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Coppertracks
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....Am I the only who doesn't bother to remember porn star's names? 
dragonlife
Member
Nope. I'm like that as well. The only reason I ever know any by name is because I see them a lot or they're easy to remember (I'm terrible at remembering names).....Am I the only who doesn't bother to remember porn star's names?
....Am I the only who doesn't bother to remember porn star's names?
Nah. I may recognize the name when I see it, but if you'd ask me to name porn stars I know, I wouldn't be able to do it. At all.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
People are people
So why should it be
You and I should get along so awfully
So we're different colours
And we're different creeds
And different people have different needs
It's obvious you hate me
Though I've done nothing wrong
I never even met you so what could I have done
I can't understand
What makes a man
Hate another man
Help me understand
All this talk about hugs and handshakes reminded me of the few guys I hooked up with who were into the whole 'straight acting' thing. Ugh.
They were strictly handshakes only kind of guys, as I guess hugging a guy outside would just be 'too gay'. I'm usually a very hands on kind of person but I got into the habit of shaking hands with guys when I met up with them for the first time and this was a contributing factor.
It's funny the way people put up these barriers to physical contact, but I guess it does make some people uncomfortable. I had one friend who would never hug anybody, even though as a group of friends we were all huggers, and then we ended up having sex... so clearly he wasn't that uncomfortable with me, maybe he was just repressed.
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In other news, I'm 150lbs now, yay! Next stop, 11 st. If I can get up to 160 lbs by the end of my PhD I'll be extra proud of myself.
However I find it's use here ironic seeing as how you called him a classless asshole the last time you quoted him.
They were strictly handshakes only kind of guys, as I guess hugging a guy outside would just be 'too gay'. I'm usually a very hands on kind of person but I got into the habit of shaking hands with guys when I met up with them for the first time and this was a contributing factor.
It's funny the way people put up these barriers to physical contact, but I guess it does make some people uncomfortable. I had one friend who would never hug anybody, even though as a group of friends we were all huggers, and then we ended up having sex... so clearly he wasn't that uncomfortable with me, maybe he was just repressed.
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In other news, I'm 150lbs now, yay! Next stop, 11 st. If I can get up to 160 lbs by the end of my PhD I'll be extra proud of myself.
Depeche Mode <3 I love the A Perfect Circle cover version of this song too.
However I find it's use here ironic seeing as how you called him a classless asshole the last time you quoted him.
Passing by to reccomend a film I just saw last night: Patrik 1,5. Watch it, it's really good.
Here you have the trailer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ag5jPiu-Keo
Here you have the trailer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ag5jPiu-Keo
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Same.
watched it years ago was amazing and still is.
*Shakes head*
MidnightScott
Banned
Saw this cute pic on grindr earlier: http://farm6.staticflickr.com/5034/6903002688_56e2ac03cc.jpg
God, I hate myself. A guy gives me a massive amount of compliments and is basically gushing over me, but I just don't feel anything back. It's so sweet and it feels good to be called handsome, hot, and whatever, but I just don't know what to say. It's a very awkward ordeal. Sometimes, I wonder why I'm so superficial. He seems like a really nice guy, but nothing's clicking. Halp! lol
Bel Marduk
Banned
Uhm.. that's nothing you should feel bad about. If its not clicking then it isn't going to work. A guy has to have more than compliments to be attractive and it doesn't really make you superficial.
You can't force romance, so if you don't see things going anywhere I'd say it's best to let him down gently. I don't see how this makes you superficial, if you don't find someone attractive then you don't find them attractive, simple as, yes?
Unless he is just superficial.
Basch, why do you say you're superficial? Also, superficiality stems from insecurity, but then again who isn't insecure.
Thanks guys. Yeah, I really can't do much about it. I guess I just don't want them to think I'm an ass or anything. They're really nice people, and I don't want to hurt their feelings or anything and I wish the best for them. It's just hard when they think you are the best for them. Obviously, I know I'm not, but it still sucks having to tell them that.
I know I'm going to regret this, but the reason I bring up superficiality is because a lot of great guys have tried striking up conversations with me, but immediately I judge them, physically, even if it's subconsciously. If they don't past the "test," things become really awkward because I have a hard time coming up with the words to tell them that it won't work out. If they do, I'll eventually lose interest anyways.
Please don't read. I've gone on another very long-winded attention-whore post. It's very childish of me, but if you're a masochist...
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There are a couple of hot guys I've had my eye on for the past year at my school. And when I say hot, I mean INSANELY hot. It distracts me, and they're all I can think about. Mind you, I don't know any of these people. But one in particular, I can't stop looking at.
I told my roommate about him, hoping it'd help me let go. Obviously it was just a crush, but it didn't help. My roomie hates it how every time I eat if he's around, I can't stop staring. He says it's really obvious and kind of sad. But I can't help it. Sometimes, I think he looks back. I mean, hell, it seems like every time I go grab something to eat, he's there too. It's so stupid. It's obviously just a big coincidence, but I can't shake the feeling.
My roommate asked me what I liked about him and I said his smile, broad shoulders, the way he walks, etc. I'd just go on and on. And I'm sure it was very irritating for him. Just last night, I had a dream where I tried to get to talk to the guy alone. I was practicing some lines hoping to ask him out. Isn't that creepy? It sounds absurd!
I think the very fact that I'm favoring this random guy I never spoke to based on what I see through a few quick glances every once and a while over these nice guys (some of which are pretty decent in terms of looks too, but I turn them down). Hell, I live in South Dakota. Why the hell am I turning anyone down?!? There's like only a couple of gay people that I know personally. It's like I want to be alone. lol
Yep, I knew I'd regret this.
I know I'm going to regret this, but the reason I bring up superficiality is because a lot of great guys have tried striking up conversations with me, but immediately I judge them, physically, even if it's subconsciously. If they don't past the "test," things become really awkward because I have a hard time coming up with the words to tell them that it won't work out. If they do, I'll eventually lose interest anyways.
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There are a couple of hot guys I've had my eye on for the past year at my school. And when I say hot, I mean INSANELY hot. It distracts me, and they're all I can think about. Mind you, I don't know any of these people. But one in particular, I can't stop looking at.
I told my roommate about him, hoping it'd help me let go. Obviously it was just a crush, but it didn't help. My roomie hates it how every time I eat if he's around, I can't stop staring. He says it's really obvious and kind of sad. But I can't help it. Sometimes, I think he looks back. I mean, hell, it seems like every time I go grab something to eat, he's there too. It's so stupid. It's obviously just a big coincidence, but I can't shake the feeling.
My roommate asked me what I liked about him and I said his smile, broad shoulders, the way he walks, etc. I'd just go on and on. And I'm sure it was very irritating for him. Just last night, I had a dream where I tried to get to talk to the guy alone. I was practicing some lines hoping to ask him out. Isn't that creepy? It sounds absurd!
I think the very fact that I'm favoring this random guy I never spoke to based on what I see through a few quick glances every once and a while over these nice guys (some of which are pretty decent in terms of looks too, but I turn them down). Hell, I live in South Dakota. Why the hell am I turning anyone down?!? There's like only a couple of gay people that I know personally. It's like I want to be alone. lol
Yep, I knew I'd regret this.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
ironic seeing as how you called him a classless asshole the last time you quoted him.
His behavior in that situation deserved my response and I stand by it. The difference here is that I do not have anything against DR2K personally..
MidnightScott
Banned
Hey guys,
Just wanted to say I'm going to see a movie with another guy from grindr tonight after work, at least that is the plan. He's 29 though but seems pretty nice and stuff. He works at Nordstrom's in the Galleria. He lives not very far from me. We've been kind of flirty with eachother.
Was supposed to go clubbing on saturday night with my new best friend but he called to regretfully cancel but said we would still hang out during the daytime. We are also going to the beach on Sunday for a picnic together with his friends.
I bet if we always went clubbing we would probably get burnt out haha.
Just wanted to say I'm going to see a movie with another guy from grindr tonight after work, at least that is the plan. He's 29 though but seems pretty nice and stuff. He works at Nordstrom's in the Galleria. He lives not very far from me. We've been kind of flirty with eachother.
Was supposed to go clubbing on saturday night with my new best friend but he called to regretfully cancel but said we would still hang out during the daytime. We are also going to the beach on Sunday for a picnic together with his friends.
I bet if we always went clubbing we would probably get burnt out haha.
Ah, I agree - there is a difference between criticising behaviour/acts and personal attacks.
I was only pulling your leg anyways
If you as a twinky guy are bothered by such sentiments, you shouldn't be - hell all of GayGaf knows you're a cutie.Sometimes I wonder though, if I don't like hating on twinks then why am I trying so hard to put on weight? Sure, it's nice to have clothes actually fit me and to feel stronger, but isn't trying to change my body type an admission on some level that being one way or another is more desirable? Hmm. /strokes chin fluff
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
I was only pulling your leg anyways
Sometimes I wonder though, if I don't like hating on twinks then why am I trying so hard to put on weight? Sure, it's nice to have clothes actually fit me and to feel stronger, but isn't trying to change my body type an admission on some level that being one way or another is more desirable? Hmm. /strokes chin fluff
Heh, I'm no twink... I'm stocky, wrinkled, hairy in random and weird places. It's just so ignorant and counterproductive when someone decides they have to be rudely vocal about their distaste for entire segments of the populace. Another longtime gaygafer used to do this, too, but thankfully he's relaxed over the years.
Accepting all the different types of people within the gay community doesn't mean that you should feel bad for wanting to look a certain way. I like younger, slim, kind of femme guys but I have the sense (finally) to understand that's an impossible body type for me to aspire to, so I've been trying to do the best with what I have. As luck would have it, oftentimes one type of guy prefers to be with someone of an entirely different build, so work to be what you want and I figure the rest will theoretically fall into place.
See that's the thing, I've been thinking that how I want to be and how I am will always remain disparate. I have the man of my dreams and he loves me for who I am and yet I still have body issues, how about that?
I know the common sentiment in this thread is that once you find a great guy you'll feel good about yourself forevermore but I remain unconvinced.Not sure why I'm using this thread to think out loud, I guess I figure you guys deal with similar issues from time to time.
Anyways, Cheezmo, how have things been at home? Hope everything has been going well since you had The Talk with the parents.
CHEEZMO
Obsidian fan
Anyways, Cheezmo, how have things been at home? Hope everything has been going well since you had The Talk with the parents.
Better.
Haven't so much as exchanged looks with my mum though. Things were said >_>
I'll have you know I'm never confused for any age under 14, than you very much.
Oh shush. Cheezmo is a great guy. <3
See that's the thing, I've been thinking that how I want to be and how I am will always remain disparate. I have the man of my dreams and he loves me for who I am and yet I still have body issues, how about that?
Not sure why you would think that finding someone would really be a solution to anything.
As for body image issues, I'm sure pretty much everyone has them. For me, it's a mixture of putting effort into trying to achieve what I'd like as well as realigning my expectations to reality. Unfortunately, body builds are quite heavily influenced by our genetics so I will never be able to obtain what I'd like but I can at least obtain something I'm happy with.
i_am_ben
running_here_and_there
MidnightScott
Banned
Well we didn't go last night cuz he has to pick up his sister but we are going tonight instead.
However he stopped by my work yesterday to say hello and meet for the first time and we talked for about 30 minutes before he had to go. I didn't feel the attraction for him but he did tell me he was looking for a movie buddy so we can just be friends haha.
That was my point. You often see people in this thread posting about how if they could only find the right guy then they would feel better about themselves, and I have always argued against that and learning to love and accept yourself first and foremost was more important. Perhaps I was interpreting Cosmic's point incorrectly, but to me it read like 'work to be what you want to be and you'll get your man/job etc'. My point was that I already have my dream career and man, but I was wondering if how I want to be physically is unattainable.
Having slept on it I don't think I was exactly thinking clearly last night - I'm making steady if modest gains and I'm the heaviest I've ever been. I should be looking at where I was and where I am now and be happy with and proud of the gains I've made, it just all feel futile I guess sometimes. First world problems for sure.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Speaking of toys I thought about getting a butt plug. I want something dangit, never had a toy and feel like i'm missing out
Get a rude boy toy. They look fun. :3
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
CHEEZMO;36738407 said:
Perchance?
Mystic Theurge
Member
Is this for real? I think I might be hooking up with someone.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Who/What/When/Why
Escape Goat
Member
Grats on the sex, bro.
Mystic Theurge
Member
A guy messaged me on OKCupid a couple of days ago.
I'm going to his house today
A part of me is saying this might a trap or something crazy. But I'm just being paranoid, I think. It's like this kind of thing doesn't happen to me
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
How am I supposed to be messaging people on okcupid? I just don't understand...basically no one ever replies to me.I don't know if it's my profile or if I'm just too ugly for my type. yes, I'm average and am not fit, but I'm also not obese or anything and I consider myself average looking as well. i.e., I'm not ugly. Wtf am I doing wrong?
invest a bit of time in your texts.
tell people why they should contact you ( "I am very nice and gentle", blablablabla lol ) and that helps.
This is what happens when you never date and have no idea what to do. That seems corny to me and I'd have no idea how to pull that off.
well you have to communicate somehow, don't you? putting a nice text is the beginning of it. If someone sends you a message, try not to answer in small sentences, but in real paragraphs. If you are using a smartphone and consider writing a pain in the butt, then there's ons problem. people hate oneliners.
Mystic Theurge
Member
You're meeting him at his house?
Lol. I was a little paranoid too, but I'm back safe and sound.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Just browse around and see what other people are saying about themselves to get an idea of how to pull it off. Take notes.
How was it? Did you have sex?
Dead Prince
Banned
how did it smell?
Mystic Theurge
Member
Oral.
I sucked him. He sucked me. We were switching. He was good. Some of things he did were too much though. Too sensitive.
He came (and said I was great), but for some reason, I couldn't. Maybe too much porn?
He came (and said I was great), but for some reason, I couldn't. Maybe too much porn?
He suggested for me to bring condoms, but I didn't because this all so new. I kind of regret that.
Like boy?
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
:O, but switching? No 69? :/
Maybe you didn't cum because you were too nervous?
Maybe you didn't cum because you were too nervous?
Also, you are already dead.
Mystic Theurge
Member
I didn't even think of that position. Maybe I was too nervous.
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