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[Oxn]

U gonna be buying her movie ticket ? Dinner? Snacks? And porbably wont get non

I say skip the date and just pay for another service

Will prolly be cheaper

 

[terrisus]

whatever I do dont have sex, dont talk about her work

There's no need to be redundant.

 

[Efren is G.O.A.T.]

What's wrong with a movie date?

Don't bring a nice lady to the movies if you're still in the phase "im trying to bang you" or " I genuinely like you very much and would like to get to know you better"

You can't talk during a movie thus killing the chances to get to know her. Movies are fine when she's already your girlfriend or you have had enough dates with her that you both want to see a particular movie that interests both of you so you can talk about it afterwards but he's not there yet.

 

[GungHo]

What's wrong with a movie date?

For a first date? You're not talking to each other and getting to know each other. You're watching the movie. Then again, with a prostitute, there's a certain amount of "getting to know each other" that has probably already happened.

I hope it works out for the guy, but I wouldn't be surprised if money is expected at some point.

I also get uncomfortable when I think of Pretty Woman, because that makes me think of Richard Gear, which then makes me think of Looking for Mr. Goodbar.

 

[entremet]

Why are you aiming so low, OP?

I'm sure they are pretty of non-prostitutes out there to date.

 

[Angry Grimace]

Sounds okay to me as long as you don't have to buy something more than sex. Don't be the guy that turns into a sugar daddy for a prostitute.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

She's providing you with a "girlfriend experience", that is pretending to be something akin to a date/girlfriend in exchange for money.
It would be inadvisable to allow any feelings to develop when the relationship is built on the premise of you giving her money in order to receive sex or human contact - that is a pretty shit foundation for a relationship.

Truthfact: She's just happy you're paying her to hang out with you instead of sucking you off.

You may not be paying her this time, but I have a feeling she'll hook her claws into you and suck the money out of you somehow.

 

[Rockyrock]

dibs on the screenplay rights!!

 

[PaulExcellent]

Seems like a bad road to go on, but go and enjoy a movie. Hell, you're going as "friends". Might as well act like it.

 

[bengraven]

If you buy popcorn, is that a "present"?

 

[andycapps]

OP, don't let this become you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RnNlFfaJ6to

 

[bengraven]

Girl probably rarely goes out with a guy just for fun. Found a guy she can vibe with. She doesn't have to be in love with him or even want a second date, she just wants to have a normal human date for once.

I say go in and just have fun and don't even think about the whole job thing - if you have sex afterwards you shouldn't have to pay, btw, it's a legit date.

Its a complicated situation and I would definitely go for it and have fun. If she asks about payment afterwards I would distance yourself from this person as she is manipulating you emotionally for profit. If not keep in touch, keep it light and see how it goes. Addressing your first paragraph, you are not pathetic at all. You have some issues and you need not go into detail. But have you tried dating traditionally? Dating websites?

Also I hear Godzilla is ok. X-Men however sounds really good.

This is all good advice.

 

[DoktorEvil]

Thanks for all the advice and positive comments

So this sounds like a strategy?

I will pay for the movie but nothing more (maybe candy), whatever I do dont have sex, dont talk about her work and try to have as much fun as I can. And ofcourse not fall in love. That last part is the one Im most afraid of.

And she already knows I dont go to escorts regularly (because she got surprised when I said her was the last one). If she is trying to turn me into a regular thats a bad strategy no way I can even afford it.

Absolutely. Let the night take you where it may go.

We can't tell you exactly what to do, but play everything by ear. If after the movie she wants to go out and do more stuff same date, make sure you're not dishing out money for everything, no matter how awkward it gets.

 

[Liquidsnake]

Thanks for all the advice and positive comments

So this sounds like a strategy?

I will pay for the movie but nothing more (maybe candy), whatever I do dont have sex, dont talk about her work and try to have as much fun as I can. And ofcourse not fall in love. That last part is the one Im most afraid of.

And she already knows I dont go to escorts regularly (because she got surprised when I said her was the last one). If she is trying to turn me into a regular thats a bad strategy no way I can even afford it.

If I can say anything, just be cool, be yourself as much as possible, and just see where it goes.

Like DoktorEvil said. Have fun. Crack a few jokes. Do not cut a hole in the popcorn box.

Unless she asks you too.

 

[evilromero]

No mini-golf?

 

[akira28]

Don't be a cheap ass. Not maybe candy. Yes, candy! And any other snacks she wants. That's how a date works. Be a man. You going to dinner too? Spoiler alert, you need to pay for that too.

hahah yeah don't be a cheapskate. Especially not because you're on a date with a woman you paid for sex once. Just let it be a date, no expectations, and be pleasantly surprised, hopefully. And don't be anti-sexual. If she feels frisky, feel free to make out.

 

[potam]

This is such an awesome story to me for some reason.

Just remember: can't turn a ho into a housewife.

 

[DoktorEvil]

If I can say anything, just be cool, be yourself as much as possible, and just see where it goes.

Like DoktorEvil said. Have fun. Crack a few jokes. Do not cut a hole in the popcorn box.

Unless she asks you too.

Please don't do this. Even if she asks you too.

Last thing you'll want at the end of your date is an itemized bill.

 

[BadAss2961]

Seriously though, OP needs to be careful about this. This girl might see him as the biggest mark.

Don't get played like a damn fiddle.

 

[LilWayneSuckz]

Be careful. and keep your feelings in check. Don't think that just because you're going to the movies together that you have a girlfriend all of a sudden.

Enjoy your time with her, and let whatever happens, happen organically over time.

You should also try internet dating if you're just interested in finding someone to spend time with. Escorts/Prostitutes/Hookers/etc. are only looking for one thing, money, and you seem to be looking for something genuine. You will not find what you are looking for in a friend/girlfriend/partner if you just keep spending money on her.

 

[PhoenixDark]

Is she from backpage.com?

She's giving you a "free" GFE, trying to get you hooked. Don't fall for it.

 

[cdyhybrid]

It's not a date if you're going as friends.

Of course, I don't think I'd be seeing a movie with only one of my female friends either.

 

[UpperCaseN]

What's wrong with a movie date?

bad for first dates because you don't get the time to get to know each other, you just sit next to each other and watch the movie. dinner, ice cream, whatever before or after you can talk but the movies is frowned upon for first few dates because of that

 

[AlphaSnake]

Go as friends, expect nothing in return. Enjoy your time.

 

[andycapps]

It's not a date if you're going as friends.

Of course, I don't think I'd be seeing a movie with only one of my female friends either.

True, but nothing about this scenario is exactly normal. An escort that he previously utilized asking him if he wants to hangout at a movie as friends.. Yeah okay. I'd be really wary of hanging out with her and then getting the look at the end of the night asking where her money is..

 

[DiipuSurotu]

Go as friends, expect nothing in return. Enjoy your time.

Yup. That's what she said.

And she answered right away “We can go like friends ”

 

[Koozek]

Okay, now I'm really excited to hear how it went I don't want to be negative but still be a bit cautious and not too naive. I hope she really means it. I'd be happy for you

 

[Diddy Kong]

I believe in you OP

 

[Petrie]

True, but nothing about this scenario is exactly normal. An escort that he previously utilized asking him if he wants to hangout at a movie as friends.. Yeah okay. I'd be really wary of hanging out with her and then getting the look at the end of the night asking where her money is..

I think as awkward as it is I would spell this out in absolute terms: no money will be changing hands for this.

 

[terrisus]

I say go in and just have fun

Isn't that how this whole situation started to begin with?

 

[FantasticMrFoxdie]

Have fun OP

What's the White Man's rule?

This made me burst out in laughter.

 

[okayfrog]

bad for first dates because you don't get the time to get to know each other, you just sit next to each other and watch the movie. dinner, ice cream, whatever before or after you can talk but the movies is frowned upon for first few dates because of that

Nah, dude, movie dates are great. You can find out whether or not she talks/texts during a film.

 

[Shaanyboi]

I can't say, honestly.

Just, be careful man.

all i can say too...

 

[PhoenixDark]

What's the White Man's rule?

I think it has to do with mayonnaise.

 

[Mammoth Jones]

Good. Go out man and just come out of your shell.

Enjoy the evening. Take it slow. Be a gentleman.

 

[ChubbyHuggs]

Go out and have some fun. There's no real harm in it if you don't expect anything other than friendship.

 

[Slayer-33]

She's a human being..

Try to gauge her genuineness.

 

[Sol..]

I'd do it just for fun but you always gotta remember https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGobXsmPx78

 

[Efren is G.O.A.T.]

Before you risk wasting your time, you can be blunt and ask her if she meant providing you with the girlfriend experience or if she just wanted to hang out "off hours". I think what she said can be interpreted both ways.

Remember to see that as a "practice" for when you meet another women not exchanging sex for money.

 

[TitusGroan]

I always think the best way to look at these sorts of things is what new experiences will you get from this? Face it, not many guys have had the chance to go to the cinema with an escort girl on strictly casual non-business terms. It's an opportunity to try something new and, if you keep expectations realistic, learn all sorts of wonderful things.

Being honest OP, it sounds like you could do with some more experience with being around girls, and this is a perfect opportunity to learn. You've already done the dirty with this girl, so you don't need to feel awkward or shy around her. Just be yourself, treat the night out as a fun friendly date and also a chance to see a side to life that not many other guys have.

If you're ever in doubt, always ask yourself "What would make for the best story right now?"

 

[Ludicrous Speed]

Is she from backpage.com?

She's giving you a "free" GFE, trying to get you hooked. Don't fall for it.

Interesting. I hadn't thought of that. I think you might be onto something.

Next time he asks her out she'll tell him to bring a present for the GFE

 

[DiipuSurotu]

Face it, not many guys have had the chance to go to the cinema with an escort girl on strictly casual non-business terms.

Actually I'm sure some guys have, except they weren't aware of it.

 

[Tex117]

Is anybody he should marry the girl? Is anybody saying he should give this girl money? Is anybody even saying he should have sex with this girl?

I, mean, out of all the places in the world, the movies are a fairly safe and neutral space. I don't think she'll be able to "manipulate" him or put him danger while chomping down popcorn and sipping on her 64oz.

Well, he did have sex with this girl. So, there is that.

I just think the risk of getting involved with a prostitute friends or otherwise is a bad road to go down, especially when the OP is already suffering from self-esteem issues.

Please OP, really, don't do this. Don't hire escorts. You are setting yourself back mentally and potentially physically.

 

[Hermii]

My thread definitely had a lack of spunk.

OP, I wish you good fortune. Not that you will, but try not to get hung up on all the sex she's had. If she ain't playing you, she prolly enjoys your company and that can make sex way more meaningful and enjoyable.

I hope she is not playing me.

I'm gonna make an assumption here, so excuse me if I'm wrong, but I'm guessing you don't have any female friends. Whether this is a date or an outing or just an excuse to wring more money out of you somehow, it is an opportunity to become better acquainted with the opposite sex. Plus you get to see Godzilla, which sounds pretty neat. She wants to see you more often. Even if you later find out that it is just a way for her to wring money out of it, for now go into it like it isn't and have a good time.

That's how I see it too.. And really she probably makes more money doing what she does than I could ever spend on her.

Please don't do this. Even if she asks you too.

Last thing you'll want at the end of your date is an itemized bill.

Before you risk wasting your time, you can be blunt and ask her if she meant providing you with the girlfriend experience or if she just wanted to hang out "off hours". I think what she said can be interpreted both ways.

Remember to see that as a "practice" for when you meet another women not exchanging sex for money.

I think as awkward as it is I would spell this out in absolute terms: no money will be changing hands for this.

I think the text message did that. How much clearer can it get.

If you buy popcorn, is that a "present"?

Money is a present.

Don't bring a nice lady to the movies if you're still in the phase "im trying to bang you" or " I genuinely like you very much and would like to get to know you better"

You can't talk during a movie thus killing the chances to get to know her. Movies are fine when she's already your girlfriend or you have had enough dates with her that you both want to see a particular movie that interests both of you so you can talk about it afterwards but he's not there yet.

Im not in either of those phases, and unless you didn't noticed we already banged.

Im honestly happy just to hang out with a hot girl who actually want to be with me (I hope). I know friendzoned is supposed to mean something negative for a lot of people, but for me friendzone is a lot better than no zone.

 

[twilitesparklemotion]

My advice -- at this point you need to treat her like any other woman. Make it clear that you think she's special and be assertive. You said you have low self-esteem, but pretend like you don't, around her. Don't act like a jerk, but don't act like a doormat. If you've already slept with her, try to arrange it so you sleep with her again after the movie date. "I don't want tonight to end just yet," etc.

It's important that she respects you, instead of pitying you. If she just pities you, she'll only ever see you as a friend.

EDIT: Don't pay her for sex ever again -- if you have sex after the movie, and she asks for money, refuse and delete her from your phone.

This is great advice. Have fun OP!

 

[Efren is G.O.A.T.]

I hope she is not playing me.


That's how I see it too.. And really she probably makes more money doing what she does than I could ever spend on her.






I think the text message did that. How much clearer can it get.


Money is a present.


Im not in either of those phases, and unless you didn't noticed we already banged.

Im honestly happy just to hang out with a hot girl who actually want to be with me (I hope). I know friendzoned is supposed to mean something negative for a lot of people, but for me friendzone is a lot better than no zone.

Im sorry , I meant banging without being a service rendered for money.

I sincerely wish you the best.

 

[methane47]

Im thinking of taking her to go see Godzilla

You are going to bore her to death.

 

[Novocaine]

Have fun man!

 

[Astral]

So is the date today?

 

[TitusGroan]

Well, he did have sex with this girl. So, there is that.

I just think the risk of getting involved with a prostitute friends or otherwise is a bad road to go down, especially when the OP is already suffering from self-esteem issues.

But whatever the OP's issues with esteem and self-image, it sounds like she's trying to break him out of it. She asked him out on a date, and reassured him that it was on friendly terms. Where the OP could have had another night in this weekend, he's now going out for the evening with a girl who seems to want to be around him, if only as a friend. If it goes well, then that one date alone could do wonders for the OP's self-esteem.

Please OP, really, don't do this. Don't hire escorts. You are setting yourself back mentally and potentially physically.

He's not hiring her. They're going out as friends. Because escorts are allowed to have friends, or even people they're attracted to romantically.

And the OP is perfectly at leisure to hire escorts if and whenever he chooses. Obviously it would be a good idea to fraternise with other women as well, and hopefully this is the start of OP coming out of his shell in that regard. But there is nothing mentally or physically degrading about being with an escort, and I would love to know why you think there is.