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[KlotePino]

Small update on my front. I managed to get a date with her yesterday night and we watched a fun movie. Did the classic moves like ask her to come sit next to me halfway during the movie and we had some good talks. When she nearly wanted to go home it started raining so we laid in bed snuggling a little while. When she finally did leave we kissed for a couple of minutes so I'm on the top of the world right now .

Only problem I have is I feel like I have to initiate most of it, when we were snuggling I had to jump in next to her and although she did scoot on a little closer a couple of times when we were spooning she never really gave me any signs to escalate so we pretty much just laid there for half an hour. I just couldn't tell if she just wanted to lay there and relax or if she wanted me to be a manly man and flip her around and kiss her. Does any girl or guy know how to interpret situations like that? I can provide some more details if necessary.

Haven't confronted her about the dudes I'm suspecting she's seeing either since everything was going well and she's going on vacation for a week anyway so I'll have to save that awkward talk for another time.

Hey guys any tips on this situation? especially the bolded part. Also brainstorming on how to approach a conversation about what cuddling and kissing means to her and how she feels about where we're at right now. Going to have to try and keep the conversation light since I'll definitely scare her off with too much serious relationship talk.

 

[Arjen]

Hey guys any tips on this situation? especially the bolded part. Also brainstorming on how to approach a conversation about what cuddling and kissing means to her and how she feels about where we're at right now. Going to have to try and keep the conversation light since I'll definitely scare her off with too much serious relationship talk.

Some girls really want a man to take the inniative on that front, just try it what you wrote and see how she responds.

 

[KlotePino]

Some girls really want a man to take the inniative on that front, just try it what you wrote and see how she responds.

I guess so, It just feels out of place to try and initiate something if she just wants to chill. Makes it seem like I'm only thinking about groping her when I'm totally fine with just laying there.

 

[Arjen]

I guess so, It just feels out of place to try and initiate something if she just wants to chill. Makes it seem like I'm only thinking about groping her when I'm totally fine with just laying there.

Well if that's what you want it's fine right? All i'm saying is, that if you want more, you might have to show the inniative yourself

 

[Dragon]

Question gents. So I'm moving to New York at the end of the month, so I started messaging women in New York on okcupid. It turns out one of the women I've been conversing with is the sister of a guy I'm going to be working with. My friend at the company says I should just stop talking to her because it's a good idea. But she's a really cool girl and I'd like to get to know her. Should I stop talking to her?

 

[celebi23]

Ok, she finally responded by saying "sounds good". How do I ask her what time and day? Like "I'm free tomorrow afternoon around 3. Does that work for you?" Something like that? Or "I'm free most of the weekend. What time works for you?"

An update. I sent "I'm free most of the weekend. What time works for you?" She responded with "happy bastille day. how about today at 2?" I said "That works. I'll see you there at 2 "

HOLY SHIT I'VE GOT A DATE

 

[Arjen]

An update. I sent "I'm free most of the weekend. What time works for you?" She responded with "happy bastille day. how about today at 2?" I said "That works. I'll see you there at 2 "

HOLY SHIT I'VE GOT A DATE

Good for you man, have fun!

 

[celebi23]

Good for you man, have fun!

Thanks Well, I'm off to go get ready. I'll give you all a report later

 

[greenry]

Hey guys any tips on this situation? especially the bolded part. Also brainstorming on how to approach a conversation about what cuddling and kissing means to her and how she feels about where we're at right now. Going to have to try and keep the conversation light since I'll definitely scare her off with too much serious relationship talk.

Please don't try to have this talk with her. You've been on what, 3 dates? Go on a few more and have sex first before you start thinking about what the relationship is. You are just dating at the moment.

As for your other question, why not just go for it instead of wondering? Stop being passive.

 

[Chinner]

And at that point that’s where I end this description because I don’t want to go into more detail and get banned from Gaf lol.

what happened? did you start up a child porn ring and beat up some minorities?

 

[scotcheggz]

what happened? did you start up a child porn ring and beat up some minorities?

lol

I liked your story nerds, nice one!

 

[Jhoan]

Hey guys any tips on this situation? especially the bolded part. Also brainstorming on how to approach a conversation about what cuddling and kissing means to her and how she feels about where we're at right now. Going to have to try and keep the conversation light since I'll definitely scare her off with too much serious relationship talk.

What arjen said. Since both of you were extremely comfortable with other at that point, I think you could've been aggressive by flipping her over and made out with. Women love when guys are aggressive; it seems that you were paralyzed by your thoughts on how she would react so you didn't decide to make a move.

My brother was in a similar position as you except that he made a move and went to town. She was probably a little bit surprised by the fact that you didn't make a move. So next time you end up on a bed, don't cuddle man; make a move. You can do something as simple as whispering in her ear that you have something you want to tell, flip her around, and make out with her. Good luck.

Question gents. So I'm moving to New York at the end of the month, so I started messaging women in New York on okcupid. It turns out one of the women I've been conversing with is the sister of a guy I'm going to be working with. My friend at the company says I should just stop talking to her because it's a good idea. But she's a really cool girl and I'd like to get to know her. Should I stop talking to her?

So you're moving to our fine (and expensive) metropolis; there's many fine women here from many ethnic backgrounds. You're coming to a GAF meet up next month right?

Any way, I don't know what to make of that since I've never been in that situation. I don't see nothing wrong with that personally since it's not like you're dipping your pen in company ink. Would that really cause problems in the workplace with that guy just because you're going out with his sister? I don't think so; who his sister dates is none of his business. Maybe other Gaffers have a different opinion.

what happened? did you start up a child porn ring and beat up some minorities?

I think they went to Australia to beat up some kangas and established a brothel for dingos. Maybe the dingo ate their baby.

 

[low-G]

What arjen said. Since both of you were extremely comfortable with other at that point, I think you could've been aggressive by flipping her over and made out with. Women love when guys are aggressive; it seems that you were paralyzed by your thoughts on how she would react so you didn't decide to make a move.

My brother was in a similar position as you except that he made a move and went to town. She was probably a little bit surprised by the fact that you didn't make a move. So next time you end up on a bed, don't cuddle man; make a move. You can do something as simple as whispering in her ear that you have something you want to tell, flip her around, and make out with her. Good luck.

Super triple confirmed. I've had a girl straight up tell me that when we were in bed together.

Again my escalation method is based on what I want to go for which is usually thigh rubbing / holding / squeezing on to butt then breasts, making out whenever in that process. Stick your hands into her clothes, under her bra / panties, whatever.


Gosh though, things have been slow for me in the last week and a half. Just nothing, nothing at all going on. And longer if you're talking about any serious action.

I think my 'problem' which I've been bitching about here on NeoGAF for months has become serious, and that is only having any interest in the absolute hottest girls. I keep thinking -- well if she's going to be a 'the one' she could have spectacular beauty which I'll not be dissatisfied with. I'm thinking my standards are legit too high / messed up / or I'm psychologically compensating for my late start or something, because this is not working for me.

 

[Nerds with Guns]

Thanks for all the love everybody. Its been a weird ass week so far lol.


Mini Update:


Haven’t slept much today (interpret that however you will) and my mind is still going at a mile a minute. I woke up at 5:30 and went out for a run, (horrible idea. still ugly as shit outside) got back inside, took a shower, and started making breakfast. That woke her up around 7:00 and we talked for about three hours. She said after she leaves here she would go ahead and end it with her bf; so that made me happy. She also said we’ll meet up later this evening and go out. I still feel weird about all this and I still don’t think I’ve processed most of it yet. But at the same time I’m happy with everything and curious to see where this goes. If none of this makes sense to you it’s because it doesn’t make sense to me either. She also left about an hour ago and I’m thinking I’ll just go out and swim for the rest of the day.

Nice.

Also random question, but how old are you?

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[Izick]

so I have that 1 girl that I knew from school call me if you have some people over tonight but I'm not sure if I want to go. I think I have Bad breakout on my face and I don't think I want to have the odds stacked against me from the beginning.

 

[celebi23]

So, just got back. Warning: this might be a bit long and ramble a bit.

Earlier today, I showed the picture of the girl to my sister and she said it looked like someone she knew in High School who had a bit of a learning disability. So, I got to Starbucks a bit early, waited about 10 minutes, got up to use the bathroom and when I got out, she was there. She was that person my sister thought of. She did seem a bit "slow" but, it didn't bother me one bit. We seemed to hit it off. We were both laughing. We walked around the center. I was completely calm. I thought it was going really well. Turns out when she was 16, she got into a bad car accident and had some brain damage because of that. She mentioned (I forget how it was brought up) that she hasn't driven for 7 years and I ask why and she told me about the accident & brain damage.

So, as we were walking back to my car (and the bus stop for her) I asked if she'd like to do this again sometime & she said yes. I said that I'd add here on Facebook and we'd chat on that and figure something out. I offered to drive her home (because it was like 2 minutes away and so she wouldn't have to wait for the bus outside in the heat). I got to her place and as she was getting out she said "I know that I said I wanted to do this again but, I got to be honest, you seem like a really nice guy but, not the type for me".

I'm really confused. Help GAF

 

[Kinitari]

so I have that 1 girl that I knew from school call me if you have some people over tonight but I'm not sure if I want to go. I think I have Bad breakout on my face and I don't think I want to have the odds stacked against me from the beginning.

Your stacking the odds against yourself by not going at all bro.

So, just got back. Warning: this might be a bit long and ramble a bit.

Earlier today, I showed the picture of the girl to my sister and she said it looked like someone she knew in High School who had a bit of a learning disability. So, I got to Starbucks a bit early, waited about 10 minutes, got up to use the bathroom and when I got out, she was there. She was that person my sister thought of. She did seem a bit "slow" but, it didn't bother me one bit. We seemed to hit it off. We were both laughing. We walked around the center. I was completely calm. I thought it was going really well. Turns out when she was 16, she got into a bad car accident and had some brain damage because of that. She mentioned (I forget how it was brought up) that she hasn't driven for 7 years and I ask why and she told me about the accident & brain damage.

So, as we were walking back to my car (and the bus stop for her) I asked if she'd like to do this again sometime & she said yes. I said that I'd add here on Facebook and we'd chat on that and figure something out. I offered to drive her home (because it was like 2 minutes away and so she wouldn't have to wait for the bus outside in the heat). I got to her place and as she was getting out she said "I know that I said I wanted to do this again but, I got to be honest, you seem like a really nice guy but, not the type for me".

I'm really confused. Help GAF

Nothing to be confused about! You went on a date, enjoyed yourself a bit and she seemed like she did too - but she made a judgement call for some reason and decided that she just wanted it to be a one time thing. It happens, but take what you can from that date and move onto something else. You done good! Take the experience and turn it into confidence to ask another girl out - you might not even make it to a date when you do, but now you know that you 100% ARE date-able.

So my advice? Put this girl in the back of your mind, and think of her only as a nice date you had one Saturday afternoon, pat yourself on the back for a job well done and move on to the next one. Seriously - you've done good celebi, you've done so much more than a lot of people in this thread have done because you had the balls to take some initiative. Keep it up, and in a few months you'll be giving advice here.

 

[Grimm Fandango]

Well after all that, got the message she didn't really feel a connection with me and she isn't ready for a relationship. Feels bad man but I guess I gained some experience on the positive side.

 

[Izick]

Your stacking the odds against yourself by not going at all bro.



Nothing to be confused about! You went on a date, enjoyed yourself a bit and she seemed like she did too - but she made a judgement call for some reason and decided that she just wanted it to be a one time thing. It happens, but take what you can from that date and move onto something else. You done good! Take the experience and turn it into confidence to ask another girl out - you might not even make it to a date when you do, but now you know that you 100% ARE date-able.

So my advice? Put this girl in the back of your mind, and think of her only as a nice date you had one Saturday afternoon, pat yourself on the back for a job well done and move on to the next one. Seriously - you've done good celebi, you've done so much more than a lot of people in this thread have done because you had the balls to take some initiative. Keep it up, and in a few months you'll be giving advice here.

But if she sees me and I don't look good then it might as well be over already.

 

[Sarye]

But if she sees me and I don't look good then it might as well be over already.

Again you are putting too much emphasis on looks. I've been on dates where I've broken out too and it didn't matter. Most people can look past that and if they don't then they are not worth your time anyway.

If you don't go your chances of meeting up with her again are slim to none. Especially since knowing you, you are not going to ask her out yourself.

There is NO downside to going except with whats in your mind. You can do it Izick.

 

[Izick]

Well, she said she wasn't sure if she was having people over tonight, so I guess I'll just have to wait and see and then go from there....it just kind of sucks now of all times this happens. Plus I'll be seeing a lot of people from school that I haven't seen in a while, and it's lame to make a first bad re-impression.

 

[Chinner]

if you go in not giving a shit nobody else will give a shit.

 

[Jhoan]

But if she sees me and I don't look good then it might as well be over already.

This is Kinitari and every other Gaffer's reaction right now. Stop making excuses and go man. You're gonna regret it if you don't go. This is a good social opportunity; chances are you might not get another opportunity like this again for a while. Everything's gonna be all right; no need to obsess over how you look.

I'll give you a personal example. Right before he was leaving for a date (about 20 minutes ago or so), my brother asked the chick if he should iron his shirt. I told him it was fine and told him to go because he was stressing himself out over it. You can do man. Please go for all our sakes so you can come back with a story to tell us be it how good it went or how awkward you felt (which is just as fine) because you went.

EDIT:

if you go in not giving a shit nobody else will give a shit.

This x1000.

 

[DrBo42]

Well, she said she wasn't sure if she was having people over tonight, so I guess I'll just have to wait and see and then go from there....it just kind of sucks now of all times this happens. Plus I'll be seeing a lot of people from school that I haven't seen in a while, and it's lame to make a first bad re-impression.

You need to go.

 

[Izick]

Alright, if she texts me I'll go. She's working a bit late so I still have some time til then.

 

[DrBo42]

Alright, if she texts me I'll go. She's working a bit late so I still have some time til then.

 

[celebi23]

Nothing to be confused about! You went on a date, enjoyed yourself a bit and she seemed like she did too - but she made a judgement call for some reason and decided that she just wanted it to be a one time thing. It happens, but take what you can from that date and move onto something else. You done good! Take the experience and turn it into confidence to ask another girl out - you might not even make it to a date when you do, but now you know that you 100% ARE date-able.

So my advice? Put this girl in the back of your mind, and think of her only as a nice date you had one Saturday afternoon, pat yourself on the back for a job well done and move on to the next one. Seriously - you've done good celebi, you've done so much more than a lot of people in this thread have done because you had the balls to take some initiative. Keep it up, and in a few months you'll be giving advice here.

Thanks. It just really confused the hell out of me. Honestly, I was a lot more calm than I thought I'd be The one downside to all of this is that on OkCupid, there are questions you can answer and from just her answers alone, she is far more kinky/pervy than I am. Add to that her amazing rack Ah well. It was a learning experience.

 

[Izick]

She got off work a few hours ago and still no text. Guess I saw this coming. She said it was a friend's birthday, so maybe it was a girl's night out thing. I don't know, fuck it.

 

[DrBo42]

She got off work a few hours ago and still no text. Guess I saw this coming. She said it was a friend's birthday, so maybe it was a girl's night out thing. I don't know, fuck it.

Don't get negative.

 

[Resilient]

Thanks for all the love everybody. Its been a weird ass week so far lol.


Mini Update:


Haven’t slept much today (interpret that however you will) and my mind is still going at a mile a minute. I woke up at 5:30 and went out for a run, (horrible idea. still ugly as shit outside) got back inside, took a shower, and started making breakfast. That woke her up around 7:00 and we talked for about three hours. She said after she leaves here she would go ahead and end it with her bf; so that made me happy. She also said we’ll meet up later this evening and go out. I still feel weird about all this and I still don’t think I’ve processed most of it yet. But at the same time I’m happy with everything and curious to see where this goes. If none of this makes sense to you it’s because it doesn’t make sense to me either. She also left about an hour ago and I’m thinking I’ll just go out and swim for the rest of the day.

DO YOU SEE?! DO YOU SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO?!

I don't post in this thread often at all. But I read enough of it. This man did what many in this thread would think impossible - nailed a girl with a boyfriend. If this man can do that, there is nothing stopping anybody from making it with a single chick.

 

[Izick]

Don't get negative.

Why not? It seems like a pretty negative thing.

 

[NeOak]

Why not? It seems like a pretty negative thing.

if you keep thinking in a negative way, negative things will happen

 

[Vermillion]

Why not? It seems like a pretty negative thing.

Dude, say "fuck it" and relax. If she texts, that's fine, if she doesn't, don't worry about it.

 

[DrBo42]

Dude, say "fuck it" and relax. If she texts, that's fine, if she doesn't, don't worry about it.

This. Gotta keep the chin up and keep going.

 

[Branson]

Thanks for all the love everybody. Its been a weird ass week so far lol.


Mini Update:


Haven’t slept much today (interpret that however you will) and my mind is still going at a mile a minute. I woke up at 5:30 and went out for a run, (horrible idea. still ugly as shit outside) got back inside, took a shower, and started making breakfast. That woke her up around 7:00 and we talked for about three hours. She said after she leaves here she would go ahead and end it with her bf; so that made me happy. She also said we’ll meet up later this evening and go out. I still feel weird about all this and I still don’t think I’ve processed most of it yet. But at the same time I’m happy with everything and curious to see where this goes. If none of this makes sense to you it’s because it doesn’t make sense to me either. She also left about an hour ago and I’m thinking I’ll just go out and swim for the rest of the day.





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Im not trying to rain on your happiness parade here, but she still had a boyfriend when she did stuff with you?

Sorry, this stuff hits me wrong since I was cheated on and left after 6 years. Shit changed my perspective on women and life. I wouldnt wish what I went through on anybody. I was engaged and everything. The only difference is that I was left like 6 months after it happened. So yay, for women. I cant say I have a lot of enthusiasm for getting back into the dating game.

 

[DrBo42]

Yeah the let's fuck first and then I'll end it with the dude situation does suck.

 

[NeOak]

He does what we said and now you guys rain on his parade? Come on...

 

[Nerds with Guns]

So yeah last update on this, I’m trying to keep these posts from being too live journal but it's probably too late for that now. I didn’t do shit today. Had friend’s texting me asking if I went through with it and I didn’t answer my phone for any of them. That high energy “euphoria” feeling eventually gave way and turned to guilt. Even with everything she said to me I still don’t like being the immediate reason why a couple is breaking up. Exercise wasn’t helping so I just went back to sleep. She calls, wakes me up, and says she’s on her way back over. She arrives around eight and is definitely happy to see me but I couldn’t really get a read on how she was dealing with everything. She wasn’t nonchalant or choked up about it; but I can also tell she doesn’t want to talk about and I sure as fuck wasn’t going to ask questions about it. Night turned out pretty chill but ended up not leaving the apartment. She’s asleep again (this girl passes out early, it’s only 2:00) and I’m right back in the same position as last night just with different thoughts going through my head.

Feels bad Gaf.

He does what we said and now you guys rain on his parade? Come on...

Thank you.

DO YOU SEE?! DO YOU SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO?!

I don't post in this thread often at all. But I read enough of it. This man did what many in this thread would think impossible - nailed a girl with a boyfriend. If this man can do that, there is nothing stopping anybody from making it with a single chick.

I still strongly don't recommend it. I feel like six months have been shaven off my life and my sleep schedule has been fucked up for the last three days.

Yeah the let's fuck first and then I'll end it with the dude situation does suck.

Annnddd thank you for that.

Im not trying to rain on your happiness parade here, but she still had a boyfriend when she did stuff with you?

Sorry, this stuff hits me wrong since I was cheated on and left after 6 years. Shit changed my perspective on women and life. I wouldnt wish what I went through on anybody. I was engaged and everything. The only difference is that I was left like 6 months after it happened. So yay, for women. I cant say I have a lot of enthusiasm for getting back into the dating game.

Dude that sucks and I'm really sorry that happened to you. All that stuff just makes me fell worse.

 

[DrBo42]

So yeah last update on this, I’m trying to keep these posts from being too live journal but it's probably too late for that now. I didn’t do shit today. Had friend’s texting me asking if I went through with it and I didn’t answer my phone for any of them. That high energy “euphoria” feeling eventually gave way and turned to guilt. Even with everything she said to me I still don’t like being the immediate reason why a couple is breaking up. Exercise wasn’t helping so I just went back to sleep. She calls, wakes me up, and says she’s on her way back over. She arrives around eight and is definitely happy to see me but I couldn’t really get a read on how she was dealing with everything. She wasn’t nonchalant or choked up about it; but I can also tell she doesn’t want to talk about and I sure as fuck wasn’t going to ask questions about it. Night turned out pretty chill but ended up not leaving the apartment. She’s asleep again (this girl passes out early, it’s only 2:00) and I’m right back in the same position as last night just with different thoughts going through my head.

Feels bad Gaf.




Thank you.




I still strongly don't recommend it. I feel like six months have been shaven off my life and my sleep schedule has been fucked up for the last three days.



Annnddd thank you for that.





Dude that sucks and I'm really sorry that happened to you. All that stuff just makes me fell worse.

Not really trying to make you feel bad. I'm happy for you that you're starting something with a girl you're really into, I am. I just wish you didn't reveal the "I'll go deal with the breakup after I leave your bed" detail. You have to admit it summons a bit of a storm cloud. It'll pass though. Maybe try and leave the apartment and do something fun.

Edit: Also, that relationship was ending regardless of her meeting you, remember that. Don't let it ruin any potential happiness you guys have.

 

[Hylian7]

I had a conversation with my best friend tonight about whether I should try to date Christian women I find on dating sites. I know most of them have a field to put the degree of "serious" they are about it, they aren't always accurate though. My friend suggested I talk to them about it, or not, and just try anyway and figure it out for myself.

Has anyone here that's not religious had success dating Christian women. By "success" I mean your own sanity intact, and they weren't secretly demonizing you over it, and just didn't care, and didn't hate you for it.

 

[Kipe]

So yeah last update on this, I’m trying to keep these posts from being too live journal but it's probably too late for that now. I didn’t do shit today. Had friend’s texting me asking if I went through with it and I didn’t answer my phone for any of them. That high energy “euphoria” feeling eventually gave way and turned to guilt. Even with everything she said to me I still don’t like being the immediate reason why a couple is breaking up. Exercise wasn’t helping so I just went back to sleep. She calls, wakes me up, and says she’s on her way back over. She arrives around eight and is definitely happy to see me but I couldn’t really get a read on how she was dealing with everything. She wasn’t nonchalant or choked up about it; but I can also tell she doesn’t want to talk about and I sure as fuck wasn’t going to ask questions about it. Night turned out pretty chill but ended up not leaving the apartment. She’s asleep again (this girl passes out early, it’s only 2:00) and I’m right back in the same position as last night just with different thoughts going through my head.

Feels bad Gaf.

Don't think about it. What's done is done. There's nothing wrong with helping someone realize they're in an unhappy relationship. I mean, I woul...it doesn't matter. You can't do anything about it now and you're nineteen you are allowed to make mistakes. Forget it and move on. Don't fuck it up.

I had a conversation with my best friend tonight about whether I should try to date Christian women I find on dating sites. I know most of them have a field to put the degree of "serious" they are about it, they aren't always accurate though. My friend suggested I talk to them about it, or not, and just try anyway and figure it out for myself.

Has anyone here that's not religious had success dating Christian women. By "success" I mean your own sanity intact, and they weren't secretly demonizing you over it, and just didn't care, and didn't hate you for it.

You know not all Christians aren't foaming out their mouth crazy, right?

 

[Pollux]

Alright GAF...advice time.

Met a girl at a bar...we ended up making out for a while, her friend came over and we all talked. My friend came over and the two of them hit it off. This girl was all over me and she kept saying shit like "let's go back to your place" and then would follow it up with "my fiends would be mad at me"

Blah blah blah

She ended up going back to her friends place because they were having a big thing...like 10 girls and they all went back together.

She gave me her number and told me to call her, and she was pretty serious about it and seemed pretty sober at the time that she told me to call her since she had stopped drinking a couple hours prior to the time we split about 30 minutes ago.

My question is...I have her number, she doesn't have mine, should I text her and see if she wants to go out some night this week? I figure I have nothing to lose. I'm leaving the city and moving 1,000 miles away in two weeks so nothing serious can happen, and if I text and she doesn't respond then no harm done since I already had a pretty fun (but slightly disappointing) night.

So, GAF, what would you do?

 

[Pat]

Is it normal for your girlfriend to constantly complain about her job, family, etc every day? I know im her boyfriend and I listen, but damn sometimes it just seems like she needs to be more positive and let some things go.

Yes and let her do, women loves to speak the hell out of their mind to anybody they love or they feel great with. You don't have anything to say really, just leave some feedbacks, smiles and listen.

I mean you should start to worry the day she will stop doing it.

 

[undrtakr900]

Oh wise Dating-Age, I have a moral dilemma.


So this past Sunday afternoon I was out at a grocery store where I saw this beautiful girl standing in an isle by herself. Did a cold approach, talked to her for about five minutes until she asked me if I would like to continue shopping with her. So we're basically walking around the store for the next twenty minutes and things are going extremely well. She's laughing a lot, flirting, light touching and all that jazz. We were basically acting like a couple and it was really just a chill experience. So eventually I go for the number. She looks up at me with a sad face, hesitates for a few seconds, looks down and says she has a boyfriend. Before I can even say anything she looks back up and says " you can have my number, but you have to call me past 10:30". I take her number. So we part ways, I head out to my car, get in, put my face in my hands and let out a huge sigh. At this point my head's spinning, so much so to where I just drive around for the next few hours before I go home. I don't end up texting or calling her that night. Now normal if I get a girls number even though she has a boyfriend I won't think twice about it, I'll just move on to the next one. But as this entire post would pointless if I did that, I do eventually text her that monday night. Texted her something stupid like Cinnamon Toast Crunch is above all cereals (we got into a legit argument about that). She said she was happy I texted her, thought I wouldn't, and we talked for about 2 hours (don't do this btw).


Now over the course of this week we talked everyday (also don't do this) but I never really escalated it past flirting. I figured if I kept it at that level she would lose interest and I guess I would be okay with that. But she never did, her response times were short and she never ever mentioned her boyfriend outside of that very first interaction we had. I badly wanted to ask her out but I kept hesitating because while I don't believe in karma; I do believe in making enemies and getting your ass kicked so I was generally trying to avoid that. I guess she sensed this because yesterday (Thursday) she asked me out for drinks Friday even though I'm 19 (she's 25) and don't drink. I said yes. I know what's going to happen, I'm pretty sure I could call this girl up right now ask her to meet me at a shitty hotel for sex and she would agree to it. So here's my problem. Our personalities match up really well (she's very sarcastic and laid back), I love her voice (she's from Melbourne but moved to the States two years ago), and she's incredibly pretty. I'm scurred and excited at the same time. I need someone to talk me out of this. Talk me out of it or tell me it's no big deal and shit like this happens all the time. I can't go to my friends about this because the last two idiots I texted literally texted back "yolo" so I would like some outside advice.



Edit: Also she looks like an Australian model soooooo I'm kinda thinking with my dick right now.

I am curious(as I'm sure others are) as to how you "cold approached" her. What was your opening line? Did you ask a question and transition into a conversation, or a more aggressive approach with the sole intent to get her number.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

Alright GAF...advice time.

Met a girl at a bar...we ended up making out for a while, her friend came over and we all talked. My friend came over and the two of them hit it off. This girl was all over me and she kept saying shit like "let's go back to your place" and then would follow it up with "my fiends would be mad at me"

Blah blah blah

She ended up going back to her friends place because they were having a big thing...like 10 girls and they all went back together.

She gave me her number and told me to call her, and she was pretty serious about it and seemed pretty sober at the time that she told me to call her since she had stopped drinking a couple hours prior to the time we split about 30 minutes ago.

My question is...I have her number, she doesn't have mine, should I text her and see if she wants to go out some night this week? I figure I have nothing to lose. I'm leaving the city and moving 1,000 miles away in two weeks so nothing serious can happen, and if I text and she doesn't respond then no harm done since I already had a pretty fun (but slightly disappointing) night.

So, GAF, what would you do?

Is this a troll?

 

[DrBo42]

Alright GAF...advice time.

Met a girl at a bar...we ended up making out for a while, her friend came over and we all talked. My friend came over and the two of them hit it off. This girl was all over me and she kept saying shit like "let's go back to your place" and then would follow it up with "my fiends would be mad at me"

Blah blah blah

She ended up going back to her friends place because they were having a big thing...like 10 girls and they all went back together.

She gave me her number and told me to call her, and she was pretty serious about it and seemed pretty sober at the time that she told me to call her since she had stopped drinking a couple hours prior to the time we split about 30 minutes ago.

My question is...I have her number, she doesn't have mine, should I text her and see if she wants to go out some night this week? I figure I have nothing to lose. I'm leaving the city and moving 1,000 miles away in two weeks so nothing serious can happen, and if I text and she doesn't respond then no harm done since I already had a pretty fun (but slightly disappointing) night.

So, GAF, what would you do?

I would have said yes, that's a fantastic idea, let's go back to my place. Call her you fool.

 

[Branson]

Dude that sucks and I'm really sorry that happened to you. All that stuff just makes me fell worse.

I am happy it's working for you. Just be careful. I'm sorry I brought that up.

 

[Pollux]

Is this a troll?

No.

I would have said yes, that's a fantastic idea, let's go back to my place. Call her you fool.

Well I can't fucking call her right fucking now. But I was planning on texting her tomorrow afternoon. Or should I text her tonight, something like "Hey, it's xxxxx from xxxxx, did y'all get back OK?"

 

[Hylian7]

You know not all Christians aren't foaming out their mouth crazy, right?

Yes, but to make a long story short, I'm a little gun-shy in that regard. I had an ex (in a 5 year relationship) that wasn't foaming at the mouth crazy, hell she never even went to church. Then she found out I was an atheist, joined the campus cult, and became that way, all because of me.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

But I was planning on texting her tomorrow afternoon.

Yes, this is right. Was there seriously any reason at all not to do this?