SirButterstick
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Shit, without reading this thread, I decided to stop jerking it and made it to day 7. I felt aggressively sociable and more relaxed, and a better bone to boot. I think I'm going to try 14 days and see what happens.
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Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction
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CornBurrito
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I should buy stocks in chastity belt manufacturers.
Dude... Go see a doctor
Alcotholic
Banned
I'm sad to say that it's affecting me. I'm cutting back for my GF.
:lol This was many months ago. Pain is perhaps the wrong word, more like serious ball aching, like they cramped up after not being used for a month. It went away after a few days I believe.
Broseybrose
Member
Yes. It hurts so good. But i do know what youre talking about because sometimes ill go months without ejaculating.
Blue balls yo
This is the worst thread in the ever. Worse than the ones about real life people molesting kids and hacking them up and eating other people. Worse than the ones about people dying in a massive bombing or shooting. No one should stop masturbating for days on end, let alone weeks. A few hours is enough punishment. Screw you guys.
also, double posting, but a lot of sexual frustrations can be helped by a sex therapist, or a psychologist who is an expert on sexual studies.
While abstaining from fapping might help your situation, there's also a chance that it could be a psychological problem along with a minor physical problem.
And also remember kiddies that everybody has way different sex drives.You should never feel weird about getting aroused in a situation. Being open about your sexuality is a lot better then keeping it locked away for forever.
While abstaining from fapping might help your situation, there's also a chance that it could be a psychological problem along with a minor physical problem.
And also remember kiddies that everybody has way different sex drives.You should never feel weird about getting aroused in a situation. Being open about your sexuality is a lot better then keeping it locked away for forever.
It didn't feel very good to me :lol I haven't tried abstinence ever since, partly because of that.
I was under the impression that blue balls was just a myth?
AdventureRacing
Member
I think i'm going to give this a try. I kept giving up before but i'm interested to see what happens. I've kinda been watching less porn lately anyway for some reason.
For me the first week or so was a non event, didnt feel anything really, I just ignored my dick lol. GET BUSY DOING OTHER SHIT. Slept fine, wasnt highly strung etc. Now after eleven weeks Im not sleeping well-waking up in the morning sucks, cause your lying in bed and all your thinking about is sex-it fucking sucks not being able to just put on some porn and belt one out. Dont let that put you off, everyone adjusts differently. Its not going to be fun, its not supposed to be.
That said I feel quite happy and somewhat proud of myself-previously I made it to the six week mark twice and just lost my self discipline and gave in but now Im standing on the threshold of the twelve week mark and Im rapt. Im over porn, theres still that temptation to look at it but its far less then before I started. Now Im going to put my energy into finding a good woman well-Ive got enough energy right now to power this whole fucking building Im sitting in right now.
The key to this is GET BUSY AND STAY BUSY. If you can distract yourself then time passes quicker.
And if a lazy slob like me can do it then so can anyone else.
MrToughPants
Brian Burke punched my mom
Testicular Congestion, common occurrence when your balls go in hyper-production mode and try to feed your needs but too much gets pushed through the supply lines.
It's actually vasocongestion, and it's blood pressure, not spermatozoids.
Vicetrailia
Member
Seriously, ditto.
My problem is when I get home after work.
I eliminated the morning struggle by sleeping until I have to get up or I'm late. After work I go work out, but just whenever I get home from anything I struggle to fight the urge.
MrToughPants
Brian Burke punched my mom
My problem is my body is used to waking up at 5am for work as I have an early start. So come the weekend or days off Im still awake at 5am regardless, I can sometimes get back to sleep but its been a struggle since I started this. Gone are the days of putting on some Gianna Michaels etc and knocking one out which sends me back to sleep.
I usually lie in bed and surf the net on my phone for a while and then get up and go for a walk which usually takes my mind off things and gets my brain moving away from this, i need the exercise too so its a win win thing.
You should stop with the non-serious posts perhaps.
Great timing to post: after having tried masturbation abstinence several times since the thread inception, I can come with the honest impression that combining abstinence with a boost in self-motivation increases IRL arousal for your preferred gender. They go in par as far as I am concerned at least, and I have the impression that the attraction is reciprocal when it comes to the latter. In my case, the foreplay is what particularly stands out in the seduction game but for it to happen, the girl I am with must feel special.
The intellectual stimulation, the challenge to fit in a conversation about a topic about which I am not necessarily knowledgeable, the fear I feel before the first talk, the "guess what just crossed my mind" game, etc. are what make me horny the most. Nude bodies come close but the mood must be right, I am definitely not a get-to-go fucker.
The intellectual stimulation, the challenge to fit in a conversation about a topic about which I am not necessarily knowledgeable, the fear I feel before the first talk, the "guess what just crossed my mind" game, etc. are what make me horny the most. Nude bodies come close but the mood must be right, I am definitely not a get-to-go fucker.
This wasn't an issue with relationships in past. I was with a girl for two years, saw her about two or three days a week. Sex was regular, hence there was little reason to fap. My last gf and I saw each other almost every single day....We fucked almost every single day, lol. No problems. It was amazing. Those were the days....
Now my current girlfriend...I'm lucky if I see her once a week. We don't necessarily have sex every time we're together. We usually only get to to see one another after work or after long day. One of us usually ends up tired and the other horny as hell. Now, I'm not used to not having sex with a girlfriend on a regular basis. It drives me nuts (her too). We both have high sex drives. We talk about it a lot.
Anywho, like some of you, I wake up really early. I'll watch porn and rub one out to stay awake and motivate myself to get out of bed. I do this almost every morning. Needless to say, this routine has effected my ability to finish. That's it really. No other issues. Shes asked me to stop. I can't help it though. I'm used to having sex more often than this. Sometimes I'll be good and not do anything for a week. Once in a while we'll have incredible, mind blowing sex. But most of time it's meh at best, mainly because it we're tired and it takes to long for either of us to climax.
Hopefully things get better. I'll try to restrain myself. She's a freak and I'm a man slut. It should better than this.
Now my current girlfriend...I'm lucky if I see her once a week. We don't necessarily have sex every time we're together. We usually only get to to see one another after work or after long day. One of us usually ends up tired and the other horny as hell. Now, I'm not used to not having sex with a girlfriend on a regular basis. It drives me nuts (her too). We both have high sex drives. We talk about it a lot.
Anywho, like some of you, I wake up really early. I'll watch porn and rub one out to stay awake and motivate myself to get out of bed. I do this almost every morning. Needless to say, this routine has effected my ability to finish. That's it really. No other issues. Shes asked me to stop. I can't help it though. I'm used to having sex more often than this. Sometimes I'll be good and not do anything for a week. Once in a while we'll have incredible, mind blowing sex. But most of time it's meh at best, mainly because it we're tired and it takes to long for either of us to climax.
Hopefully things get better. I'll try to restrain myself. She's a freak and I'm a man slut. It should better than this.
andthebeatgoeson
Junior Member
I've cut back recently. It's hard during the weeks where I can't see the wife but I've boosted my sexual frequency. I'm turning 35 and it's not like it used to be. I could rub it out twice then go at it with her a couple of times. I'm getting old. One session and I'm okay for the day. So, it's time to put this dog down. I got rid of my stash of porn and everything.
Well Ive made it to 90 days and besides feeling like a smurf cause my balls are so blue Im very happy with myself and how things have turned out over the last three months.
I've got more energy then Ive ever had in my life, I've got off my ass and accomplished things that I thought I couldnt do, and I proved myself wrong and Im happy with that.
There have been times when I've wondered what the hell Im doing, Ive lost plenty of sleep because Ive got so much energy that I just cant sit still but having gone through all that shit, its worth it. Porn is just fake, its no real substitute for getting off your ass and getting out into the real world.
Im done with it.
Doesnt mean to say there wont be temptations but knowing how far ive come over the last three months gives me the motivation to stay strong and fight that temptation.
If your thinking about this, give it a go, its not fun, but when you start breaking through and your desire for porn goes away and you start thinking about real women and working on relationships with them, it feels soooo good. Ive got so much more energy to do stuff, anything big or small, a lot more confidence in myself and who I am, this isnt life changing but I feel that my quality of life is so much better.
Now all I gotta do is get laid lol
I've got more energy then Ive ever had in my life, I've got off my ass and accomplished things that I thought I couldnt do, and I proved myself wrong and Im happy with that.
There have been times when I've wondered what the hell Im doing, Ive lost plenty of sleep because Ive got so much energy that I just cant sit still but having gone through all that shit, its worth it. Porn is just fake, its no real substitute for getting off your ass and getting out into the real world.
Im done with it.
Doesnt mean to say there wont be temptations but knowing how far ive come over the last three months gives me the motivation to stay strong and fight that temptation.If your thinking about this, give it a go, its not fun, but when you start breaking through and your desire for porn goes away and you start thinking about real women and working on relationships with them, it feels soooo good. Ive got so much more energy to do stuff, anything big or small, a lot more confidence in myself and who I am, this isnt life changing but I feel that my quality of life is so much better.
Now all I gotta do is get laid lol
Masterphoenix
Neo Member
I don't think i've had this problem but then again i haven't been able to ''test" that theory in a long while. That would suck though. It would have to be no fap November all year round for those afflicted.
I literally do not think this is possible for me, and it's fucking sad. I'll start and the next day go "Why should I bother?"
I've had periods of one to two months without doing it, not even feeling the necessity of doing it (and feeling quite proud of myself too). Now, for the past six months or so it's been something of just once or twice every week, as I've been busy with coursework, classes, running, etc. The problem now is I'm just starting summer vacations. So I literally have nothing to do. So I spent a lot of time in front of the computer, and as I get bored, the urges get strong.
In past summers I've done it even once every day, all days, and I actually don't want to repeat that, I'm quite tired of it. The problem is fighting the urges when you have nothing else to do...
In past summers I've done it even once every day, all days, and I actually don't want to repeat that, I'm quite tired of it. The problem is fighting the urges when you have nothing else to do...
CornBurrito
Member
No, apparently you can't have any sex or even sexual thoughts for the whole 3 month period.
threetri333
Banned
I'm surprised this thread didn't get locked. I got banned for bumping a 6 month old thread on Facebook and that got locked.
On topic, it's hard to do it without fantasizing. I fantasize a lot.
On topic, it's hard to do it without fantasizing. I fantasize a lot.
Ha I'm sure that would not end up well for me, my head would be rolling down in like 1 week
Of course you can have sex and have sexual thoughts. The whole point of this "experiment" is to stop yourself from getting all of your sexual stimulation staring at a screen.
CornBurrito
Member
Not according to earlier posts in this thread, and the site itself. Both claim that you have to reset your dopamine receptors by refraining from all sex and sexual activities (including fantasy) for 3 months.
Sounds fun.
starchild excalibur
Member
In my case it wasn't as long as 2.5 hours, but everything else was pretty much accurate. I'm gonna try abstaining from porn and see how it goes.
Seriously.
Really, this whole story about stopping masturbation to improve your energy and boost your testosterone levels sounds like complete hogwash to me. I'm not really that big into porn (mostly because I find having a vivid fantasy is much more entertaining), but some of you make it sound like some sort of miracle cure.
Back in the days masturbation made you blind and/or go to hell, these days it drains your will to live and to be social.
Of course watching 7 hours of nasty porn each day while furiously wrestling your lizard every twenty minutes is going to have an effect of you, but forcing yourself to not masturbate for several weeks? Masturbation is one of the very few things in life that are both completely free and highly enjoyable.
And I think if masturbation really was such a huge drain on testosterone levels we would have some more reliable evidence than some random weird blog entries.
Why doesn't someone get a peer reviewed study out on this stuff. That website is just a massive load (ahem) of psudeu science. Variable control dammit. It may work for people but the site doesn't explain what worked. Not watching porn? Not having a bat? The apparent self confidence that comes from being in control of yo dick? Placebo effects?
CornBurrito
Member
Yeah I don't trust the site completely.
SnakeSlashRO
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The_Inquisitor
Member
I think it's time for another no sex pact thread lol.
I thought the whole point was to strictly cut out "screen stimulation", and that intimacy with a girl was actually encouraged through this process. I think doing so would work for most people. If you need to cut out real sex as well then you must be really broken.
spectre_assassin
Neo Member
THIS.
Why would it?
It's not a peer reviewed study, and it doesn't link to any peer reviewed studies that explains what is working when people abstain from jerking and porn. It's confounding variables if this site just says to do both.
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