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Gay and Bisexual relationship thread |OT|
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The reason I don't post a picture is cause I'm not out , plus I'm arab in an arab country
Fair enough, I was missing half the picture. Again, you can try posting something where your face is not visible or blurred out.
Mostly everyone will go off a pic before reading a profile. Usually you're lucky to get a response without one imo. It's just the way the online world works. So as already stated, not having a pic suggests you have something to hide, in which case most guys will just avoid you. Being in an Arab country, however, definitely makes things a bit more complicated.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Oh, blue-hair... If having three weekend nights free and going to music festivals is bad, you're going to hate being a grown-up.
I'm up by 5am every single day of the week and have had two days off in the last two and a half months.
I was turned off enough by my first experience with
Is something wrong with me? =/ lol
butt-sex, topping and bottoming that I actually only attempted it once since, and that was almost just as bad.
Funny thing is, I've been with the guy again, and it's been fine and great. He's a good friend now. So it wasn't him, imo. It was really the act.
I'm not in any rush to do it again, except for the social pressure from friends to make it a regular and normal part of my sex life. Until then, between dates, the semi-rare one-nighter and some occasional FWB situations, doing everything but the butt-sex is actually sating me pretty well.
Funny thing is, I've been with the guy again, and it's been fine and great. He's a good friend now. So it wasn't him, imo. It was really the act.
I'm not in any rush to do it again, except for the social pressure from friends to make it a regular and normal part of my sex life. Until then, between dates, the semi-rare one-nighter and some occasional FWB situations, doing everything but the butt-sex is actually sating me pretty well.
Is something wrong with me? =/ lol
I don't think there's anything wrong with you at all. Sometimes, it really feels like if you're gay then butt sex has to be a regular part of your sex life, but I think it's fine if you save it for rare special occasions as long as your hypothetical partner is fine with it. If he's not then one of you is going to have to make some changes or you're just not sexually compatible.
Oh, blue-hair... If having three weekend nights free and going to music festivals is bad, you're going to hate being a grown-up.
I'm up by 5am every single day of the week and have had two days off in the last two and a half months.
i know, totally collegekidproblems, right? I just hate having my whole evening wasted
DR2K
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You'd be surprised with how much love your family has for you, in my opinion you're losing a lot of valuable time by not letting the ones you know who you really are. I've had an amazing relationship with my momma ever since coming out, I wish I had done it even earlier.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Just because they love him as a son, doesn't mean they can't hate him more as a gay. ;_;
You'd be surprised how different their tune may be once they're faced with a gay son.
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no picture, no talk.
if you're not comfortable enough with your own body to post a fully clothed picture of yourself, privately if need be, then you're not someone I'd like to be involved with. Period.
if you're not comfortable enough with your own body to post a fully clothed picture of yourself, privately if need be, then you're not someone I'd like to be involved with. Period.
Not my thing either. It's the rare occasion I feel like being on top and I have zero interest for the reverse position. There are others out there that feel the same way. So I wouldn't think there's anything wrong with you.
I wouldn't say that families always react positively. Mine weren't negative by any means, but they certainly never broach the subject of sex and boyfriends since I've told them. In fact, I've probably got more pressure to be dating girls from them since coming out.
I have to ask, because I've been seeing it around a bit now - what's with the green body suits?
That's an awesome defiled avatar you got Isaac!
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That sucks about the family situation. At least it will get better as time goes on, if nothing more because you'll be older and removed from the situation. But this seems a little worrying.
You shouldn't really be avoiding relationships because it will hurt your family. For one, its obviously impacting your own personal happiness and also it may help to at least normalize it for them. Second, not all gay people are the same just like not all bi or straight people are the same. I'm not sure what the bad experiences are, but there's a large spectrum of personalities out there. STDs should be a concern and so long as you're smart and careful it shouldn't become a lifelong problem..
What about gay people makes you uncomfortable?
RPGCrazied
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Reason why I'm single, is cause dating sites is all I have, and since I'm not a twink, I mostly get ignored when I reply to someone. I guess being almost 35 isn't helping either. Bah, I hate getting old.
OMG I know!
Sounds like you're on the wrong dating sites, unless twinks are what you're after. Needless to say i'm not a twink (or a muscle bear) but I have my fair share of boys in the yard after my assorted milkshares or whatever the reference is
And 35 is a great age. Although my point may be invalid because I <3 older men.
Try bear dating sites if you want.
Fantastical
Death Prophet
There was a dating show about that.
EDIT: Should probably change that to there have been many dating shows with that concept.
What he said. Bear411 is pretty great and is where I get most of my attention from. Bearcentral is....not great. Atleast for my area at least, I don't think the site has been around long.
Third sunday off in a row for my local guy. Everytime I spend time with him the less I want to whore about. Casual dating may evolve into relationship sooner than I thought :O
You are being too hard on yourself.
I am sure you will be lucky enough to find non-shallow people or persons who want more than just a quick fuck (for better or worse, it comes with the territory).
Remember, most of the time, it's their loss.
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Fixed and fixed.
That sounds horrible, but I'm really glad you got out of that relationship. I've met a lot of people who are involved in those kind of relationships and most of the time they don't even understand the other person is just abusing them. It seems like a really hard thing to do, realize that he is draining you and actually do something about it. I know a lot of friends have probably told you that there are nice persons out there and not everyone is like him, but it's the truth... Maybe with time you will get to the point where you can trust others.
The world is just ironic, ever since I was 21 I dream of my 6'0 tall stocky 35 year old boyfriend and most guys worth a try tend to avoid me cause they consider me too small, 5,4 here or just not one of their kind.
and I really hate those with father complex. Its fun to phantasize for a while but I am really not going anywhere with that kind of approach and I want a boyfriend, for life.
and I really hate those with father complex. Its fun to phantasize for a while but I am really not going anywhere with that kind of approach and I want a boyfriend, for life.
Well, you're going to start dating eventually. It seems strange to put it off now because it will upset them. As it stands, no one is happy. In the end, you're happiness will be more important to you and your family than some sort of ideal that will never occur.
Of course, if you're living with them or dependent on them, I can understand the hesitation. But if you're only avoiding dating because your family disapproves seems counter-productive.
As for your bad experience - that really does suck. But I'm sure you're aware that it is far from normal. At the very least, meeting more gay people will make it clear that they're not all like that one guy. Don't even go in with the intentions of a relationship with any of them and just be friends. That is the surest way to dispel the fear that all gay people are the same.
What have you been doing?
I find that I have more success when I'm not actually looking but I'm still putting myself out there. So going to social gatherings or joining message boards and whatnot. My last couple of relationships were pretty spontaneous and from the most unlikely places.
Though I've also gone a year without meeting anyone but that's another story.
Yeah, when you're still living under their roof it really puts a damper on things. And that's all fair enough and completely understandable.
It will go away. I've had my fair share of rotten relationships and it had soured me to the whole affair. I suppose it's important to always keep that little bit of hope that people are better than the worst offenders. The guys here are plenty friendly too. So keep with it and it'll definitely improve.
Well I still put myself out there everywhere. I just think I come off to strong. I'm pretty forward about what I want and don't really play games.
Hahah I always attract 40 year olds D:
Dead Prince
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not on tc /trollface.
Oh please! I attract quite a few people 50-60.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Are they hot?
Ha ha, not really. If they were I wouldn't mind nearly as much.
I'd love it if someone actually around my age would hit on me though. At least within ten years that isn't a complete nut.
Why does this happen to me on TC?
Dead Prince
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i was going to say the obvious. and i will. you're a strong black man.
Strong black men attract teens? wtf.
Wow...
Dead Prince
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do we have to go back through all the guys that flocked to you? ;P
haha no lol
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