Jumping into this thread because I'm trying to resuscitate my love life. Just haven't been motivated enough to pursue it in a while, so obviously not much luck lately.
I went out last weekend for a friend's birthday and this girl he works with started chatting me up right out of the gate. Really cute, cool girl. She told me that she thinks I'm cute and have a good vibe about me, while pushing her large boobs into my arm. Unfortunately, I was very sober at that point because I had just gotten there and she was very drunk because she had been drinking all day. I was also very hungry because I didn't eat dinner, so I asked her to come with me to help me find some food. I was in NYC so I figured I could find something quick and nearby, but the only thing we found was a diner. This impromptu date was an unfortunate turn of events, as my soberness became more obvious and her water was sobering her up and making her tired. Afterwards, she decided she should go home and I decided I should go celebrate my friend's birthday, and so we parted and so I proceeded to shit the bed harder by not getting her phone number before she left, only a hug and a see ya. Today (a week later), I told my friend to tell the girl (he works with her) I said sup, so we'll see how that gets received. Not something I expect to pan out, but I have precious few leads right now so just throwing out the hail mary.
Anyway, fail on my part, whatever. I beat myself up over it for a day or two, but I realize that this was a very good experience for me to have. It lit a fire in me that hasn't been there in a while. I wanted to kiss this girl so bad, and I didn't, so I'm bummed about that but also it makes me want to work towards getting that feeling again and having it pay off next time. I know that it is something I want, but also, to my great surprise, something that may even be attainable.
Going out tomorrow for a friend's bachelor party so hopefully I can find the strength within me to talk to some ladies. Even with a new and fairly positive experience under my belt, the thought of going up to people I don't know and striking up a conversation terrifies me. Last week doesn't even count because I put in so little effort into that encounter, as per usual. I'm basically starting from scratch on that front. Luckily I just stumbled upon these threads while browsing, so I'm brushing up on some knowledge. Good stuff all around, thank you all.