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[Coriolanus]

You know what the best advice would be?

That you just go out into town by your own and socialize with people/girls and just lose all your fear and ask a girl out. Because in the end the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. Fear of rejection and whatnot. But you got to ask yourself the question will your life really be worse if you got rejected. Try not to care too much about the awkwardness because there will be. But sometimes there wont.

Man back in the day i got rejected by 20 girls on the same night but you only need one yes.

Dont linger on this one for too much, and dont waste your time either.

Good advice for life. If it works, great. If it does not, the line moves. While PUA terminology is generally quite trashy, they're quite correct about the concept of One-itis. It's a big world.

And yes, approaching people is an area where, if you're not a natural, you just have to try, try, try again, and fake it until you get it.

Also, someone already suggested it, but give Tinder a go, and take all those "don't appear needy" advices to heart.

 

[KingJolly]

This is such an awesome story to me for some reason.

Just remember: can't turn a ho into a housewife.

B-But you can't spell housewife without h-


I'll stop right there

 

[Arkos]

Seconded.

Move to vote. Your proposed texts always sound far too formal OP (or give too much info)

Be like David Caruso in Jade.

 

[Piano]

Copy paste this:

"i'm free this weekend, you want to see that movie you talked about?"

And txt her that. Thats it

Don't ever play the sympathy card with a woman. Women wants to date winners, not losers who kneels down and beg for time with them.

If ahe doesnt answer; well thats the end of it. On to the next one.

If she does but replies that she can't this weekend, tell her to write you back when she's free then. Thats it

If she's available, YOU set the time and date.

This is the best idea.

 

[DoktorEvil]

Move to vote. Your proposed texts always sound far too formal OP (or give too much info)

Be like David Caruso in Jade.

This is the worst advice ever.

I tried it on this girl in a bookstore, and she was all like confused yet mystified by me.

 

[TUSR]

save face, stop talking to her. let her text you at this point.

sorry op.

 

[Opiate]

You know what the best advice would be?

That you just go out into town by your own and socialize with people/girls and just lose all your fear and ask a girl out. Because in the end the only thing you have to fear is fear itself. Fear of rejection and whatnot. But you got to ask yourself the question will your life really be worse if you got rejected. Try not to care too much about the awkwardness because there will be. But sometimes there wont.

Man back in the day i got rejected by 20 girls on the same night but you only need one yes.

Dont linger on this one for too much, and dont waste your time either.

Yes, and the best advice is to not spend all your money on stupid crap like video games unless you're very wealthy, and to make sure you save a large chunk of your income every pay period and invest it towards paying debts or creating IRA accounts.

The best advice is to stop eating so much crap and to exercise more to either lose weight or gain muscle mass.

The best advice is to work harder at school or go back to school if you have already graduated.

The best advice is to apply yourself at your job more studiously and get your application out there if you are unsatisfied with your current position and have limited upward mobility.

All of these are simple, easy concepts in the abstract, and yet (almost) all of us struggle with some portion of these ideas which sound so obvious and easy. Apparently Hermii struggles with social skills. I agree it would be good for him to improve those skills, but just like sex education needs to focus on the likely eventuality of failure, so too should our advice when dealing with someone who has struggled with something seemingly easy their whole lives.

And again, recognize that there is probably something you have struggled with your whole life that I found extremely easy and obvious, and vice versa.

 

[Raiden]

Yes, and the best advice is to not spend all your money on stupid crap like video games unless you're very wealthy, and to make sure you save a large chunk of your income every pay period and invest it towards paying debts or creating IRA accounts.

The best advice is to stop eating so much crap and to exercise more to either lose weight or gain muscle mass.

The best advice is to work harder at school or go back to school if you have already graduated.

The best advice is to apply yourself at your job more studiously and get your application out there if you are unsatisfied with your current position and have limited upward mobility.

All of these are simple, easy concepts in the abstract, and yet (almost) all of us struggle with some portion of these ideas which sound so obvious and easy. Apparently Hermii struggles with social skills. I agree it would be good for him to improve those skills, but just like sex education needs to focus on the likely eventuality of failure, so too should our advice when dealing with someone who has struggled with something seemingly easy their whole lives.

And again, recognize that there is probably something you have struggled with your whole life that I found extremely easy and obvious, and vice versa.

Well yes, the thing that i just gave him advice on actually.

I was not always Don Draper you know.

 

[DoktorEvil]

Well yes, the thing that i just gave him advice on actually.

I was not always Don Draper you know.

Lies. You are Don Draper and no one else.

Spoiler

You certainly don't have a secret history, no sir.

 

[-COOLIO-]

Yes, and the best advice is to not spend all your money on stupid crap like video games unless you're very wealthy, and to make sure you save a large chunk of your income every pay period and invest it towards paying debts or creating IRA accounts.

The best advice is to stop eating so much crap and to exercise more to either lose weight or gain muscle mass.

The best advice is to work harder at school or go back to school if you have already graduated.

The best advice is to apply yourself at your job more studiously and get your application out there if you are unsatisfied with your current position and have limited upward mobility.

All of these are simple, easy concepts in the abstract, and yet (almost) all of us struggle with some portion of these ideas which sound so obvious and easy. Apparently Hermii struggles with social skills. I agree it would be good for him to improve those skills, but just like sex education needs to focus on the likely eventuality of failure, so too should our advice when dealing with someone who has struggled with something seemingly easy their whole lives.

And again, recognize that there is probably something you have struggled with your whole life that I found extremely easy and obvious, and vice versa.

you post some good stuff bro.

i think you should publish a collection.

 

[commedieu]

this thread... lol... is the hive mind helping out...? Hmm.. will have to read.

 

[Raiden]

Lies. You are Don Draper and no one else.

Spoiler

You certainly don't have a secret history, no sir.

You know me too well my bald Belgian friend!

 

[GungHo]

At least a proper rejection would be nice.

In my opinion, and I'm not trying to be mean, though I am trying to be discouraging, I think you've already got a proper rejection. She's just trying to be nice by not simply being direct. If she wanted to make time for you, she would have.

 

[Caius]

I said fuck those judgmental pricks who look down on paying for sex. I used to be one of those pricks until I tried it recently. It was a pleasant experience; I didn't feel ashamed or anything. It's not like the only way I can get laid is to pay for it, but it's nice not having to play the bullshit game and then dealing with overly attached women afterwards. Some might say the chase is half of the fun, but that's bullshit because if the laid turned out to be bad then the "chase" would just be a waste of time. With "professionals" you never have to worried because, shit, they are pros. So do what you have to do to have fun, just don't get attached and never see it as anything beyond what it is, a business transaction.

 

[AColdDay]

you post some good stuff bro.

i think you should publish a collection.

I know, Opiate is the man. I always love to hear his commentary on things.

 

[KrellRell]

I said fuck those judgmental pricks who look down on paying for sex. I used to be one of those pricks until I tried it recently. It was a pleasant experience; I didn't feel ashamed or anything. It's not like the only way I can get laid is to pay for it, but it's nice not having to play the bullshit game and then dealing with overly attached women afterwards. Some might say the chase is half of the fun, but that's bullshit because if the laid turned out to be bad then the "chase" would just be a waste of time. With "professionals" you never have to worried because, shit, they are pros. So do what you have to do to have fun, just don't get attached and never see it as anything beyond what it is, a business transaction.

Although I have never paid for it, I completely agree with this. I really wish it were legalized and establishments were set up. This would offer better protection for everyone all around.

 

[terrisus]

I have really no idea how to remind her and not sound needy at the same time. Those two contradict each other in my mind. Maybe play the sympathy card?

Send a text saying "pls respond"

If she doesn't respond in 10 minutes, follow it up with another saying "Hello?" and another one 5 minutes after that saying "Are you there?"

 

[BadHand]

Tell her you just came into some money and wanna go out and celebrate.

And then never text her back again.

 

[CountAntonius]

Ask her if you're the biggest she's ever been with...

 

[Vicetrailia]

To not be needy you actually need to have other things going on. merely Pretending not to be when you really are only drives you crazy. Need is not permanent and can come and go.

 

[terrisus]

Tell her you just came into some money

I guess he was tired of waiting for her.

 

[tringworldso]

I learned this the hard way.

Women do not have the memory of a fish, if she wants to go out she'll ask you. Only send one reminder after the initial question a few days later and if she doesn't respond don't bother with it anymore.

Everything here is true. If you have set up a meet then girls (heck this goes for guys as well) who are even a little bit interested in you will make it a point to message/call/contact you a day before to confirm the outing themselves.

 

[terrisus]

Everything here is true. If you have set up a meet then girls (heck this goes for guys as well) who are even a little bit interested in you will make it a point to message/call/contact you a day before to confirm the outing themselves.

Well, if both people are thinking this, then both will be waiting for the other to call and neither will actually call.

 

[nvrndr]

I know its to early to do anything at all, and I will not do something stupid and emotional again. But I don't feel ready to give this up, to rare of an opportunity. At least a proper rejection would be nice.

I have really no idea how to remind her and not sound needy at the same time. Those two contradict each other in my mind. Maybe play the sympathy card?

"As you know I don't go out much with women, so maybe I was looking forward to the movie with you a bit too much. If you still want I am available that and that day. If not that is also fine"

Yeahhhhh....no.

 

[tringworldso]

Well, if both people are thinking this, then both will be waiting for the other to call and neither will actually call.

You're missing the point of what I said. I said that if the person who set it up doesn't call to confirm and the other person actually has an interest in meeting then they will make the call themselves.

 

[Finn of Ooo]

Ask her out, go have a fun night but be careful. You'll probably end up paying for dinner and a movie but that's whatever. Now if she expects a more expensive present next time you guys set up a "date" then get out. It's possible she wants to be friends but it's also possible she's trying to play you. Just play cautiously my friend.

 

[MogCakes]

This is one of those threads that will keep us in the dark for a week isn't it.

 

[Hermii]

This is one of those threads that will keep us in the dark for a week isn't it.

Keep you in the dark? I already said Ive given it up. Now stop bumping it please.

 

[Diddy Kong]

edit - nevermind

 

[MogCakes]

Keep you in the dark? I already said Ive given it up. Now stop bumping it please.

I thought it was still a go. Oh well.

 

[Hermii]

I never thought I would bump this thread, especially not with good news but whatever.

I locked it down. We are going to "trip to italy" this Sunday. Does this mean she got her period? Whatever.

Its not a date, no nothing just going to a movie with a girl. No reason to be hyped. No E3 not even Nintendo Direct (joke).

Anyway I will tell you how it goes on sunday.

 

[TCRS]

I don't get "trip to italy". explain pls.

edit: oh it's a movie. kk.

 

[SystemBug]

I never thought I would bump this thread, especially not with good news but whatever.

I locked it down. We are going to "trip to italy" this Sunday. Does this mean she got her period? Whatever.

Its not a date, no nothing just going to a movie with a girl. No reason to be hyped. No E3 not even Nintendo Direct (joke).

Anyway I will tell you how it goes on sunday.

Well keep us up to date and good luck

 

[exmachina64]

I never thought I would bump this thread, especially not with good news but whatever.

I locked it down. We are going to "trip to italy" this Sunday. Does this mean she got her period? Whatever.

Its not a date, no nothing just going to a movie with a girl. No reason to be hyped. No E3 not even Nintendo Direct (joke).

Anyway I will tell you how it goes on sunday.

Good luck!

 

[DoktorEvil]

I never thought I would bump this thread, especially not with good news but whatever.

I locked it down. We are going to "trip to italy" this Sunday. Does this mean she got her period? Whatever.

Its not a date, no nothing just going to a movie with a girl. No reason to be hyped. No E3 not even Nintendo Direct (joke).

Anyway I will tell you how it goes on sunday.

Make sure to make out lots if the movie ends up boring.

Good luck!

 

[braves01]

I never thought I would bump this thread, especially not with good news but whatever.

I locked it down. We are going to "trip to italy" this Sunday. Does this mean she got her period? Whatever.

Its not a date, no nothing just going to a movie with a girl. No reason to be hyped. No E3 not even Nintendo Direct (joke).

Anyway I will tell you how it goes on sunday.

For a sec I thought you were taking a prostitute on an actual trip to Italy.

 

[akira28]

I thought it was a special name for a sex act.

don't swaet it op. just have fun

 

[shuri]

You "locked it down" after 5 months?!

 

[Finrod]

You "locked it down" after 5 months?!

Yeah, take it easy OP.

 

[JBourne]

You "locked it down" after 5 months?!

I'm very confused.

 

[colt45joe]

This is one of those threads that will keep us in the dark for a week isn't it.

or a few months.. hah.. or.. for those like me that saw this just now.. damn, yeh, itll be another long while.

 

[ipitydatfu]

or do you mean a trip to the greek isles?

youre in for a fun time OP

 

[akira28]

he just means that they both confirmed their open schedules.

No one is popping any questions or offering any engagement rings yet, folks.

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

I never thought I would bump this thread, especially not with good news but whatever.

I locked it down. We are going to "trip to italy" this Sunday. Does this mean she got her period? Whatever.

Its not a date, no nothing just going to a movie with a girl. No reason to be hyped. No E3 not even Nintendo Direct (joke).

Anyway I will tell you how it goes on sunday.

Splain this pls.

 

[bebop242]

I just saw this tread for the first time and saw it was from May. Figured the update would either be the OP getting engaged to this girl or him just waking up in an icy tub with missing organs.

 

[Mushroomer25]

The story of GAF's greatest romance goes on...

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

I just saw this tread for the first time and saw it was from May. Figured the update would either be the OP getting engaged to this girl or him just waking up in an icy tub with missing organs.

Isn't it usually the other way around?

 

[ronito]

So...confused...."Locked it down"....you mean got a date?....after 5 months? Have you been seeing her all this time? Also, how's her period come into any of this? wat

 

[davepoobond]

You "locked it down" after 5 months?!

Uh. Yeah. That's weird.

There's more to this story

 

[akira28]

Splain this pls.

I think the last time they couldn't get together because she had to work. Or something. I dunno. I can't be arsed to re-read the front page, so I'm going off of memory.

edit: "having period" = time off. I think it was a referential joke.