I wish it worked 60% of the time!60% of the time, It works 100% of the time.
That sort of thing never works for me, unfortunately.I say "Hi [name], how's your [weekday]?" or wait for them to open.
Sorry I'm not that good with openers ¯_(ツ_/¯
You've said this before, but unlike a race or project/goal, this sort of thing involves someone else, and you cannot build or keep momentum on your own, not when schedules cannot coincide, even if both parties are equally interested.You're the backup date. Are you being too attentive, too pushy? Arrange a date as soon as you can, don't set it too far in the future, keep the momentum.
Just keep going, these woman have saved you from wasting your time with them and move you closer to someone that is interested in you.
Friday:
She ended up bring super cranky that night. Even so we ended up having a good time. We went and had ikea for dinner. Then we went to karaoke and that was super fun. We sang a bunch of Gaga and Beatles. Then we went home and watched school of rock.
Saturday:
We woke up. Had adult fun time. Took a shower. We then went, picked up her neice ( who adores me because I let her play pokemon go). We then went to a good festival out in irvine. That got ruined pretty quick. A dog tried to bite the neice. Didn't make contact but it scared her, which was amplified by the fact she is autistic. Fucking dog. It was some shitty little chihauhau.
After that we went to a tour of Chocxo. That was cool. The chocolate was good too.
Then we went and checked out Halloween stuff at Rogers Garden. Neither of us particularly like Halloween, but we still had fun.
Then we went, worked out a little at her place, then went and had dinner at tender greens.
Then we went and cuddled in my car for a few hours. Then we started started falling asleep. She took me up to her apartment and took a nap on her couch.
Tonight we are having dinner with my aunt and cousins.
Yeah, its freaking me out a lil bit but I'm not guna freak out too much and bail. I'll just chat her up and tell her how I feel. See how she reacts.Yeah, that'd maybe be a bit much for me, definitely seems like a "relationshippy" thing to do.
Maybe she is someone who normally has her guard up but she let it down. Not that she regrets doing any hot and heavy stuff with you per se, she just might regret going that far that soon and psyched herself out and put her guard back up. It happens for sure. Dont beat yourself up over it. It happens to the best of us. I've had a few girls over the last bit that I have had really good chemistry with and we are laughing all night, they are really into me, I'm like fuck yeah this is going awesome. We end up hooking up at the end of the night. I never hear from them again. Just another memory. On to the next one.I just feel a little bad and anxious mostly cause I hope she doesn't feel regret about it. Everything was going really well the night of and I feel like we were communicating really well at the time.
I take it you didnt puke on her then?My date last night went pretty well. I'm not super attracted to her and she talked a lot but she has a good sense of humor and was down to earth. I'll probably go on another date with her.
Lol at least 18.Homework? How young is she?
Maybe she is someone who normally has her guard up but she let it down. Not that she regrets doing any hot and heavy stuff with you per se, she just might regret going that far that soon and psyched herself out and put her guard back up. It happens for sure. Dont beat yourself up over it. It happens to the best of us. I've had a few girls over the last bit that I have had really good chemistry with and we are laughing all night, they are really into me, I'm like fuck yeah this is going awesome. We end up hooking up at the end of the night. I never hear from them again. Just another memory. On to the next one.
makes no sense...
I guess they just wanted a one night stand?
Probably. Hell, I had this happen a couple of months ago. Looking back, all of the signals ("You can walk back with me, but you're not coming upstairs...") were basically that she actually wanted to smash.
Anyway, who cares? It's not something you need to worry about anymore.
I'd like to be able to read this when it happens or just understand what is going on better. I don't think people can read other's minds but it's just kinda confusing. So were they just going out for some fun and wanted to see where it went? It's just confusing sometimes.
If a girl wants to meet for drinks at a bar at 11:30 at night is this basically a fuck date and I shouldn't expect to hear back from her the next day because that's basically where I'm at now only we didn't hook up just made out pretty intense?
The point is, you never know. But yes, meeting someone for drinks at 11:30 is pretty much the definition of a booty call unless y'all work odd shifts and that's when you're grabbing food.
The most important thing you need to accept is that, in many of these situations, you're just never going to know. You need to be comfortable with that. The only data point that should matter to you is that she's ignoring you. Her answer to seeing you again was impliedly "no." Thus, worrying about her feelings or motivations shouldn't concern you: you didn't do anything wrong, you expressed interest, and it wasn't reciprocated.
Literally everyone here has been in that situation before.
Yeah, its freaking me out a lil bit but I'm not guna freak out too much and bail. I'll just chat her up and tell her how I feel. See how she reacts.
I take it you didnt puke on her then?
Guys let me ask you a question. So I met this girl in my class and she's a shy one. We started talking in Facebook then one day she sent a message on my phone about random chit chat. I like her so I didn't care how she got my number I never asked for her either. But I noticed she always avoid eye contact with me. Never say hi in person I have to go approach her to talk. When I do we talk she listens to what I have to say and she asks me questions. We debate about things. She remembers what we talk about. She smiles at my joke but keeps up that ignoring bs. Like she looks down, stare straight when we cross paths. I know she saw me. At least say hello? Should I keep pursuing this person to build a relationship?
Any idea what it could be? Because I like her and girls are good at sensing that. Perhaps she wants to keep her distance and send me signal that she's not interested like that? I am fine with that I guess but I wish she would just tell me that.Coukd be a lot of things. Just ask her out for a date. That should clear it up.
Just finished getting coffee with an absolutely beautiful woman. There won't be a second date. My immediate thoughts...
- Daytime coffee dates have to be the least chemistry-inducing date ever. Compared to a nighttime happy hour, you have to work much harder to get the same level of spark.
- The lack of spark was so apparent that when we left the coffee shop, she started to walk back to her car without so much as a goodbye hug.
- Conversation was seriously lacking - I've never felt this uninteresting to a person before. She'd talk constantly about herself, but never asked me question and barely reacted to anything I said.
Just finished getting coffee with an absolutely beautiful woman. There won't be a second date. My immediate thoughts...
- Daytime coffee dates have to be the least chemistry-inducing date ever. Compared to a nighttime happy hour, you have to work much harder to get the same level of spark.
- The lack of spark was so apparent that when we left the coffee shop, she started to walk back to her car without so much as a goodbye hug.
- Conversation was seriously lacking - I've never felt this uninteresting to a person before. She'd talk constantly about herself, but never asked me question and barely reacted to anything I said.
im currently more pondering what text to put underneath my picture on tinder .
i know the best is probably to keep it simple :
" Hi , im .... and i like .... and ...... "
but somehow i feel i am missing something there .
Just finished getting coffee with an absolutely beautiful woman. There won't be a second date. My immediate thoughts...
- Daytime coffee dates have to be the least chemistry-inducing date ever. Compared to a nighttime happy hour, you have to work much harder to get the same level of spark.
- The lack of spark was so apparent that when we left the coffee shop, she started to walk back to her car without so much as a goodbye hug.
- Conversation was seriously lacking - I've never felt this uninteresting to a person before. She'd talk constantly about herself, but never asked me question and barely reacted to anything I said.
Just needed to vent a little. One of those dates that, you see the girl, you get soo excited, and then the excitement is crushed...
Any advice for dating someone who lists "the patriarchy" as one of her dislikes? Like, I have pretty bad first-hand experience with feminists (basically, the kind you can't reason with), and she seems nothing like that. Just kind and down-to-earth.
I mean, I know better than to bring up politics on a first date. But what about etiquette? I usually maintain that I pay for the date, until she insists that I don't. I also have a habit of falling back on old-fashioned gentlemanly ways, like opening doors, "ladies first", and all that. Do I avoid these things because they can be interpreted as sexist or patronizing?
My favorite Tinder line I've used is "Looking for love in Alderaan places"
Guys let me ask you a question. So I met this girl in my class and she's a shy one. We started talking in Facebook then one day she sent a message on my phone about random chit chat. I like her so I didn't care how she got my number I never asked for her either. But I noticed she always avoid eye contact with me. Never say hi in person I have to go approach her to talk. When I do we talk she listens to what I have to say and she asks me questions. We debate about things. She remembers what we talk about. She smiles at my joke but keeps up that ignoring bs. Like she looks down, stare straight when we cross paths. I know she saw me. At least say hello? Should I keep pursuing this person to build a relationship?
When I first got on there I was all like I like going to the gym and on hikes and I love nature and animals and blah blah blah. It never really worked well. Just making a short and sweet one works so much better.
I need a new one though. This movies and pizza one is getting old.
I was thinking about "no herpes pls"
Any idea what it could be? Because I like her and girls are good at sensing that. Perhaps she wants to keep her distance and send me signal that she's not interested like that? I am fine with that I guess but I wish she would just tell me that.
I stayed in this weekend like a good boy and played lots of PUBG
That was my plan! There was a home-made popsicle stand down the street. Before we'd even finsihed our ice coffee, she told me she'd have to leave soon to attend to some work. That was maybe ~40 minutes in.I've had a couple of those. The girl hardly asks any questions, so you got to fill in the dead air. Usually I use the coffee shop as a place to grab a drink and then go somewhere for a walk but when they want just that, it's a sign they don't want anything further and not much will come out of it. At least it means you waste less time (and money) on the date
I don't even know if it was conceited or she was just a poor conversationalist. It felt like her areas of interest were so narrow and there was no overlap for topics I was familiar with. We spent most of the time talking about her job...conceited(Is that the right word?) is probably the most unattractive thing.
Errrrmahgerd so close so many times but no. One match I was mowing down people in my car it was hilarious but then the circle ended up in an open field and the very end with only 3 people left and I hid behind the only tree in the area and the bastard came from behind and took me out. I been just landing at the school a lot because the loot there is awesome and the action is intense.My maaan, any chicken dinners?
I have low self confidence. I mask it well behind liquid courage and I can fake confidence pretty well. I know I shouldnt feel the way I do about myself but I do.I've bad self-confidence. Had it as long as remember. And it's kinda hard when dating. Any Dating-GAF in the same situation, and how are you feeling about dating?
Errrrmahgerd so close so many times but no. One match I was mowing down people in my car it was hilarious but then the circle ended up in an open field and the very end with only 3 people left and I hid behind the only tree in the area and the bastard came from behind and took me out. I been just landing at the school a lot because the loot there is awesome and the action is intense.
I have low self confidence. I mask it well behind liquid courage and I can fake confidence pretty well. I know I shouldnt feel the way I do about myself but I do.
I've bad self-confidence. Had it as long as remember. And it's kinda hard when dating. Any Dating-GAF in the same situation, and how are you feeling about dating?
I've bad self-confidence. Had it as long as remember. And it's kinda hard when dating. Any Dating-GAF in the same situation, and how are you feeling about dating?
Improve your self-image. At the end of the day experience beats everything though, unfortunately
Any advice for dating someone who lists "the patriarchy" as one of her dislikes? Like, I have pretty bad first-hand experience with feminists (basically, the kind you can't reason with), and she seems nothing like that. Just kind and down-to-earth.
I mean, I know better than to bring up politics on a first date. But what about etiquette? I usually maintain that I pay for the date, until she insists that I don't. I also have a habit of falling back on old-fashioned gentlemanly ways, like opening doors, "ladies first", and all that. Do I avoid these things because they can be interpreted as sexist or patronizing?
Outside of conversation is where the ignore thing happens. She just would not make eye contact with me. When I enter my class I walk right by her and she would just look down or ahead. But I know she saw me. Because she told me how I always come late to class. But if I go approach her she would smile and talk to to me always. But I always have to go to her. Or she keeps playing that ignoring game.She will once you ask her out.
It could be that she has low self-esteem, mood swings, is playing hot and cold, is feeling out the situation, isn't interested in you but still likes to talk to you, is socially inept...
How's the eye contact outside of a conversation? Imo that's pretty telling.