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Why do women always say they're fat?
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Voice of Reason
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It's annoying when females tell you they're fat (or even males sometimes) when they're thin, and you're actually the fat one.
#firstworldproblems
#firstworldproblems
dragonelite
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All dat food hnnnnggg
BocoDragon
or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
I actually am a fan of this answer because it throws the whole question out the window and reveals itself for the farce that it is.
Same goes for "how old do I look?" "I dunno.... 67?"
Always-honest
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Food? I don't eat or drink any of that shit (since i know more about it). Well, lays chips with just salt, sure (natural).
Zoramon089
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Thanks for calling me weak.There isn't really an equivalent of this (in terms of looks) for men that I can think of, so yeah, I'm not surprised that you would fail to realize how this ends up happening.
Mind you, it's not just media. When you hear it from not only all the media you consume but people like your mother every day of your life, you start to believe it.
Pretty sure being bald is the equivalent, as much as people like to say "Bald guys are sexy!"
dragonelite
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Never said it is quality food. All i allow myself to have one bag of lays each weekend.
Fat girls are fat. Fat guys are fat. If you're overweight you either own it or need to do something about it. Simple as that.
If you're clearly obese and telling everyone you have an average body then you lack confidence and that's doing a bigger disservice than the weight.
windowlurker
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Oh honey, I have experienced it. All through high school. Look me up in the acne threads here--spent 6 fucking months on the drug Accutane.
Every single day in high school I went to class with fresh acne on the bottom left corner of my mouth and whole face. I FELT ridiculed, but realized I just didn't have any confidence. Society didn't tell me anything. Because I wanted the acne gone.
I didn't go up to people saying "My skin sucks, do I look presentable?" I accepted the piece of shit looking human I was and fixed it by going to a dermatologist.
waxer
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Compliments go a long way last two girlfriends did this and I figured out how to stop it quick enough. Compliments and good communication.
I asked in serious discussion why she asked me that when I clearly displayed frequently how attractive I thought she was. Making sure not to sound accusing.
then layed it on thick with pointing out that I would mention how good she looks everyday until she believed me.
Was already in habit of doing so as that is how I greet my partners eg good morning gorgeous.
if I get asked again I ask to point out any day that I haven't told her she is beautiful. That I mean what I say now as much as the first day I said it. Both times got a silly expression and followed by realization I'm not lying followed by me being the favorite of the day....week and good times
Problem solved from then on. Happy campers all round.
so corny but It works and its nothing I don't actually mean anyway.
of course a healthy intimate relationship with good communication always helps.
I asked in serious discussion why she asked me that when I clearly displayed frequently how attractive I thought she was. Making sure not to sound accusing.
then layed it on thick with pointing out that I would mention how good she looks everyday until she believed me.
Was already in habit of doing so as that is how I greet my partners eg good morning gorgeous.
if I get asked again I ask to point out any day that I haven't told her she is beautiful. That I mean what I say now as much as the first day I said it. Both times got a silly expression and followed by realization I'm not lying followed by me being the favorite of the day....week and good times
Problem solved from then on. Happy campers all round.
so corny but It works and its nothing I don't actually mean anyway.
of course a healthy intimate relationship with good communication always helps.
SpacedCadette
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Not disagreeing with you there. Just giving an explanation as to why some of those women are listing themselves as "average" weight when they may not be.
Don't worry, it's coming for men:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muscle_dysmorphia
http://jmm.sagepub.com/content/4/3/219.short
http://journals.psychiatryonline.org/article.aspx?Volume=157&page=1297&journalID=13
Book - Body Image: Understanding Body Dissatisfaction in Men, Women and Children
By Sarah Grogan
And the list will go on and on if you want to start looking.
The short answer, as some of the women in this thread have pointed out, are societal definitions of beauty and media representation. And if you pay close attention to marketing and commercials, the field of male beauty products are beginning to be explored and are following the same disastrous hallmarks that plague self image for women. I fully expect these issues to start being an "everybody" problem pretty soon.
Edit: Like this:
not psycho
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You can't get rid of those love handles. Might look good everywhere else, but you'll always be fat.
Jason's Ultimatum
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They want attention, and if you say they look great, then you're forever friendzoned.
Zoe
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Her clothes probably feel different. It's an awful realization.
RSLAEV
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lol I wasn't trying to go all Men's Rights or anything-I guess I was thinking that it's not just Patriarchy, it's dominance.
edit: I'm not trying to downplay the impact of patriarchy
I wish this was illegal. You can see the tumblr page of the person who actually created the image, then TWO, fucking TWO 9GAG watermarks with someone else's name on it.
Jesus, fuck. That really ruffles my ruskies.
Since I belong to a mixed social circle of both men and women, women's wardrobes tends to be helluva expensive due to the vast quantity of clothes. For the self proclaimed 'fat' women, it may be more difficult to find the desired clothing their size and plus/women's size clothing tends to be more expensive.
Also Body Dysphoria runs deep in Western/developed culture. If someone fishes for compliments, there is sadly a self confidence issue.
Also Body Dysphoria runs deep in Western/developed culture. If someone fishes for compliments, there is sadly a self confidence issue.
100 points into penis
Vermillion
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hgarrett54
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Wait, so if it's a girl it's all the medias fault but if it's a guy he's a pussy?
I say it all the time and I know I'm actually fairly fit. I just say it because I don't have abs yet, and that's the standard I hold myself to. Not sure if I hold that standard because of magazines, but it just feels really good to be fit. Feels a lot better than eating chips and soda, certainly.
ahahahahahahahahaha
Zoe
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Well it's not just the price (I haven't noticed any just below plus), but clothes are generally designed with smaller frames in mind, so when someone larger wears them, they tend to not look right.
freenudemacusers
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on the flip side, women also have a lot more options than dudes at every level of the market. You can dress pretty fashionably hitting up target x whoever lines. not so much for guys.Since I belong to a mixed social circle of both men and women, women's wardrobes tends to be helluva expensive due to the vast quantity of clothes. For the self proclaimed 'fat' women, it may be more difficult to find the desired clothing their size and plus/women's size clothing tends to be more expensive.
Also Body Dysphoria runs deep in Western/developed culture. If someone fishes for compliments, there is sadly a self confidence issue.
Swing and a miss.
Davey Cakes
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One of my new favorite gifs.only good part of this thread...
When my wife asks it's more like she's asking if there's anything she's missed or if the outfit doesn't go together. She chose to wear it so she obviously thinks it looks decent but wants some reassurance. She never says "Do I look fat?" but will say " Does this look ok?" Basically I'm letting her know her undies aren't hanging out, the label on her top isn't poking up at the neck and there's no cat fur clumped somewhere unseen or she looks like one of the Golden Girls. She knows I won't bullshit her as well.
This is a bizzare thing to say.
This is a bizzare thing to say.
Oh yeah, I can definately understand that. My good friend is a shorter person with a larger bust and she has a hard time finding clothes that fit her so she gets some clothes that match her bust but baggy in the waist area. She looks great in her clothes but I can see where she and other people coming from.
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SquiddyCracker
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I personally like the fatties, no joke. I joined lovethesecurves in hopes of finding a chubby girl, no luck. The thing about bbws is that they are either super fat and use that to date/take advantage of bbw admirers, or they are chubby and if you say "I think you look stunning, just the way you are." they don't believe you, and start fighting.
Big tits, big ass, chub in the middle, and a round face....mmmmmmmmmm
Big tits, big ass, chub in the middle, and a round face....mmmmmmmmmm
freenudemacusers
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Voice of Reason
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Damn, now I wanna bone a BBW.
This guy has game.
Hahahahaha
I can't tell if its the worst date ever or one of the best.
I recommend it. Doggy style, though. Ass as far as the eye can see!
H.Protagonist
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Also Body Dysphoria runs deep in Western/developed culture. If someone fishes for compliments, there is sadly a self confidence issue.
^I have to say I agree that's it's mostly this. Maybe some women are fishing for compliments, but feeling insecure about your body regardless of weight or shape or size is very, very common.
cutmeamango
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Is this a stealth Christina Hendricks thread? Don't fool me GAF.
PigSpeakers
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Man, I love chubby women. Give me some hips, thighs and cuuuuuuuuuuuurves, brother.
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