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Be reasonable. Next time she says something flirty, make it clear that you already have a girlfriend that you love very much. ****ing a 16 year old colleague would not only risk your current job, but future ones as well. Also, tell her that her behavior makes you feel uneasy. If she don't stop, report her to your boss.
 
soul creator said:
I was in a similar situation with a 17 year old female coworker when I worked at Gamestop of all places. She literally came up to me one day and said "when we gonna ****?"

To avoid any potential drama (to say the least), I simply said "never". And yeah, I was her manager also.

I did have thoughts of knocking away a pile of discount cards and bending her over the trade-in counter :-/

Social standards suck don't they? :lol
 
Pull a House: make her cry, then get an "a-Ha" look and say that she's infected with a spore that has loose inhibitions as a side-effect and send her to the doctor. Then when she figures out you lied, she'll think you're a jerk and that'll kill the romance. :)

Nathan
 
Instigator said:
But come on, managerial position at 22? Is this a McDonald's job we are so concerned about?

I was the yongest manager (21 when promoted) in my company's Canadian history, if that means anything. It's retail, but a ton more respectable than McDonalds.

I'm not getting any sex from anyone at the moment, I'm "dating" the other chick, but haven't gotten any sex yet, which is even more hilarious when Jane asks me if I'm gon' **** tonight.

I do appreciate the serious replies in the thread and I'm glad to see that quite a few of you can relate. You wouldn't be able to tell if she was 16 unless she told you...she could pass for 19 easy, which is why my penis is confused.

Ceekus said:
This happened to me when I was almost the your age (I wonder if it's a college guy/high school girl thing...). Anyway, when I figured out she wasn't just flirting for flirts sake and it kind of fell on me (not literally, but close), to make a move or say um, thanks no. As it happened, I chose um, thanks no and I don't regret it (In fact, I had actually forgotten about the whole thing until I read this thread).

As far as how I did it, I basically told her she was really attractive and if I were closer to her age then I would have loved to, but that I just didn't think it made sense considering how far apart we were in age and in our lives (I mean, she was an intern and a junior in High School and I was about to graduate college. She acted so childlike I felt uncomfortable even being attracted to her). She didn't handle the rejection very well. She was very embarassed, didn't talk to me much after that, and quit the job not too long after. I felt somewhat responsible, but I didn't have any other choice as I saw it.

So, to answer your question, be honest with her, have the discussion and get it out of the way, and let her get over it however she needs to. I'm sure having a hot little girl dying to **** you is doing wonders for your ego, but if you're not going to have a relationship with her, you owe her that honesty so she can find someone else to throw herself at.

Great post, thanks.
 
Thriller said:
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Seriously, she's baiting you. If you weren't working together it would be a different story.
 
Instigator said:
STDs have something to do with the argument because it refers as to why kids/teens may not be responsible enough to engage in sexual relations and so as with any health issue with children, that responsiblity falls on the parent, to make that decision for them and hopefully, give them the right upbringing so that they can make those decisions on their own later in life.

But if I'm correct your laws don't prohibit teens from having sex with each other they prohibit teens having sex with adults which is why your argument doesn't stand. It's hypocritical and stupid to say "you won't have sex with an adult because you're not responsible enough but oh well you can have sex with another teen". That's what I'm trying to explain to you the last few hours. Can't you see the hypocrisy in that argument?
 
If I'm remembering you correctly from the pic thread, you're not exactly hurting in the looks/body department, you're an OK-looking guy, IMO. Maybe, little pale/dork-ish looking as well, but some would find that endearing more than off-putting and in many cases attractive.

Anyway, if you can attract good-looking women in your demo... than why is this even an issue, unless you're just a skanky bastard, in which case, I say do her and reap the consequences. :D

You have a girlfriend. I'm assuming she's miles ahead in the hot department in comparison to your 16 y/o employee...? If so, tell her about your employee's crush and have your girlfriend come down to your work, not to stake her claim, but to flaunt her hot shit. If she really is hotter than the 16 y/o, it should be glaringly obvious to the 16 y/o that she cannot compete, and it's likely she'll drop any and all interest in you from that point on.

Though, this all hinges on the assumption your current GF is noticeably hotter than the 16 y/o, and whether or not the 16 y/o has a clue. :p
 
Wouldnt it be nice if we were older
Then we wouldnt have to wait so long
And wouldnt it be nice to live together
In the kind of world where we belong

You know its gonna make it that much better
When we can say goodnight and stay together

Wouldnt it be nice if we could wake up
In the morning when the day is new
And after having spent the day together
Hold each other close the whole night through

Happy times together weve been spending
I wish that every kiss was neverending
Wouldnt it be nice

Maybe if we think and wish and hope and pray it might come true
Baby then there wouldnt be a single thing we couldnt do
We could be married
And then wed be happy

Wouldnt it be nice

You know it seems the more we talk about it
It only makes it worse to live without it
But lets talk about it
Wouldnt it be nice
 
xaosslug said:
You have a girlfriend. I'm assuming she's miles ahead in the hot department in comparison to your 16 y/o employee...? If so, tell her about your employee's crush and have your girlfriend come down to your work, not to stake her claim, but to flaunt her hot shit. If she really is hotter than the 16 y/o, it should be glaringly obvious to the 16 y/o that she cannot compete, and it's likely she'll drop any and all interest in you from that point on.


I disagree. The lolita will only get hornier and wetter if he goes that route...
 
ForzaItalia said:
I disagree. The lolita will only get hornier and wetter if he goes that route...

That's assuming she's a "lolita" type, and just out for some power-dick. She might just be a girl that buys into her own hype, that needs the kind of reality check that comes with seeing what hot really looks like. ;)
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
isnt there a box on your application of "do you have transportation to and from work?" how the hell did this girl get hired?

Apparently, she's hottest 16 y/o he's ever seen. ;p
 
What you need to do is take her aside as she's ending her shift and pull out your wallet. Remove two one dollar bills from your wallet, one American and one Canadian. First you show her the American dollar and say "This is what you are." Then you show her the canadian dollar and say "This is what you need to be." Then you nod.

Either she'll get it and leave you alone, or she'll get it and come back the next day looking even cheaper.
 
fortified_concept said:
But if I'm correct your laws don't prohibit teens from having sex with each other they prohibit teens having sex with adults which is why your argument doesn't stand. It's hypocritical and stupid to say "you won't have sex with an adult because you're not responsible enough but oh well you can have sex with another teen". That's what I'm trying to explain to you the last few hours. Can't you see the hypocrisy in that argument?



It's not hypocrisy, it's an open double standard, because of two different situations. Many teens have sex with each other, that's nothing new and no party is more guilty than the other anyway. I mean, what do you want to do? Throw two 13-year-olds in jail for having sex?

But an adult, supposedly more mature and with more responsibilities, you're supposed to know better, as showcased by the many guys in this thread telling stories of resisting advances from minors (whether they're telling the truth is another matter... :) ). In that case, the adult can get in trouble. There again, there is a gray area with underaged girls dating 18-20-year-old guys, but many communities have a minimum age gap before they consider something as statutory rape.

Maybe you just like to argue, but man, I’m getting the feeling this issue hits close to home in your case. Please share and make this topic even more interesting… :)
 
hahaha, this thread is getting too personal.

I'm a good looking guy, too skinny for my own liking and I usually have a few small pimples on my face, but I'm extremely (almost to a fault) confident. Looks are always secondary to woman next to confidence...most guys here besides your typical Boogies, Demons and Brockes know this. I have no problem getting women and majority of my friends are female. I've got the "cocky & funny" routine down to a science, although I'm not a complete asshole so I can keep the woman I attract. :lol

My first post said I wasn't going to hit it because I'm her superior and I wanted advice how to let her know that's the way it was. I got it, and now I'm good. She's very cute and very ****able, and I know for a fact her lifestyle is one of a much older girl (I'm sparing you the details, but she's no virgin and she's very liberal in her mindset on life). But I don't have anything to gain by hooking up with her other than another notch on my belt and the stress with keeping things under wraps.

I'm a guy, I love sex...but I'm not desperate. I've been on 2 dates with the older "Jane". I never said she was my girlfriend, I said we were dating. Sex will probably be a possibilty in a few more dates, If I was so inclined. I don't know if I will ever get there, because I also have 2 more dates lined up in the next week or so. One, is with my dream woman (hot, amazing taste in music/movies/games), the other is a crazy 19 year old from England who (and I'm already placed bets with my friend) would **** on the first date.
 
Instigator said:
It's not hypocrisy, it's an open double standard, because of two different situations. Many teens have sex with each other, that's nothing new and no party is more guilty than the other anyway. I mean, what do you want to do? Throw two 13-year-olds in jail for having sex?

But an adult, supposedly more mature and with more responsibilities, you're supposed to know better, as showcased by the many guys in this thread telling stories of resisting advances from minors (whether they're telling the truth is another matter... :) ). In that case, the adult can get in trouble. There again, there is a gray area with underaged girls dating 18-20-year-old guys, but many communities have a minimum age gap before they consider something as statutory rape.

Maybe you just like to argue, but man, I’m getting the feeling this issue hits close to home in your case. Please share and make this topic even more interesting… :)

You're right about that. I can relate because I had a relashionship with a girl a couple of years ago and the ages were pretty much the same (i was a little younger I think). And I'm telling you this because it's the biggest age difference I've ever had with a girl and I like shocking americans with my "sinful" life. :P
Btw it was nothing hidden, even her parents knew me.
Anyway I don't think any double standard can be justified especially in this argument. If anything it's better because the adult can be responsible for both as far as your STD argument is concerned. But something tells me that the STD argument is just an excuse to justify what your society has taught you: That having sex with a 16 year old is sick and should be punished.

Many teens have sex with each other, that's nothing new and no party is more guilty than the other anyway. I mean, what do you want to do? Throw two 13-year-olds in jail for having sex?

Oh so if you could stop teens from having sex you would do it? By your post it seems that you would. That's where we differ man. I don't think there's anything wrong with teenage sex and I would never do anything to stop it even if I could. Sex is something beautiful and I don't think it should be repressed because the only solution to STDs and pregnacy some stupid conservative religious minds can think of is abstinence (god I despise that word).
 
I say don't. Only because of your working positions. Putting your management position at risk is the real problem here.

Sometimes I see these 16 year olds you speak of who are unspeakable hot, and beat myself, kinda like that guy in Da Vinci Code.

I'm 21 btw.
 
Rur0ni said:
I say don't. Only because of your working positions. Putting your management position at risk is the real problem here.

Sometimes I see these 16 year olds you speak of who are unspeakable hot, and beat myself, kinda like that guy in Da Vinci Code.

I'm 21 btw.
I say don't for the reason above, and the fact that he's already dating another chick :/
 
etiolate said:
What you need to do is take her aside as she's ending her shift and pull out your wallet. Remove two one dollar bills from your wallet, one American and one Canadian. First you show her the American dollar and say "This is what you are." Then you show her the canadian dollar and say "This is what you need to be." Then you nod.

Either she'll get it and leave you alone, or she'll get it and come back the next day looking even cheaper.

?
 
Honest opinion from a HR side of things:

Tell her it would be an innappropriate relationship. Let your HR/Manager/etc in on the loop and write something up documenting the incident. Don't give her any indication that you're interested

Wouldn't it suck if she filed a lawsuit against you. . .
 
soul creator said:
I was in a similar situation with a 17 year old female coworker when I worked at Gamestop of all places. She literally came up to me one day and said "when we gonna ****?"

To avoid any potential drama (to say the least), I simply said "never". And yeah, I was her manager also.

I did have thoughts of knocking away a pile of discount cards and bending her over the trade-in counter :-/

You should've said "on your birthday."
 
fortified_concept said:
Oh so if you could stop teens from having sex you would do it? By your post it seems that you would. That's where we differ man. I don't think there's anything wrong with teenage sex and I would never do anything to stop it even if I could. Sex is something beautiful and I don't think it should be repressed because the only solution to STDs and pregnacy some stupid conservative religious minds can think of is abstinence (god I despise that word).

I thought I was pretty clear. I believe teen sex is unavoidable in the most cases. If some parents want to stop it, it's their call, but the law has no place in it.

That having sex with a 16 year old is sick and should be punished.

To me, 16-year-old girls are teens. Dumb teens. They may have some of the curves, but they don't have the face of an adult. They certainly don't speak like adults either, especially when it comes to maturity. I used to like 16-year-olds back when I was around 16 (or lower), but not anymore. Some of the photoshopped, dolled-up photos from teen starlets can look attractive, but that's not quite reality. So yes, when I see older men dating girls in that age bracket, I immediately suspect there's something wrong with these guys (control issues, immaturity, weird fantasies...). Enough to toss them in prison? That's for each community to decide, I don't care enough about the issue to vote either way. :D
 
second what kamikazechick says

if this were in the states, i'd say you're being set up for a sexual harrassment lawsuit, and even if you're not, you're opening yourself up for one if the girl decides to screw you over, the other way.

if you care about your career in this company, i'd file a complaint to HR against HER (or at least have a conversation with someone in HR about it). that way your ass is covered. a bit.

if she gets to file first, you're screwed. in the bad way. in a he said, she said situation, she wins.
 
Beezy said:
You should've said "on your birthday."

even if she was old enough, I'm not into workplace shenanigans :lol

oh yeah, as a fitting end to this story, this same chick eventually got fired from Gamestop...she got caught stealing Nintendo DS systems :lol
 
He Wants Chalupas said:
I am shocked by the lack of FHUTA in this thread.

Exactly! Took until post #81 to bring that up.

Speaking of which, it's totally ok to bone a minor in Canada it seems, but slipping it in the bumhole is a no-no:

3. there is no anal sex (unless you are in a legal, heterosexual marriage with the other person).

Unless married of course! Then you get to make Pockys of your own.
 
Instigator said:
To me, 16-year-old girls are teens. Dumb teens. They may have some of the curves, but they don't have the face of an adult. They certainly don't speak like adults either, especially when it comes to maturity.


I always laugh when people try and justify their affinity for younger chicks by saying shit like:

"I've seen 16 year olds that are more mature than 25 or 30 year olds"



Riiiiiighht......:lol
 
Easy solution: When you finally have sex with the other Jane, be sure to do it in front of her. It'll drive the point across that you're a one Jane man.
 
Are you retarted. She's just looking for a harassment case. Stay away.

In which case you are her boss so you can fire her for that.

My advice, just wait a couple years.
 
How about: "I'm 22 and your manager. This is innapropriate and I'll have to ask you to stop"

You're MR. MANAGER. Act like it
 
GilloD said:
How about: "I'm 22 and your manager. This is innapropriate and I'll have to ask you to stop"

You're MR. MANAGER. Act like it
*claps*

Also you should consider telling more people about what's going on. I mean, if you tell her her actions are innapropiate, she might get jealous and vindictive, and perhaps accuse you of something you didn't do...you see where I'm going with this right?

Tell some people everything, and make sure you've got people to back up your story. You never know what can happen.
 
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