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[maomaoIYP]

Did you do cardio or weights? Many people I speak to dont tend to enjoy cardio unless its via a sport.

Yeah I do whatever cardio my body allows me to, which honestly isn't much because I have bad knees and shins from an old injury. But you are right, I don't enjoy it. My mind alternates between struggling to keep in pace or overthinking things.

I'm dating and I still don't have anything to look forward to.

You don't look forward to seeing your gf for the next date? A trip together? Finding out her views on things that matter to you? Experiencing something new with her? Growing old together? All these things are very important to me when I'm with someone.

Nothing. I sleep almost the entire day on each of my days off. I do nothing. I go nowhere. Man I'm a barrel of fun.

I know sometimes your replies aren't totally serious and I really hope that this is one of those times. If it isn't, why don't you try some of the stuff the others have posted? We can embark on changing ourselves together.

OP we're in the same situation. I'm financially secure, own a good business and have all the checkbox ticked besides having my own family. Books, movies and games have filled that void for the first 25 years of my life but now it doesn't feel enough. Doing outdoor activities like sports, hiking and traveling dont do it for me either.


Sometimes you just want companionship that goes beyond friendship.

YES! THIS SO MUCH. It's like filling your life with all these things hoping it will make you happy only to realize you really need someone to share it with.

When you've really, completely given up on ever having a relationship, then there's no reason to want to get motivated. (If that makes any sense.)

I'm at a point where I see the sense and I agree. However I'll still like to change though, as some of the other posters have described.

 

[maomaoIYP]

I fit your description, 30+, single, stable job/income.

And I look forward to coming home at the end of the day, closing my door, and just not talking to ANYONE. Best feeling in the world.

You don't ever get lonely? Don't want someone to ask you how your day was over a pizza and a beer? And then when she tells you about how her day was crappy, you can give her a hug and tell her tomorrow will be better?

 

[Foffy]

I look forward to the present, to today, and to live that with love and being content with whatever may unfold. I am single, sure, but lonely? Lonely imposes the idea I have to be with someone, and if someone is in a present situation where that is not happening, one impoverishes themselves if they really think that way. I try to break that nonsense.

You are alive today, so make today interesting. Do what you dig, but don't force anything as a necessity for that is the mistake many fall into. Let life play along.

 

[Calibus]

Dying.

This. You don't have to worry about anything once you die and don't have to feel anything either.

 

[Gibbo]

Same situation as you OP. Early 30s, good playing job, living with my parents in a nice home. I think that singlehood is something that I've learnt to live with- and it is something that I don't mind at all. I work late during the weekdays so I hardly have anytime for leisure activities. I do very much look forward to the weekends and it's usually planned out in the same manner every Saturday and Sunday. Morning Jog at ECP, Breakfast at my club, Gym in the evening, gaming,reading, swimming in between. More often than not, I'm doing these activities alone.

I have my own group of friends, but to be honest, 50% of the time, I enjoy doing stuff alone. Hell, I'm heading to town later to catch a 11pm showing of How to Train Your Dragon alone later and it was something that I was looking foward to since Wednesday when I booked my ticket

There are some times when I would appeciate having someone sharing my activities with me- namely when I'm going travelling. I reckon I would enjoy my overseas trips abit more if I went with someone- but that's about it.

 

[maomaoIYP]

I look forward to the present, to today, and to live that with love and being content with whatever may unfold. I am single, sure, but lonely? Lonely imposes the idea I have to be with someone, and if someone is in a present situation where that is not happening, one impoverishes themselves if they really think that way. I try to break that nonsense.

You are alive today, so make today interesting. Do what you dig, but don't force anything as a necessity for that is the mistake many fall into. Let life play along.

You can be by yourself without ever feeling lonely, and you can also be with someone and yet feel terribly lonely. And as for the bolded I'm tired of not feeling in control of my destiny, I feel like I always end up waiting for things to happen.
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Same situation as you OP. Early 30s, good playing job, living with my parents in a nice home. I think that singlehood is something that I've learnt to live with- and it is something that I don't mind at all. I work late during the weekdays so I hardly have anytime for leisure activities. I do very much look forward to the weekends and it's usually planned out in the same manner every Saturday and Sunday. Morning Jog at ECP, Breakfast at my club, Gym in the evening, gaming,reading, swimming in between. More often than not, I'm doing these activities alone.

I have my own group of friends, but to be honest, 50% of the time, I enjoy doing stuff alone. Hell, I'm heading to town later to catch a 11pm showing of How to Train Your Dragon alone later and it was something that I was looking foward to since Wednesday when I booked my ticket

There are some times when I would appeciate having someone sharing my activities with me- namely when I'm going travelling. I reckon I would enjoy my overseas trips abit more if I went with someone- but that's about it.

I used to feel the same about not minding being single, and indeed I am used to doing almost everything alone as well, even traveling. Somehow as I've gotten older I keep thinking "If this is all there is to life, why do I feel so empty?". I understand that I shouldn't allow my own happiness be dictated by the presence or absence of a partner, so right now the thing I really need is to try some of the stuff the rest have suggested, and try to live my life a little differently. Maybe I'll gain some perspective.

 

[Prez]

Being lonely has the great advantage that you can make drastic decisions with nothing to lose. I'm looking forward to moving abroad.

 

[Funky Papa]

34 and single. Happy as a pig in shit since I cut my workload and finally have time for myself. Here's some advice in case you are interested.

• Hit the bars/dating sites. I've gotten more tail in the past couple of months than in the past 6 years. Not that that was hard or anything...
• Are you self-employed/interested in raising your own business? Look into your city's activities. You'll probably find a lot of interesting meetings and events that may inspire you or help you. I think I may launch something new in a few months if I can make some numbers work.
• Hit the gim. You go and hit that motherfucker up. Exercise and a proper diet not only will make you look better, but will replenish your energy. I just cannot emphasize how important it is to keep yourself fit, specially once you are past 25.

Also, try to save money. You are past 30, so you probably have a decent salary. Treat yourself every now and then, but don't go on massive splurges like changing cars with no reason. Money may come handy for point 2.

Everything else will come together.

 

[Herne]

36 next month, single by choice though it can feel lonely at times. I don't really look forward to much (games, I guess), but just take each day as it comes. Others have mentioned dying, and I'd be lying if I didn't think of that on occasion, but I try not to dwell on it. Giving up would be a terrible thing, though I've already given up so much - but I just don't think about it if I can help it.

 

[Lespedeza]

Dying.

only answer in this thread I agree with

 

[Foffy]

You can be by yourself without ever feeling lonely, and you can also be with someone and yet feel terribly lonely. And as for the bolded I'm tired of not feeling in control of my destiny, I feel like I always end up waiting for things to happen.

Do you think it's your line of thinking? If I can equate life to a dance, it is key to twerk along to the melody. By trying to control it, you risk collapsing what you want, like if you squeezed a rabbit with love but in doing so you killed it. I have found it much more liberating to let go and be willing to just go where the experiences in life take me. If I take control over that, then the conflict and struggle starts to begin; this didn't go that way, this should have happened, all of that jazz happens because people want to match what they impose in their minds to reality, and a key thing people should be reminded of is that is the beginning of internal conflict. This happens very astutely with people who think rugged individualism is a solution, not understanding that by existing you are going to depending on factors all of your life, which will only remind you that you are not an isolated bubble.

By asserting destiny, it makes it sound like you have a plan that ought to happen. Why not be more free in saying you'd like things to go X way, but you can be absolutely content if they do or don't come through? Most people don't do that, and in doing so they may obtain happiness on the one end - if it clicks - or they will have made for themselves a perspective of sorrow and trouble, it if falters.

 

[Easystride]

Coffee and weekends. And rewatching old Japanese movies.

 

[Woffls]

Absolutely nothing. I'm practically dead inside and apparently I can't keep people around because of it.

I can talk about pretty much anything, but I don't care about anything so I guess that means I'm lacking empathy or some shit that normal people seem to care about.

All I used to enjoy was going to the pub with my friends, relieving myself of the burden of aimless thought, and having interesting discussions about literally anything.

I just joined the local leisure centre so I will go there for gym, tennis and swimming and see if I can magically start giving a shit.

Not a few minutes ago I was sat here trying to think of something to do. I live on the edge of a National Park, have a club, could go to the coast for shopping, have a ton of games to play... but I didn't want to do any of it. So I just sat there thinking about the life I don't have.

 

[Calibus]

• Hit the bars/dating sites. I've gotten more tail in the past couple of months than in the past 6 years. Not that that was hard or anything...
• Are you self-employed/interested in raising your own business? Look into your city's activities. You'll probably find a lot of interesting meetings and events that may inspire you or help you. I think I may launch something new in a few months if I can make some numbers work.
• Hit the gim. You go and hit that motherfucker up. Exercise and a proper diet not only will make you look better, but will replenish your energy. I just cannot emphasize how important it is to keep yourself fit, specially once you are past 25.

Also, try to save money. You are past 30, so you probably have a decent salary. Treat yourself every now and then, but don't go on massive splurges like changing cars with no reason. Money may come handy for point 2.

Everything else will come together.

All easier said than done.

The bars in my area are filled with people with no self-control who drink themselves into a stupor and go there with dates/spouses anyway.

Becoming self-employeed is difficult in a market dominated by big business and is much more hassle than it's worth.

I've used Match.com and POF for years and have very little luck -- met mostly non-committal women who end up leaving the site and finding someone elsewhere.

I've hit the gym and go pretty frequently and have cleaned up my diet significantly. After a while you plateau and the effectiveness of both wears off.

I have a pretty good amount of money saved up, but I am not salaried. The only reason I am able to have said money is due to outside help I am receiving from family. Good-paying jobs aren't that easy to find.

 

[ponpo]

FF7 remake, owning a mountain wasabi farm, death, in that order.

 

[Rad-]

You don't look forward to seeing your gf for the next date? A trip together? Finding out her views on things that matter to you? Experiencing something new with her? Growing old together? All these things are very important to me when I'm with someone.

Not really to all of those. When we do something we just do it. I don't plan much. And I don't think about the future in general.

 

[draetenth]

I look forward to time away from humanity. I play video games, read some books, and take walks. I'm very happy with my life as it is now. I've even taken off from work since Wed. to celebrate my 30th birthday to do the things I love.

 

[Snkfanatic]

Pretty much in the same situation, in my 30s and single, I actually have some great hobbies that I look forward to. It can suck sometimes but then again every time I get into a long relationship I always yearn for being single so I don't know.

I will say last year getting back into some old hobbies really helped my outlook on life.

 

[Funky Papa]

All easier said than done.

The bars in my area are filled with people with no self-control who drink themselves into a stupor and go their with dates/spouses anyway.

Come on, there must be some decent places somewhere, unless you are living in the sticks.

Becoming self-employeed is difficult in a market dominated by big business and is much more hassle than it's worth.

Now this doesn't make any sense. There are countless careers and business opportunities without big names crushing the competition, trades being the most obvious. I've been self-employed since I was 21 or so. Hell, I was running my own business even when I was a salaried employee for another company. You just need to find something that clicks.

I've used Match.com and POF for years and have very little luck -- met mostly non-committal women who end up leaving the site and finding someone elsewhere.

I have nothing but never ending appreciation for dating site-floozies, but if you are looking for something more serious you should probably look at cultural activities and see if you meet someone (I suck at this, can't say I have good advice here).

I've hit the gym and go pretty frequently and have cleaned up my diet significantly. After a while you plateau and the effectiveness of both wears off.

You have a problematic attitude. I know this because I've been there. Double up.

I have a pretty good amount of money saved up, but I am not salaried. The only reason I am able to have said money is due to outside help I am receiving from family. Good-paying jobs aren't that easy to find.

Now that's a harder thing.

 

[Magician]

I find pleasure in solace. I like to think of myself like a magic user closed up on their ivory tower studying the arcane.

 

[thesoapster]

(25 here)

I'd say hanging out with friends. Being lonely in that sense doesn't mean that you don't have people in your life per se.

 

[MDSVeritas]

Being single and not always being around people doesn't mean there's less to look forward to, it's just a different way of living your life. Romantic relationships are certainly not close to a be-all-end-all for a sense of purpose or meaning in your life. They've got stability and romance to them but there's also a sense of freedom and possibility from not being so closely tied to someone.

For one thing, friends. If you're single it doesn't mean you've got to be alone, or that nobody cares about you or you don't care about people. Make friendships, there's a lot of unique people out there, and they've all got some flaws and some issues but a lot of them are pretty cool, and taking a chance to talk to and care about someone besides a SO can pay off hugely. People often seem to under-play the significance of friendships as compared to romance, but you find some awesome people to get to know and open up to and you'll have a lot to start looking forward to.

Also, find some stuff to get into. Play some interesting looks games, go through a bookstore and buy at least 2 interesting books. Get involved in something, then maybe find some communities that are involved in the same things.

Go through your facebook or phone contacts, find someone you used to talk to more, or someone you sort of just drifted from, and contact them. See how they're doing, if they want to get coffee and catch up. While you shouldn't do it, relationships are easier to let stagnate, friendships need to be constantly sustained.

The trick to staying busy without an SO is realizing that everything is on you. You're not going to wake up and walk downstairs to have someone just be there to do things with. You've got to message people, ask people to meet up, you've got to risk stuff. And you know what? You'll get turned down, you'll get pushed away, that's how this goes, but you can get some great friends, see some great movies, books, or games, and be busy and happy if you're willing to do something about it. So do something about it.

 

[Funky Papa]

Go through your facebook or phone contacts, find someone you used to talk to more, or someone you sort of just drifted from, and contact them. See how they're doing, if they want to get coffee and catch up. While you shouldn't do it, relationships are easier to let stagnate, friendships need to be constantly sustained.

The trick to staying busy without an SO is realizing that everything is on you. You're not going to wake up and walk downstairs to have someone just be there to do things with. You've got to message people, ask people to meet up, you've got to risk stuff. And you know what? You'll get turned down, you'll get pushed away, that's how this goes, but you can get some great friends, see some great movies, books, or games, and be busy and happy if you're willing to do something about it. So do something about it.

The bolded is a brilliant suggestion that totally passed over my head. A few months ago I got in contact again with a couple of old friends that became stranded due to taking different paths in life (also known as GETTING OLD) and I've managed to increase a social circle that was getting positively tiny as my closest friends began to get married and what not. It helps that one of those friends is dating a girl ten years her junior *and* said girl has tons of college friends. /creep

 

[blame space]

the return of our lord and savior Jesus Christ

 

[John Dunbar]

wii u price drop.

 

[Horseticuffs]

Eh, I work toward my goals. I've got a pretty debilitating deficiency that I need to correct before I can move on with my life.

I look forward to getting out in nature and being active. I look forward to work, goofing off on the internet, podcasts and audiobooks (Just finished "The King in Yellow" today!), game and album releases. Once I fix my crippling deficiency I intend to get a cat or a dog. I'd like to get a few more tattoos some day.

Once I correct my issue I'll start dating again, it just isn't a good time for me. I need to fix my shit first.

 

[p_xavier]

I bought myself a bengal 4 months ago. The loneliness is still there but at least my general life anxiety has decreased since I got him. I've asked my boss to increase my work load so I can work 72 hours a week instead of 60.

 

[ShaneB]

I'm not in your situation, but if I was I'd get a dog!

First post actually is something I've been thinking about a lot given a few of the books I've read recently and reminded me how much I would benefit from having a dog. I've let so much just stagnate knowing I should be making bigger changes to my life, and I'm terrified of taking those steps.

Pretty similar situation, now 32, all I really look forward to is a weekend without work, and various weekly things to make each day a little exciting, be it various form of media or sports I guess.

 

[maomaoIYP]

Do you think it's your line of thinking? *snip*

By asserting destiny, it makes it sound like you have a plan that ought to happen. Why not be more free in saying you'd like things to go X way, but you can be absolutely content if they do or don't come through? Most people don't do that, and in doing so they may obtain happiness on the one end - if it clicks - or they will have made for themselves a perspective of sorrow and trouble, it if falters.

This is an interesting philosophy, and in fact you are right, it is my line of thinking. I'm not a controlling person in terms of relationships but I have a desperate need to feel that I'm in charge and responsible for my destiny. I'm a somewhat negative person and when I look back I tend to see the bad things that happen instead of the good. If I just let things "flow" like you, I worry that I will end up blaming other people rather than myself when I end up in a predicament.

Like in my relationship that just ended, there wasn't anything about me that she disliked, but she just wasn't attracted to me. And I keep blaming myself (instead of not blaming anything at all) that I didn't try harder.

Not really to all of those. When we do something we just do it. I don't plan much. And I don't think about the future in general.

But does it unsettle you? Do you feel uncomfortable about just taking things as they come?

Go through your facebook or phone contacts, find someone you used to talk to more, or someone you sort of just drifted from, and contact them. See how they're doing, if they want to get coffee and catch up.

The trick to staying busy without an SO is realizing that everything is on you. You're not going to wake up and walk downstairs to have someone just be there to do things with. You've got to message people, ask people to meet up, you've got to risk stuff. And you know what? You'll get turned down, you'll get pushed away, that's how this goes, but you can get some great friends, see some great movies, books, or games, and be busy and happy if you're willing to do something about it. So do something about it.

This is great advice, thanks. I'm going to do exactly this right away. There's someone that I didn't forgive a few years back for something that she did in a fit of anger. I feel bad for ignoring her for so long and I want to beg for her forgiveness.

I bought myself a bengal 4 months ago. The loneliness is still there but at least my general life anxiety has decreased since I got him. I've asked my boss to increase my work load so I can work 72 hours a week instead of 60.

Holy crap dude, don't kill yourself with overwork. ;_;

 

[kiguel182]

This thread is depressing the crap out of me.

I'm only 20 but I feel like you describe. It sucks and I don't want 60 plus years of this. I still doubt it will change.

I try to go out with people, be with other people and out of the house helps. But then I get alone again and it all comes back. It sucks.

At least I'll die one day, there's always that.

 

[John Kowalski]

wii u price drop.

hell yeah

 

[p_xavier]

Holy crap dude, don't kill yourself with overwork. ;_;

Doing nothing is what kills people...

 

[HGStormy]

A comfy casket.

this.

Spoiler

jk can't afford one

 

[MORTALIS]

Especially those guys like me who've hit their 30s, have stable jobs, but nothing to come home to, and you're single, lonely and bored but not for a lack of trying.

What do you look forward to? For tomorrow? For next week? Next month? For next year?
I suddenly realized I forgot what it feels like to have nothing to look forward to and it scares me.

To have something to hope for, something to look forward to, is a powerful motivator.

The next anal stench/leakage thread on gaf. They never fail to afford me the opportunity to traverse the entire spectrum of human emotion.

But, in seriousness, check out some Alan Watts.

 

[maomaoIYP]

This thread is depressing the crap out of me.

I'm only 20 but I feel like you describe. It sucks and I don't want 60 plus years of this. I still doubt it will change.

I try to go out with people, be with other people and out of the house helps. But then I get alone again and it all comes back. It sucks.

At least I'll die one day, there's always that.

When I was 20 I had a lot to look forward to, so I'm hoping that maybe that's true for you too.
Or maybe I'm really saying this because I need to hear it as well.

 

[Irminsul]

Now that's all gone with the wind all the stuff I used to do when I was single doesn't fulfill me anymore, and hence I've suddenly lost the feeling of having something to look forward to.

Oh yeah, I know that feeling. Even though my last relationship ended well over three and a half years ago and I definitely didn't dwell in a cave for all that time since then. I'd actually say I do a lot more stuff now than before (or, in fact, even with my ex-girlfriend)… visiting cities I always wanted to see (Tromsø during the polar night and Vienna, just to name a few), going to music festivals and taking hobbies like photography a bit more seriously. Some of that I do with a very good friend of mine, some of it alone.

And even though I never was the most extroverted person alive (quite the opposite, actually) and love it to, e.g., go on a walk alone and with as few people around me as possible, it's, weirdly enough, the things I do alone that sometimes make me feel very lonely. Not only that, but this feeling is always followed by the sort you described… "What's the use? What or who am I doing that for?" Yes, that question can always be answered with "For yourself, or do you really think you matter in the big scheme of things?". I don't really want to matter "in the big scheme of things", actually.

But sometimes I feel it would really help to have someone to share your experiences, your feelings, frankly, your life with, in a way no friend could. It certainly doesn't help that basically everyone around me has a SO (at least I perceive it that way), including my very good friend. Some of them are even getting fucking married - which isn't something I would actively pursue, but it makes me feel old. Even though I'm only 26. It also doesn't help that in the last three years after my ex-gf dumped me I not only didn't find a new girlfriend, I never actually saw a chance to. I'm pretty bad at detecting if someone likes me (I could tell stories from my equivalent of High School, but I think I'd had to be seriously drunk to ramble about that in a public forum), but still, I don't think there really was any chance in the last three years. And sometimes I panic that there never ever will be, knowing my shy introverted self and such. Also, the last thing I want to be is appearing desperate. I hate that. If I find a girlfriend, okay, that'd be pretty great, but I'd never ever press the issue. I'd rather make sure I find someone I could live with the rest of my life than dating someone just because I've got a girlfriend. And yes, that attitude doesn't help, I fear.

And that's when I'm getting the feeling of looking forward to basically nothing and just letting life happen. I don't live a life where I feel I should complain about "stupid circumstances" or something like that, and I think I don't do this. It's just, that sometimes (definitely not always), I just don't care about how my life will progress. It just does, and I'll take its ups and downs with a shrug. Not that I would seriously entertain the notion of a last and final, maybe literal downfall. First of all, I always thought there are better ways to commit suicide than jumping (even though that's still better than taking the train), and second, I only think about exactly these things, i.e., the best way to commit suicide, out of some kind of morbid curiosity.

Sorry for that long rambling.

TL;DR: I definitely do have things to look forward to from time to time, but there certainly are phases in my life where I don't and I think that would change if I had a SO.

 

[Calibus]

Come on, there must be some decent places somewhere, unless you are living in the sticks.

I live near one of the larger cities in WV. The bar scene just isn't my thing, and on the occasions where I have been to one, the type of people I described earlier made up the patronage of the bar. I'm not a religious person so meeting people at church is out. Not sure where else there is.

Now this doesn't make any sense. There are countless careers and business opportunities without big names crushing the competition, trades being the most obvious. I've been self-employed since I was 21 or so. Hell, I was running my own business even when I was a salaried employee for another company. You just need to find something that clicks.

You generally have to have surplus money and a marketable skill to go into business for yourself. I have surplus, but no marketable skill where the market is not already saturated.

I have nothing but never ending appreciation for dating site-floozies, but if you are looking for something more serious you should probably look at cultural activities and see if you meet someone (I suck at this, can't say I have good advice here).

The problem is, not even the floozies are all that appealing to me. There is very little if anything around my area that is not religious or in some way older/conservative themed when it comes to social events.

You have a problematic attitude. I know this because I've been there. Double up.

I am starting with a personal trainer next week, but I am not holding my breath. Working out, jogging, walking, dieting -- it all just plateaus after a point no matter what I do.

After a while you just realize your life is just spinning its wheels.

 

[kirby_fox]

26 here. Having a project usually always works for me, because I come to the conclusion that all my hard work will pay off and I can become a successful author. The book sitting on my bed, I tell myself, it's my best work and it's going to change everything.

I have no idea how accurate that is. But I enjoy just taking each day for what it's worth. I've wanted something more than friendship for awhile- but I also know that I'm not in a place that I could do that.

It's worse when you don't have many friends available and are pretty much working 24/7-- so options to go out and have a life are not there.

 

[clav]

Video games for now. I still feel like I made a mistake in buying a Wii-U recently. Am I just buying video games to hide away from a problem?

After that, I really don't know.

 

[KingJolly]

Get some hobbies and exercise a lot. Just enjoy your life. When you're happy you'll naturally attract all types of people towards you


A dog like first post said is also a good idea.

 

[Christberg]

I'm in a similar situation but worse. I have to live with my ex for the next 2 months until our lease runs up. Plus all of the above.

5 years down the toilet and I'm 37. At least there's no divorce paperwork and drama.

Thing is, I've been here before. It's about taking care of yourself inside and out. Prove to yourself that you're worth it. It's cheap. Work out, go hiking, read some good books. Take stock of yourself and ask yourself the hard questions. Learn from your mistakes.

Don't get apathetic if you can avoid it. If you do, pull yourself out of it. The last thing you want is to be alone, out of shape and miserable, right? Take care of the last two, put yourself out there and the situation WILL take care of itself sooner or later!

 

[Wilsongt]

I look forward to death.

And FFXIV updates.

But mostly death.

 

[that1dude24]

I'm not going to treat this as a joke post, because the thought has crossed my mind many times before. If you truly do look forward to this, what's stopping you from killing yourself?

that death is not the end of perception

 

[tanooki27]

what dreams may come. that's why hamlet hesitated to kill himself. if he could be sure that blackness was all that awaited him, he wouldn't have stalled.

or would he?

 

[Arnie]

Football.

Liverpool.

Gerrard & Brendan.

 

[clav]

A dog like first post said is also a good idea.

I kind of don't understand how owning a pet will make you happier.

If you need to take care of yourself first, then wouldn't taking care of something else drag you down?

 

[tanooki27]

I kind of don't understand how owning a pet will make you happier.

If you need to take care of yourself first, then wouldn't taking care of something else drag you down?

it's easier to take care of a dog than it is yourself, especially if you have a fenced-in backyard.

 

[Septimius]

I just came out of a relationship with a wonderful woman. I made lots of plans for the future with her, for next week, for next month, for next year.
Now that's all gone with the wind all the stuff I used to do when I was single doesn't fulfill me anymore, and hence I've suddenly lost the feeling of having something to look forward to.

If you can't live in the present, when can you live? The future is only a promise. It never comes. If you live your life waiting for something, then you'll never truly live.

The point of living isn't something that's coming. It is like a song. The point of the song isn't the end of a song. If that were the case, the best conductors would be those that conducted fastest. People would write only finales, and you'd go to a concert to hear the big crashing chord at the end. If your life feels empty, it's because it's empty here and now. Not because you lack plans for tomorrow. Don't let your mind stray to the promise of tomorrow. It is only a concept. It doesn't exist.

 

[clav]

it's easier to take care of a dog than it is yourself, especially if you have a fenced-in backyard.

If the dog doesn't obey, it's going to cause more problems not only just for you but also your neighbors.

 

[YoYo Switch]

Jacking off and my anxiety attacks putting me to sleep