ZephyrFate
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I'm glad you enjoyed your first facial.
Wow this sounds like the ending to some commercial porn video
Wow this sounds like the ending to some commercial porn video
BankaiZaraki said:Edit: Didn't know there was 2 threads for gay/bisexual people. Now that I know this, I do have some advice..I have been messing around with this guy for months now, only when we drink and we seem to be into each other with heavy make out sessions..but every time we want to take it further( I have yet to have sex with another guy), winds up never happening..Curious what I have to do to get him in my bed or vice versa
Delio said:This feels really rough right now. My ex and me broke up after a year right? Long distance but we really clicked. I broke it off because i felt really gulity staying with him when he was so far and we might never get a chance to meet (he's in aussieland and i'm in the US.)
So now it's been almost a month since we broke up finally getting back to having conversations but i long to hear him say "I love you" Or spending hours talking to each other. I regret breaking his heart now but honestly the long distance is still to much. I tried to just forget him and flirt around a bit and while that's fun and all now it makes me miss that relationship i had there.
Heh sorry guess i just needed to rant some.
Stabbie said:I broke up with my bf after 4 months. He had such little respect for me. When I broke up, the first thing he demanded was I remove all his friends on fb, starting with the one I got along with best. What an asshole.
FleaTheMagician said:I hope you didn't do it.
Stabbie said:I did to save him the embarrassment of asking them to remove me (he really was going to ask them...). I guess I'm just too good. On the other side, he will never see or hear from me again for this very reason. He says he still loves me and all. Tough luck.
_Isaac said:I don't know where you live, so I don't know if there are any trails nearby, but maybe you two could go on a hike or something.
Naked Snake said:I like that! Not sure if he will...
We two have almost NOTHING in common, but we both have never felt stronger chemistry with anybody else. It was kinda eery at first, but we got used to it
Naked Snake said:I've been seeing this guy on and off for a couple of months (I first mentioned him here). We hit it off incredibly well and things were mind-blowlingly amazing for a while, but we both declared early on that we're not looking for a relationship and decided to put the reigns on our feelings. Lately we've been seeing each other very sporadically lately, and I don't think we had a proper meeting in a month maybe.
We want to do something this coming weekend, but I'm frankly tired of doing the same thing every time (he comes over, we talk for 10 minutes or so, have amazing sex, he falls a sleep for a while, then goes home). It has started to feel like a booty call routine, and I'd like to break that.
I need ideas/suggestions on what we can do... other than lunch, dinner, or movie... I'm thinking maybe a scenic road trip? Or... yeah, I'm out of ideas. Help?
Um, so why are you together for more than just sex if you have nothing in common?Naked Snake said:I like that! Not sure if he will...
We two have almost NOTHING in common, but we both have never felt stronger chemistry with anybody else. It was kinda eery at first, but we got used to it
ZephyrFate said:Um, so why are you together for more than just sex if you have nothing in common?
Having things in common is what makes a relationship last. The phrase "opposites attract" is usually referring to personality, not things in common.Naked Snake said:Because I'd like there to be more to our "relationship" than sex, and he would like that too. He said he still wants to spend time with me even if I do not wish to have sex.
Ever heard the term "opposites attract"? Some people get married despite having nothing in common (I definitely wouldn't do it, not even a relationship), but it's not the universal obstacle you're making it out to be.
ZephyrFate said:Having things in common is what makes a relationship last. The phrase "opposites attract" is usually referring to personality, not things in common.
I would find it a huge obstacle if I wanted to make something last relationship-wise.
I'm not saying it doesn't, I'm just saying it's a barrier towards something more... amorous? I don't know.Naked Snake said:I'm totally with you on this, and it's one of the reasons why I wouldn't even try to pursue a relationship with him. But I don't think it means that we can't get together other than to have sex. There are afterall things that almost everyone enjoys doing, on the basis of being human.
Pinzer said:I think this has been brought up before but....question:
How does paying for stuff work on (gay) dates? I'm going to see a movie with a guy tomorrow and I'm not sure if I should offer to pay....
No one's saying friends with benefits is bad. I like it, too, but I'm at a point in my life where that simply is not good enough.umop_3pisdn said:Friends with benefits can be great, though. My most satisfying 'relationship' was essentially that.
As for suggestions, _Isaac's was mine. Maybe go see some live bands or go to an art show? A road trip seems like it should be fun regardless of what he's into, sightseeing is always good.
ZephyrFate said:I'm not saying it doesn't, I'm just saying it's a barrier towards something more... amorous? I don't know.
I'm saying that with nothing in common besides sexual chemistry, the best you're aiming for is friends with benefits, really.
ZephyrFate said:You do realize that the google search you provided me was clogged with "I don't want to break up with him! but..." or, "I wonder what it would be like to actually be in a relationship with someone I have things in common with even though I'm already married"
That's kind of a sign that having things in common HELPS a relationship 100 times out of 100... and I would go so far as to say it's necessary.
If you have strong feelings for each other, that's probably a sign that you do have things in common, you just don't know it yet.
ZephyrFate said:No one's saying friends with benefits is bad. I like it, too, but I'm at a point in my life where that simply is not good enough.
ZephyrFate said:Shared hobbies, interests, movies, books, music, videogames, even so much as the same emotional attachment to something or even the same emotional reactions to what each other says/does, same sense of humor, etc.
These same people who disagree with me that you showed seemed to have issues with their relationships. Obviously they want to agree with me but they're stuck in a relationship where having nothing in common is a big problem.
BlazingDarkness said:I don't think sharing so many tastes/hobbies etc is important at all, I'd say it was pretty boring if I liked exactly the same stuff as he did, and if we agreed on everything
Part of the fun is learnin' to accept and even indulge in the others interests, and of course, finding new stuff you both enjoy together is always a good way to have a relationship
Exactly. People are reacting to this with extremes... you SHOULD find things in common with your significant other, as it creates a closer bond because you can do things together. I find this essential.Alcoori said:Well no one is saying that it's good to have everything in common. I think it's good to have some things you share with your significant other, and some things that you like to do on your own or with different people.
As an example, the guy I dated the longest didn't like videogames at all and he liked cars which I didn't. However we both liked cooking and watching tv shows so we were doing that together.
I'm starting to think you're the guy I'm seeing right now.xD I'm in the exact situation, but in your pseudo-boyfriend's position.Naked Snake said:The biggest difference between us (IMO) is that I am an introvert and anti-social. I love spending the majority of the time alone at home; if I spend a few hours with people I feel drained and irritated by the end of it. He on the other hand is a total extrovert; if he spends 15 minutes alone he feels irritated and restless. He is constantly out with friends doing stuff every single day.
Lucario said:I'm starting to think you're the guy I'm seeing right now.xD I'm in the exact situation, but in your pseudo-boyfriend's position.
White Man said:Uggh. I want to start seeing people again but (because I stopped drinking\drugs) this used to be a lot easier. I feel like I'm fucking 16. This has been a problem in other parts of my life, too. I excised my social life for several years and I guess I lost what I wasn't using.