apocalidiot
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That's truly awful what happened to your fiance man. She sounds extremely strong and is already pulling through this at a great rate so far, and I wish the best of luck to you both down the road.
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My fiancé is unconscious
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It wasn't. Accidents happen. Live and let live.
Sanky Panky
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Glad to hear she's doing better. There is not much control over accidents like this, and you are doing what you can OP. Stay strong for the both of you, just as she's being equally strong.
In the end, going through this will make you both appreciate life that much more together, as bad as that sounds now.
It probably doesn't amount to much, but you have the support of this community. Get some rest!
In the end, going through this will make you both appreciate life that much more together, as bad as that sounds now.
It probably doesn't amount to much, but you have the support of this community. Get some rest!
Doctors say it's very important the she doesn't move her neck, as the largest skull fracture extends all the way from the left side above her ear to the base of her occipital lobe. Thankfully no bones are displaced. She will be wearing a neck brace for at least six weeks. She had to swallow some pills to help prevent seizures, and she complained her head felt like it was bursting when they were going down.
The main worry they say is still the brain bleed.
Her parents still aren't here. I had a small fruit bowl from the cafeteria. Still no sleep. Nurse said she's kicking me out for two hours in about ten minutes, so I'll be able to get some rest.
The main worry they say is still the brain bleed.
Her parents still aren't here. I had a small fruit bowl from the cafeteria. Still no sleep. Nurse said she's kicking me out for two hours in about ten minutes, so I'll be able to get some rest.
Sounds positive - everything is under control and the only variable is the bleeding, which they no doubt have a contingency for and are monitoring closely. Her pain swallowing is to be expected with fractures and swelling, but the fact that you guys are communicating after such a short period is amazing in itself.
Hopefully you'll sleep, but I have my doubts. Stay strong, you're almost there.
Hopefully you'll sleep, but I have my doubts. Stay strong, you're almost there.
bengraven
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For her sake or yours?
Also, the story about the party sounds pretty shady. Part of me really hopes she can forget about this incident, but part of me wonders if she could reveal more. Like you said, if he was screwing around or something similar.
Inferno313
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Just saw this thread for the first time. My thoughts and prayers go out to. I don't know what I'd do if my girlfriend was in this situation. 
It sounds like she's doing much better though!
It sounds like she's doing much better though!
I don't blame you for being unable to sleep. I can't even begin to imagine how I'd feel in your situation, but I do know that I'd be crippled with fear. I'm just random some dude on the internet, so there's nothing I can do to help, but both you and your fiance are in my thoughts. It sounds like she'll be OK, though, even if she has a long recovery ahead of her. Keep us up to date.
The brain is a strange organ. My mother had an inflammation a few years ago that (according to CT scans) destroyed two thirds of her brain. Doctors said that's pretty much a "game over" situation, but nobody ever understood what exactly caused it. Surprisingly enough, the inflammation suddenly stopped after a few weeks and the brain fully regenerated. I expected her to die or become a vegetable, but she's perfectly fine now. And nobody ever understood what the fuck was going on - what caused the inflammation, what caused the damage, why did the brain regenerate. TL;DR: brains don't work as you'd expect.
Anyway, I really hope everything goes well. The best of luck to you and your fiancé.
Anyway, I really hope everything goes well. The best of luck to you and your fiancé.
Taco_Human
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Holy fuck. Keep your head up man. Think positive. I hope your fiance recovers. I'd be scared if anything like that happened in my life.
If the nurse is as good as he says, it is for his benefit. He is no good to her when he is a walking zombie, and it is important to remember the world is still turning out there. Fresh air and a break will do him good.
makingmusic476
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This sounds terrible. I hope everything works out ok. =(
Yep.
All the best, Crunched. Try and ease your mind and get some rest. It's not selfish. It's in her interest, too.
I'm not thinking revenge, it's just hard for me to see this purely as a random freak accident. There is anger involved and I guess I am looking for somewhere to place blame, even if it is unfair.
Just grabbed a parfait and a coconut water from the cafeteria for lunch. The coconut water expired a month ago and the parfait was moldy. Said fuck it, threw them out, now in the waiting room trying to catch some Z's.
Before I left the room my fiancé apologized as if this were her fault. Everyone is full of guilt.
Save that energy for later, if at all, right now focus your energy on your fiancee. If she sees you supportive and in good spirits, she'll aim for that direction herself.
Having been by the bedside of someone close to me, I'm far too familiar of that paralyzing fear because the situation is beyond your control. It's also frustrating to hear people telling you to eat and rest when all you want to is be there the second she wakes up.
But they are right, you need to take care of yourself no matter how hard that is. Because she'll need you in the long haul and you need to be in your best state. My thoughts are with you and your fiancé. Stay strong, Crunched.
But they are right, you need to take care of yourself no matter how hard that is. Because she'll need you in the long haul and you need to be in your best state. My thoughts are with you and your fiancé. Stay strong, Crunched.
H.Protagonist
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Stay strong, Crunched. She sounds like she's fighting it pretty well. Just make sure you don't burn yourself out, so that you're 100% if she needs you. Sending good thoughts your way. Keep us updated when you can (or better yet, sleep).
This is good advice - you have to be pragmatic. Monitor and regulate your own condition so that you can be effective in whatever scenario your fiancee may need. Don't feel guilty for thinking about yourself.
One has to wonder why so many are apologizing to you. Her friend and her now.
thebaroness
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I know how it feels not being close to your family. I am the same way with my folks. If an emergency like this happened, I would probably also find more comfort in strangers on the internet then calling them.
Anyways I wish you and her the best, it seems like the worst of it is over and now she just needs to recover. I hope she gets well very soon.
Anyways I wish you and her the best, it seems like the worst of it is over and now she just needs to recover. I hope she gets well very soon.
You know people often say they're sorry when they're trying to express sympathy, right?
It's not even kind of a mystery - the friend feels responsible, she got hurt in his house - regardless of the circumstances, so apologizing to her fiancé makes sense. His fiancé obviously is seeing him wracked with worry and fear and sitting by her bedside, so she feels guilty for hurting herself and putting him through it.
Tribes of Trusty
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I just read the first message, I feel for you man, hang in there
I hope she's going to get better.
I hope she's going to get better.
bobs...onGaf
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Your looking too far into it, when a accident like that happens its normal for people to apologise, they are apologising because of the outcome, despite potentially not being involved. Im not saying he isnt too blame, but it is perfectly normal for him to apologise for what happened without being directly to blame.
I really wish you all and her the best Crunched.
MmmSkyscraper
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Getting married next month so this really hit a nerve. Good to hear some positive news already, look after yourself and I wish you both the best.
bengraven
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He needs to focus on her recovery and he can figure out the mystery later. No need to focus on anything else.
I'm pulling for both of you man, shit happens and it can suck when it happens to people you love. Just have faith that it will work out and don't forget to take care of yourself. She has a ton of people taking care of her, taking care of yourself is one thing you can do for her. Seeing you in rough shape will only make her more tense.
Devolution
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I can't imagine what you're going through right now Crunched but it's good you're with her and can comfort her. She's gonna need it.
HotHamWater
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Unfortunate that it happened Crunched, but it does sound like she's improving. Make sure you rest and keep yourself fed and watered. It sounds stupid, but it's real easy to forget and end up in a bad way.
Best of luck man.
Best of luck man.
Captain Tuttle
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Just read the whole thread. Tough read but it sounds like she's turning a corner. We're all pulling for her man. You need to take care of yourself though. You should probably go home as soon as her parents get there, have a meal and try to get some rest. She's going to need your help in the next few weeks
Tough to read the OP, crunched. I feel for you and your fiance. Stay strong. You know GAF is here to talk you through it.
Like others have been saying, make sure you take care of yourself. The agony and wandering thoughts are really going to take a toll on you and your mental state if you're exhausted and under-fed. I know you want to be there for your fiance, and you are. Remember that to take good care of her in the coming weeks, you also need to make sure that you're in good shape to do so. All the best.
Like others have been saying, make sure you take care of yourself. The agony and wandering thoughts are really going to take a toll on you and your mental state if you're exhausted and under-fed. I know you want to be there for your fiance, and you are. Remember that to take good care of her in the coming weeks, you also need to make sure that you're in good shape to do so. All the best.
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