I've found the opposite to be true.
Once you get older and have families that's just the way it goes.
Huh.
Guess I'm fortunate enough to have a girlfriend that has no problems with me having a female friend / housemate.
You can do better than having jealous other halves that don't trust you.
This. I bumped into a old friend two days ago and had basically nothing to talk about. I couldn't wait for what passed as the conversation to come to an end.All my friends fizzled out once I got older.
I have no friends at all since I got older.
You're rather young, no? Seems the big shift happens in the 30s or when people start getting married and such.I've found the opposite to be true.
But 20-30s it was the opposite for me as well.
Friendships can't fizzle out if you never had them in the first place:
Getting married ended the closeness of the friendships I had with people of the opposite gender. I still have female friends, but I'm much more purposeful in setting and respecting boundaries.
Youre right. My apologies and to Coolio.No.
If you have in mind people whose experiences you're discounting, you probably should have said that in the OP.
And, I'm 34 and was previously married.
Straight male, single, still in uni. Not so much fizzled out as they all quickly ended about two years ago. They stopped talking to me on social media, despite attempts from me to reach out. Maybe it was me, but I think of any specific reason as to why.
Maybe it's because I'm still relatively young, but I'm not entirely convinced that close platonic opp-sex friendships are sustainable. Unless you're physically repulsed by them, does there not come a point where you stop to wonder why you're not just dating?
Pretty much. No time for anything else besides career and family.
There is no way it was normal to be friends with the opposite sex when you were a kid though, it was always girls are disgusting so you only have male friends. I imagine it was the same for any girls that were growing up.
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What is this even?
I have no friends at all since I got older.
I sometimes feel bad for being 28yo and not being even on the same planet with the idea of having a family etc. That post made this day into one of those days that I don't feel bad about it lol.
Isn't there some studies that show that this is a problem for men especially(not having friends in general, not just female friends)? And I mean problem, as in something that has adverse effects on a man's psyche as time goes on? I see a lot of people here citing that they're set now that they're married and have families and it is just to be expected, yet most of these people will divorce from their current spouses at some point, and when that happens it would propably be nice to have some friends you stayed in touch with.
This is common enough that even I have seen this with a couple of friends of mine where they just don't keep in touch with me and our friends anymore but we still try and get him to chill out with us few times a year. In each and every case of these the wife does keep in touch with her friends though. When the shit will eventually hit the fan, the wives will have a much stronger support/safety net waiting for them, I feel.
I have no friends at all since I got older.
Life is a series of trade offs and you have to figure out what is best for you according to your needs. Needs which will change over the years. It is amazing how I have little desire to share, watch tv or movies now that Im preoccupied with kids and work and house tasks. Id rather play mario kart with my son than hang out at a bar with a friend, for example.
I've never been just friends with women. There is no way it was normal to be friends with the opposite sex when you were a kid though, it was always girls are disgusting so you only have male friends. I imagine it was the same for any girls that were growing up.
Sometimes even simple things like asking where my friend was would be met with 'Awww, miss your girlfriend?' or some other rubbish. Hell, to my continued amazement I still get the adult sexualized version of those comments occasionally.
Some people never grow up, apparently.
As if all someone of the opposite gender is good for is sex or something.
Yeah exactly. The limited conception of male-female relationships some people have is depressing, and I can't imagine it serves them well in their own lives. At least one of my housemates is gay, so our relationship is less likely to attract those kinds of comments lol.
I've found the opposite to be true.