So I was hoping I could get smoothGAF's advice on the phenomenon known as "Taking It Slow".
I'm 32, and the wide majority of the relationships I've been in (and all of them in the past 10 years have been this way) have been the kind where we crash into each other full speed ahead basically. Quickly going from first date to sex and hanging out all the time. Sometimes those worked out and lasted a long time, and sometimes not. But because of how long it's been since I've dated someone that wants to take things slow, it's almost like a brand new thing to me, considering I'm now a much more mature, stable, confident, and independent person than I was 10+ years ago.
I recently went out on some dates with a girl I met on OKC. We hit it off extremely well on the first date and went out again a few days later. Second date went even better and we were mildly affectionate and flirty with one another. Every now and then she would kiss me and the night ended with a hug goodbye. Date #3 was an art show and drinks, where things built upon the last, and I ended up staying the night at her place because we ubered and we both had a bit to drink. She asked me to sleep in her bed with her but that we wouldn't be having sex. It was great, and we mentioned wanting to see each other exclusively. We're going out later today for a museum and dinner.
The only thing I'm struggling with though, is that unless we're about to go on a date, I don't hear from her at all. No text, no calls, no messenger, nothing. On paper, it isn't that big of a deal and I'd much rather this than the type that doesn't stop contacting me 24/7, but considering it's so ingrained in my subconscious that people chat and talk casually, it's kinda weird. Every now and then I'll shoot her a message if there's something "I just have to tell her", IE: "apparently that super rare comic you were talking about is easily available at X shop I'm at!" and she'll respond maybe a day later with a short response and the conversation just kind of ends.
So my question is this, I guess: do some people (not just women) just not like to talk and chat unless they're in person? I know a lot of guys *hate* chit chat unless they're hanging out with people, and they just "tolerate" it from their SO's. I know we all have our own lives and schedules, and we keep busy with our own stuff in our own ways. I guess I'm just wondering if that's a normal thing with some people, and if I should back off as not to annoy or pester her, or if it's all part of the "taking things slow" process.
****NOTE: yes, as with almost every question on here, you guys will respond with "just ask her" etc. but this is the kind of thing that is not only super awkward to just inquire about, but the act of inquiry could come off as clingy or weird, and I'd rather not fuck this up so early on. I REALLY like her.****
