What kind of mouth-breathing degenerate would call another grown man "duder"?
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What kind of mouth-breathing degenerate would call another grown man "duder"?
Dr_Boris_Goltz
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The duder thing is an in-joke and it mostly stems from Dave from Giant Bomb...
Because there is a unprecedented level of simpdom that drenches every post of yours. Seems too sad to be true. I think we are hoping its not true.
You deserve better broseph.
ok, do you really want to be with her, like for real.
you should make a Pros and Cons list, list all the bad things about her and the relationship and then list all the good things about her and the relationship and see which side is longer.
what have your friends said? do they like her? what does your family think?
are you TRULY happy OP? or are you in this because you feel like you have to be out of guilt and confusion.
really fucking think about this dude, you are wasting your time here on earth in an unhealthy relationship.
She'll bend over and show her cleavage and you'll forgive her. Then in a few months you'll post again with the same problem.
It doesn't matter where it's from. When you combine the fact that you're being played like a piano with this potential sex offender calling another adult "duder" that just makes things so fucking bizarre.
I mean seriously, man. You're having to beat your meat next to this woman while she ignores your sexual advances, falling asleep. So instead of having sex with you - she's considering a myriad of other things. At this point - it's fair game to assume she's more attracted to the Leprechaun on the Lucky Charms box. Furthermore, she ignores your mom being sick and runs off to a theme park without inviting you. What's it going to be next? Complaining that you're having to hold her new stallions pipe while he's stuffing her like a turkey?
Get your life together. Your shit is definitely not in order. At this point, you've eclipsed this guy for GAF's biggest simp. And I honestly thought I had seen it all with that joker.
Devolution
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HalfBakedProphet
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OP has OddSpoon-level potential but hasn't quite reached the big leagues yet.
Getting cheated on and staying together is another level
Getting cheated on and staying together is another level
Squid_Vicious
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This is precisely correct.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
DUDER?
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ok, i want to know what good things she does. i've heard enough bad things. i am REALLY interested in what she provides in this relationship.
and i want to know how it started.
Negative. In fact, pretty sure the last update revolved around throwing his life away and ignoring free college money in order to continue being with her and working construction.
You need to be a fucking man OP. Plain and simple.
Discuss how you are feeling with her, tell her how her actions have affected you. Judging from her history, she's going to either:
A) cry and guilt you. In which case you tell her to cut the BS, get her out, and let her think on it. Don't turn it into a dragged out discussion where you will most undoubtedly cave. If she can't see the reasons for this, dump her on the spot and tell her to grow up.
B) She's going to get defensive and make a bunch of excuses and a reason for every little thing. In which case you dump her.
She sounds like a self-centered, inconsiderate asshole. I'm sure there are good times. Like when she was interested enough to actually lay there and let you fuck her.
Honestly, she sounds like she needs a reality check. So do you. Tell her what you've told us. Lay out what has happened for a long time now and be done with it. This relationship is doomed to fail unless you both realize that you need to change and quit going through the motions.
Discuss how you are feeling with her, tell her how her actions have affected you. Judging from her history, she's going to either:
A) cry and guilt you. In which case you tell her to cut the BS, get her out, and let her think on it. Don't turn it into a dragged out discussion where you will most undoubtedly cave. If she can't see the reasons for this, dump her on the spot and tell her to grow up.
B) She's going to get defensive and make a bunch of excuses and a reason for every little thing. In which case you dump her.
She sounds like a self-centered, inconsiderate asshole. I'm sure there are good times. Like when she was interested enough to actually lay there and let you fuck her.
Honestly, she sounds like she needs a reality check. So do you. Tell her what you've told us. Lay out what has happened for a long time now and be done with it. This relationship is doomed to fail unless you both realize that you need to change and quit going through the motions.
OverBlood 3
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Maybe spend less time worrying about your girlfriend and worry more about your mother, I'm sure she'd appreciate it more.
When your mom is better then you can get into whether or not your girlfriend is uncaring etc.
When your mom is better then you can get into whether or not your girlfriend is uncaring etc.
BigEvilTurtle
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Hahaha.
I feel really terrible for the OP; love can really fuck with your better judgement and reasoning.
You know what this means, right? That you are prone to being taken advantage of, used and generally oblivious to various warning signs and red flags. If things are how they seem, trust me when I say that you don't want to learn things the hard way.
shinobi602
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Any person with sense, in a relationship will prioritize seeing their partner's mother in the hospital over hanging out with goddamn friends.
dude, wat.
ok we need someone to compile all the info on OP, we need a time line and a biography.
the more i hear the more im saddened and the more i am fucking confused by all of this.
dude, i know it feels like we are ganging up on you, and this might be too much to handle, but seriously, for real, this aint a 'tryin to be cool on teh internet thing.' we are all telling you the same thing because we want to help you.
i know you might feel intimidated, but were all just getting frustrated. youre problems have been going on forever and you keep coming to Gaf for guidance but nothing seems to change.
do you think she will hurt you? is she psychically violent? are you afraid of dying alone?
OP what is going through your head?
Because you're sitting around moping and ignoring everyone's advice like a tv character who keeps doing the same thing over and over.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
People need to stop hating on the word "duder".
Right fucking now.
Also OP break up with your GF.
Right fucking now.
Also OP break up with your GF.
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Dr_Boris_Goltz
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The post you're quoting is referring to the other guy who was in a similar situation. I'm not quite that bad.
The stuff going through my head: Maybe it's me? Maybe she's not so bad? Maybe I won't find somebody else? That kind of stuff...
oh, sorry im getting confused.
sounds like you have low self esteem dude.
she doesnt sound very nice, she seems pretty neglectful.
why do you think you wont find anyone else? are you super fat and have a deformed face or something?
id rather be alone than mistreated.
Devolution
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This is going to end with Graffgor's girlfriend being pregnant isn't it.
I am convinced you are Costanza (ex GAF member who was just as daft and subsequently perma'd). If you aren't and you really are having these problems...
If you start letting someone disrespect you like this and treat you like an idiot, they're gonna keep treating you that way without any intent of changing. Your girl sounds like she is in a "comfortable" spot in the relationship where she knows you won't leave , and where she believes most fights will blow over and be forgotten - which is the case. And that is not attractive for majority of women. She's only with you because she's comfortable and most likely , can't find anything better at the moment.
If you do think shes the one and that it's worth working it out with her, you need to start fixing shit now. Make it clear you aren't happy and stop playing mind games. Tell her why what she did hurts, and how you've felt the last few months, WITHOUT putting her on blast and making it feel like you're just yelling at her. You want a discussion. You want to see how she feels currently, and if maybe there are things you aren't doing for her, etc. Leaving these problems unresolved is gonna cause them to fester, leaving your relationship essentially doomed down the line.
If you don't wanna salvage the relationship, just call it quits now and save yourself from impending doom. You're fucking 26, you'll find another person, likely better considering this experience will leave you with a better understanding of what you want out of a partner. Just don't stay here and do nothing if you aren't happy. Venting to GAF is not a solution. Although it may help you feel better at the time, in the long term it's gonna leave you feeling miserable.
You better not fucking be Costanza.
If you start letting someone disrespect you like this and treat you like an idiot, they're gonna keep treating you that way without any intent of changing. Your girl sounds like she is in a "comfortable" spot in the relationship where she knows you won't leave , and where she believes most fights will blow over and be forgotten - which is the case. And that is not attractive for majority of women. She's only with you because she's comfortable and most likely , can't find anything better at the moment.
If you do think shes the one and that it's worth working it out with her, you need to start fixing shit now. Make it clear you aren't happy and stop playing mind games. Tell her why what she did hurts, and how you've felt the last few months, WITHOUT putting her on blast and making it feel like you're just yelling at her. You want a discussion. You want to see how she feels currently, and if maybe there are things you aren't doing for her, etc. Leaving these problems unresolved is gonna cause them to fester, leaving your relationship essentially doomed down the line.
If you don't wanna salvage the relationship, just call it quits now and save yourself from impending doom. You're fucking 26, you'll find another person, likely better considering this experience will leave you with a better understanding of what you want out of a partner. Just don't stay here and do nothing if you aren't happy. Venting to GAF is not a solution. Although it may help you feel better at the time, in the long term it's gonna leave you feeling miserable.
You better not fucking be Costanza.
StrangeADT
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Uhh... wow. I laughed.
OP, I'm 25, almost 26. If my girlfriend of 3.5 years did something like that to me, I would seriously question the relationship. About a year ago, my cousin was brutally murdered and her body was dismembered and put through a woodchipper by her husband. Yes, it's Fargo in real life. My girlfriend was there for me instantly, no questions asked, because she is not an awful person.
Yes, the situation is worse, but the point is that I know that she would be there for me if something happened to anyone in my family. I know that she would be there for me because she understands me and we are partners. In my times of need, she will be there for me, and I will do the same for her. Unless the gravity of the situation wasn't apparent to your girlfriend, she showed her selfishness and a complete lack of empathy which is something I wouldn't even want in a friend, let alone my supposed partner in life.
At least we'll know it isn't his baby.
She didn't do anything wrong per say, but I would say she definitely doesn't put you in higher regard than getting drunk for the 1 millionth time with her friends. She's 29, she beens drinking for years and she couldn't have skipped it just that once to come show some support?
To me, you should thank her. She just showed her true colors man. She isn't a bad person, but she just isn't that into you.
You're young still, you're not locked up for life with her. Don't be afraid to drift away, test her some more and see if she comes to you. Its in your favor to feel that kind of thing out, especially if you now have doubts. Put the ball in her court, she how she reacts and make a judgement call then. Just remember, somewhere there is someone who is probably better for you.
To me, you should thank her. She just showed her true colors man. She isn't a bad person, but she just isn't that into you.
You're young still, you're not locked up for life with her. Don't be afraid to drift away, test her some more and see if she comes to you. Its in your favor to feel that kind of thing out, especially if you now have doubts. Put the ball in her court, she how she reacts and make a judgement call then. Just remember, somewhere there is someone who is probably better for you.
Link
The Autumn Wind
I wonder who the father will be.
How old are you? Is this your first girlfriend?
Have you really given the "maybe I won't find somebody else?" question serious and proper analysis? I know you haven't because otherwise you would know there is 0% chance that you won't encounter people from the opposite sex that also would want to date you.
Unless you:
- have a one way trip to Mars planned (and even then, even if you go with a team of only guys you can find love)
... so ignore that situation
- are on your deathbed right now and don't have a ton of money
- have a trip to the bottom of the ocean planned, never to return again
- have a trip to an uninhabited cave planned and want to spend the rest of your life there, in solitude
- die instantly after reading this post for some reason
- suddenly become supergross, since we've already established you're able to find at least 1 creature that isn't grossed out by you and will even let you touch them I think we don't have to worry about this one.
Seriously if you go outside it is very hard to avoid getting into contact with humans (unless you're gross/creepy). Heck, even gross people find love. Anyway, as you appear to have friends you are bound to have even more opportunities to meet people via them.
You're worrying about breaking up a 1 year relationship? How about a 20 year marriage with kids? I've seen people go through that and finding new love. I've read about people in their 70s breaking up and finding new love. Breaking up with someone is not the end of the world.
You have no reason to worry about not being able to find anyone. The only reason you worry about it is because you probably see no-one in your direct vicinity. Doesn't mean you won't meet anyone in the future. Seriously think about this: how will you possibly be able to avoid contact with humans for the remaining 50-70 years you're alive!? Reread this post 10000 times and think about the implications.
I would really like to see your defense of "maybe I won't be able to find somebody else", because you have go out of your way to make this become a reality.
edit: oh yeah I forgot you're like 26 or something? Dude, you have at least 60 years of life left. What are you worried about?
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
need anything duderz? like self-esteem or a girlfriend that isn't a self-involved bitch?
If he read this 10000 times it would severely inhibit his chances of finding someone else. Joke post confirmed.
Yeah? Why? How long did it take you to read it once?
Worst case, it takes him 2 weeks to read it 10000 times but at least he'd be on the road to happiness and not stuck in a dead-end relationship for who knows how long. Also if he reads it 10000 times in a row the break up will likely happen automatically, so there's that.
I bet she finds out she is pregnant and THEN decides she needs to screw OP big time to make sure he doesn't question her getting pregnant.
vincent vega
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Hy op, I didn't read the entire thread. Did you voice your concerns to her?
If she didn't seem concerned at all I would bounce
If she didn't seem concerned at all I would bounce
Heres what you do; make bang to the girlfriend, but tell your friends to plan on coming over in half an hour or however long you need for some drinks. Do the deed, tell her she needs to gtfo now so you can drink with your buddies and watch a movie or something.
Or better yet, just get up and leave after you're done and when she asks where you're headed to just say "out" and go meet up with your friends somewhere. Make sure you throw up the middle finger and light a cigar on the way out for dramatic effect.
Or better yet, just get up and leave after you're done and when she asks where you're headed to just say "out" and go meet up with your friends somewhere. Make sure you throw up the middle finger and light a cigar on the way out for dramatic effect.
PaulExcellent
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Come on, dude.
Stop that shit.
Get a grip, tell her off, get the hell out.
I was in a relationship like yours. It's a waste of time.
She didn't care for anything, except for herself.
I was her little toy. It was awful, and went on for a year.
One day, I found out she was cheating on me. I was not happy.
On our 10-month "anniversary", I went to the common area of my school, and in front of our classmates, played her a very special song with my guitar called 'Mutt'.
She got the message.
After this, I felt like I would never find someone else, and be happy.
But I did not give up. Because fuck her couch, that's why. So, I kept going.
Now, I'm a professional in my career, represent an amazing company, design for different fields, and have a girlfriend that's stable, sane, and loves me.
Leave her, move on, get the fuck out.
It's time. Do it.
Stop that shit.
Get a grip, tell her off, get the hell out.
I was in a relationship like yours. It's a waste of time.
She didn't care for anything, except for herself.
I was her little toy. It was awful, and went on for a year.
One day, I found out she was cheating on me. I was not happy.
On our 10-month "anniversary", I went to the common area of my school, and in front of our classmates, played her a very special song with my guitar called 'Mutt'.
She got the message.
After this, I felt like I would never find someone else, and be happy.
But I did not give up. Because fuck her couch, that's why. So, I kept going.
Now, I'm a professional in my career, represent an amazing company, design for different fields, and have a girlfriend that's stable, sane, and loves me.
Leave her, move on, get the fuck out.
It's time. Do it.
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