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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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Xun

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Decisions, decisions. Think after the trip you might have to decide soon whether you want a relationship with the Romanian girl or still want to play the field, cause she seems committed.
100% I want to be official with her, no doubt about that.

I just feel guilty with things at the moment.
 

AcridMeat

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Your friends are dinkos.

We discussed this already that she's gone for an extended period of time, and you'll suss out if you're both still feeling hot for a relationship with each other then.

No point is mulling around when nothing is gonna change between now and then. Have fun in Paris damn it.
 
Busy weekend.

Today we are doubling up. Her grandmother is turning 102 today so we are going to be going to that.

Afterwards we are going to my future godson's baby shower. This will be the first time the majority of my social circle meets her.

Tomorrow my aunt is having me come over for dinner to celebrate my birthday. She is going to be coming to that as well. First time she is meeting anyone in my family. My parents are PISSED that my aunt and uncle are meeting her before they are.

I guess things are getting pretty serious.
 

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Your friends are dinkos.

We discussed this already that she's gone for an extended period of time, and you'll suss out if you're both still feeling hot for a relationship with each other then.

No point is mulling around when nothing is gonna change between now and then. Have fun in Paris damn it.

I didn't read the whole story but basically this.

I was in a similar situation last year. Really clicked with a girl that would leave the country for half a year.

A few dates down the road we had a talk about relationships and that I wasn't into long distance at all. She was neither, and so we agreed upon getting to know each other until she left, staying in loose contact while she's gone and just see where we stand half a year later.
 

Salamando

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I didn't read the whole story but basically this.

I was in a similar situation last year. Really clicked with a girl that would leave the country for half a year.

A few dates down the road we had a talk about relationships and that I wasn't into long distance at all. She was neither, and so we agreed upon getting to know each other until she left, staying in loose contact while she's gone and just see where we stand half a year later.

Well, yeah, you two talked about it. Xun exists in a nebulous status between "is a couple" and isn't.

What does Paris have to do with (the potential for) cheating anyway? You're seeing the Kiwi already...sex doesn't magically become (morally) worse just because you're in another city.
 
Haha just got a date with this girl tonight and of course I just find out she works with my ex. God dammit.

Not that its a huge deal but the ex just started a new job as a server at the same place this girl works at so chances are they will be friends and I have been trying real hard to remove the ex from my life. Just shitty luck.
 

Peltz

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100% I want to be official with her, no doubt about that.

I just feel guilty with things at the moment.
You want to be official with a girl but are going to travel and have sex with another girl?

I'm not saying it's wrong, just trying to understand the gist of it. If you aren't official yet and aren't going to be in circumstances where you can become official anytime soon, you're free to do as you please.

You shouldn't put your life on hold for what may or may not happen a month from now. Continue to grow as a person and experience new things. If you still feel the same way when that girl comes back, then agree to commit.

But I wouldn't act like your committed before you're actually committed. You're still single. So no need to feel guilty.
 

gaiages

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*weeps at the ghosting thread*

I swear even the ghosting complainers we get here are more reasonable

Related to LookAtMeGo's post... I swear, everyone knows my ex. It sucks. Well, it'd suck more if not literally every single person except one was like "that guy's a major dick" (and that one other person was also a dick), but still. It makes me not want to go to certain types of meetups in the town, since he might be there.

It's actually a big motivator for moving.

Yay failed relationships \o/
 
*weeps at the ghosting thread*

I swear even the ghosting complainers we get here are more reasonable

Its now been taken over by the bitter little fucks who are exactly the thing women avoid by ghosting. Calling themselves victims and the women just shitty people for ghosting even when the reasons have been repeated ovet and over.

The best post is the one from the overprotective dad saying nobody is allowed to text his kids when they get older UNLESS they make a voicecall first!
 

gaiages

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Its now been taken over by the bitter little fucks who are exactly the thing women avoid by ghosting. Calling themselves victims and the women just shitty people for ghosting even when the reasons have been repeated ovet and over.

The best post is the one from the overprotective dad saying nobody is allowed to text his kids when they get older UNLESS they make a voicecall first!

OMFG really? I've only been ducking in and out of that therad to keep my sanity. It's just hilarious how much that thread has become Exhibit A for ghosting, LOL!

Your parents need to get overthemselves and quickly. That butthurt attitude ruins weddings.

Family drama is like the cornerstone of a wedding though! Can't be a good wedding without a passive aggressive toast somewhere in there

Even if I get married I sure as hell am not going to have a wedding
 

Big Blue

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Haha just got a date with this girl tonight and of course I just find out she works with my ex. God dammit.

Not that its a huge deal but the ex just started a new job as a server at the same place this girl works at so chances are they will be friends and I have been trying real hard to remove the ex from my life. Just shitty luck.

You owe your ex, his/her feelings, etc. nothing. Unless, you still having feelings for him/her?
 
You owe your ex, his/her feelings, etc. nothing. Unless, you still having feelings for him/her?
I still do for sure. Which is why im trying to cut that shit off. She is my kryptonite.

We've been doing this on and off bullshit for months and its been killing me so I finally did the whole block her on social media and everything so I can ginally move on from her just a few days ago. Then the first date I get after works with her. Its just funny to me. Im just about to meet the date so we will see how it goes.
 

Jzero

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Guys what's that word the youngings are using to refer to backhanded compliments on dating sites?

Edit: nevermind just remembered it's negging
 

Jzero

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You think she's giving you "signs"?

It's actually a he. My gay coworker keeps complimenting me and negging me pretty much daily 😂

This dude goes from:

"You're so easy on the eyes" to "You would look better if your ears weren't as tiny and weird"

and from

"Your beard is so nice and connected" to "You should shave your mustache, it's pretty patchy compared to the rest" (He's not wrong but fuck man chill out)
 
It's actually a he. My gay coworker keeps complimenting me and negging me pretty much daily 😂

This dude goes from:

"You're so easy on the eyes" to "You would look better if your ears weren't as tiny and weird"

and from

"Your beard is so nice and connected" to "You should shave your mustache, it's pretty patchy compared to the rest" (He's not wrong but fuck man chill out)

Is it working? Are you actively seeking his approval in the power dynamic and end up sleeping with him?
 
You guys may remember me from earlier this year. I was interested in this veterinarian's assistant, thought the interest was mutual. Should have simply asked her out by now, hasn't happened yet simply because the opportunity hasn't been there yet and to be honest i had given up on it too.

But recently i had to pick up a new dosage of medication for my dog and there she was again. And like the previous times i noticed her behaviour. Let's just say that as soon as she saw me appearing i noticed her becoming very cheery and like she was really happy to see me. The same can be said about when i call the place to order the medication and i am talking to her.

No point in dwelling on shit anymore, life's too short. So i'm just gonna ask her for a drink or maybe a game of pool....both perhaps. Just need to find a good moment where no co-workers or customers are around, that's always better. Wish me luck and i'll let you guys know the outcome.
 
Doesn't sex become magically better because it's Paris?

Like it has something to do with baguettes and coffee shops.
I think you forgot about the butter.

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Stopdoor

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You guys may remember me from earlier this year. I was interested in this veterinarian's assistant, thought the interest was mutual. Should have simply asked her out by now, hasn't happened yet simply because the opportunity hasn't been there yet and to be honest i had given up on it too.

But recently i had to pick up a new dosage of medication for my dog and there she was again. And like the previous times i noticed her behaviour. Let's just say that as soon as she saw me appearing i noticed her becoming very cheery and like she was really happy to see me. The same can be said about when i call the place to order the medication and i am talking to her.

No point in dwelling on shit anymore, life's too short. So i'm just gonna ask her for a drink or maybe a game of pool....both perhaps. Just need to find a good moment where no co-workers or customers are around, that's always better. Wish me luck and i'll let you guys know the outcome.

I think the advice you'd get from this thread is that service workers (or at least, working with people) are supposed to be nice to you and dudes often optimistically read even minimal sorts of friendliness as interest, so keep your expectations in check.

And also always ask them out ASAP.
 
I think the advice you'd get from this thread is that service workers (or at least, working with people) are supposed to be nice to you and dudes often optimistically read even minimal sorts of friendliness as interest, so keep your expectations in check.

And also always ask them out ASAP.

Definitely keeping them in check and I've been wrong before on this in the past but it seems different now. It's maybe a bit weird to bring this up but last week as a weird week. My mom's dog's health had been declining for a while now and one morning last week it was very bad. The little guy couldn't even stand on his feet anymore and he clearly was in pain.

She decided to call the vet and let her come over and she said it was best to let him pass away in peace, something my mom had already decided too. He had a great life but pain shouldn't be part of that. The nice assistant had come along with the vet as well and naturally I wasn't going to ask her at that time, that thought didn't even cross my mind. I however did clearly notice that she was eyeing me and noticing her behavior.

I realize that it may very well be just normal friendliness but to me it comes off as very different compared to how all the other assistants communicate with me on the phone and in person.

A whole lot of text for something so small. I just wanted to say this. But like I said, I had given up on it until I saw her again and then decided there's nothing wrong with giving it a shot. We'll see. And if not, not the end of the world. :)

And as for that last part. Yeah I agree man. I tend to wait/well on it way too long and it's not worth it.
 
My friend took photos of me in the suit but they're blurry and shit. I actually don't know how he managed to screw up basically every shot, including group shots where he said I looked fine, but I'm clearly talking to someone off the the side and nobody was ready 🙄 Guess I'll have to find another excuse to suit up sometime soon and take some pics. Maybe hit the casino on Tuesday, idk. This weekend I've got a friend's birthday and she's inviting all of her friends to a Japanese beer place and I've also got a chill barbecue party after work on Sunday that should be cool. Both opportunities to meet new people and get some photos. Also considering either going on a mountain ride on the motorcycle or jet skiing on Saturday, both for getting pictures and just generally having fun.

I was chatting up a girl I hadn't met before at the races for a little while and told her I'd catch her later, but I left with some mates for like an hour to grab some drinks and make some bets and by the time I got back, she was passed out and being helped out of the venue by her slightly less drunk friends. Free beer, wine and spirits made that a pretty common site, unfortunately. My mate's GF is newish friends with her, so I'll undoubtedly run into her again within a few weeks.
 
Confession time.

Yesterday after the baby shower, I brought my gf back to my apartment. I then suggested she looked really tired and that she should take a nap.

That way I could play FFXII HD. GotY.

I'm a bad boyfriend lol.
 
Confession time.

Yesterday after the baby shower, I brought my gf back to my apartment. I then suggested she looked really tired and that she should take a nap.

That way I could play FFXII HD. GotY.

I'm a bad boyfriend lol.

You aren't.

I'm playing games on the couch right now and my girl's doing homework upstairs. We woke up early, got coffee, then went grocery shopping. I'm not looking forward to taking the 5am train home tomorrow morning, but this is worth it.

(Good choice in games, though.)
 

artsi

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I play games together with my girl so it's cool. She usually just watches because she prefers KB+M and can't play with gamepad.
 
Welp. Hooked up with my exes coworker. See how this plays out. Should I have mentioned the ex? I dunno. She wants to meet up again. I guess it couldnt hurt to mention it? Should I just not mention it? Its like... shes guna find out regardless. This girl is actually pretty cool, I'm pretty sure when the ex finds out she will not be happy and probably talk some shit. I'm just thinking maybe telling the date about it so it doesnt backfire. Lol good lord.
 
Welp. Hooked up with my exes coworker. See how this plays out. Should I have mentioned the ex?

Nope, not relevant to the relationship imo. If she starts talking shit to the girl you're seeing, I'd hope that the girl you're seeing will contact you first before freaking out or whatever.
 
Aww crazy bacon caught the hammer eh? Shitty

Not surprising, unfortunately. His posting style is confrontational, which is a bannable offence here :| That being said, he could have been banned for some other type of post. I haven't seen anything that egregious from him though, tbh.
 
Welp. Hooked up with my exes coworker. See how this plays out. Should I have mentioned the ex? I dunno. She wants to meet up again. I guess it couldnt hurt to mention it? Should I just not mention it? Its like... shes guna find out regardless. This girl is actually pretty cool, I'm pretty sure when the ex finds out she will not be happy and probably talk some shit. I'm just thinking maybe telling the date about it so it doesnt backfire. Lol good lord.

I would say nothing personally.
 
Confession time.

Yesterday after the baby shower, I brought my gf back to my apartment. I then suggested she looked really tired and that she should take a nap.

That way I could play FFXII HD. GotY.

I'm a bad boyfriend lol.

That's probably heathy for the relationship that you can follow your own interests and relax at home. You cannot spend all your time together, it gets exhausting as I remember from some of the early days in some of my relationships.
 
Confession time.

Yesterday after the baby shower, I brought my gf back to my apartment. I then suggested she looked really tired and that she should take a nap.

That way I could play FFXII HD. GotY.

I'm a bad boyfriend lol.

Omg. My girl just told me how much she loved FFX
and FFX-2 and was intrigued by my purchase of XV...

This girl, seriously. 😍
 
I would say nothing personally.
Im not gona say anything. But I know she likes to hang out at their work. Its a nice bistro/lounge right on the ocean so if she says she wants to go hang out there I think I may have to mention it to avoid an awkward surprise. Or maybe I'll try to avoid going there for a bit. Lol. I think it would make me look like a dick if I said nothing knowing that the ex works there and I show up with the new girl.
 
I've finally met the one. We've been going out for a month and a half now and I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes! 💍😊😍

Can't wait to see what the future brings
 

Peltz

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Welp. Hooked up with my exes coworker. See how this plays out. Should I have mentioned the ex? I dunno. She wants to meet up again. I guess it couldnt hurt to mention it? Should I just not mention it? Its like... shes guna find out regardless. This girl is actually pretty cool, I'm pretty sure when the ex finds out she will not be happy and probably talk some shit. I'm just thinking maybe telling the date about it so it doesnt backfire. Lol good lord.

I once nabbed a pretty hot girl... who was friends with another hot girl I totally wronged in the worst possible way. Once she found out, that shit ended in a giant spectacular fail-bomb.

It probably isn't similar to your situation at all, but you might want to broach the subject if you plan to do more than just hook up with this girl. If not, then does it really matter if you tell her or not?

I've finally met the one. We've been going out for a month and a half now and I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes! ������

Can't wait to see what the future brings

The ring emoji scares the shit out of me in that context.
 
In a major slump.

Ventures back into Tinder just result in bullshit bots and conversations that die out.

I'm just gonna keep swiping, focus on my job and paying off my car and moving out. But I'm not gonna let it get me down.

I just wish I was more willing to put myself out there. I prefer breweries to clubs any day. For context, I'm 26 and I'm kinda over the whole scene.
 
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