and take a walk, I'm sure you've been up all night.
 
somehting very similar to this injury happened to a friend of mine several months ago. He was drunk and got hit by a car (no going fast) but he slid over the hood and fell back and hit his head. He was in a coma for several weeks and they had to remove part of his skull to keep his brain from swelling and killing him.

He wasn't able to speak when he finally woke up. Had to learn how to walk again. He has recovered an insane amount from that though. He can talk now, though he has some trouble remembering words. (the other day he asked what the word is for the place in school where you play games and swim.....and we were like....a gym?) Its crazy the way the human brain works....he is getting better everyday though. His speech is getting better and he's starting to be able to read again. He plays halo with us and cracks jokes and it seems like he's getting back to normal.

I'm sorry this happened to you, but it sounds like your fiance's outcome is looking pretty good. Recovery will surely take time so stick with her and help her the best you can. My best wishes are with you and her, man. Let us know how it goes.
 
Crunched said:
She woke up long enough to ask what happened to her and where she was. Told her not to worry for now and just take it easy. Her eyes are red with blood. They keep wandering, it's evident she's still very disorientated. But she is speaking in sentences. Huge improvement. Didn't expect her to be so lucid so quickly.

When she first got here she said she remembered the fall, but now has no idea what happened.

I'm going to get something to eat as soon as her parents get here. We bought some cherry Garcia Ben and Jerry's for ourselves last night before she went out. We treat ourselves once a week and today was supposed to be that day. I'm going to save it for when she gets home.
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I'm glad to hear she's improving. Please get some sleep.
 
Dahellisdat said:
somehting very similar to this injury happened to a friend of mine several months ago. He was drunk and got hit by a car (no going fast) but he slid over the hood and fell back and hit his head. He was in a coma for several weeks and they had to remove part of his skull to keep his brain from swelling and killing him.

He wasn't able to speak when he finally woke up. Had to learn how to walk again. He has recovered an insane amount from that though. He can talk now, though he has some trouble remembering words. (the other day he asked what the word is for the place in school where you play games and swim.....and we were like....a gym?) Its crazy the way the human brain works....he is getting better everyday though. His speech is getting better and he's starting to be able to read again. He plays halo with us and cracks jokes and it seems like he's getting back to normal.

I'm sorry this happened to you, but it sounds like your fiance's outcome is looking pretty good. Recovery will surely take time so stick with her and help her the best you can. My best wishes are with you and her, man. Let us know how it goes.
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Yes, I'm pretty hopeful at this point. She is talking to me in between sleeping. She's having trouble following conversations with the doctors and nurse, but she has been going back and forth with me at least a little bit.

I had a friend who suffered a similar injury about a year back. He was out for about a week and had really severe cranial swelling. He's been alright except he's lost his sense of smell. But even then, when visiting him in the hospital, he didn't look as beat up as my fiancé does. She is fragile. I'm closer to her too, of course, but she looks like she's been through hell. Two IVs, a neck brace, bandaged arms, nasal tubes for breathing, and straps to keep her legs from moving. It hurts to look at.

But the most important thing is her mental state, and I can't stop thanking whatever deity or force of nature allowed her to so quickly come out of it okay.

Now I jut hope it stays that way.
 
This sounds terrible. But it's a good sign that she's conscious. Stay strong and trust in the medical team! And like everyone else says, don't worry about all the other stuff.
 
Crunched said:
But the most important thing is her mental state, and I can't stop thanking whatever deity or force of nature allowed her to so quickly come out of it okay.

Now I jut hope it stays that way.
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I'd have thanked them for not allowing her to fall in the first place. She will recover because her spirit and body are strong. She has much to live for, your posts in this thread prove as much.
 
Crunched said:
She woke up long enough to ask what happened to her and where she was. Told her not to worry for now and just take it easy. Her eyes are red with blood. They keep wandering, it's evident she's still very disorientated. But she is speaking in sentences. Huge improvement. Didn't expect her to be so lucid so quickly.

When she first got here she said she remembered the fall, but now has no idea what happened.

I'm going to get something to eat as soon as her parents get here. We bought some cherry Garcia Ben and Jerry's for ourselves last night before she went out. We treat ourselves once a week and today was supposed to be that day. I'm going to save it for when she gets home.
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Happy for you man! Let's hope for a full recovery.
 
Crunched said:
I dropped her off at her friend's house at 11 and then went to the gym. Was going to pick her up. I could have stopped this from happening if I went with her instead.
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Or if you went with her you both may have been in a car accident. It was just a random event so DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF.

She's taken a hit of trauma but she's young . . . she'll get through this. I know it sounds stupid but be happy that things are not worse.
 
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