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So Im going on a date (or something) with a prostitute

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It's good that you admit all those wrong things about you. A very important rule in a lot of things is to be aware of where you stand vs whatever your goal is, whether it be a boxing match (I have a good right hook, my opponent has a strong gard) or scientific research (I kmow this and this gave good results but that failed) or anything else.

In your case, you've admitted that you have low self-esteem. Here you are dealing with a professional manipulator. That's a dangerous combo. A first red flag is that you're already in relationship mode. Keep this in mind. Being aware of that can help you stay in control of the ride.

Personnally, I'd go but I'd keep my distances while staying friendly. My hunch is it's kind of like Steam giving free hats or those "free to play" online games. You get something free but you'll still be paying for everything else.
 
Pics or didn't happen. What's their escort website? You know for science.

Her looks are direction proportional to the risk of this date. The hotter, the higher the risk, the uglier, the lower the risk. Low risk=not worth your time.

I'm not really calling.
 
I am very good friends with a couple escorts. It is not like it is impossible or anything. And yes they can like/love people as well. However obviously it comes with extraordinary baggage.
 
SmokinGunZ1981 said:
I had a friend who went through a similar situation, he'd take her to the cinema, dinner etc. as friends(although I'm sure he paid for everything on these little outings) but then he'd still end up paying her for sex.

Basically she was using the friendship to make him fall harder for her and in turn he'd pay more often for her 'services', turns out she was doing this with a couple of her other clients.

Just be careful and don't read too much into it too soon.
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Kind of a brilliant business strategy
 
hbkdx12 said:
Sadly, there are plenty of women who already do this without the guise of trying to simply boost their clientele

golddiggers gonna golddig
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It's the way of the world: There are plenty of men out there trying to use women and plenty of women trying to use men.

Anyway, OP, if she's trying to manipulate you, you're not going to be able to out-manipulate her. So just be yourself and plan an exit strategy, if you feel used.
 
YOLO and all that. have fun. Enjoy yourself. You will find out by the end of the night if it was she was genuine about going out as friends. Either way it sounds like you are having a good time and all that, so see what happens.

Stet said:
If she offers you sex after, decline. See if she gets mad.
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This would be interesting to see how she reacts Just say something like you had a really good time and hopefully can do it again soon.
 
andycapps said:
I saw that, maybe it's the way he phrased it but I'm having a hard time understanding it. If he's going out as friends, why does he need to bring a present?
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He wants to make sure if she wants to get paid, because its not unusual for escorts to go with you to dinners, movies, parties etc.
 
Good luck man. At the end of the day, prostitution is just her job, and I'm sure, like most of us, she is probably able to separate her life from her work.
 
If she offers sex afterwards tell her you won't pay. If she's cool with that I guess you're set. If she isn't, then no sex. Also, make sure you don't end up paying for this date as much as you would for the sex.
 
I don't want to sound like an ass but although I have never used the services of an escort/prostitute, I know what it feels like to have low self esteem as I was plagued with that in my teenager years (there are always ways to overcome that with time, dont give up) but it sounds like she has pity for you.

The way she said "we can go as friends :)" can either mean that being out in public with you as friends is a new roleplay material and she will charge you for it and why would you pay if you don't have sex afterwards...unless you're looking for the company...dont ever pay to be friends.

It could also mean that she enjoys being in your company but while I would never imply that you couldn't seduce her...please don't expect anything out of it. I know it sounds like full of prejudice but she surely has her ways of seducing YOU so you're a returning customer again and again.

be careful and if she really meant it for the 2 of you to go out and see a movie for the company without cash for sex...use the occasion as a learning experience and develop some confidence on how to act with women in general. They all have their complexes, dreams, worries, hopes. Etc...just like you
 
Go, have a great time, be relaxed, escorts are people, who gives a shit life is short.

A hole is never plugged if no one tries.
 
Since she explicitly turned down the financial transaction, I think you're in the clear. Women of industry need entertainment and enrichment just like everyone else. Show her a good time and maybe she'll give you a discount next time. Or at least remember your name.

Just don't go into this expecting more than friendship.
 
Here's a tip. If you like her at all, don't call her a prostitute. Escort and call-girl are less offensive.

Source: I'm obviously a prostitute and have never posted anything to the contrary.
 
Sho_Nuff82 said:
Since she explicitly turned down the financial transaction, I think you're in the clear. Women of industry need entertainment and enrichment just like everyone else. Show her a good time and maybe she'll give you a discount next time. Or at least remember your name.

Just don't go into this expecting more than friendship.
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I don't know man. Maybe you're right. By the way he's talking about himself, I can easily see this dude falling in love though.
 
Days like these... said:
If I were a betting man I'd bet that the 'movie date' is free but she's going to expect a gift if they have sex. Occam's razor if you will.
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I think that's fine though, as long as they're up front about it and both parties know the deal. It's not like escorts never go out to see movies or have coffee dates - as long as she straight up tells him that she expects payment of some sort if it goes any further I don't see the harm.

Just out of curiosity OP, what do you give her as "presents" when you've met with her in the past?
 
Dark Octave said:
I don't know man. Maybe you're right. By the way he's talking about himself, I can easily see this dude falling in love though.
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If this were Vegas I'm sure that would have the betting favorite

Karsticles said:
I read his post in more of a defensive tone. GAF tears people apart about this stuff, and I think he was just pre-empting the assault.
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I for one salute the OP. A quality, relatively level headed dating post, and he isn't constantly jumping back in to justify their relationship or anything. If anybody has a shot, I believe it could be this guy. Make us proud

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I'm sorry
 
Pai Pai Master said:
I think that's fine though, as long as they're up front about it and both parties know the deal. It's not like escorts never go out to see movies or have coffee dates - as long as she straight up tells him that she expects payment of some sort if it goes any further I don't see the harm.
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Oh I agree, I just hope the op doesn't get caught up thinking its something more than what it is.
I'd also be willing to bet that after a few dates as friends but no sex/gifts afterwards the dates as friends cease.

Op don't get manipulated!
 
Mainstreamer(1up) said:
There's something romantic in the notion of a man dating a prostitute. It's adventurous; a trait of a truly free man.
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Probably because people love the idea.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pretty_Woman

Originally intended to be a dark cautionary tale about class and prostitution in Los Angeles, this motion picture was reconceived as romantic comedy with a large budget. It was widely successful at the box office, and it became one of the highest money-makers of 1990.

Today it is one of the most financially successful entries in the romantic comedy genre, with an estimated gross income of $463.4 million.[1] It is considered by many critics to be the most successful movie in the genre.[2]

Pretty Woman is one of the most popular films of all time; it saw the highest number of ticket sales in the US ever for a romantic comedy,[3] with Box Office Mojo listing it as the #1 romantic comedy by the highest estimated domestic tickets sold at 42,176,400, slightly ahead of My Big Fat Greek Wedding (2002) at 41,419,500 tickets.
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There's a reason Pretty Woman was so popular during the 90s.

Edit: Its weird that a written drama cautionary tale became the most financially successful rom-com after a lot of tweaks.
 
I'm sorry but she's probably just setting the hook. A good, returning customer who pays. I'm not trying to be rude but her profession lends itself to manipulating guys and I'd guess that's what's happening here.
 
This thread is awesome. Cannot wait for the results.

Get in there man and enjoy yourself. No matter what happens hopefully this will help you come out of your skin a little.

Try your best not to fall for her too quickly.
 
It's refreshing to see a "loser" take initiative. Learn and experience as much as you can for future relationships. Build confidence. It prolly won't last long, and it's likely she may be taking advantage of you. Who cares though, just be aware of that so you don't suddenly find yourself buying her vacations and jewelry.
 
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