Find the people you've wronged and make amends...?
There is no absolution or forgiveness. You can only do your best going forward.
Forgive yourself and live the right way. When your past inevitably catches up with you confront it with the humility and respect the offended deserve and make amends as best you can. Some things can't be forgiven, work to never be in that/those situations ever again.
Define "dark"...
I have a dark past and I am trying to move on and accept it. I wronged a lot of people and pissed them off really badly.
I am scared that my past might come back to haunt me. How do I live in the present and stop worrying about this?
Ive been saying this for a long time. Redemption is a frivalous notion that abusers fabricated to make themsleves feel better. Its a myth. This is coming from a person who has abused others and has been abused by others.There is no absolution or forgiveness. You can only do your best going forward.
So what should be abuser's destiny be?Ive been saying this for a long time. Redemption is a frivalous notion that abusers fabricated to make themsleves feel better. Its a myth. This is coming from a person who has abused others and has been abused by others.
All i know is that once an act is commited, its recorded on the universe's ledger forever. There is no taking it back and there is no making up for it, because making up for it requires resources that could have been spent elsewhere. Make peace with that if u can, i know i struggle with it often.So what should be abuser's destiny be?
the universes ledger
I think he's referring to karma. You get what you give and you give what you get, basically. Be a bad person and it will come back to you in some way. Be a good person, and likewise that will effect your life as well.
There is no absolution or forgiveness. You can only do your best going forward.
I dont believe in karma. When i say recorded in the ledger i mean, what happens, happens and youre going to have consequences. You cant pretend it didnt happen, you cant change it, you cant rectify it. If anything, universes ledger walks hand in hand with the law of conservation of mass. You cant create time for time you wasted in the past, you cant erase mental trauma you caused, you cant make it as if physical trauma never happened. It happened and it will always have happened.I think he's referring to karma. You get what you give and you give what you get, basically. Be a bad person and it will come back to you in some way. Be a good person, and likewise that will effect your life as well.
I think we agree, we just have different terms for how to refer to this. Basically yes, everything you do has consequences, effects your reputation, what people say about you/ how they treat you, etc.I dont believe in karma. When i say recorded in the ledger i mean, what happens, happens and youre going to have consequences. You cant pretend it didnt happen, you cant change it, you cant rectify it. If anything, universes ledger walks hand in hand with the law of conservation of mass. You cant create time for time you wasted in the past, you cant erase mental trauma you caused, you cant make it as if physical trauma never happened. It happened and it will always have happened.
Never backward, always forward. Always.Always forward, never straight.
You can't control the past but you can control the future....
Well, you can control how you act and try to do better daily.
I have a dark past and I am trying to move on and accept it. I wronged a lot of people and pissed them off really badly.
I am scared that my past might come back to haunt me. How do I live in the present and stop worrying about this?
What did you do that is so dark that youre moving to another city? Pissing people off doesnt result in such drastic measures.
You sound pretty average by that description. Are you sure you're not just being sensitive and over thinking things? You sound kind of young. When you are older, no one will give a shit and may actually like you more for actually having a little character! But also if you are older that means you will not care what other people think at that point, anyway..I was really REALLY annoying and flirty and as a result, pissed off a lot of people. Clubs and many social circles ostracized me.
Ive been saying this for a long time. Redemption is a frivalous notion that abusers fabricated to make themsleves feel better. Its a myth. This is coming from a person who has abused others and has been abused by others.
This is an obvious approach but I think they don't want anything to do with me.
Is that all? Seems a bit of an overreaction to move towns because you flirted with people.I was really REALLY annoying and flirty and as a result, pissed off a lot of people. Clubs and many social circles ostracized me.