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So Im going on a date (or something) with a prostitute

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Falling in love with a prostitute you say?

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Sounds like something from a movie... But go for it, if it goes well, great. If she asks for money, well that's up to you but I would end it there. Don't get in the habit of paying her to be your friend.
 
Don't have sex.

After the date/meeting wait untill she Calls you. If she calls and want another date then you are set.
 
Hermii said:
Im thinking of taking her to go see Godzilla, but Im really clueless about these things. You wait for like a week? You do it as fast as possible? Is it a date or just being friendly? Im clueless.
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I'd ask her out now, but not for this weekend, wait til next weekend for the movie. Be considerate of the fact she probably already has her calendar filled with appointments, with other guys she is fucking for her business.
 
TitusGroan said:
If she's made it pretty clear that she wants to see you as a friend, not as a client, then dive right in.

I'd recommend not pinning too many hopes of true romance on this girl, but if you're both up for a fun night out, then absolutely go for it. Escorts are still women, and need genuine friendship and companionship like anyone else. It sounds like she sees you as a friend, so don't expect too much, but if things develop, then go for it.

Just be aware that she might be quite socially outgoing, so make sure you can keep up if the date gets a little more fun. I went on a first date with a stripper a few months ago, and, well...
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Broooooooooo woahhhhhhh.

I see you, though i wouldnt put my tongue in any strippers ass b
 
Well, if she's a prostitute it's possible she's trying to get you to pay to wine and dine her without having to sleep with you. I'd rather not think that's the case, but the possibility is there.
 
She probably noticed that your are "a looser. That has self-esteem issues, depression issues, 25 years and never had a proper girlfriend, got bullied a lot in his life, trust issues, inferiority complex, self-loathing issues and so on". Escorts call this a PL (Pathetic Loser). Pretty much a perfect lapdog (=customer falling in love with the provider and showering her with "presents").

Or you become friends with her and get to hear crazy stories about life as a sex worker.

Or you date her (Almost inconceivable but I still recommend watching True Romance to prepare yourself)
 
Hermii said:
I mean not in a derogatory sense of the word.

I can start by saying I am what most including myself would consider a looser. I have self-esteem issues, depression issues, 25 years and never had a proper girlfriend, got bullied a lot in my life, trust issues, inferiority complex, self-loathing issues and so on. So if you are just going to tell me I’m pathetic yea I know.

I visited a prostitute 4 times in my life.

First time was a bad drunk decision. I feel disgusted just by thinking about it.

Second time was better planned. It was an escort. It was quite nice. Feel like both got something out of it.

Third time was just awesome. Still escort. Had good chemistry, we were laughing, just had fun.

Fourth time with the same girl. Even better this time just awesome.

At some point before I left the conversation went something like this:

How often do you go out to see a woman?
Em. Last time was with you. (Embarrased)
Really?
Yea (more embarrassed)
REALLY?
YEA (still embarrassed)
We could go see a movie on day.
Um. Yea sure.
/conversation
I should have asked her there and then, but for one reason or another I didn’t do it. But the next day I texted her:
I am not really sure what you meant with the movie suggestion. I guess this is a silly question but did you mean we go as friends, or that I bring a present?

Present off course being the loophole in the prostitution law.
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You don’t pay for it but you pay for it.

And she answered right away “We can go like friends:) ”
So yea my mind is still blown that I am more than just another customer to her. Im thinking of taking her to go see Godzilla, but Im really clueless about these things. You wait for like a week? You do it as fast as possible? Is it a date or just being friendly? Im clueless.
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Just consider this as a business relationship that is transitioning into something personal.

Good luck and don't second guess yourself.
 
A colleague of my dad's actually married a prostitute (of course, this is Netherlands so she was fully legally doing this job) and even started keeping her agenda and driving her to and from appointments.

I once asked him if it didn't bother him that all these guys got to have her during the day before it was his turn, but yeah, he gave no fucks. Talked to the woman once, she was very nice and pleasant lady.

It's just a job, I suppose, if you're not bothered by her having tons of sex with strangers then sure, go for it.
 
Don't have sex with her afterwards. See if she's not trying to squeeze more money out of you. If she wants to then let her say something along the lines of, "come onnnnn, it'll be a freebie :) " to see if she's actually legitimate and not trying to screw a friend over.


I have a friend that is a prostitute. And no I've never slept with her. She tells me all her stories. Some guys she squeezes, there's others she potentially likes. She even gets handsome guys at times that she would have serviced for free had they asked.


Don't expect a romantic outcome whatever you do. Just have fun and be casual. A good outcome is that she becomes good friends with you and you get a fuck buddy.
 
Don't bring a present to the cinema , why would you do that.

Just go watch the movie, don't get your hopes up prematurely.

It could be so many things;
-she wants a friend
-she wants a sugardaddy
-she does this to a lot of her clients to get them to become regular clients
-she wants to date you despite you being a client (seems rather unlikely but it can happen)

Don't put yourself in a situation where you'll feel bad if any of the middle 2 or the top one happens.

Last time I checked an escort is someone who provides TLC (and doesn't act like a hooker around you in public) as an added service to the sex (during paid time), otherwise she would just be a normal prostitute.
It's in her job description to treat you like a peer.
The better she is at it (wether she's like that by nature or is just good at putting up a facade) the more successful she is at her job.

Don't give her gifts or any money when on these 'dates' either, that should quickly make it clear what her motives are.
gifts etc are not a prerequisite to a friendship so don't treat her like a prostitute (by bringing gifts etc) if what you want is a friendship or a relationship.

Also think about if you could handle her continuing to see other clients if you do end up in a relationship.
Thinking she'll quit her dayjob or change her lifestyle for you is even more far fetched than her not just easing you into becoming a regular joe.
 
capslock said:
Gaffers sure admit to some amazing shit to a board full of strangers.
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No pressure on NeoGAF. We're all awkward together (for the most part)

OP make sure she likes you for you and not your wallet.

This is a case where if you don't Double Dutch or she doesn't offer to pay on the first date, something's up. Maybe she's just doing the escort thing to pay for expensive schooling or whatever, but she's in a position to take advantage of you in more ways than one.

Don't let on that you're self-conscious, otherwise it's like blood in the water. Be assertive but not aggressive and definitely don't be an asshole.

Godzilla isn't really a great date movie unless she's into geeky stuff. Considering you've slept with her and chatted, make your first date about something she really likes to do.

How much do you know about her?

Protein said:
Don't have sex with her afterwards. See if she's not trying to squeeze more money out of you. If she wants to then let her say something along the lines of, "come onnnnn, it'll be a freebie :) " to see if she's actually legitimate and not trying to screw a friend over.

Don't expect a romantic outcome whatever you do. Just have fun and be casual. A good outcome is that she becomes good friends with you and you get a fuck buddy.
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The bolded is good advice. Be romantic and aloof, but don't fall in love and don't bring up sex until she wants to.

Just treat it as 2 friends going to the movies.
 
Not to be a downer or picky but she said "we can go like friends:)".

Like friends.

Does that mean the "friend experience" as in you're still paying but for a friend and not escort/sex?

I'm always picky about language like this...I know she said no to the present.

I wish you the best though.
 
tapedeck said:
I'm rooting for this to go well for you but..

She might try to have sex with you after the movie and might expect to get paid for it. ld love to be wrong though (about her expecting $$, not about you getting laid)

Oh and wrap it up man.
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Machine Messiah said:
My advice -- at this point you need to treat her like any other woman. Make it clear that you think she's special and be assertive. You said you have low self-esteem, but pretend like you don't, around her. Don't act like a jerk, but don't act like a doormat. If you've already slept with her, try to arrange it so you sleep with her again after the movie date. "I don't want tonight to end just yet," etc.

It's important that she respects you, instead of pitying you. If she just pities you, she'll only ever see you as a friend.

EDIT: Don't pay her for sex ever again -- if you have sex after the movie, and she asks for money, refuse and delete her from your phone.
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Messypandas said:
Its a complicated situation and I would definitely go for it and have fun. If she asks about payment afterwards I would distance yourself from this person as she is manipulating you emotionally for profit. If not keep in touch, keep it light and see how it goes..
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OP listen to these fine gents, I've had my own experience for a few months dating a what they call here a "takeout girl" which is kinda an escort/prostitute for a few months but I just couldn't handle it emotionally. It was soooooo fucking awkward knowing that she's about to go fuck some guy but meh to me it was kinda like a "friends with benefits" thingy even though she'd flip out and get mad about me talking to other girls etc.

Let me be clear though I only found out about her job AFTER our meeting (bar) and the whole (deed). So it's kinda not similar to your situation, but once she told me to give her a "tip" but I told her to gtfo and she never mentioned it again.

GOOD LUCK SIR!
 
thecouncil said:
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Hmm... I dont mean to judge but White Man seems a touch jaded as I don't remember there having been THAT many shitty relationship threads on front page at one time lately, Or maybe we all need to just get our dicks wet and relieve stress so we stop hating on each other and our "shitty" stories.

well regardless I hope this ends well for the OP and for White Man. We all deserve some action, as long as it'll keep us off each other's throats/dicks.
 
Don't read too much into this thing, buddy. Maybe she wants to make a regular customer, knowing that you don't see a lot of women.

Have fun! =)
 
A. Be careful and wear protection
B. Never (under any circumstances) talk down about yourself!
C. What does this chick look like? Is she hot?" Pics?

D. Let us know how the date goes... and if you get lucky!
 
I'm getting a very weird nicole kidman from birthday girl kind of vibe here.

Nonetheless as others have pointed out, sex and whether she expects you to pay is going to be the deciding factor as to whether this has any real potential i suppose

I'm all for feeling things out in the moment and seeing where things go but realistically, what is the endgame here? Would you want to date her enough to call her your gf? Would you be comfortable with your potential gf being/have been an escort?
 
Just out of interest, did you phone an escort agency or is she freelance? Did you know what she looked like before you met her/she came to your house? How much for how long?

This kind of thing isn't common where I am from. What if you arranged for a lady to come around and didn't find her attractive? Could you just send them away politely and get a replacement?

Sounds like too much hassle. Also op you say you're socially awkward, but I'd find this whole setup so uncomfortable I don't think I could go through with it.
 
Its like dating a stripper, which I have done in my past. If they every see you as a "customer" which in your case has happened; then you'll always be a customer. OP beware, she is most likely setting you up for the long con.
 
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