shanshan310
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Then, what do you mean by pressuring?
coercing or forcing someone into sex, or beginning intercourse after they have said no.
Then, what do you mean by pressuring?
coercing or forcing someone into sex, or beginning intercourse after they have said no.
Well no, but if he continued pestering her maybe.
She sounds pretty ambitious, intellectual and intelligent for her age. I wish her best of good luck in her journey.
Also, those remarks by those boys are pretty worthless and tasteless. They lack any actual impact. Hey, I may sound like a white knight for once, but guys with single digit IQs aren't worth defending.
I think lots of it has to do with the misconception that all feminists hate menChrist, that's awful. I will never understand what makes people so angry with feminists and feminism. That knee jerk response of "bitch", "butch" or "feminazis". What the fuck.
She probably came off as condescending to the coffee bearing male
If she were smarter she would know which type of male to avoid
She sounds pretty ambitious, intellectual and intelligent for her age. I wish her best of good luck in her journey.
Also, those remarks by those boys are pretty worthless and tasteless. They lack any actual impact. Hey, I may sound like a white knight for once, but guys with single digit IQs aren't worth defending.
But why are they doing so?
http://www.raderprograms.com/causes-statistics/media-eating-disorders.html
Pestering isn't coercing. Pestering isn't forcing. Pestering is to annoy someone with repeated requests.
I think boys with single digit IQ's are incapable of actually living/functioning
What a bunch of arseholes.
Why is it impossible for some people to just treat girls nicely?
I meant if it escalated.
I stopped reading at 17 year old girl. because honestly, 17 year old. I doubt any side of this situation was approached with anything close to actual maturity.
It would have been one big escalation of selfrightiousness -> asshole response to the power 10.
Source: Me because I went to high school once.
In a way you can define obesity as eating disorder or even malnutrition (these definitions cover both under and over consumption).Isn't obesity a much bigger problem amongst American teens than anorexia/bulimia?
I am a feminist. I believe in gender equality.
"bitches should keep their bitchiness to their bitch-selves #BITCH"
It's been over a century since the birth of the suffragette movement and boys are still not being brought up to believe that women are their equals. Instead we have a whole new battleground opening up online where boys can attack, humiliate, belittle us and do everything in their power to destroy our confidence before we even leave high school.
For me, these two stances can't co-exist. I simply you don't believe you can believe, preach and practice equality whilst pressing the agenda (albeit with honorable intentions) of one demographic over another.
This isn't just a gender thing, the same applies to race, religion, sexuality, age, etc. I work in a large multinational company in which there are a number of social societies. Some are for women, some are for GLBT people, some are for Asian people and so on. But in my opinion, aside from the probable sense of inclusiveness it gives those who identify themselves with those societies, all it serves to do is further highlight the sense of "these people over here and different to those people over there".
The more you force people to acknowledge and accept differences in a ham-fisted and unnatural way, the more people will become attuned to and aware of those very differences.
While it´s unacceptable that girls get treated like that in that high school,
but this
Give me a fucking break. Who puts this kind of crap into their heads?
Feminism IS about equality though, not just pushing for women's rights.
It describes common law, modern statutory law, and the modern penal code, which is the basis for criminal law in many states. You're not reading it carefully.
Forcible does not mean insistent begging, or pressuring short of threats, it means force or threats of force.
Wrt marital rape, at common law one couldn't rape one's spouse. That is not the modern approach.
For me, these two stances can't co-exist. I simply don't believe you can believe, preach and practice equality whilst pressing the agenda (albeit with honorable intentions) of one demographic over another.
The more you force people to acknowledge and accept differences in a ham-fisted and unnatural way, the more people will become attuned to and aware of those very differences.
A 5-year-old girl in Georgia is being asked a series of questions in her school library.
The girl, who is white, is looking at pictures of five cartoons of girls, all identical except for skin color ranging from light to dark.
When asked who the smart child is, she points to a light-skinned doll. When asked who the mean child is she points to a dark-skinned doll. She says a white child is good because "I think she looks like me", and says the black child is ugly because "she's a lot darker."
After watching her daughter answer the questions, the mother is brought to tears.
[...]
The mother, whose name the study prohibits from being used, says her daughter has "never asked her about color" and that the results of the test were an eye opener, and she says she and her daughter "talked a long time about it"
Her daughter's perception on race and the fact that the issue was not taken up at home is in many ways typical.
Research and discussions with parents of the children who participated in this study, indicate that white parents as a whole do not talk to their kids about race as much as black parents.
A 2007 study in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that 75 percent of white families with kindergartners never, or almost never, talk about race. For black parents the number is reversed with 75 percent addressing race with their children.
Po Bronson, author of NurtureShock and an award-winning writer on parenting issues says white parents "want to give their kids this sort of post-racial future when they're very young and they're under the wrong conclusion that their kids are colorblind. ... It's in the absence of messages of tolerance that they will naturally ... develop these skin preferences."
Many African-American parents CNN spoke to during the study say they begin discussing race at a very early age because they say they feel they have to prepare their children for a society where their skin color will create obstacles for them.
I seriously doubt that some men being dicks towards women will ever go away...I'm sure sexism will end at some point just be patient
When she says " Many of the girls have eating disorders" in my opinion that's a problem created by women. The vast majority of men don't want stick figures that are anorexic. I've never in my life met a guy who demands a girl lose weight that he's dating. Girls who verbally abuse and bully other girls at school and call them fat and a slut create those kind of eating disorders. Some intentionally want to make them get that disorder.
I seriously doubt that some men being dicks towards women will ever go away...
I think this topic is important but sometimes it's hard to take seriously because many feminists in the spotlight are so weird and hardcore.
I've read a nice comment about that once and for me this topic indeed boils down to that often...
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How men see women equality:
Men = women
How women see women quality:
Women > Men
And perhaps unsurprisingly, while both black and white kids expressed a preference for the white dolls, the preference was not nearly as strong among the black children. I don't think it is a stretch to think that black parents explicitly talking to their kids about race helps with this.
We learn these things very young, and this sort of associative memory stays with you. This is why when people are polled, 95 percent who are asked to envision a drug dealer envision a black man. This is why when people are put in an experiment where they have to react to pictures of people holding an object (gun, soda can, wallet, and so forth), study participants were far more likely to mistake a black man as holding a gun when he wasn't - and shooting him - and also far more likely to mistake a white man with a gun as being nonthreatening. We notice race on an immediate preconscious level that affects our perceptions already, and this is also true for sex as well.
We do better by talking about differences and dispelling misconceptions that people have learned through cultural osmosis than we do by pretending that there are no differences.
"Market feminism better to be more accessible to men." Too easy! It's not like you could be ignorant for not knowing the definition of feminism. (And, hey, why not change that pesky name and take the 'fem' out?)
All we need next is a good ol' fashioned censorship screed.
For me, these two stances can't co-exist. I simply don't believe you can preach, believe and practice equality whilst pressing the agenda (albeit with honorable intentions) of one demographic over another.
This isn't just a gender thing, the same applies to race, religion, sexuality, age, etc. I work in a large multinational company in which there are a number of social societies. Some are for women, some are for GLBT people, some are for Asian people and so on. But in my opinion, aside from the probable sense of inclusiveness it gives those who identify themselves with those societies, all it serves to do is further highlight the sense of "these people over here and different to those people over there".
The more you force people to acknowledge and accept differences in a ham-fisted and unnatural way, the more people will become attuned to and aware of those very differences.
Hahaha this is hilarious. Maybe you're just so used to having all these privileges that equality for you looks like such a downgrade that women must now be on top.I seriously doubt that some men being dicks towards women will ever go away...
I think this topic is important but sometimes it's hard to take seriously because many feminists in the spotlight are so weird and hardcore.
I've read a nice comment about that once and for me this topic indeed boils down to that often...
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How men see women equality:
Men = women
How women see women quality:
Women > Men
Nobody ever thought slavery would end
I'm sure sexism will end at some point just be patient
What pisses me off about a lot of feminists isn't because they're girls wanting equal rights.... They're girls labeling everything sexist and all men should feel bad for being men.
That's the kind of feminist crap I hate and a lot of guys hate. No group wants to all be labeled as a scum bag arsehole. I don't want to be lumped in the same group as rapists and abusers because I have a dick. Yet they always try to push that agenda.
I'm not against feminism but there seems to be a gap between equal rights feminists and pro-women/anti-men feminists
But I do question if embracing feminism, and therefore creating an us vs them situation with the boys, is the way to solve these issues.
Telling a teenage boy he needs to somehow focus squarely on your problems, as if his are irrelevant or not even there, seems ill-advised. They're just not going to be receptive to that are they.
For me, these two stances can't co-exist. I simply don't believe you can preach, believe and practice equality whilst pressing the agenda (albeit with honorable intentions) of one demographic over another.
This isn't just a gender thing, the same applies to race, religion, sexuality, age, etc. I work in a large multinational company in which there are a number of social societies. Some are for women, some are for GLBT people, some are for Asian people and so on. But in my opinion, aside from the probable sense of inclusiveness it gives those who identify themselves with those societies, all it serves to do is further highlight the sense of "these people over here and different to those people over there".
The more you force people to acknowledge and accept differences in a ham-fisted and unnatural way, the more people will become attuned to and aware of those very differences.
There's really no need to associate one's self with feminism. That's actually one of the most basic issues with these societal problems, labels, in-groups and out groups (or really just perception of such). You can do whatever you want without identifying yourself as something special, exclusive or different. It's also perhaps detrimental because the word is tainted and honestly a misnomer for a lot of self described feminists. Many are concerned about gender equality and there's no real reason to use a term that seems to exclude issues with men or any other identifiable gender.
I think everyone would see better success if they dropped the antiquated term.
I don't think anybody is asking teenage boys to "focus squarely on [girls] problems", just hoping that they won't be absolute dicks towards girls.
Maybe these girls are just choosing poorly. If you're picking the jock type alpha male, don't be surprised if he acts like an arrogant dick. I find it hard to believe there are no nice guys for these girls to go out with. Maybe they should go have a look who's hanging out in the library. Or the chess room. Or the AV club!
Maybe these girls are just choosing poorly. If you're picking the jock type alpha male, don't be surprised if he acts like an arrogant dick. I find it hard to believe there are no nice guys for these girls to go out with. Maybe they should go have a look who's hanging out in the library. Or the chess room. Or the AV club!
Guys don't have to be dating women to be assholes to them. I don't know if "go hang out with nice men instead" is really effective at dealing with sexism in society.
Must feel good to be in "right" group.I really see no reason to associate with people who don't identify as feminists in this day and age. The objectives of this particular school of thought are so wide-reaching and beneficial that you either have to be sexist or willfully ignorant to not sympathize with them. The way I see it there are three types of people in relation to this issue: sexist people who will never change, ignorant people who need to be educated, and normal people who are feminists. You could argue for days about how inclusive the label itself is, but the philosophy aims for total equality and liberation between the sexes, not just for women.
Feminism = Believing women should have equal rights to men. It's a very broad range, and i'm not sure whether your bold example is a straw feminist, or one very extreme person, but the vast majority of feminists do not think that. I believe that the majority of males are feminists in all but self-definition.
Who tells these girls who to "pick"? What do you see in the power plays between alpha males and nerds or simply non-arrogant, non-sporting males? This is the kind of complex, deeply interwoven problem that surrounds these issues.
I would say the VAST majority of women I've come across who call them self feminists are like that. They use that word as a weapon, not a stance.
So many debates go like this:
Me: I think X, Y, and Z.
Feminist: You have no idea!
Me: Why?
Feminist: You're male, you don't understand, you're too sad to bother explaining it too. Why don't you go off and perv at some girls like you enjoy doing?
Me: Umm, no? I said X, Y, and Z because of this reason. Explain why you think that's wrong.
Feminist: You're so warped you have no idea. It's funny really you think you're smart and knowledge able. X is clearly wrong because of this reason.
Me: That makes no sense. You ignore Y and Z and focus on a part of X that I wasn't talking about. Explain it with all of those points, don't just cherry pick.
Feminist: *No reply*
Those are the ones that don't give a shit about equal rights.
This is funny because those "nice guys/nerds" can be just as sexist and as much of assholes as the jocks.
This is funny because those "nice guys/nerds" can be just as sexist and as much of assholes as the jocks.Maybe these girls are just choosing poorly. If you're picking the jock type alpha male, don't be surprised if he acts like an arrogant dick. I find it hard to believe there are no nice guys for these girls to go out with. Maybe they should go have a look who's hanging out in the library. Or the chess room. Or the AV club!
If people are ignorant about the definition about feminism, and you want them to not be ignorant about the definition of feminism, I don't see how the blame isn't on the movement for portraying the message effectively.
I also don't understand how you can expect them to learn and understand the definition on their own when they've already had ample time to do that, and it really just isn't happening.
Simply from my own experiences, if you were to ask many if they were for the equality of the sexes, the majority would say yes.
On the other hand, if you were to ask them if they were for feminism, that number would differ significantly.
Feminist: You're so warped you have no idea. It's funny really you think you're smart and knowledge able.